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Well, the thing is unless you are rady to get married to two women you better make a choice. Well, i suppose you have heard the whole 'you should have been more careful' speech and am sure you are wishing you could turn back the hands of time. How exactly do you feel about this friend of yours? and does your girlfriend know yet?You have to really start answering this questions cause the 'bun in the oven' isn't going to wait for you to decide- you have maybe just under five months to decide.

What you need to do is start making plans with your friend about what you need to do regarding the baby situation. You should also consider the fact that your girlfriend may leave you because she may never trust you again especially around your friend that is soon to be your baby mother-who is to say you won't still be sleeping with her after the baby is born. Even if you won't be marrying your friend, you are still goin to be in her life because of the baby and most ladies I know may have a problem with that especially in this circumstance.

You mentioned that you think your friend is up to something - hello, reality check! - this girl has loved you for a long time,you have the qualities she wants in her man and you probably just  and maybe your girlfriend has always been the obstacle that has been in her way,but now, she has the upper hand cause you foolishly cheated with her and got her pregnant - of course she is up to something and she obtained it Your parents are just trying to do what they feel is right. You shouldn't marry the girl because she is pregnant with the baby though otherwise you will have a miserable married life.

Good luck with whatever you are going to do and see how one moment of pleasure has completely changed you life so think before you act.

Thats so correct as long as its not lust and you are being genuine then its all good.

But be very careful in yourself that its what u can live with - date for longer and see if its what you really want.
Dont say you can live with it and then switch in the long run.

I heard once that we only attract people we do cause of whats in our hearts.
If you feel you have a low self esteem then we attract people that will treat us bad.

Take sometime to rediscover yourself, be positive about yourself and have the rite kinda energy about yourself and see women that are of ur standards will find their way to you.

And stop giving your heart away too quickly,you will only have it broken all the time.

Do what your heart tells you to do however just consider this.
I was told once by a very clever man of God that even when two people of the same religion get married, they have problems talkless of two different religions.

Am just saying there are certain things that only love itself cannot hold together.

Something similar happened to maself and he was just the best gut and he treated me like a queen.
But i wasnt ready just like yourself and i lost contact, i had been talking about him and then voila! out of thin air, we make contact back through ma cousin.

But we chatted and all, when i went out with him, i saw the reason i just didnt wanna be with him.
He was just so blah, so i really set ma heart in order.

Maybe just go out on a date with him and keep your eyes open, always have someone like a friend that you can be answerable to - so in case ur sight gets blurred, your friend can help u see the light.

I dont understand what you are moaning about, she used the money she made to shower you with gifts so whats the stress?

Now u say she is asking for marriage? do u thing people invest in things not to get returns. Now she is wanting her returns you are running away.

Omo you better make your excuses and run for the border sha thats all am saying.

When people say a 'serious minded lady' what does that even mean?

I believe in giving love a chance and i also believe you can find your love and soul mate anywhere.
This situation is also cool cause at least i can keep an eye on the boyfriend (ma friend) in case he tries to do the dirty.

So i wouldnt really get in their way, i would advice ma sister as much as i can and make maself available in case she needs someone to talk to.

I would also meet up with ma friend and tell him i would kill him if he messed ma sister around.

If you find her attractive and she is single and available then why not?

But then think about it if its soemthing you can handle cause you may be a bit insecure about the whole idea.

If you arent digging the whole idea then dont do it.

I think the reason is that people are out there trying to find their match.

Say with me now, i have people i date, i have been in a failed long term relationship before so am just being extra careful.

So personally, the reason i double date is cause am searching for the one thats most compatible with me. I dont sleep with them sha but we talk on the phone and go out.

I have learnt that men are physical beings and they judge women based on what they look like.
I personally cant date someone am not attracted to there has to be something that makes me say 'vavavooom' otherwise, he can say he loves me from now till september i still wont budge.

Girl am sure he likes you but some people are brought up in homes where they dont express their love or emotions.

