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Definately there are some history that u have allowed to repeat itself while u were courting that u dceided not to see. am sorry bout ur heart thats been broken.

Change ur dating / selection style and pray that God will bring a decent person ur way o - cause all the people out there are wolves.

But i know that u will find ur own, and when it happens, it will be like those that 'dream dreams', i promise u.

Dont close ur heart though otherwise the goodones wll pass but u just gotta be careful.

I herad someone say something once, she said when you commit yourself to God (give him ur all) he will be in control of all.

expressway? lol thats hilarious.
But its sad sha that people use something so serious as abuse to cover up their freakiness.

Since he is your ex, maybe he is saying that u were supposed to be someone that he trusted like a friend and u betrayed him.

Abi what else could it mean?
Maybe you left him foor his pal an he is saying dont trust him - i no no sha

@aysomething - girl i dont think you are over your hurt yet o. The way u talk about it it still seems fresh. But i hope u are gonna deal with it before u go into another relationship.

AT the poster - i am sorry sha but he is ur family and like aysomething said, you have to learn going into the next relationship, the u must give her attention cause women need that and plenty of it.

I think you should really be careful girl. Can you say what tribe he is from? Cause there are some from certain tribes who wouldnt mind but there are other tribes i know that never marry foreigners and when they do, they usually come back home and marry one of theirs.

You say he is studying? Does that mean that he will be going back or is he looking to stay?
You just need to let this be tested by time and dont let him rush you to do what you dont wanna do.

Take your time.

He will do things for you and wouldnt mind doing it - he will willingly do that.

I believe in God the Father Almighty. Even God himself siad in his word that there are wolves amongst us in sheep's clothing.
Even God said in his word that if a prophet prophesies and it doesn't come to pass, then He definately didnt send that prophet.
There are also prophesies that are or the future and not the immediate present.

Nigeria being great is down to us - we have to be willing to make the effort. The prayer we should pray is that God will remove all the hinderances in the way e.g 'Fat Cat' politicians etc.

Nigeria is loaded with all the qualities it needs to be a great nation but we are just using it for personal gains.

@Seguno2- you are so correct. I love God and everything about him but like you said some people actually worship men of God than God himself. Pastor Adeboye is alright with me by the grace of God but sometimes we call everybody 'men of God' when God himself didnt even send them.

Its all well and good. The thing is that we can have an odd drink here and there but not to getting drunk and acting the fool wherby disgracing ur self and ur husband.

O ga o this one is hard sha.
Family is always family and no matter what they are still our family.

I am so sorry about what u went through. I just feel bad for the next relationship u enter into cause she will bear the brunt of it all.

I am sorry sha sweetie i just hope u pray to God to soothe your pain because he can do it i promise u.

But if she is cool about you not being a graduate then whats the stress?

Like u said there is so much out there that can help u match your skills to her - there are so many people i know that have never even reached university that they are brilliant because they have educated themselves.

If u can do that for urself because what will happen is that when she gets in her circle of friends, then u will feel inferior so for urself just educate urself.

Oga o . Girl what are u gonna do?

This is hard but there is no way that ur man will not find out - so u are better off tellin him upfront.
If you dont, his brother will and that will kill him.

So girl, u have to accept the fact that your actions have consequences and this is it.

Uspry1 girl, kudus to you. I wish that i can do all that with my daughter.
You have done so well, girl by God's grace you will enjoy the rewards.

It is a hard job and someone has to do it. @ Poster, dont worry girl, u will be fine, you will cross those hurdles when u get to it.

Here here.
Everyone has spoken very well.

Girlfriend, i have dated a guy for nearly two years, we slept on the same bed and we didnt make love. girl i thought he was a God sent - you see when he started manifesting to me, i thought it was a joke.

Girl stay well away from him o - this is a guy to the fullest, you better go back to your guy that you at least know.

Why not?
You are not joined at the hip are u?
You have to give her a breathing space otherwise u get tired of each other.

Thats where the trust issue comes in.

Omo i beg u still dey sleep with am?

