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Stephen0mozzy:


And you'll be hearing some half-witted people threatening and clamouring for war in Nigeria. War is a terrible thing that no one should pray to be faced with!

May God help all innocent people find safety from the madness spurn by the ego of Putin and the ecstasy of nuclear weapons.

War is a terrible thing ONLY when you have nothing to fight for. It's a terrible situation for foreigners who have no business defending a foreign land.

Nigerians dying in the hands of bandits daily in their father land will prefer war over any insincere intervention.

If you give Northern youths rifles to confront their worst fear (e.g.boko haram, bandits), you all think they'll chicken out? When you realize that, whether you fight or not, you're likely to die anyway, you will pick up a rifle and fight.

Can the average Ukrainian write a paragraph on EndSARS, Boko Haram, or Biafran war?

Stevenson20:
Agberos and Touts! These two set of people are the major reason Lagos state will still be a laughing stock. Until they sit up and cripple these people's wings and place them in a perpetual cage, that when Lagos will look like a civilized State.

They're actually trying. Forget the propaganda from Nairaland drug addicts.

Check this video:

Outcome of Lagos island raid: More details shortly pic.twitter.com/r9b4UrX24y

— NDLEA NIGERIA (@ndlea_nigeria) February 26, 2022

Just look at what these boys are about to consume. How will someone smoke this stuff and not commit murder, rape, and other attrocities?

cococandy:
cool . We cool

Always

cococandy:
Yes I do have a problem with homophobia. But that’s not what that post was about.
If you ignored his vile post and heckle me for responding to him, it does feel like validation of his post.

Okay. Sorry, that wasn't my intention

cococandy:
sorry that’s not what the post I responded to is about. I’m sure you can read. He said why should a woman want a stinking orifice. He could have simply said he doesn’t like lesbians (not that it’s his business) but his primary response is to insult women’s vagina.

If our bodies are that stinky, then I’m sure he must hate it as well. No? Or he likes stinky stuff? For a so called straight man, he sure hates women’s bodies. Or maybe he’s not straight?

It seems like you’ve become intentionally cantankerous. Do you have any words for him? Or you agree that women have stinking vaginas? Because that’s my issue with his post. Not anyones sexual preferences

You and I know you have issues with anyone who opposes same-sex relationships but that's by the way.

And no, I do not agree that women have stinking orifice. The fact that I don't bother responding to certain posts is not a sign of validation.

psalmz:
he has being buried but to perform the normal traditional rights so she can pull off the black cloth

It's obvious she came from an occultic root/family. Black cloth wey she suppose don change to one sexy lingerie or dinner gown since!

They give such stup!d orders because they know Nigerians too well. They know, like the typical Nigerian, she needs them (the law-makers) to pick aso-ebi and if possible the attention of the whole world to bury her father.

When she's ready to bury her father, she knows what to do. Who will stop her if she decides to walk to the mortuary?

What do you mean by he was your breadwinner? Did you all donate your destinies to him to make money on behalf of the entire family? Why would you be okay with having just one member of the family feed the rest, even after his demise?

You all have depended on him for too long, okay? Who knows maybe the stress that comes with feeding too many mouths is what killed him.

yanabasee:
Let him go and join the military and get trained.... if the training of having him cut down his hair has become war...

Funny how a drunkard feels he has opinion about an ideal haircut. What would you say by the time the op begins to sleep around and drink to stupor exactly like his father? Sound training, isn't?

yanabasee:
And you think to house a stubborn teenager is a child's play?

I like the fact that you used the word "house" instead of "train".

What a "stubborn" teenager needs is training not just a roof over his head.

yanabasee:
You don't have issue with me.


You have issues with yourself...


Many of you have toxic bosses at work and you don't repel them, but will see the need to repel your parents.

LOL

At least, toxic bosses pay salaries at the end of the month.

An irresponsible father who gives nothing asides from a surname you can change with 10k affidavit deserves no respect.

yanabasee:
Yet the marriage stood for 22yrs?

Why will a simple haircut now be a thing to kill a home?

Do you give up on life because of what you experienced?

His mother endured this long... If she sees the need to divorce him, she will, but if she sees it as one of those marriages and she still with him, who are you to talk him into destroying home that his mother have been trying to keep?

You think this is some indomie marriages that is in every court seeking for divorce?

It's her call to leave or remain in the marriage. My issue with you has to do with your attempt to blackmail the op into showing respect to a father that caused him nothing but pain and abuse for 22 years.

The same book you got that saying "respect/honour your father and your mother" also instructed parents to avoid provoking their kids into anger. The same book told fathers to provide and love their wives. The same book warned about adultery and drunkenness. The father refused to adhere to all instructions about fatherhood. There's nothing to respect if you ask me.

yanabasee:
Op don't listen to this people trying to invite you against your family... They will not be there when your family is in crisis.... They will not be there when. your mother and your father won't be in good terms....

