Why you allow your barber barb you skin when you don't want to be called gorimapa

justwise:


The scam is not only in Owerri i think its all over Nigeria. I'm not interested in buying or budling a house for investment yet because of ROI when converted back to £.
I'm very much interested in buying a land when i see a genuine one

Land banking is a good investment especially those cheap lands for those that can wait long term

RalphJean:


@PalestianIsrael:
Hear! Hear!!

Do an introspection. You are not faultless. Is it possible that you are the visa sponsor. You work. She works too. Your work is really energy-sapping, hers is (energy-sapping)^10…. (For those who hated maths (like me), that means Energy-sapping raised to the power of 10.

You get home, you are tired. She is very tired too. She needs some help in the Kitchen, but you are in the sitting room, pressing phone and browsing internet .

She painfully prepares the meal, still very fatigued. You are still pressing phone.
She asks for help, you ignore…’Afterall I’m the husband, she is the wife.

Then later in the night, you want to turn her into a construction site, for ‘construction work’.

Because she is the wife, who is expected to be loyal, she succumbs. You get up, go on top. Your entire 70+Kg on her. You construct your construction. Discharge akamu. Snore off to sleep.

6:00 am, both of you go off to work.

9:00 pm, you return home.

She is still carrying over the fatigue from yesterday. You too is tired.
She asked for some help to prepare dinner. You ignore. You keep pressing phone. And smiling. And chatting with friends and well wishers. She is there, all very lonely. In a new country. No friends no mates.

She asks you to please drop the phone and give her some attention. You totally ignore.

10:00 pm, she hasn’t served dinner. You are boiling within. But you still kept pressing phone.

She let out her vexation, and tell you how wicked you are.
…. And everything escalated.


PS:
The scenario above is mine.
As someone who came to the UK a couple of years ago, the above is roughly my experience.
I thought my wife had grown horns, because while we were newly married in Nigeria, she was always cooking diners making breakfast. Packaging lunch for me to take to work.

When we arrived UK, she ‘denied’ me all those. It was rough at first. But (to the Glory of God), here we are today, >12 years in marriage. Understanding ourselves and progressing together, as a couple.

This scenario is what 99% relationship going through me too included and women reacts differently to it based on level of understanding of both partners.

LoveJesus87:
Abeg I need a car... my budget is #50,000
Me too i wan use car. Any deal abeg?

No insult pls

Write am complete na senior man. You need a card. Recharge card maybe

sconp:

Just curious, can he not call the police on her and report the matter first?

This is another good point

PalestianIsrael:


Her visa is tied to mine and she would be shooting herself in the foot as well, maybe we’ll both go home. At this point, I can’t rule out anything from her. I have seen insanity face to face. So sad that I used to judge men in my position in the past, meanwhile the wife is literally instigating the violence by struggling, slapping, bringing knives (poking me with the knife) etc. and anything resulting from struggle/self-defence is called assault. It’s utterly ridiculous. I have minor cuts all over and my body is aching me from slaps and blows.

I can tell you for free she won't go home as she maybe be granted stay if she claim threat to life and you may be sent to prison before being sent home. This country na woman country and they can bring you down for free just iron out your differences and live a peaceful life. Forget dependant visa and concentrate on your peace of mind.
If she no calm down after heart to heart talk start gathering video evidence as it may go a long way than to explain tire

PalestianIsrael:
Hi Elders,

Had to create a new account to hide my identity.

Need urgent advice. Domestic Violence.

I’m male based in UK.
Wife and I have been having arguments/fights.
Things have gotten physically unfortunately.
I don’t initiate it.
She says I trigger her by being on my own when we quarrel about couple issues or when I’m with my phone. She’s told me to leave the house. When I come back at night to sleep or when I’m using my phone/laptop around her, she will come and disturb me and start struggling with phone etc. She has smashed my phone. She has fought with me. Things are so bad she will bring out knives and say I should just stab her or use it to hurt her since my silence is “emotional stabbing” to her.
Our physical struggles lead to bites, cuts etc. on each of us. I repeat, I keep running away or holding myself (absorbing slaps and knife pokes etc.)

Long story short, this has happened too much. At least 3 or more occasions. I no longer feel safe. I think we need to separate while things escalate to our families etc. for reconciliation/solution.

