Golden147: Good afternoon everyone.. Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR.. There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her. I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid. Here is my reasons
She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too. My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.
I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me. I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this. It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears. I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.
Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.
Matured advice please
Kai, I don tire for all these young boys matter. 1, She is not in love with you, she is just manipulating you. That's why she always cry when you complain. 2, How was she surviving before she met you? Imagine her mentioning prostitution as alternative if you leave her then coyly telling you she will rather kill her self than prostitute. My take, she will gladly do prostitution and dump you when you stop paying her to be your girlfriend, sorry supporting her. 3, Her brothers do not always call her because they know her real lifestyle. They know she sleeps around for money. Don't be decieved. Because ordinarily, being the only girl in the house, they are supposed to carry her like an egg. Something is off. The brothers know and they are not telling you. 4, Focus on your future for now not a leech, sorry girlfriend that you pay to love you. 5, Finally, dump her and watch. And please don't be shocked when you discover that she did not kill herself. It has happened to me several times those days. It is nothing but emotional blackmail. Don't fall for it. Those who will kill themselves do not talk about it. That's the truth.
EBMedia: Tonto Dikeh's Man, Prince Kpokpogri Play Father Figure At Her Son's Graduation (Photos, Video)
Actress Tonto Dikeh and her partner, Prince Kpokpogri attended the graduation of her son, King Andre, from Nursery school in Saturday July 17 2021, IgbereTV reports.
The excited mum shared a lovely video of her and her partner, Prince Kpokpogiri, accompanying King Andre to receive his graduation certificate.
Posting the video, Tonto wrote that having a man as her head and standing as a father to her son has been her secret prayers. She expressed gratitude to God for answering her prayers by way of sending her Prince.
Love doesn't exist in the world's poverty capital. A man isn't loved for who he is but what he has and can provide. That's a fact you people have to live with and it doesn't care about your feelings. A woman has the right to be concerned about a man's earnings prior to marriage esp in Nigeria's present state. This is how you folks encourage people to go into marriage, born plenty children scattered everywhere thereby worsening the poverty situation in Nigeria.
Talmbout Edo, Delta and Rivers women worship money. Maybe it's why the poverty rate is lower in those states compared to those who abhor money.
You failed to understand it. The man has an income. Most Billionaires didn't start rich. Let her pursue money. That's what she loves. That is my simple advice.
Nancee4love: I AM INLOVE WITH A GUY I AM FAR RICHER THAN. I need a candid, serious and matured advice. I am a lady of 28yrs I stay in Abuja and work here. I am from south south in Nigeria. I recently moved to an area in Abuja and was thinking of a church to go so I went to a church closer to my house and I enjoy the service and I met this cute dark handsome guy in the church. Althrough the service my attention was on him, his personality and dress sense attracted me to him. I like slim guyz and tall guys because I am tall. So after service I went home, thinking about him and looking forward to Sunday morning to go to church to see my crush. I love the fact that this guy true loves God. One thing led to another we had to start talking and I fell even deeper inlove with him, he is a graduate and works in an IT Media firm. It's been 18 months now we have been talking and we are so fond of ourselves and absolutely we are catching feelings for each other but he has not said anything about relationship yet. I am super convinced that he has no relationship, I asked our pastor stylishly and he told me the guy is not in any relationship. This guy is a keeper, has character, treats me with uttermost respect and value. The way he looks into my eyes makes me know he has a thing in his heart for me. Note I have been to his house severally, he stays in a single studio apartment while I stay in a flat and still he is not intemidated at all. He has never asked me for money at all and never pushed for sex, and we have not had sex. We buy things for each other occasionally, like he reciprocates and appreciates my efforts. Recently we were discussing and he Opened up to me that his salary is 80,000 and he is seriously thinking of how he can settle down with that and that's his major source of Income apart from other stuff he does. He has a registered company that he is working on already. I can see him pushing and making all efforts to improve himself. Me on the other side I make 250,000 monthly though I have not told him. I truly love this guy and I want to settle with him but on 80,000 naira income monthly. I was thinking could it be the reason why he has not asked me out yet after 18 months. I told my girlfriends about it not relating or referring to him, my girlfriends, they said I should not settle for less I should look for a man who earns higher. Please people here are my concerns. 