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EggSauce:
I'm sure she's African-American.... dem sabi dull and lousy ehn

Wait...what?

Only the ones that lack intelligence.
Slowpokes come in all shapes, sizes and genders.
The moment you realize you are interacting with a slowpoke, abort further communication and shift towards doing better things with your time....unless you are a slowpoke yourself. In which case, maybe y’all can communicate in whatever slowpoke language you all speak.

Easy.
If you don't want to, don't.
If he hates you for not "borrowing" him money, then he was just going to use you anyway.

Users will always try to manipulate you with your desire for their validation.

Also, find my thread about all this "travelling love" sturvs.

Angela777:
All set then, as a western woman I see the tendency of couples and marriage young man with much older woman and many stay for life together. What was the male privilege to marry much younger women, now is happening women can marry much younger men, younger men in America who don't need anything from an older woman apart of being with her as a man, he has his own income and is well set yet he prefers to have an older woman and they understand each other as friends, lovers and on intellectual level. Why these well made young men marry much older women? Ask them. About Nigerians me, I don't believe a word about love what they are saying, they do act like you say and they don't value the real love and marriage as your society is about other people opinion and critics, still tribes and a medieval traditional weddings. Also because as I said Nigerian men are looking how to use a woman and being supported by her when American men support and pamper their women.

Don't get me wrong.
I don't support it, I just understand it.
I also hate how a lot of Nigerians think, but this is as a result of the harsh realities of living in Nigeria...as well as our societal inability to think past retrogressive cultural practices.
In all honesty, I will be real with you, if a younger Nigerian man who needs papers marries a much older white lady, I am 210.69% sure it is for the papers.

Consider what you did a humanitarian effort.
Had it been you saw it as that, instead of a love thing, you would have less feels about it now....and they would probably not feel like they have to scam you to do the inevitable, because you'd be real with them up front that you understand the equation but you are just sowing a seed in their life...and enjoying the ride at the moment.

If you can't operate on that level of reality then yeah, leave young foreign studs alone.

Angela777:
It's good to marry a man around your age when you build a family and kids, careers, etc. The old lady over 50-60s and suddenly a widow or divorced, ... why should she to pick up and marry a man around her age or older if the woman is healthy, well set Do you know how much care represent for a woman to be married to take care of a man her age or more? Many of us do know it, sick husband, disabled, wheelchair which is heavy and needs to be put in the car and out, hospitals, bathing and poop of a big man? Many men in America are the real burden, alcoholics and bipolar when they age, they become very crazy and even aggressive, it's a hard job, we do care of them when we know them from better years but once he is gone, ... why should we to look for another one to clean his poop? We already know how bad it could be and we have the right to live life after raising kids and going through all of this.

Many American men in their 30s or 40s are asking to date a woman who is in her 50s-60s. The woman has the right to choose when she has suitors and it's not necessary to choose the older man, we choose what we like the best or just fall in love and marry or just dating.
What I am trying to say is not good to choose or fall in love with a foreigner, even an old foreigner. Foreign men don't adapt easy, can't get a good job for the first 1-3 years, don't have any income, they are the same babies who need to be fed and learn all around, yet African men are very bossy and don't like to be taught by a woman.

I only see the older woman who marries and older American man or any age young or not so foreigner, ... it's only if she really loves him and is willing to go through hard times together. Of course there are also drug addict women or trash people who wants to be paid for a fake marriage.

When you get off your entitled horse for a bit (typical western woman mindset), slow down and ask the question....WHY, among all the other young, well-to-do, sensible women in his age range....is he going for me an old lady?...you might then begin to understand what I am telling you.

There is nothing wrong with being hit up by these young bloods. There is nothing wrong in enjoying the moment with these young bloods.
...but understand that the equation always wins, so don't get a hernia when it does. The same way you don't want to deal with men your age (soo entitled) is the same way nobody will want to deal with you too. You are not special or an exclusion to the equation. So get it through your entitled head madam.