Challenge is:
- we are on Tier 2 visa. I’m main applicant, she’s spouse. We both work.
- newly weds, no kids
- shame of failed marriage etc.
- we share a flat. Our lease is up, we are just paying a rolling month on month. That can be cancelled with 30 days notice.

I need advice from Elders who have either experienced similar issues or know people that have. We bought have pictures of the injuries we inflicted to each other as ammunition if things escalate to police.

I’m really confused. Please help!!!

Your evidence is meaningless if you have cut a woman. Better talk to her heart to heart iron out your differences no perfect marriage just learn to compromise and accommodate her. The day you call it quit is the day she will plot your downfall in the uk and call police on you for domestic violence

essentialone:


The boldness of one who has no single unit of Oando in their portfolio.

True it's easier to beat your chest for a stocks you didn't invest on cos you have nothing to lose

Car track is the best. Their is a tracker that has code you can press on your phone when your car is snatched and it with switch off the ignition on motion. You just go there collect your car and press the code again to get the car started

wwwkaycom:
THIS STORY IS ACTUALLY FROM A FRIEND, HE SENT IT TO A WHATSAPP PLATFORM WE BELONG TO. I AM SEEKING ADVISE AND ASSISTANCE FOR HIM HERE PLEASE

My childhood friend is based in Texas, USA. He traveled out 12 years ago. Actually I work with government in Nigeria with a salary of 180k per month. It is becoming increasingly tough to take care of family responsibilities so early this year, I started making moves to relocate to US or Canada.

But the issues surrounding japa are quite enormous so I reached out to my friend to seek his advise, suggestions and possibly financial loan which I will pay back. He gave me some important reasons why I shouldn't migrate. He spoke about my age, no technical skill, finances, leaving known for unknown and difficulties faced by new comers in America. I didn't agree with these reasons even though he sounded genuine. I left him and started making other moves but eventually realized I still needed him.

8 months later, I spoke with him again, he repeated the same reasons why I shouldn't relocate. I am not 50 yet, I know a 56 year old man who relocated to Canada late last year and today his family members have started faring well here in Nigeria. Infact, his son who is presently rounding off his NYSC will be moving by march next year so what is the fuss about my age? I have made up my mind to stop seeking his support and carry my cross myself.

Thank you all.

If you know what you want go get it without seeking validation from anyone. Most of you seek for opinion because you want to tax the person financially reason you are discouraged
Just do it and let him see you in the 🇺🇸

Loveefex:
good day everyone please i an my kids want to visit my mother in spain she is a spanish citizen my document are all legalise but the lawyer over there is advising i apply from nigeria through the famiy runion visa am just worried if it will be a sucess or not please anyne has any advis for me on what i need to o right and documen i will need to submit pls any advise will be appreciated.tank you so much

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lavida001:


They said PTS card.

Start somewhere if they are ready to guide you and ask me whatever is not clear here

lavida001:


They said PTS card.

That sentinel card will have information of all your railway qualification and certifications and all tools you ate trained to use. If you do pts it will show in your sentinel and PTS card allows you to work on any rail line in the uk. But BTA basic track awareness allows you work on any london underground track while dlr track awareness allows you work on dlr track. But pts is the master as it covers the whole of uk

lavida001:


How do i get this card? can we talk off here? cos i went there and na different story dem dey yarn

Did they say you need to have the card first or what

Ilamina:
But you havent finished the process but want to go back to your country

Will that be a problem in the airport in canada And nigeria

Even if you finished the process it might be a problem especially if you claimed to be running from persecution in your country

Nengiraw:
Hello nairalanders, please I need help on this situation. So I’m a lady in her mid 20’s. I’m actually very much set for marriage in the eyes of my family, since society deem it fit to place marriage as an achievement for women, and always bring up your age to remind you to. Anyways, it’s not a priority for me to get married now, as I feel like I’m not ready mentally,and I have a lot of trauma to work on, but I’m also open to it, if it’s in my face and ready. I don’t stay in Nigeria, so my family don’t know if I have a man in my life, so they decided upon themselves to introduce me to a man who is my uncle’s friend that stays in the same country as me. They were more focus on the fact that he comes from a neighboring village from us and that he was a doctor. (Meanwhile he’s actually a nurse, but he told them, that he was a doctor, he also never mentioned to them that he was married and had a child, before they decided to introduce him to me)

