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I would without a doubt save the whole nation.
There is no way i will save just one person especially if he could easily dump me the next day when i know there are members of my family are in the population as well.

And then when i do that, the nation will be glad and give me a handsome eligible batchelor to marry and then everybody is happy.

Oga o this is some good stuff right here.

I am most definately 'WIFEY'. But can also play the role of 'BABY GIRL' sometimes when we need some fun.

@IBDAT - point taken and that must have been an awakening experience in church on sunday - imagine all the praise the Lord, halleluyahs that would have made ur eyes water.

@abastar - i thought the brazilian style was everything shaved with a mohican left in the middle.

Na wa o - any form of body hair just gotta go.

Well its a known fact that our Nija men can be lacking in the romance department.

I would like to get with someone that is romantic, that knows what to do at the rite time.
There are just some expectations that i would have in a man. e.g holding hands/kissing in public to me is a norm and he would have to display all that emotions in public.

I am not really a flower person but i love gifts but i do give in return as well sha.

Your question is kinda vague.

I need to understand the context at which you want us to approach the question from.

I will probably say all women - both good ones (virgin Mary's) and bad ones (delilah)

Oh ma godness.

@poster - look my guy. if you were my brother, i would say the same thing.

You are too young and too available to get caught up in that kinda mess. Am sure there are single girls out there that you can get with.

Nobody is condeming the girl, am just sayiong she needs to get help for herself cause she seems to be 'fighting a lot of demons'. She is in need of help but not from you cause you cant help her - you like her so your judgements are clouded.

Stay away from her and let her clear her mess, then and maybe then, you can date her (but dont be fooled you cant handle that).

If you say you wanna go with her to the abortion clinic - what if it all goes wrong and she dies? (God forbid) Wo you will do time in prison- shebi na nija.

Stay well away from her, this is not your stress - let her deal with it

Thank you jare anabel, God will butter yur bread.

Thats what i said, in London? no way are girls looking for whitey maybe in other european countries but not London o.

He should change his location and change his name too - who would wanna date 'sin'?

@sin - thanks for keeping it real - its all good.

Well this is a topic that i like.

I think the main reason people fail at marriages is cause of the simple fact they marry for the wrong reasons. Whether it be financial, emotional or just being pregnant and being forced into marriage.

Marriage is a long time commitment and should be treated as so.
However, some people leave marriages for genuine reasons e.g abuse etc.

Well my alter personality says she prefers the back so that she can play with herself in the process.

Not me o but my alter ego.

Uspry girl, i feel your pain.
I know there is man out there for everybody.

I know of a woman that had six or seven kids with six or seven different fathers and she still found her man.

Most definately bald as an eagle's head.

Do you guys realise that she may be in pain when you play with her pubic hair?

@Sweet T- most definately ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

Na wa o White Nkem, i just pray that this love last o.

May you never regret having so muh trust in a man in your life in Jesus name.

I would have to say Shiffi - i am just in love with that group and Shiffi is it for me cause he has the physique and he looks the most mature one of the lot.

28? no way she is most definately older than that.
I would say she may be in her mid thirties or even late thirties.

Gesture to her in a nice way with a smile of course and let her know.
I aint whispering nohing into nobga's ears cause thats just a receipe for disaster - she may slap you.

God blessyou bovo, my thoughts exactly.

You see when she starts showing you enh - she will drive you back to drink.
She had said she didnt want ya, you begged, moaned and wined your way back and you expect her to treat you with respect?
Never - i know women cause am one. It is a no go area.

It is one of the most importantparts of my body.
And i treat it like a temple just like i treat the rest of my bod.

I have to shave my 'gravel pit' to keep it nice, and allow some air into that area. So the answer is, i most definately shave it bald.

@Poster, thanks for your observations.

Well let me start by saying - I LOVE MEN. I love my NIJA men so much it hurts me. I have had hurts in the past but that is not withstanding. You obviously havent read all my posts on other topics for you to warrant this.

See the thing is that some people need to hear the cold hard truth and sometimes it comes out harsh to them cause they dont wanna accept the truth, they wanna leave in denial.

I was merely pointing out the facts of the matter to you - it may have been harsh but you needed to hear that. The reason i knew that was from the replies you were given.

I was just pointing out the obvious to you cause am seeing the situation from the outside and i only gave advice from that angel.
I can be all soft when i want to but am not one that will always present things all nice and kushty.
People need to hear the truth of the matter.

Now i see you have cried, moaned and wined your way into the girl's life - good luck to you both.

