₦airaland Forum

kandiikane:
I believe I implied the bolded in a previous post.

If not and by rapport, you mean some form of sexual tension that needs to be released once they see each other at his place?

This means any woman who has not established such rapport is asking to be ra.ped?

Or, should not trust any man who asks for a visit to his home?

If this is what you mean, speaking objectively, do you feel it is ok, to make men seems like they cannot be amicable with the opposite sex without sexual frustration?

Nonso23:
My parents did not raise a mugu.

Even the flavour guy self has his own harem... 2 na just to warm up...
Don't be so sure about that o.
The problem is that the average Nigerian lady is not willing to demand their fair share of respect from their man.
I mean what is even there to demand
Ask them what they intend to make out of their lives in the next five years and the majority will just start gawking like demented heifers.
Ask some guys how their mothers dealt with them during the turbulent phase of adolescence. Firm but loving. Consequences for actions or inactions were clearly spelt out. (for them good mothers o). There were boundaries and they were adhered to.
Today's woman is more interested in replicating mill and boons in real life than taking more pragmatic approaches toward their marriages. Whilst that in itself is not a bad idea but then again no sensible person goes about cutting down a tree by plucking the leaves.
Marriage today is a contract where the negotiation for value is a till-death-do-us-part activity - a staring contest if you like.
The moment the woman thinks she can get a better offer outside, the husband is gone. The moment the man notices that he can cut a better deal on the sides he goes for it. The latter is more prevalent because the man, in most cases, sports the bulk of their combined financial muscle.
Happy marriages are those where both parties have acknowledged that the value they provide for each other is worth way more than any side attraction can offer. Where the man goes out of his way to please his wife and the woman won't stop at anything to cater to her husband's needs.

I refuse to accept that the woman is suppressed. I think the movement of society's focus from moralist/socialist foundations to capitalistic tendencies is more to blame. The women of the last generation had to combat with the inculcation of monogamy in their men thanks to Christianity and when it seemed like they were succeeding the "sex sells" adverts started to receive attention. Their target - those with the most money to throw around -men. Then morals boundaries became a question of "how much do you want?" . Women became more open to trading their morals for money. Young men who couldn't meet up were forced to step up and those who did wouldn't settle for less and whenever there appeared a better deal they stepped up yet again and the woman again is left with the shorter end of the stick. This is the reality of most of today's marriages.

The unfortunate thing is that both good women and men are the victims of this vicious cycle and it is not going to end anytime soon.
Trust is dead today. Everyone is as loyal as their pockets' depth.
Are there still good people?
Yes.
How can you find them?
I don't know. Try Tum bum tum bum...

Jorussia:
I have confirmed it, the white lady has even giving birth to a baby girl for my friend.

bukatyne:
Was wondering the feminism angle till I saw the writer was feminist.

Luckily This is coming before the break of the marriage and hopefully, their marriage will grow stronger.

Good one.

Zi:
OP hasn't talked in the past few hours.
I guess the "confrontation" is taking place now

Brownie, my thoughts and prayers are with you this difficult time.

14. What’s the one thing you have in
common that transcends everything
else?
We are both Christians and believe in God.
Marriage is a
commitment to the Lord. We pray with and for each other
every day

JoeCutie:
So true. Some of the mothers' day celcelebrations are so fake. They are always desperately looking for identity.

Acidosis:
No surprises here


Most women marry strangers. They want to know his attitude and personality in SHOPRITE, BEACH, OZONE, & KFC.

Siena:
What's the engine size??

fellis:


SMMFH

brownie10:
my only choice would be to check into a hotel. but as it is, ill be at work tomorrow and he'd come embarrass me there with apologies or wait after work and follow to know where i am.

tiredface:
HOW IS SHOUTING & BREAKING THINGS GOING TO HELP THEM. PLEASE, DESIST FROM GIVING CHILDISH OR IN THIS CASE, AFOOLISH ADVICE.

A joystick is a wife' s toy - she is supposed to play with it

Have you ever asked yourself what those women have that you don't. Wives have become very frigid and even sleep with their panties. If you're a married woman, you should sleep Unclad and let your bum touch your husband.

Delary:
My friend, who is working with one of the federal government parastatals, married an intelligent lady who is teaching in a private school. before the marriage, they dated for six (6) years. during this time of dating, the lady comes around to do his laundary, cooking & sweeping; this she made a serious point of duty and frawns at the guy any time he makes an attemt to do any of the above chores. now that they are married, even before the lady took in, she had started complaning that the guy is stressing her up with those three chores (Recall: cooking, laundary & sweeping). the problem is that the guy closes work by 4pm while the wife closes by 2pm. d man comes back from work ensures there are water for d house then he goes to take his bath and retires to his bed to take a nap. so, most times, d intelligent wife comes to complain that he left d entire work for her and they usally have misunderstanding on dis.
Please, give ur candid advive to this couple to save their young marriage. THANKS IN ANTICIPATION!!

iykedare:
These ladies don't seem to get tired fighting over coogar. Coogar,please marry all these babes na.

As an African man,you are entitled to more than 12 wives.

brownie10:
Please can you view my email name? I just opened it today but because I was so upset, I cant remember anymore. Im trying to login but Its telling me wrong username/password. Im pretty sure about the password but its like I cant recall the email.

I cant seem to find the email on my profile

freecocoa:
No need to get defensive, if they are silly insinuations, why are you getting angry about it? Not that I give a hoot anyways but the back and forth between you two is distracting, plus it can be seen that you always initiate it.

Act like a mature adult and ask him out, instead of the childish banter, a guy calls you all those names and yet you won't leave him be.

brownie10:
I honestly do not know him to be promiscuous! Yes, he's not perfect.. Yes he has his faults. But promiscuity is one fault I did not find in him.

I guess I just wasnt smart enough. I should have known.

In fact, it was one thing I should have questioned. I should have dug deep. Carried out my investigation on this particular incidence.

fem29:
ehnn the issue is subjective. The mum in law may mean no harm. He may just be reading meaning into things that are happening innocently. Eg the food, maybe she is just that kind of person that is carefree and does that kind of thing. He may not be used to it so it doesn't sit right with him. Also the bathroom, like may people have said, it was unlocked, it may simply have been accidental. So no need to make a hullabaloo about it, just let her know you don't like it.

If he lets her know he doesn't like those actions, if she is indeed trying to seduce him, she will know he doesn't want. If she is not, she will be more careful of her actions.

Caliph69:
Abeg which kind bathroom be that weh no get door?
In case of next time, try arrange your plot well so the story fit look legit.

teeowl:
How old is mama (your mother in law)?