Women have been dating older men since time began for certain benefits. Now when you become old you want to switch it because men your age and up are of no further use to you? Well all power to you. But understand that these young bloods will also discard you when you are no longer of use to them....and you should be perfectly okay with this if you are truly mature as you say.

You can't eat your cake and have it. If I were a 60 year old man dating a 20 something year old, and I ran out of money...or I decided to help a young foreign girl get her life started in the US by marriage, I would have to be the biggest FOOL in the world to EXPECT her to stick around. I just can't bring myself to be that entitled in the head. I would be positively surprised if she did stay, but I wouldn't plan on it...and that wouldn't make me hate her...because I understand the equation.
It applies to men, and it applies to you too. (Men are simply better at understanding or accepting reality... as it seems).

It's a simple, eternal equation (even amongst age-range relationships)...no western feminist-opportunist thinking will change this.

Angela777:
Lol! Are you writing about me? Go and talk like that to your own mother. You don't know me. I am all well set lady with 2 Masters degrees and great career as well in no need to chase men, they still chase me. But yes, I am curious how so many young Nigerian men try to chase me online and what does it mean to them.

All my understanding from many male answers I read here, Nigerian young men hate white women yet chase them for to cheat and scam and are willing to bang the old azz for little money or some for more money selling their youth and hating themselves and women for that. It's pathetic and sad as many are intelligent, smart and handsome yet lazy to get the real job, good studies and the real love and marriage. And when they go for easy way cheating and selling themselves, it's backfiring to them as nothing good is at the end.

Fortunately not all are this way, I met the good ones and we are very good friends. There is a way where the older woman can help the young intelligent man to succeed and it is not the way through sex and bragging as you said. You judge white women as all of them without knowing them. It's like would me saying all Nigerian women are ashawo and all Nigerian men are scammers, but they are NOT. No country in the world is totally bad, we all have different kind of people. And only ignorant people can talk like that about old white women, think about your mother, grand mother when you talk like that.

And yes, I learn, learn a lot about sweet love lies many Nigerians tell to any woman, young or old, pretty or ugly and I believe the American women any skin color should stay away from any Nigerian as 99% are lies and no need to try to find a good Nigerian man, much more easy to see through American men who are maybe lying but we can tell when they do.

And if you are mature and intelligent enough, you should understand that for a real woman age, sex, D is not all, real love, care and respect is what it makes the real dating and marriage. Yet, as I see, many young Nigerians think just because they met few white women who happened to be crazy or trash or some good ones who really fall in love with him, you guys assume we all are an easy target and you can impress a white woman with your D only and youth. Sorry to inform you but there is the saying, bigger and better Ds are everywhere, the real person love and respect is what it is hard to find and it goes both ways, for men and women.

Then you have chosen to misunderstand what I wrote.
Young Gold diggers approach old wrinkly balled 60 year old men too so you are not saying anything New.

I am saying that the same way YOU look at a man of that age dating females young enough to be his Grand daughter is the same way old women are seen.

In your society, you people are fond of making men out to look like dogs but women to look like saints, when all are perverts still.

There is nothing wrong with enjoying some young blood, just as long as it is done with UNDERSTANDING. It is not love, it is simply an equation that must be balanced. It does not add up without an exchange of value. This young person is simply providing you with youthful company, in exchange for something else you have. Be okay with this, so you don't have to start getting sour when that relationship comes to an end.

If what you want is love, you should be finding that with people your age range... Especially when you are a woman.

I could care less if you are white black or orange.
I am teaching you about reality and the necessity for balanced equations of value in human relationships.


Youth is priceless. Everything else has a price. If they are spending youth on you, and you not on them (10+ years diff), you need to be balancing that equation with something else. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I will say this to any adult of advanced age.

OluDare01:
But some of us have decided to take a longer route by going through the rigors of grad school.
I don’t blame people that marry Americans because of papers. It is different strokes for different folks I guess.

