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I have quite a few in ma head but they were guys i met when i was really young, we never dated but we just had that 'connection'. There was a guy called Debo, he lived next door to ma mum's sister in Maryland (Lagos), he was a cutie. And then there was Eloka from my school in Festac town and he had a brother called Nnamdi (Radiance Nursery and Primary school in Festac).

O did i have a connection with those guys.

I delete messages on ma fone because i may end up with nosey boyfriends like you that wanna read ma messages.
I only keep messages that are relevant and not ones that are too personal cause u never know who reads these messages on your fones.

As per the answering the call and walking away, omo, that is suspicious no matter what way you look at it.

I probably would be partial on this topic cause i have a child but in all fairness like its been said, there are loads of factors to consider.

It totally depends on the age of the kid (s) and how many kids they are and how many mothers, if more than one, then i would really doubt it.

Older men for me are the way to go.
I personally would want an older man cause they would be able to handle me better cause i can be a handful at times and i need someone who is far mature to withstand ma madness.

Wow! Just thank God that you got a chance before you walked down the aisle, most people didnt get such and are now stuck in loveless relationships.

The main thing is that you really assess this guy that dumped you. Is he really someone that you can be with -now u have had the chance to date someone else, compare them and see where he stands.
Be truly honest with yourself cause you and you alone know what is rite.

I feel whats in the past should stay in the past especially when you are with someone else that obviously treats you good, and consider the fact that the reason your ex wants you back is because the other girl had told him to get lost.

So girl leave the past in the past, he is past tense.

Having your dignity in tact is the best thing to have.
These days cause morals have been thrown away, virginity is a thing of the past ,most guys actually want ladies that have been around the block a number of times.

But i think that when you have no dignity then your reputation is at stake. A good name is better than riches.

Its a bit difficult but if they find its something they cannot deal with, and they still want their families to be involved in their lives the they just have to fashi the whole thing.

And not being a kill joy but if the couple arent strong enough to stand against their families, then they should just separate cause the strain of the wahala will drive them apart.

Well maybe i would have to hear what kinda things she does before i can tell you whether she is just taking you for granted.

Personally if i wasnt inetersted in a guy -
- i ask him for stuff i know he cant give me just to get rid of him
- i dont call him at all, not even a text
- we argue non stop on the fone
- whenever he speaks to me, my stomach turns (well he wont be a ble to see that)
- i ask him for credit but never call him or even say thank you
- i just have total disrespect for him

Well these are stuff i did when i was like 16, but its still very relevant today.

Omo when u use all ur money for the wedding - what will you start your marriage life with?
Cause u sure gonna be in debt. Except you have money set aside for the wedding that you have been saving.

About the training a sibling, thats a long thing o. Cause as the person above me said, i was schooled by my parents and they should too.

What you need is play it cool.
Look at the environment you are in, also look at the vibes you are getting from the girl.

That can tell you if she is interested, make sure u can hold a conversation cause that matters, dont be tooo eager and dont be too slow.

And establish some kinda comunication link with her before u start asking for her digits.

Maybe you should just give her a pet name.

Is there any girl who doesnt have more than one boy friend? [/font]Yeap
Do u know any girl who wouldnt lie to her boyfriend about who is dating? [font=Lucida Sans Unicode] Nope
Do u know any girl who has made sacrifice for her boy friend before? [/font] Yeap
Is there a girl who can befriend a guy who has no money? [font=Lucida Sans Unicode] Not too many that i know

You have just said what he really wants you for, why would you want someone like that?
Or except thats what you want as well.

For real??

Well i am part Ijebu - is there any hope for me?

When she says 'no' i think thats a sure sign.

When she says she will return your call and she doesnt for a long time.

When you ask for her number, and she says give me urs. i will memorise it.

Personally, i wouldnt do it.
I feel that you need to have something to look forwsrd to when you do get married. I feel that why pay for something u are already getting for free. Why marry someone when u have them at ur beck and call unmarried.

Even though u havent said we shouldnt be too holy holy on this matter, i really do think when God tells us to avoid something its cause He knows they will hurt us.

Like i said, its just not something that i would do,i have seen cases of men that refuse to marry their live in partners. - it was horrible.

I do see where the poster is coming from - he is being a typical Nija to the core.
They believe in such things like - if u work in ahotel even as a receptionsit, that you are a prostitute.

Thats just a nija man's way of looking at things

Well i will have to say that there are some men that do like their women dressing sexy and dont have a problem with it.

I feel everything should be done in moderation. Some people over do it but sometimes the more covered up the better.

nimi-k:
Finally someone is really asking you. How many guys/girls have you slept with? Mine is above 50 prostitutes excluded

Oh ma goodness, egba mi.
This is hilarious - oko ashewo.

U make me laugh, but like the other person said- how many including the ashewos.

I feel ur pain girl am so sorry but why would you wanna support any man Nigerian or otherwise to this extent.

You put yourself in the position to be played horribly its terrible and am so glad for you that you got out.

Good luck with everythings sha.

I dont think its the case of being stingy they are just abit money careful.

Most of them put a calculation on whatever money they are about to spend - the worst ones are the ones thathave just arrived in the UK. They usually convert money to naira before they spend it and that makes them money cautious.

Oh ma goodness girl i feel your pain from here - trust me i have been there and time has helped me alot and it may not seem so now but it will happen.

But you just need to fill your time with [positive things and keep busy - find a new hobby and that should take your mind off it abit.
Stay away from places u know he will be, the places u used to go and mutual friends that you may have.

Girl u will be ok just dont stay isolated, surround yourself with good friends and family.

Girl, nothing in this life is certain but God but you will be fine, trust me you will

Oh ma goodness girl - why do u wanna 'rescue' him, if he wanted to leave, nobody is stopping him sha.

Girl, u wanna either look for your own or wait till he is cpmpletely free.
Otherwise whatever you build on a faulty foundation, will always crumble.

I say you should name the names so that we can beg the girl well well for you.
But on a serious note, thats what happens when the foundation of a relationship or anything for that matter is shaky, the whole thing crumbles.

Its great that you have realised yourmistake now - but come to think of it, if the guy never left you, would you be begging for this girl's forgiveness like this?

If you dont wanna see what u arent supposed to see, then i would say stay far away from their fones as possible.

If you feel its a real issue, the maybe you need to enrol for one on one classes on English to polish your spoken English.
And also make sure you take ur time when you are speaking because even the best of us have problems speaking the lingo when we are nervous.

So just try that sha.

This is a nice story and ot just proves the fact that there is light at the end of a tunnel for anyone that has been hurt and feel they will never find love again.

It may take a while but it will happen. Sometimes we wanna hold on to something that God knows is wrong for us, but He sees way ahead of us and knows the best for us.

Dont let this get too far otherwise you will give in - trust me you will.

You really need to have aword with your boss that this guy isnt making you comfortable (altough your boss may not give a damn) but you really need to cut any kinda ties you have with this guy.

If i were you, i would set him up with some area boys, tat would go and beat him up, and one of them could say he is your boyfriend and he needs to leave you alone.
There is no way he could prove it and he wont be able to say anything out loud.

However, if he retaliates, then you are basically messed up!

Good luck sha.

It could probably be the case that they arent stingy, but they just dont know how to give.
Some guys dont know until they are asked.

So my policy is ask and it should be given - however there are some that are very stingy, i should know, my ex was one of them.

Well if he chose to give me jewellry then thats a sure sign of affection.