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This is really sad. Kogi is the largest cashew producing state in Nigeria (no other state comes close) yet, decades after the creation of the state, no governor has been able to influence or attract a common processing plant to the state.

Of course, these sorts of investments are privately funded but how many private investors are aware of the potentials in Kogi? This is where a sensible governor comes in. These bas.tards won't create publicity and awareness about the potentials in the state.

They're not bothered about attracting any investor. The stup!d crook of a governor in Kogi has spent billions of Naira creating awareness about his "dead on arrival" presidential ambition but not a single kobo on how to harness the potential of cashew. They simply don't give a f*ck about anybody.

Many Lagosians have neither seen nor tasted cashew in 30 years yet we have these stuff wasting away annually in Kogi state. Yahaya Bello and his group of looters don't care.

LMAO What were you thinking? You wanted open relationship yet you dey fall in love? The "relationship" blogger or article writer that advised open relationship did not warn you not to fall in love?

plaetton:
Oh my dear friend, I have been shouting it from the rooftops since the 1990s of the destructive effects of evangelical Christianity. Sadly, I feel vindicated for all my predictions about how prosperity preachers and the magical thinking they fiercely promote would eventually eat deep into soul of this nation.
Today, with a minimum of 5 churches in every street in allost every city in Nigeria, this country predictably lost it's soul.
If you believe that a particular church or particular pastor or particular monetary sacrifice to church or pastor can magically transform your life( money ritual my definition) , then you are mostly to also believe the words of a native doctor that other forms of sacrifice can also bring prosperity to you.
It is the same magical thinking, the only difference between the level of desperation.

Magical thinking promotes more magical thinking.
If you fall for pastor's BS, then you are vulnerable to fall for the native doctor's BS.

You don't get the point. How many ritualists have you seen mention Oyedepo or Adeboye as their sponsor? How many Redeem member have you seen engage in rituals? Why would you blame Adeboye for the crime committed by people who have never been to a church service in 10 or 20 years? Most of them are even yoruba Musims who can't correctly quote John 3:3 or John 3:16. If prosperity message is why people commit crime, how come I haven't chopped off someone's head for money despite been a church boy all my life? If you know the amount of sermons/messages I listen to per week, then by your calculations, I should have chopped off the entire heads in your community.

Another anti church report. How does going to church or listening to prosperity messages relate to ritual killings? How many of these so called ritualists can you connect to any church in Nigeria??

This is why I personally attack some senseless Christians. Obviously, this report was written by a southern Christian. You blamed your church, you blamed pastors and priests, but left out the main perpetrators of ritual killings in Nigeria.

aktolly54:
That's money invested wisely

Not his personal savings, just like revolution plus or Adron homes. The money belongs to investors.

Kobojunkie:
So long as the children are his, he owes them child support and that is their right as children. Run go see a lawyer asap and don't miss any opportunity to get paid back for all he has owed them for the last 9 years. That money could contribute to their schooling as well.

This is a sound advice from Kobo. Please fix this.

Vyvyanvyvy:
Thanks for the advice. I am single

Alright. I think you're good to go, for the sake of the kids.

The appropriate thing is to have this discussion with your current man (if any). I won't encourage you to meet an ex without his knowledge and approval, whether with the kids or not. If you have a new relationship, then it's no longer about you or the kids; it's about him also.

Klass99:
Lol .
Kilode? What has gotten in you lately?
Your responses to issues are candid with sarcastic undertones.
The other day I saw a few on the thread titled ''Do Not Make Children Your Retirement Plan'' laff wan kill me, with the way you were tackling people like football.

LMAO I guess some issues seem to bother me lately more than they bother other people. Maybe I'm becoming hypersensitive.

Involve her family. If the lady fails to act and her family also fails to do something, then gently mind your business.

She married a ma.d man and her family collected bride price from the ma.d man. Both entities should find a solution to their problems.

However, you can decide on your own terms to involve the police since their actions are a form of nuisance to the neighborhood.

Kobojunkie:
But yours are?

Come on... can we rid ourselves of these ridiculous postulates abeg.

What postulates? That culture plays a huge role in marriages or that people experience cultural shocks?

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Let me address your spew one after the other!
You opined that she's a loser, because her plan didn't work,so I asked....what plan?

Why are you trying to discredit my stance about the plan? Why not go back to the story or you didn't bother to read the first and second paragraphs?

2ndly.....you said she wanted a rich guy to claim the 5 kids....and I asked!
Was there anywhere it was stated that the dangling tool she got married to was rich?
What if her ex was an abuser,a domestic violence poacher,and she had to run to save her life and that of her kids?