What difference does your grad school make?
You still have to use OPT, and try for green.
Trump halted that express greens and h1bs last I remember.

ifada123:
She is a sex therapist,
She sells doodles that pics was drawn from one of her advertisement,
You are supposed to know Ebonylips or you don't use instanblog9ja.

You must be the typical jobless Nigerian slowpoke.
I have more important things I am supposed to know about...not some instagram slut.

I suggest you re-orient your priorities.

Lordtimothy66:
i don't subscribe to this fraud marriage of a thing, but this white old women what are they thinking? how can a white old woman in her 50s 60s be marrying African man who's in his 20s and 30s thinking it's real love .

how many time have you seen a white man marry an African woman who's old enough to be his mother?

Angela777:
Yes I am.

This is akin to old wrinkly-balled 60 year old men marrying 20-something year olds.
It is obvious to everyone and the oldie that its about the money...and it's not a bad thing either. At that age, the man should know he is old and cannot in any sane way hold the romantic attention of a hot-blooded young woman all by himself unless he is making up for this with A LOT of other benefits....benefits that mean little to him at that point in his life but that mean a lot to the other person...hence an exchange of value is made.

This old man becomes a down-right FOOL if after the time of companionship with the young blood comes to an end and he starts crying "I thought she loved me not my money". We would call this old man a fool and a pervert who deserved it for pathetically getting all feely about what was basically a utilitarian fling.

Why would we bestow old women a different treatment?
As an old lady, you'd have to be a fool to think you can hold on to a young buck. Enjoy your time with him, help the youngin achieve their dreams while you're at it, and let him on his way when its time for him to move on.

She would have to be a SELFISH FOOL to think it was anything more. Like....HOW did you expect your wrinkly old azz to keep a young stud tho? You got greedy is what. And one would have to deduce that you deserve it as much as the pervert old man. You are no different.

If what y’all really needed was true love, y’all should have found someone your age. You just wanted to stunt on those other old cronies in the nursing home with your shiny young toy didn’t you? Show them that “You still got it”. Sure, it’s allowed. But don’t think it’s not a transactional thing. Don’t be absurd.

This is hard facts. Swallow it still.

The only idiot here is the weak white man who tolerates his wife flaunting a giant black Love Machine. I know his type.

He must be one of those cuckolds that helps his wife "cleanup" after she has been slutily used by a black man.

Angela777:
They are helping, Last 2-3 years they get in the news, TV shows and YouTube and tell people how were they scammed and cheated and it helps other people to think better. Many men and women were in this situation and now many are talking and some even go to Africa to arrest their scammers. We have also huge government campaign against scam, marriage fraud and many scammers are caught in America, Africa and other countries and put to jail.

Also it's very interesting to read the real Nigerian people opinion here in NairaLand, real point of view about the young Nigerians marrying old white women. Thank you.

Are you an old white lady?

CarolineOlawale:
You are very stupid for posting this rubbish.

What do you have against the thread?

Possessedchild:
If you do not have something to offer at the least 70% to your fiance as a man. You are not man enough. And a mere joke.

Since you and some related guys who are strongly prejudiced against women hence relegating them to only bedroom claim you are not equal. So in different section of finances in the house as well, you are not equal. Claim dominance, marry with hope of being the front man.

While 90% of ladies are more open about there weakness and being bitches. They are not like you hypocrites whose senses reek of insecurity and entitlement. You can form boss in the bedroom shebi and mouth and you can not form boss financially.

You no get money and you are under the guise that you will be on 50 ration 50 level.

Double your hustle.

I do not have money as well so I do not overdo to women

We do not all have the same head...

Shut up, spineless coward.
Real women are laughing at you right now.

The other percentage are thanking God for you as their Maga has come

KwoiZabo:
I am not in anyway campaigning for Atiku the way I did for GEJ in 2015. I will just quietly go to the polls and vote for him on election day because there are more than enough people feeling the heat of this govt more than me.