I had a guy like that before, he wouldnt even hold ma hand walking down the street. I knew he loved me but just didnt know how to say the words or express his words - then i had to teach him.

Omo do those things still exist in this day and age?

I would run run run - whats that all about?
Even the good book says 'cursed is the child that goes in on his father's wives or concubines'.

Its totally wrong and tradition or no tradition he shouldnt participate.

Omo do those things still exist in this day and age?

I would run run run - whats that all about?
Even the good book says 'cursed is the child that goes in on his father's wives or concubines'.

Its totally wrong and tradition or no tradition he shouldnt participate.

What to ask her?

Is she having a good time, what is she eating?

Am just kidding, but maybe you need o review the fact that the girl you like or are dating is going out with a guy and telling you about it.

Is he getting blindfolded, dragged after being hit on the head to marry this girl?

Dont let the man bobo her, he cant be forced to get married, i do understand that sometimes guys are stuck in situations that are a bit all over the place.
However, your friend cannot live her life waiting for something thats not gonna happen, so what she needs to do is move on - its may be hard cause she really likes this guy but she cant hold on to thin air.

Sometimes the card we get dealt by life is unfair but 'ce la vie'.

Of course i would agree to it but as a woman we have to be wise and look out for ourselves and the kids so, i would have another account though in ma name and ma name alone.

But if he starts to complain, i would say the account belongs to the kids.

Cause in this world of uncertainty when the only constant and certain thing is God, we have to be wise.

If this is what he did when you met him, then i dont think he would listen if you complained now cause you should be used to it.

If its something you have put up with all this while, then it why are you seeing it as a problem now?

I feel your pain though sweetie, i really do.
But i dont think you can actually do anything about it now - except he wants to change his work hours.

Haba igbese!
Girl dont do it. Its all well and good if you think its gonna work out but the odds are against you.

You have to know the person you are gonna spend the rest of your life with and pls dont say God will help you - even the bible says we should watch and pray.

Am sure if you ae a praying girl, you have prayed but girlie you definately havent done any watching.

Some guys are just as chatterbox as the ladies. Women are also verbal beings they have to say their feelings and they expect men to voice their opinions as well which is sometimes difficult for most men.

Like its been said, if you really like your spouse, tere isnt anything you wouldnt do for them.

As long as its not that they are taking the piss and they arent taking advantage of the situation.

Its because they have the money to spend - 'see now i aint saying they are gold diggers but they aint messing with no broke ni*****'.

Thats it, every girl wants someone that can take care of them but its unfortunate that those girls are very short sighted.

Please do not marry her cause she had your kids.
It may end badly cause you arent going into the marriage cause of the right reasons.

I just feel you both should date yourself again and find the reason u got together in the first place.
Just do that, date her all over again and see what happens.

But just mak sure you are the kids lives.

thats so nice.
how i wish most people actually took that time off to really do these things.

God willing i would love to have a set of twins after the one i already have.
Making three kids, i think thats ideal.

The love for the husband and wife should definately be the best one there is.

I have seen women make the mistake and love their kids more than they love their husbands, personally, i feel thats just wrong.

I think women should love their husbands more and have a stronger bond towards their husbands rather than the other way round.
Afterall,when the children get older and leave the home, then the husband and the wife are left together- and thats when the love they have enjoyed between each other comes into play.

These are all really nice stuff posted on this reply.
It just brings a tear to ma eye that mine didnt last long due to situations beyond ma control.

I just feel the best thing to spice up your marriage is to let your man know that he is the only one in your life, the most important being in your life.

Respect him, encourage him and show him your support in everything he does.
If you are gonna argue with him, argue behind closed doors not inf ront of his friends cause that definately undermines his manliness.

Tell him he lloks nice when he looks nice and when all thats done, the bedroom will take care of itself.

They just kinda believe that it adds spice to their life.

A sin is still a sin regardless of the way its presented. The irony of the matter is,what they are joking with could ruin their homes and they dont really care and thats just sad.