No matter what your father is doing, you have to first of all respect him as your father...

Don't be that child that brings about divorce to your own home. It's very simple, if he calls for you to cut your hair down, do so and let peace come into your house...

What crisis? Same one that started some 22 years ago?


What terms? Have they ever been in good terms? Sending your wife out of the house she invested her money is good terms?

yanabasee:
You should be very careful how you address your father.... 22yrs old and you're already seeing your dad as a difficult man... Do know what life is out there?


You probably tinted your hair or barbed a crazy hairstyle and your mom saw nothing wrong with it ... But your dad is probably trying to redirect your step and you're citing this as dictatorship...

As far as you're staying under his roof, you should be willing to go by his rules and regulations..

Hypocritical parents everywhere. You drink to stupor, keep late nights, sleep with everything on skirt,and probably smoke Indian hemp but somehow, you feel you're in the best position to demand morality from your kids. It doesn't work that way.

If the op decides to get himself a crazy haircut, the father has no moral ground to correct him. As it stands, the OP has all the rights to rebel and fight that man. What you don't give, you can't get.

cococandy:
Going by that logic, you like glorious gbolas too. No?
Because why would any sane man go for a smelly orifice?

Your idea is that men should be allowed to knack men and women should be allowed to knack women. If we all follow this route, don't you think humans will cease to exist? If animals also follow this route, how would you get your proteins?

Your mom married him, got pregnant for him, and still chooses to endure with him. It's not your fault that you have an "irresponsible" father. The good thing is, if your mom won't leave him for reasons best known to her, you do have a choice to leave at some point.

Until then, just find a way to endure and develop a shock absorber against the toxicity in that house. So long as you need your parents to feed you and clothe you, there isn't much you can do. Find a way to deal with the issues until you're fit enough to rent an apartment.

Lucrativress:
I meet you again Sire
You know that at times we over exaggerate thing's.
Family's love bla bla bla
Exceptional superficial bond yen yen yen
And when someone gets shockers like this from them because of the well over exaggerated sayings,not all of them get the strength to see beyond it.
In as much as these hurtful approach is not the only way,no one has the right to make excuses for people's families.
It's not the only way.
Family isn't the only superficial,over freaking exaggerated exclusive enigmatic bonding there is.
They're just humans like you and I sharing the same blood whatever from the same household.
Understand that they're not beyond irrational and hurtful behaviours.
You'll be alright
Please give your family members a breathing space, they're only humans
All these can be expected.

Absolutely. I agree with your view

yanabasee:
Let the op go and be waiting for motivational speeches from his parents before he will move on like a man and start up....

His claim is that he did everything to his parents and should be accepted back as a lazy young man for as long as he desires ...

Lol... My self esteem pushed me into making it large in life and right now, I will never go broke... I have properties... I am into real estate...

My parents made me to understand that I needed to stand up and never to see home as a place to always run back if I fail... but to keep pushing... She told me that she won't be here forever and where do I think I will run to when she's gone? I was starved of food from my beloved mother.... Do I hate my mother... NO, do I support her, yes...

Did your parents pushed you to the point of taking your life? I think you should read his accounts again. No doubt people make it in life after going through rough paths. However, people also make it big after getting help from family and friends. We are not all the same.

DoggoneDogg:
Are you aware that there was no Israel before 1947 but Palestine existed?

LMAO .

yanabasee:
Get sense.....


You don't even appreciate the fact that they're trying to use words to push you back up?


If you get offended, get up and hustle.... Stop complaining... It's difficult to feed a grown up man...

Their fear could be that, you're over relaxing and might get used to it.. So go out and get something doing and appreciate them later ..

You don't expect them to keep feeding you.. This is Africa...

When I was struggling and went back home... my mum will talk to me and make me feel rejected.... I actually felt rejected and needed to be accepted and so I did everything and now I appreciate her for not letting me stay idle for too long ..

She actually messed up your esteem and mental faculty. That's why you now assume that it's okay for a grown up to suffer rejection and abuse in the hands of family. A year in his parent's house shouldn't attract ridicule but, of course, this is Nigeria, a country where people f00l themselves with transactional love.


Isn't this the same "family love" you all rate over the love you share with your wives and girlfriends?? The love that push you all to suicide and crime?

cococandy:
You don’t want me turning into a man-hater?

Why don’t you achieve that by calling out misogyny when you see it?

What happened to supporting humanity? I believe women are part of the human race. You can’t support humanity by ignoring or even supporting anti woman beliefs.

The issue of witch hunting is anti woman by origin.
Read up more on it if you did not previously know this.

That was simply a friendly advice. I believe you understand my point.

About my reaction to misogyny, well I try to address the issues I can in my little way.

Kobojunkie:
God no follow you talk that one at all at all.... you are just regurgitating the schpeel fed you by your Pastors and mogs as explanation for why they fleece you in the name of God.