You fool.
Vote Sowore instead. Why don't you idiots use your brains?

You don't only have 2 shitty choices!!!!

Of course it had to be a white person that thought this up

Glycolysis:
@the guy above :
Less a man because a lady decided to pay a bill
That's bullsh*t!
Unless you have nothing else to offer, that's only when you feel less a man that a woman paid the bill for food you both consumed..

The average Nigerian man has terribly low self esteem.
It's why he needs money in his pocket before he even says hello to any female.

These guys are simps to the max.
Half of them wouldn't know what to do with themselves if they found out the girl they were planning on dating is actually a CFO of some multinational company who makes 5x their salary.

When we say you people should travel, you will say no.

Where has this idiot traveled to lately that he is making this statement?

It is the same backward mindset that makes some fools in Nigeria think that PDP or APC are their best choice...instead of parties ran by people who have actual exposure!

Who swore for Nigerians like this?
Those blood sacrifices must have been strong for it to still be working today.

Amakavula:
1. Let to say no and keep quiet. Never explain, this is important as it offers you a decision power and a command over your path in life.

2. Be patient not wait for immediate results. Everything takes time, and the greater your goal is, the more steps & time you need.

3. Make family priority, they are always there for you and will be when things go south. Mum , sisters and Dads are important.

4. Never , ever beg , force or cajole a lady into sex or relationship. It is pitiful and she will hate you for it.

5. Always have a goal or a dream you are chasing. Don't make me your priority rather make you vision your priority.

6. Go your own way, be your own man. You want to be a musician be one. You want to be a teacher be one. Never ever be ashamed of what you aspire to do.


7. Respect first before Love. She doesn't love you if she doesn't respect you. Ignoring your calls, lying and cheating are disrespectful. Never take any else you will be a drag.

8. Do not argue with a woman for more than a few minutes - apologize and forget. Men are creatures of action trading word throws you down the respect ladder.

9. Always pay for her in a restaurant, even if I say I can do it myself, insist, even get angry self but make sure you pay !

10. Never rely too much on someone or overestimate your value in someone’s life.

Enjoy this? follow me and like the list. I will be putting out that of Us ladies tomorrow ! meet Christmas!

Number 9 is bullshit.
I might as well create a similar list and make my number 9 "Whenever you visit a man, always be sure to cook for him before you leave. He should not have a fridge empty of cooked food when you visit otherwise you have failed as a woman".

FOH with all this one sided shit. As if when a man makes similar demands to this current generation of females they don't start squawking feminist bullshit.

Sounds like a rape thread.

Maybe things work differently in nigeria, but out in the rest of the world....when a woman says "no" or "stop", even if you are in the middle of anything...make sure you STOP.

Even if she starts saying "oh I didn't want you to stop" that is her own. Once she says stop that's it for that whole night.
If she wants anything again, SHE can come to you tomorrow for sex OF HER OWN ACCORD.

If you know how many guys have had their lives destroyed out here because one woman accused them (sometimes even falsely) for not stopping.

The last time I heard stop was in my apartment. I instantly moved away and she came to start grinding on me because "she didn't mean it like that" but that one was not my problem O. Everything sex with her that night was aborted...because she said "stop". especially with all these metoo things, a man has to be paranoid. I generally turn on the cameras in my house whenever I have a female guest over. Not trying to get my whole life fawked over by some crazy female.

In these harsh times, only the paranoid survive.

Women and hypergamy is like 1 and 2.
No matter how much the cry about wanting feminism and equal yada yada, their brains are still hard-wired to being leeches.
So the average successful woman cannot see herself respecting a man she cannot leech from. If she is a Manager, He must be upper management. If she is a CFO, he must be a CEO. etc.

Knowing this, I will always blame men.
Women have always thrown down the gauntlet. But we the men are always too nice to throw it right back.
Men too should start having better standards for women and should only pair up with females who are doing things for themselves.