1. I love this guy but he has not said anything about relationship yet, how do I make him ask me out 2. Am I settling for less with 80,000 as his salary, will he abandon family responsibility to me in the future. 3. Should I tell him how much I earn , will he not take advantage of me 4. Should I move on its been 18months but truly my heart is peaceful with him, we laugh we smile we encourage each other and we build each other. 5. Should I follow my girlfriends advice to look for someone who earns higher. 6. There is a guy who has been on my neck for 9 months now he works in NNPC, DPR has a car and comfort but I see a toxic red flag in him that's making me scared of him, yet he won't give up he is from south south as well 7. I spoke with my aunt and she said to me if she has her way she will make sure I never have contact with my girlfriends who don't understand life and who are not ready for marriage. My aunt told me that she feels the guy in my church is my God ordained husband. My mom also said the same thing that the guy is ok but she would have preferred someone from south south. My church guy is from middle belt 8. Many things are running through my mind I know I love him. THIS ARE THE QUALITIES I LIKE IN HIM 1. He loves God and genuinely Born again Christian 2. He is sincerely and honest person 3. He is sacrificial and gives me listening ears. 4. He is very mature he seniors me with 6-7 yrs 5. He just a calm person and very organized and visionary Please help me make the right decision by airing out your opinion. Right now he is the only not too rich guy in my life who I expect him to ask me out and he has not. Other toaster's are super rich and they are on my neck trust me I am pretty beautiful light skin girl.
Please dump him and completely cut off from him for the following reasons: 1, You don't love him, if you did, you won't be worried about his income. 2, With the kind of friends whom you have, you will always think that you did him a favour by marrying him. 3, You don't love God, if you did, your first port of call is someone who is a true sincere and genuine believer like the poor guy. 4, Your first consideration is money, so please go for who has the money because that is the only thing that can make you truly happy. And from what you have written here you must be from Edo, Delta or Rivers. Their women worship money. 5, Finally, in marriage nobody needs to prove any point to anybody. I must commend you for coming out openly and boldly to state your state of mind about your relationship. It takes a lot of courage.
Pecoleee345: Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.
A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.
Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.
Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.
People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible. She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off... I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns
She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.
At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.
Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.
My brother you have tried. Stop the marriage already. Dump her.
Sergioaguero: Groom disgraced bride and his best man for sleeping with his fianceé. He didn't expose them earlier on, but decided to disgrace them on the wedding day.
He eventually calld off the wedding with people begging him and fianceé crying and rolling on the floor.
Did the groom do the right thing? On my opinion he should have forgiven her as no one is perfect.
pocohantas: The girl lies too much and has turned this thing into a reality show.
- At first she said she knew nothing about his personal life. She doesn’t know if he was married, but he had this married aura.
- Now she knows he was married and had marital issues.
- She said they drank, smoked and he wanted sex which she wasn’t ready for. So he started chasing her round the house till she got to the kitchen. He choked her and she stabbed him in self-defence.
- When his body was examined and it showed the man was strangled, she changed her story again. This time she told us how she tied him up while he was asleep.
Why does she keep changing her story? What is she hiding? Who is she protecting? Why is the press indulging her? Why is someone being held for a crime as heavy as murder laughing? Why does she even look so relaxed and beautiful? They loosened her hair, washed it and combed it out for her. A murder suspect.
Could it be that she knows something we do not know?
I just pity the late Usifo because it is obvious he died for nothing. This is disgraceful to him and the family he left behind.
May God give her lawyer the grace to defend a client who keeps changing her story per second. Nothing she has said so far is admissible. Let’s just focus on the major thing, she killed the man.
I never knew that there are good women who are still objective. Thanks for restoring my confidence in the female folk