■ It matters to God that you give to your neighbor when your neighbor asks of you. So much so that He even used a parable in explaining to you who your neighbor is and who isn't.
■ it matters to God that you give, not to organizations/businesses and men who already have, so much so that He made it clear that only those who give directly to those who have less will enter into His Kingdom at the end of the day.
■ it matters to God that you give directly even to your own enemies that He made it known that it is by doing that you become even more like your Father in Heaven.

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God cares who you give to so, if you truly love Him, you will obey His commandments - John 14 vs 15 - 25

You already know I won't discuss the Bible with you, Kobo. Bible twister aye

oldienavie:
I am not sure what your point is, you made a wrong assumption and I just corrected you, yet you keep going on about something totally unrelated to the clarification that I made.
I am not trying to convince you , I was just letting you know tithing is not giving.
And provided a robust explanation.

Neither did I say anything about the legality of tithing, but you seem to be forcing that arguement but thats not my objective. You can tithe if you want, but like I said, I was educating the OP not to wrongly classify tithing as giving thats all.

Giving, tithing, and prayers are all obligations to a Christian. The act of praying, giving, or paying of tithe however is voluntary. No "sane" church will eject anyone for not paying tithe or fasting and praying.

oldienavie:
Seems the tithe triggerred you.
I dont care if you give your money to someone richer than you in the name of tithe.
What I am saying is that op should not include tithing in his classification of giving.

Tithing is not giving cos you pay tithe and dont give tithe. Those that tithe believe it is an obligation to do so, that is different from giving, where you don't have the obligation but still do it from your heart.

I hope you get my point.

The rich make their money because someone gave them and bought into their idea, dreams, or vision. If you think your money and resources are meant only for those you consider as bottom barrel and down trodden, then good luck to you! The rich will always take from you whether you like it or not. You will buy their products and use their services, you don't have a choice.

Kobojunkie:
God no send you or anyone tithing in your churches at all. Instead totally decree comes to you straight from your Pastors and mogs.

Giving, as directed by God Himself has absolutely nothing to do with what you practice there in your churches, and you invoke God's name in vain in your rituals.

As far as the money goes into solving people's problems and expanding the gospel, who cares?

oldienavie:
My post is not a physical one, I am talking from my own personal experience.
Why do you think all regions in the world, be it islam, christianity, budhism, hinduism, every religion, will tell you to give to the needy.
Just like the law of Gravitational pull, you dont see it but it exists.
There are some supernatural laws that works for you , and if you happen to key into them you will experience unprecedented breakthrough.

I speak as someone who graduated from a Nigerian university and roamed the country for 5 years looking for a job, no help, no contacts but surprisingly today I hold the citizenship of one of the top 3 most powerful countries in the world.

Again, I don't expect you to understand me, some things are beyond physical and trust me, the world around us exists beyond physical.

It is no longer a personal experience the moment you instruct someone to avoid tithing in church. Your personal experience should be limited to the principles you've directly applied to your situation.

Some people paid tithes and got citizenship in 10 countries within few years.

oldienavie:
When you give to the needy (not tithing in church) but you give people in genuine need support and your heart is pure, the forces of the world will align in your favour.

I talk from experience.

Whoever, whatever and wherever you give don't matter, so trying to validate giving to the poor as against other forms of giving isn't necessary.

The poor man that gifts the rich and the rich that gifts the poor have both applied the same principle.

The way we idolize giving to the poor is the reason many poor people have remained poor all their lives because you have conditioned their minds to only receive. Na why many of them have taken a permanent sit in different bus stops.

The poor should also give and how do you teach the poor to give??

If I have the opportunity to buy Dangote, Oyedepo, or Adeboye a wristwatch, I will gladly do it.

cococandy:
Wetin concern LGBT for this thread now?

And yes anything to support women from unjust accusations. It’s always the women that are witches

What happens to supporting humanity? I don't want you turning to a man-hater yunno.

cococandy:
Some long suffering good women who stay with and support broke men get accused of being behind the poverty. This might be the 5th thread on this forum I’ve seen where the man says someone saw a vision about his wife being responsible for his misfortunes.
It’s sad.

Anything to support women and LGBT

Needadvice200:
She into fashion

The truth is that if you guys refuse to improve your game and get your hands busy, your situation will get worse. No amount of prayers will cause money to fall from heaven.

I believe in biblical principles. Praying for financial transformation without paying your tithes, giving to the needy, and getting yourself busy with work as recommended by the same bible you believe in, is tantamount to reckless religiosity.

I don't pray for money. I apply principles.

If you apply basic principles, your situation will surely turn around. Demons cannot alter certain principles and as long as she's not putting on the rag physically, who cares? Get busy with work, give to the needy, apply other basic financial principles (there's a lot in the bible about loans, savings, prudence, investments), and your situation will turn around.

Needadvice200:
Bro am not a job applicant. I've been in business for years even before I got married.

And your wife?