Let me just be the first to congratulate you - you are married already.
But you guys na wa o - you know she has some voodoo for 'love' and u still dey sleep with am. well done.

The fact is that if you knew that she drank before u married her then u cant say anything.
But in this day and age everyone drinks.
If she drinks within reason and not to get madly drunk in public then she is cool.

You just have to lay down the law.
Not in negative way but in a positive way.

There are some women that you have to do that with otherwise they will run rings around you. Call her and speak to her that she isnt making you eel amnly around the house and pray that she is willing to listen.

You also have to make sure that you are working - you have all the attributes that will help u sustain that manlyness (if there is such a word).
Make sure u the bread winner, make sure u are the spiritual head etc.

With family definately having the full English christmas dinner but will substitute the turkey for chicken. (as pe na nija girl i be)
My good friend is coming over and i will be there with ma peeps and then will expect ma man to come down later.

Maybe she is someone that just like you and she is expressing her feelings. Maybe when you spoke to her at first, maybe you werent really up to her standard andnow you are trying - there are lots of things that we girls look at you know.

And maybe she is just been out with a few guys and she has found out that they were not good for her - or they broke her heart left right and centre. And you are 'old reliable' in a good way - she has known you for a long time and she doesnt mind giving it a go.

Let the test of time prove her intentions. Give it a chance now - take a risk- thats depending on you if you like her.

Am sure its right to know the genesis of the story but the bottom lime is that she is a single parent. Whether it be her own fault or his, she is a single parent and she needs advice.

Like i have maintined, i feel she should be honest with the baby when they are grown.

When she starts asking about her father - tell her the truth, if you dont know where he is - tell her that.
If he doesnt wanna know - just tell her you dont know where he is.
God willing, before she gets to that age - you would have found someone that would fill that gap.

Never say anything bad about her father - just say positive things alone.

My daughter's dad is in and out ns she understands that - it is sad but she is dealing with it.

I pray that for your sake - it doesnt happen in Nija becase you know that is prison you are joking with.
At least abroad - there will be a post mortem.

God forbid that happening sha - oga o.

Omo, I am one of them o.
Guilty as charged.

I love my nija films - i can go through bags and bags.
Everyone i know has helped me feed my habit. Every guy i have dated  have actually become addicts too.

What you do not want to do is keep telling her she is fat.

Otherwise she will get bigger - just tell her nicely that u wanna get a bit trimmer and both of you can go to the gym together.

Just help her with the calorie intake and she will keep up. If you can sign her up to a calorie counting class, then its ll good.

I am a single mother and am ready to give you all the advise u need.

I am a single mother of a nine year old daughter.

I am in close to the same situation as u girl - i married the guy, then found out he had a wife in Nija - like urself, i didnt do enough investigation.

But girl, dust yourself (ensure he has a relationship with his child) thats if he is interested.

Dust yourself off girl and carry on.

@ davifonexe (sorry if i mispelt your name)

The truth of the matter is whether this topic is real or fake is irrelevant - we just need to acknowledge that there are churches that over step the xtianity boundaries.

You say God will judge people for speaking about 'Men of God' the fact of the matter is that there are some that God didnt send - and God will not judge you for talking about them cause they arent his.

I am finding out so many things about God recently because the ministers have pulled the wool over my eyes for so long that it is terrible - its not really their fault becuase 'those that know their God will not be exploited' i didnt know my God and i was exploited big time.

There are just too many churches here in Nigeria and there is no accountability - people are just doing what they want and they are just misleading God's people - and God isnt happy.
He is waiting for His children to get knowledge - 'My people perish for lack of knowledge'.

My prayer is that God will open our eyes to see what we are supposed to see because it s ridiculous. My daughter is nine and God will not let me see any kind of trouble that will make her fast at this age - Baba help me!

The mistakes most parents / people make is that they take their ministers as 'gods' they fear them only more than God himself - it took me a long time to realise and thank God am still learning.

I feel 4 years is too long.
I would say at least a year - cut out temptations etc.