ollymooreagain: *MOTHERS, YOUR DAUGHTERS ARE EXPOSED TO RAPISTS UNDER ANY OF THESE CONDITIONS.*
1. If your daughter is made to hawk anything on the road.
2. If your daughter is still with his father after separating from him.
3. If your daughter is a house maid somewhere..
4. If you are married to another man who is a drunkard and your daughter stays with you people.
5. If your daughters lives with uncles, nephews, other male family members while you are not there.
6. If you leave your baby girl at home in care of nobody.
7. If you allow your daughter to be running errands for men who live alone.
8. If you don’t care about the movements of your daughters.
9. If you live in an isolated environment where it is easy to commit any crime.
10. If you go out to anywhere and leave your daughters to play around the premises.
11. If you allow your teenage girls to dress carelessly outside the premises.
12. If your own son has male friends who visit your home regularly.
13. If your own son and daughters are exposed to pornographic films, internet, pictures etc.
14. If you have ever caught your husband romancing or kissing your daughter (this happens).
15. If there are rapists in your compound where sexual assaults have taken place.
16. If your own sons are exposed to alcohol and drugs and they stay with your daughters.
17. If your teenage girls flock around with male friends with questionable characters.
18. If your daughter is in a school where sexual assault has taken place.
19. If your landlord is a womanizer and a drunkard and he stays in the same premises with you.
20. If your daughter tells you that some guys are harassing her sexually, etc.
*Dear Mothers,* if you notice any of the above and many more things happening your babies, little girls and teenage girls who are your daughters, these are RED FLAGS to be aware of. Take every precaution to safeguard your daughters. Monitor them regularly. Counsel your teenage girls and pray for them regularly.
Whoever wrote this is a very very foolish person!
90% of rape are carried out by lesbian School mothers over innocent Jss1 students in Secondary schools. That's why we have so many lesbians today!
Video of Caroline Kangongo escaping from hotel after committing murder has surfaced online.
Women teaching hegoats that they have evolved!
Stupid fools everywhere! The second Hegoat knew that the first hegoat has been killed but he though he is in love and loose guard, they wasted the second Hegoat too!
Ekomatrix1: I have this girl I have been dating for 4 years and we are planning to get married to this year. But I notice she does not like to sacrifice. I mean, she is kind of selfish.
she is studying and i send her money aside the one the parent gives to her but if i request for a video call, she would ask me to send her data, if she comes to my house and i don't give her TP not minding that i gave her money some weeks/days back she would be angry.
Yesterday i booked a ticket for her to come to lagos from anambra, after booking she asked me to also send her some feeding money for the journey. I refused and asked her to take from the 20k I sent to her last 2 weeks, she then said " WHO PAYS FOR TP AND NOT GIVES FEEDING MONEY?
Long story short, I had to cancel the ticket. I have constantly complained about her selfishness but no improvement .
what should i do?
Now ladies and gentlemen, this is exactly what I mean when I told you that most young men of nowadays are inherently stupid and embarrassingly foolish!
This is four years of a lady abundantly using you as her ATM and you still tolerated that obnoxious, selfish and evil usage of you, four years later you are now asking the most stupid question I have heard since this year!
You mean by now your coconut head have not still understood that you are not loved in that relationship, that you are being used as a dispensable and disposable ATM! How many times do I have to use iron rod and mercilessly beat that your coconut head till I beat sense into it?
With this kind of attitude you will forever be a slave to women.
Because most young men are fools! They always loose their guard when they are with women.
Which one be heart broken. Even the writer is already preparing a soft landing for her by tagging her heart broken. That is how they started treating Chidinma the lady that stabbed Ataga Usifo to death as a celebrity!
ultiabaz36: Good day my people, please your advise is needed. I am in my 30s and I came into this relationship this year January. I like and I love this babe so much but she’s always demanding financially despite being a working class and I am only surviving on 45k job here in lagos. I have target and ambition for my life and everything is placed on this my job. So, I have a proportion of my income to be saved for this my ambition but since I met this girl, I never have anything called savings again while I still go on borrowing to satisfy her needs.
The most painful part of it all is that anytime she asks of anything and I’m not capable of what she asked for, she will first block me on Whatsapp and drop a breakup message. I will be the one to call and persuade her and when she feels like to unblock me she will do that.
But now, she’s asking for salah cloth and I don’t have the amount she’s asking for. I told her I don’t have the money for now while I told her that I don’t know what tomorrow will say and as soon as I said this, she dropped the breakup message as usual and block me on WhatsApp.
Please Advise me on what to do as this is getting on my nerves.
Somebody shout ATM!
That is exactly what you are to her!
I am sure you will still ask us what you should do!
Now to everybody, now you see why I told you that most young men of these age are extremely foolish!
Newsmic: Nollywood actress, Tonto Dikeh took to her Instagram handle to gush over her new lover, Prince Kpokpogri as she shared new loved-up photos with him, IgbereTV reports.
