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Good for you really - we feel very happy for ya.

But why do you feel you need to tell us this?

I really dont buy that idea cause its just taking too much of a risk.

Maybe under the most complicated reasons would we even be there together let alone pass the nite.

I dont think its advisable - especially when u know that your friend is a real flirt.

davidylan:
abi o. We shouldnt despise the days of small beginings. Even if he can only give you garri, drink it with love.

Here here.
And the brilliant thing is that he didnt give her garri and epa o - he gave her a real palatable meal sha-there is just no pleasing some people.

Me i will eat the food with extra love and affection - cause am a 'iya basira' baby maself.

But seriously, maybe he cant cook and he knows thats the qquickest way to feed you.

O ga sha.
But really, the lady was so naive; how in the world can u leave your husband with any female for that amount of time.

Even if she is the ugliest girl and will never be his type in a million years, the fact that he sees her everyday, she gives him the attention that he wants - its only a matter of time before the evil deed is done. (Even the best men fall - especially when the temptation is handed to him on a siler platter).

The reader really needs to re-arrange her work issues beofre this happens again.

At least he fed you.

I dont know why they do cause most of the ones i have heard of dont usually work out.

Cause the gilrs in Nija are soo tough - so o heard.

I havent heard of such marriages working.

Oga o.

Sorry sweetie but i dont think i have good news for you.
I have to go with most of the guys in here.

It doesnt sound like he is really feeling you the way you are feeling him.
About that being 'broke' line - how much would it cost to ring ya?

Where is he sef ?

Girl pray about this, and do whatever your heart tells ya.

It could be me you never know.

But really, when u find her, let me know where so i can go there and find my bobo.

That is if it isnt you.

If she is gonna make my married life a living hell - cause i dont wanna wish death on her then she better be in a different country from us.

You really need to try and avoid her cause she will always cause a rift between you and your husband / his family.

As per the 'aunty' business, just try nd have maybe a nickname for her or call her 'sister'.

She is really jealous of you cause you have shifted her brother's attention from her to yourself - what she is doing is just a normal reaction.

However, dont let her go over the top - call her, sit her down and tell her you wanna get along with her for the sake of the family and if she is still acting up - then try your best to avoid her (it will be tough) but try to do that otherwise you will have a confrontation that you do not need.

People will always have something to say.

Start liking yourself - i was like that too, two years ago, i was slimmer than i am now. I tried everything but the weight just wasnt shifting.

I just decide to wear clothes my size, be happy in maself, wear very firm underwear that hold everything in place - you know the sort.

And just be generally happy with yourself cause if you are not people will sense that and try to put you down.

I usually get that when its getting close to my menstral cycle.

Girl take heart i feel your pain.

Na wa o - its very easy to fall in love with someone thats married, cause they treat you good and they just give you all you need, they say the nicest things.
My goodness girl, you really need to think hard cause its not permanent and another bad aspect is that they stop you from looking for a single man that you can really be with.

Girl you really need to sacrifice sha - its good now but trust me you will always loose.
Think hard if you are looking for someone that u wanna settle with - you seem to loose an ounce of integrity if single men that are interested in you find out that you have been with a married man.

After they are both married?

Isnt that what we call ADULTERY?

They are very preety from what i have seen.

Oh ma goodness this one is just hard.

But sincerly lets thank God that you found out before the bid gay, i can imagine you feel shattered and your whole you feel is just crumbling around you.

Girl take heart, its all good.
There is nothing new under the sun but rite now darling its the rite time to decide.

The thing is u gotta decide whether this is what you want - if this man is really worth staying with. You live with him you and only you know how he is and how good he is to you at home.

True you feel betrayed that he dint tell you he had a child. I believe that the mother of his baby will always love him and whenever he goes to see her, HE WILL STILL BE SLEEPING HER - believe that.
And if you not careful, she will have a second and a third for him - so girl its your call.

Do whatever you see fit but, postpone that marriage girl cause you need some time to think clearly.

Good luck girl and keep us posted - k.
Keep your chin up- i know its real difficult but you will get yyou through, let God really soothe your pain He is just waiting for you to call.

JuneJemini:
adeboo you are a very sincere person and i prt that no man will use you as a wrag. What is the level of mess he is in?is it that bad abd has he explained it to you?if he has and you can cope with it, then take the risk but endeavour to open up to him your heart feelings and fear at every level of your affair. You are not judgementl and thats a sure way that you are on a good track to being a 1daful spouse or friend. Please, try to kkep us on naijaland.com posted so that we could help or contact us privately.bye there,

Oh ma goodness thanks guys.
I thought i was gonna get plastered by the responses but its been bearable so far.

I really think am just gonna keep looking for my own man cause i dont fell i have any time to waste. At 28 the biological clock is ticking and i would love to have another baby soon (my first is 8 and half).

Thanks alot guys- will keep searching

Sometimes tat can be true.
Sometimes there are people that arent compatible - thats what i have experienced sha.

But if you have been together for 5 years - then i just dont think it really applies to ya.

Maybe you shouldnt talk about marriage then.

Maybe the ones you meet are not really interested in the 'M' word

Pleas do not generalise.
We are not all like that.

Maybe you have given her a reason not to trust you.

Age is not an issue unless you make it one.We usually have no control over whom we fall for.
She should be the one having a problem with it and she doesnt seem to - so whats your stress.

Just go with the flow.

Its never a good idea to employ people you date or family.

However if she has the experience you need and if you have worked with er before and it was lucrative, then maybe you should give it a try.

Na wa o. Some good stuff here sha

Whats the deal with buying her a bike?

All this is all good but the list semms like something that oyinbo women will appreciate, i dont know if our culture will facilitate all these things.

omoge:
Adeboo, good that you are starting to think well. because much dramas are on the way and will be coming in soon from baby mamas.

stay cheerful

Thanks its just so bad cause he is so fine.
But really thanks guys cause i have really thought about it and am seeing reason.

Thanks

davidylan:
welcome to the third child by a third woman for this guy.

I regret that in Jesus name.

Thanks guys for making me see beyond his finess.

But not all marriages break up though or are a living hell.

But i feel where you are coming from, just take it one step at a time and am sure beofre u know it, yo will meet the guy that wants to make you settle down

Thanks cute ass girl.

The thing is when two people see each other frequently, even if she was never attracted to the guy, feelings will grow.
Especially on those coldlonely nites when she is in need of some company.

If she isnt willing to give up that apartment or room when she is in a relationship with ya then you need to seriously consider whether it is worth staying together