Omo i know that love is blind o but you better wear sun glasses or ask Ray Charles to borrow you his own.

Be very careful in the choices you make.
Its ok for you to be with her but what about the unborn kids you are planning to have. They didnt ask for this and its unfair to lump this on them even before they are born.

Everybody deserves to be loved but you just need to think about this well and think about the long run effects.

@Poster, stop making excuses.
You wanted advice, and the people are advising you.

Stop making excuses.

There are only two words i have for you.
AA (ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS).

Really, do your self a favour, you are definately the one with the stress. You are in a country where there are laws.
If you carrying on in your drinking, possessive ways, you will get yourself in toruble on day and you will do time.

I dont understand why there is so much fuss about stretch marks.

Well all i have to say to the poster is that i pray that when you get a girl pregnant she doesnt get it on her belly.

I have always had stretch marks on ma arms and ma thighs even as a child growing up.
And i have it on ma belly from my pregnancy. There are body creams for it, which i use but its not as obviuos but still there.

Its just kinda sad that people are being discriminated by some cause of something they have no control over.

Ha omo i really pity you.
This is a real mess.
Let me see if i can start from the begining.

See the thing is because you are married, its gonna be really difficult.

There are a few questions you have to answer for me-
- does anyone in your family know?
- do you have kids for your husband?
- how many months pregnant are you?
- did your husband return to you in that two yrs he's been away?
- do u really see yourself being with this new guy?

The reason i ask the last question is cause it may be that he has been giving you the undivided attention you were craving for and thats why you feel you like him but now that a baby is involved - its another story.

See darling if i were in ur shoes, i would definately confide in someone that is trustworthy - someone like your mum not even a friend cause they will reveal your secret later on - i suggest your mum.
You really need to seat down with this new guy and talk with him. Ask him what he would do if you mistakenly got pregnant for him.
See his reaction and i just wanna ask you - do you really know this guy that well?

Think very well cause guys will say anything, and you know he will use this against you if you decide to get married or run away with him.

I would say you are treading in deep waters if you think the grass will be greener on the other side. Your husband didnt maltreat ya- he only went away, and you loved him enough to let him pay your bride price and marry you.

Cut your ties with this new guy cause let me tell you this isnt love, its just infactuation, he was the care giver at the time and you fell for him. Dont bring too much disgrace and shame on your family, dont give yourself a bad name cause this could turn araound and bite you in the arse.
Distant yourself with this guy, HE IS TROUBLE and he has nothing to offer you.
His family will never give you peace in the home cuase they know how you met an you were married, then you got pregnant for him.

Phone ur husband and give him an ultimatum, tell him you are lonely and u want him around and if he doesnt succumb you will leave him and tell his family the same thing.
Then see what he says and about that pregnancy (dont tell this guy you are pregnant) - child dont be fooled. NO RESPONSIBLE MAN WILL SLEEP WITH YA WHEN THEY KNOW YOU ARE MARRIED - LET ALONE GET YOU PREGGERS.

That new guy is no good, even if you and ur hubby split up, i would say find someone else and dont get with that guy, he is trouble.

Oh ma goodness dont get my wrong.
I was just asking a question and trying to understand the reaoning behind what u said, and i have.

so everything is all good and kushti.

@Dr. Dre just because am actively looking, dont mean i wont have a choice. Just cause am acyively looking dont mean i will date a chicken head.

Well its all well and good.

But i havent met him yet and when i do you will be the first to know - but i do see himin my dream though (does that count)

I thank you for keeping it real case no mattr how secure we are in ourselves or our relationships - its just gonna be very hard.

Cuase then, u dont know who he is mailing behind ur back and everything. Its so hard.

Oga o i dont even know what to say.

But you know she was desperate and desperate peopledo desperate things.

So take heart and stay away from underage girls.

I understand girl.

I see where you are going with this.

It totally depends on how far our relationship has come.
I could also if i knew he was a good man but out of his weakness and stupidity, he falls into another girl's trap.

I would be willing and available to fight her on ma knees and hold a few night vigils for her ass and that will be that.

No i dont think he is a baron. The people telling you that dont realy approve of your relationship with him - dont be scared.

He may be involved in other kinds of businesses.
Answer these questions-

- does he work?
- how often does he travel?
- is he constantly receiving phone calls?
- does he always have loads of cash around?

He may be genuinely involved in a legite business and he may not be.

I personally dont think he is from the sounds of what you have said.

Common now people lets concentrate and stick to the topic.