She just dey pour everything out Isn't she supposed to speak to a lawyer first b4 even speaking to the press
That is because somebody somewhere is manipulating what she is saying. She tied his hands, yet there was a struggle. How? He wanted to strangle you with the tied hands?
AquaBekee: Anambra Guber: Media Czar, Alex Nwankwo Emerges Accord Party Guber Candidate
Media czar and publicist, Mr.Alex Nwankwo, has emerged the governorship candidate of the Accord party for the November 6, 2021 Anambra guber election.
He was declared candidate of the party after a keenly contested guber primary held at East End Hotel, Aroma, Awka in Anambra State and witnessed by thousands of party chieftains, members and the media.
Prior to his emergence, Nwankwo had purchased the party's Expression of Interest and Nomination Forms, at the Accord Party national headquaters in Abuja presented to him by National Chairman of the Party, Hon. Mohammed Lawal Naido Sanata.
By his emergence, Mr. Nwankwo has become the youngest governorship candidate, who will participate in the Anambra governorship election.
Nwankwo, made his debut in politics, when Tony Nwoye, a immediate past governorship aspirant of the PDP, was President, National Association of Nigeria Students, NANS.
Nwankwo at that time, was also elected Secretary General, Anambra State University, now Odumegwu Ojukwu University.
He has also proved his mettle in the media industry in Nigeria and beyond, earning several local and international accolades and awards.
He is the founder of Amity Global Network, one of the fast growing and leading Public Relations agency in Africa.
With over 90 prestigious awards both national and international in his kitty, Mr.Nwankwo has continued to manage the image of multi national companies, individual brands, celebrities, politicians and public institutions within Nigeria and across the world.
He is the Regional Media director, Federation of freelance Journalists Association and Country Director, West African Ecowas Youth Council.
Nwankwo, a journalist, PR expert, media personality, entrepreneur, and writer, is the publisher of several print and online news platforms, such as State Press, Abuja Press, Alex Reports, Attention Magazine, Anambra Update and many others.
He was also one of the media director fors Hon.Tony Nwulu, who championed the Not Too Young To Run initiative and governorship candidate of the United Progressive Party, UPP in the 2019 governorship election in Imo State.
He was also the media director who championed the guber ambition of Prince Don Okonkwo, a one time governorship aspirant in Anambra State.
With all the hype, the guy still looks like a riffraff! Just see how he looks! Local Champion!
The packaging has to start from his dressing. He thinks, this is SUG presidency! Kai! Alex work on your looks abeg! Very bland uninspiring look! Haba na! Haba, Haba.
The former Governor of Imo State, His Excellency, Rt. Hon. Emeka Ihedioha has commended the Federal Government on the arrest of the leader of the Indigenous People Of Biafra (IPOB), Mazi Nnamdi Kanu.
The former Deputy Speaker of the Federal House of Representatives made this remark in Abuja when he met the leadership of Arewa Consultative Forum, a foremost Northern sociocultural group.
Ihedioha disclosed that the Igbo's throughout history has been peaceful and accommodating people, as evidenced by their numerous businesses spread across the country.
He further expressed his thanks to President Muhammadu Buhari for his foresight in arresting the security situation occasioned in the South East in the past months, urging that any unity garnered through violence is never a lasting one.
Ihedioha also urged the Federal Government to give an ear to the numerous agitation rocking the country, saying that violence is an ill wind that blows that blows no one any good.
In his reaction, Chairman, Board of Trustees (BOT) of the group, Ambassador Shehu Malami, praised Former Governor Ihedioha for his detribalized and peaceful nature, noting that the spate of insecurity in the country is a result of the abandonment of the youth, which has culminated in the banditry, kidnapping, herders/farmers clashes that has spread to different parts of the country.
Malami also urged Ihedioha to consider himself one of them as they are all brothers in the Nigerian Project.
Signed
Chibuike Onyeukwu Media Aide to His Excellency, Rt. Hon. Emeka Ihedioha CON
July 1, 2021
Shameless tribe. They have gone to sell their people again.
mancoconut: If only it were that simple, what you don't know is above you
You have not recanted what I wrote. Nnamdi Kanu should have been very careful about his security. How can he move about without security? Now see how pathetic, he looks. The man is just not organized enough to bring about Biafra.
Family › Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by AbujaCitiBlog: 5:07am On Jul 22, 2021