E.g: A jobless instagram thot has no business dating an employed man. She should pay for some things and if she acts like she disagrees that she should pay (because she is a woman and you are a man) send her off on her gold digging way.
We men are the only ones who can change the status quo. We allow too much shit.

lefulefu:
but there must be college educated akatas nau who are classy abi?

Yes there are.
Sadly a minority of the american black population.

Jiang:
Because he is MY DAD & I was only 19, besides even my elder brothers seek for his blessings before marriage stuff talkless of last born like me way he fit slap easily

You were 19...and dependent. That is all that matters.
All that other one you were talking is small boy talk.

Eventually you will get to the point where you will have to create boundaries between yourself and your parents. You are not there yet...

MrBrownJay1:
This foolish woman should take a ticket and wait in line, this is what 99.9999% of Nigerian woman are looking for... So unless she is a top shelves type of babe (which doesnt look like she is) she best seek for a different future husband.

Bro, she doesn't even look fit like a trophy wife should.
She looks like a woman that eats nkwobi everyday.

This is a generation of entitled nigerian females that don't even want to do the ONE WORK a trophy wife should do, which is to take care of her fitness and appearance. But they want all the beneits...which they hardly even ever deserved to begin with even if they looked fine.

Jiang:
You are right my sister, but.......I rather marry an average looking humble homie girl than an extremely beautiful girl of same characteristics,

I won't lie I will admire beauty when I see one e.g

What a fine babe!!
Nice ass!!!
those boobs are marvelous!!!

But I usually forget about them after like an hour. There was this one girl that was just average always well dressed. she did something for me I will never forget, very kind young girl, I still remember her vividly even after half a decade. Too bad my dad refused to entertain thoughts of marriage at that time. I had to let her go

The day she got married I was extremely hard broken but at the same time happy for her. I was smiling while shedding tears.

Why the heck would you allow your dad dictate this for you?
Unless perhaps if you were still relying on him for money at that time.

Admin401:
Why arw African American women so beautiful?

I just don't like the way they talk though.
Swear too much. Not conscious about their speech.

I don't see anything busty there.
All I see is a fat lazy bitch

She doesn't even go to the gym nor does she look like how a trophy wife should.
At least back then, lazy trophy wives KNEW they had to look good and fit.
Nowadays, these females' laziness and sense of entitlement is so much that they don't even want to do the the ONE THING they are supposed to do, which is to work to LOOK good.

Eating nkwobi everyday looking like a fat pig talk'n 'bout "I need rich man".

Ilamina:
Her parents are rich

If it's rare for a Nigerian girl too have those shoes, that shows Nigeria is a poor country and our women are not materialistic

Compared to Western women who have more of them

Well it IS a poor country.
Nigeria is the poverty capital of the world. So chances are good if you see someone with it, it is either a fake, or a small-girl-big-god situation.
If we don't like hearing that, then we must change how we vote in 2019 oir we will keep hearing it for another 10 years. There are more parties than APC and PDP.

Materialistic females irritate me.
It would be nice if they actually did all that with their money too....but the average Nigerian female would want to be forming material girl on some guys money.

I bet you $5 that she didn't buy it with money she actually earned.

AstroG:
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This happens when u want to marry from that place

That's funny, but true...and sad.

@OP: None!
I can't start dragging my whole family to some eastern village in naija for marriage...a thing all igbo girls like to do even if all their immediate family is in a different country.

Makes no sense and adds to costs.
They will be alright!

It should also not be the man's responsibility to buy anything or provide anything for you... Since we all wanna selfish in this era.

And another cold hearted man is born.
Who will go on to infect other women with the same disease.

The only way to stop the spread of the virus is to be immune and don't be a carrier of hate.

I know its hard to absorb it and kill it, instead of passing it on.

The weak bitch basically passed a hot pot to you to hold because she was too much of a pathetic kunt to cool it down first.
Be a boss and quench it before passing it on, so no one else has to be burnt.

Weak bitches will have their come-uppance.

This prophecy is talking about Sowore.
The young King