See ahnie, the world don't operate on emotions. Even Anini the radical armed robber deserves to know his children! This is law. So far as he was good for sex that produced five children, then he MUST be good enough to know the product of his seeds. If you decide to raise the children yourself, you're on your own. There are provisions to get a man responsible for his kids. If you choose manipulation over the provisions of the law, you're simply on your own, when manipulations backfire.

And what of she singlehandedly suffered to raise her kids ALONE?

Again, the world don't operate on your emotions. Even if the guy was a product of sperm bank, he deserves to know the truth!

Digmygold:
I guess you sat his mother down in your dream and asked for her own side of the story. Otherwise, judging by all your dumb analysis, I would suggest you go for a mental evaluation.

No be people dey orphanages and motherless babies homes? Why did they not bath their carers with acid? The mother should have dumped the useless, ungrateful lunatic in the gutter, let me see who he would have gone to threaten with acid bath.

Don't allow your emotions run you m.ad. Drink water and read the OP again.


This is about critical evaluation. Your past or current experiences don't matter in the scheme of legislations. The guy was obviously dum.b for threatening his mother with acid when he could easily sue her a$$.

Your analogy about motherless baby homes is just you allowing your emotions overrun your education.

ahnie:
I asked you a simple question,yet you cudnt give an answer to my question.

The answer is clear. She's the loser because her plans didn't work. She wanted a rich guy to claim the children she had for a wretched man in Ajegunle. How would you feel if you realize that the man you've always called father for 20 years isnt your biological father? It wasn't like the real father was dead or something.

Was it wrong to remarry? Absolutely not. But let your children know their real father. It's their choice to take your new husband as their father, not yours.

If that guy was smart enough, na the mama suppose dey jail.

ahnie:
How does the mum ends up being the loser?
See forget those scumbugs spewing trash...I still stand on my word,if I were to be the mother I would put him behind bar for LIFE.

Ahaha ahnie o. I'm sure you won't go that far. What's so bad in telling him about his father?

dalongjnr:
The judge that previously sent the guy to prison is bias. You jail him for attempt to cause bodily harm but you didn't jail the woman for the psychosocial damage the woman caused to her son.
Is that judgment really fair?

Fair or not, the woman ends up a loser. The child she wanted so badly has now turned against her.

Cheeryfeet:
See you with your first world business mentality, first he didn't change his mind cos he has a cheaper deal so don't make cheap excuse for him. He said the money someone wanted to send him didn't come through, who does that, spending money you are yet to receive na wa o. By the way , just so you know, even if he got a cheaper deal else where you don't just run out like that, you simply renegotiate giving you a chance to get the best offer out of the two sef. Oga be calming down o

Do you expect him to tell the seller about a cheaper deal?



Anyway, I am calm oo. Make you sef calm down

Kobojunkie:
Yet a good number of those who ended up abandoned in marriage were married to spouses who lived in the same community/village growing up?

Come on... can we rid ourselves of these ridiculous postulates abeg.

Your claims are unverifiable anywhere, Kobo. People who share the same value and some attachments with a community (could be village, church, religion) will most likely do everything to keep their marriage even when the road is rough.

The same principle applies to couples with kids. When you share something together or have a sort of accountability or attachment to a similar community, you'll most likely consider all the external variables ahead of selfish interest. This is commonsense.

The fear of what people will say have kept many marriages in Nigeria. Take these people out of their community (e.g. abroad), and watch them walk away, even when the differences are reconcilable.

Actually, marrying someone from your village or tribe provides some form of checks and balances. Asides being a responsible person, you need the fear of God and the fear of what people (your mutuals) will say to keep you in check. Lack of accountability and the belief that you're not accountable to anyone, not even God or your parents and mutuals, is a major recipe for marital disaster.

Divorce will hardly cross your mind if you marry from a family you're very much familiar with. Marry a distant fellow, and divorce will always cross your mind at the slightest provocation.

Cheeryfeet:
Bro you didn't try at all. You knew you were not ready why place the order? You were expecting money you are not sure of and you are already ordering things yet you are still defending yourself do you know the trauma of near success syndrome, a deal already closed and you are backing out on the last minute, you think it's just about she didn't spend money on waybill or stuff, you simply don't have money and you are hanging your coat above you, if you had any sense, courtesy demands "ah I'm sorry things came, please take this amount for the trouble, we call you when I'm ready' simple.

What if he changed his mind because he got a cheaper deal at the last minute? Will all this your "near success Nigerian church prayer point" suffice? Only sellers deserve success, buyers don't?