So we eventually started talking on WhatsApp, he saw some of my pictures already and he was mesmerized. In fact he was already kind of making me his wife in that moment. So one day he called me and we were just talking,and I heard like a toddler crying so bad and needed his attention, I asked him who was that , he told me it was his daughter, there was this awkward silence for almost five minutes of us not saying anything, so I told him I’ll call him back. I called my mother that day and was mad as hell, that they didn’t disclose such information to me, but from my mother’s reaction she had no idea, and she was also mad and she told me, she will call me back, so she could verify from my uncle, since that’s his friend. Even my uncle too had no idea. To cut the whole story short, he later called me the next day on a video call, and he started telling me about his wife( Yes! She’s still his wife, because I don’t think he has divorced her yet)and how abusive she was, and how he tried to make it work, but she was so crazy and stuff like that. That he’s actually trying to get shared custody of the child. That he’s no longer married to her. I was not really having it, because I just felt like he wasn’t being honest with certain things and on top of that his wife is still in the picture, and I don’t know if I want to settle for that. Also he just turned 40, and I’m 25. So the age gap is too much for me. Also I have not met him in real life, cause he stays in a different state from me, my family still wanted me to be open minded until I see him in person, then I could make a decision if I want him or not. He always sends me pictures of his daughter, and he recently sent me one with his first wife and daughter, I was surprised that he did, and he said he wanted to show me the daughter instead. I still felt like I didn’t need to see a picture of her. I started seeing the red flags of him that I couldn’t settle with. Also the way he talked about the wife was vulgar, and I felt like he didn’t need to tell me about her in that manner.

Now the most recent thing he started doing was sending me random stuff about marriage to my WhatsApp. I usually glance at it,and don’t reply, cause I don’t know why he’s sending me that. The one that gave me a major big red flag from him, is when he sent where Regina daniels( the actress who married Ned nwoko) was talking about marrying her husband a virgin and how it’s important to be a virgin. He then asked me if I was one. Honestly I felt really numb, because I don’t know why he will be asking me stuff like that, when he didn’t really get a respond back from me, he proceeded to send another message telling me, “No mind them sha, virgin no sabi. With a heart eye emoji. I was dumbfounded, I didn’t know how to reply to him anymore. I stopped picking up his calls and I have no intention to meet up with him anymore. Now my family is mad at me, saying that at least I should see him in person, but I don’t want to. In fact I’m no longer interested in him. Please am I wrong for feeling the way I feel? Thanks.

At the end its your life and your family won't be there when things goes south with him. Cut him off and any family member that is not supporting your stand cut them off too and go for what you want. Life is too short to live dmsomeobe else's life

lavida001:


Trying to apply and book training with no success.

could you share your email pls?

.

lavida001:



Do they accept cscs card ?

No sentinel only

lavida001:



Do they accept cscs card ?

Only sentinel

hustla:


Chief

Does it involve heavy lifting?

Thanks in advance

Not really they got equipment to do all the hard work. Hardest part is taking the equipment up and down to the track side through the stairs. What you do mostly as a beginner is cleaning.
When the job is tough is when their is a possession work which last for 12 hours and you get paid 250 pounds for the job each day you do possession but you are not oblige to do it moreso it doesnt come often maybe once in 3 months. You can say no but people do it for the pay.

lavida001:


How do I apply ?

Apply through cleshar but you need a sentinel card. Cleshar can arrange one for you

Track maintenance job is another good job in London. You work 4 hours per night and get paid 100 pounds per night. Work starts 1:30 am and finishes 4:30 am for London underground, london overground and dlr

Don0109:
@dduchess90 and respected gurus in the house.

MA got his visa already and about to leave for the UK.
Now picture this:

Wife is planning to join by December but needs clarification on the following:

1. Wife has exemption letter from NYSC because of age. However, the age on her passport is different from the one she used in school. Must she upload the nysc exemption letter while submitting document for dependant visa?

2. Should the wife use her own nigerian bank account in her name for POF or it has to be in the husband's name? If she's going to use her husband's account, must his POF reflect also or it can just show the wife's maintenance?

3. Wife's passport and other documents still carries her father's name as surname because the wedding was done just a few months ago. Is it Mandatory to do a change of name? If not, what other supporting documents does she need?