Please don't go into business until you understand the consumer buying process. All these una Naija business mentality with yeye slogans like "DM for price" "serious buyers only" can only be seen in a third world country of entitled and arrogant wannabie entrepreneurs.

Richy4:

You are correct.. each broken dish, 5 strokes of the 'kane' Broken TV attracts 9 strokes..

I equally saw your fear based on her anger issues.... She can possibly set the house on fire
She needs to go for an anger management classes..

If she was Angry, there are so many ways she can get to her man that will hurt him so bad ie if she truly knows him.. instead of destroying properties..

Yes o. There are many ways to address a cheating spouse. When there's nothing left to destroy, she might pick a knife.

Richy4:
It depends on the Abroad man... If they travel to Anti-feminist capital city of the world Saudi Arabia,

They will flog some sense into her really bad... Not minding that OP was the one provoking her

Na just Nordic countries, US, and the UK dey desperate about emasculating men.

naija4life247:
Solomon 700 wives and 300 side chicks did not kill him. Atiku Abubakar's 5 wives have not killed him. Obasanjo's numerous wives have not killed him. Why then should this guy's wife kill him?

...because she's the only one on earth that knows how to get angry.

I just dey pity the op. The greatest mistake he will ever make is believing that her anger issues will end the moment he stops cheating.


Sensible women won't stoop so low to insult or trade words with their husbands. But this one is shouting like a market woman and breaking stuff like Agege tout!

Xcelinteriors:
I just said something like window blind or linoleum. Please pardon my English

It's all good. We learn everyday.

luizpippo:
What if the window blinds were cut to his specifications, then she would be praying someone with the exact dimensions who wants the same shade comes along or else it would rot there.

Window blinds ke? Which seller will make that without payments? What I read was 15 rolls of wallpaper and 15sqm of linoleum.

I hope she only exhibits that ma.dness when you cheat though. Breaking stuff at the slightest provocation is a sign of mental illness. Moving abroad is not the issue, your safety is. Moving abroad should also scare her because that madness can get her in serious troubles.

elantraceey:
Of course it's not a big deal untill you're the person and you've spent time and resources to get a job done. It's not a big deal and it's normal doesnt make it okay and all right. If you don't have money to do something, stay your lane. I won't even order stuff on jumia without having the cash to pay at hand. You should value people's time and resources.

It wasn't like she baked a cake or something, please. Many times, I have used my call card to speak with prospects. Some of them make promises after spending my time and resources and never get back. It's no big deal. Many times, I have used my resources to arrange meetings in distant places just to meet prospects.

The young man is not her customer! He was a prospect and nothing more. She should know better that unless payment has been made (for a "non-refundable" deal) there's no certainty! It wasn't a pay after delivery term. So whatever she spends trying to secure a client is completely on her. This is business.

elantraceey:
And this op is a liar. You claim you wanted to pay immediately and she was the one that insisted on going to the park first but this chat says otherwise. Wicked man. For those trying to bring gender into this, if it was a man, bla bla bla, you cup of wickedness will turn around and come back to you. What this op did was a premeditated attempt to waste the poor woman's time and you idiots thinks it's okay. Coming here to lie and try to discredit her story. Why did you block her, you can't say.

Traceey dear, cancelling an order is not a big deal in the world of business.

Viking07:
Boss, can you imagine such nonsense? Like they bought his data for him. Since when did blocking became a criminal offense.

Emotional things.

deloon:
Contrary to the sentimental outbursts from most people, I actually don't see what problem is here. Shit happens.

No problems at all. This is a very very normal business occurrence. A buyer has the right to change his mind at any point in time and even demand a refund on certain grounds, regardless of whatever costs the seller has incurred.

If you don't have the mind to incur this kind of cost, please stick to pay before delivery.

Viking07:
He doesn’t owe you any explanation as to why he blocked anyone. Na una buy am phone?

That was an utterly senseless question. "Why did he block her ke?"

Don't waste your time explaining. Reading the original thread and the contents of the screenshots, your explanations were very obvious.

How long she stays in traffic doesn't really matter. Some of us skip sleep too to get the damn job done. It's part of business. If you don't want to waybill goods then make it known in your adverts so that customers can come pick up their items. If you don't do interstate deals, also make it obvious.

Is it okay for the seller to feel bad about a bad business deal? Of course!

As the OP done any wrong by canceling an order? No!

Many of us have cancelled Bolt/Uber trips, Jumia orders, etc. Many have gone to shops to promise a seller about making payment, etc. If you decide to incur any cost based on promises or trust, you're simply on your own.


Make una dey tame una emotions