Thank you.

Nysc is not part of requirement for dependants. Even if he no go school at all he go get am as long as he can proof the relationship is genuine and subsist

rinzylee:


😂 😂.... na Lebara I dey use o.


Baba you abandon me o


First direct approved £5K loan for 5yrs for me o

You borrowed 5k to pay back 7800 in 5 years and you are happy. Chai interest money as said by islam

Osa0:
Been on house chase over a month now here in Dunstable,Luton to no avail. Am in search of a room and parlour or 2 bd budget of 1k monthly. All have seen is either my annual gross is low or Landlord gave somebody else.. a brother needs help . E dakun

Offer them 6 months upfront you will get it very fast

Openfortruth:


Good day sir, please you asked for my account number. I'm very very hungry right now please. I have not eaten since morning. Please just help me with anything first, in few days time, I will figure out what to do to be making my own money to survive. I really need help to survive first. Thanks and be blessed.

6019680 815, Keystone Bank, Victor Monday

Sent

The family you made is bigger than the family that made you

Peerielass:
Hello

For those of you that are up to date with the visa rules and requirements, what happens if someone on a skilled worker visa is made redundant? I understand they have to leave the country within 60 days. Has anyone been fortunate enough to find another sponsor within that time frame. Asking for a friend who was made redundant last week. Thanks for your contribution.

60 days start only when immigration sends you a letter or e-mail so it's better he start searching now to have more days

Openfortruth:
I greet you all Nairalanders.

Please permit me to share this thing my brother is doing to me.

As my life was about to become useless in the village, I came to the city to stay with my older brother and learn phone repairs.

My plan is to have this handwork so that when i gain admission, i wont rely totally only on education which has failed many in the country.

But my blood brother I'm staying with is behaving unkind to me as though i am a total stranger to him. Even total strangers deserve better treatment.

I'm only an apprenctice and yet to start making money. Most of the days, i trek to the place and return because I dont have transport.

He leave house first before me and return before me too. Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me.

Except there's another way for me, that is how I would go hungry throughout the night and as early as possible in the morning, he would leave the house without reasoning anything food.

I'm seriously starving. I thought he would share the little he has with me till I also start making money. Is this how a senior brother should behave with the junior one?

He's being unkind to me and now I feel like hiding the Garri I brought from the village from him.

But is this how we should behave as blood brothers?

He can't even be there for me to free from this apprenticeship.

Quote me Paste your aza make I give 10k hold body

Openfortruth:
I greet you all Nairalanders.

Please permit me to share this thing my brother is doing to me.

As my life was about to become useless in the village, I came to the city to stay with my older brother and learn phone repairs.

My plan is to have this handwork so that when i gain admission, i wont rely totally only on education which has failed many in the country.

But my blood brother I'm staying with is behaving unkind to me as though i am a total stranger to him. Even total strangers deserve better treatment.

I'm only an apprenctice and yet to start making money. Most of the days, i trek to the place and return because I dont have transport.

He leave house first before me and return before me too. Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me.

Except there's another way for me, that is how I would go hungry throughout the night and as early as possible in the morning, he would leave the house without reasoning anything food.

I'm seriously starving. I thought he would share the little he has with me till I also start making money. Is this how a senior brother should behave with the junior one?

He's being unkind to me and now I feel like hiding the Garri I brought from the village from him.

But is this how we should behave as blood brothers?

He can't even be there for me to free from this apprenticeship.

Have you discussed feeding part with him. I'm sure you discussed accommodation and learning apprenticeship with him he agreed. Let him know you also need to be fed or show you what else you can do to make some money you don't have. Don't automatically assume you are his responsibility

Whytelyon:
Ok I'm not in Lagos , how do I go about the Police character report in this light? Pls let us know

.everything is now online irrespective of where you live in Nigeria or abroad. Visit Possap.gov.ng and register for it you will grt it within 48 hours

aremso:


Again I repeat go back to your account and watch how those stock are doing and even that $5k is even much, if u have 1k u did shuttle between RBT to TSHA to CGC to fix by now it should be around 4k at least so don't leave it like that else your Capital becomes $1k

WarrenBuffet rules must be followed

1- don't losses your Capital
2- don't forget rules 1.

Thanks for your advise