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Look my guy am gonna be real honest with ya- just dont be mad.

Look for starters, lon distance relationships are not the ideal thing but thats another chapter.
You say she is 26 and how old are you?
How long have you dated?

You say she leaves in Abuja - omo you are definately at a disadvantage here.
Stop waisting your time and move on with your life. SHE DONT WANT YOU BACK.
Why wont she pick your calls when you are ringing her phone?

She is just too young and too fine for the stress you putting her through, you even controlling her movements all the way from Toronto? Now thats amazing.

She has had enough of your ass- stop asking the family to beg her - do you ant her o come back outta pity? Common my guy you should have some pride.

SHE DONT WANT YOU AND SHE AINT COMING BACK - STOP CALLING HER AND SAVE YOUR MONEY, LOOK FOR SOMEONE ELSE IN YOUR VICINITY.

AND DO SOMETHING ABOUT YOUR POSSESSIVE NATURE.

OMO.

You dont even need friends like her.
Dont get involved - distance yourself from the girl otherwise you wont know when you will end up inbed with her cause from the sounds of things she sounds like she gat some seducing spirit troubling her.

SO RUN AWAY QUICK.

Na wa o this one tough small.

Well i think it would be wron getting back with her if all you wanna do is 'staff' her.

But the thing is you shouldnt try and 'tempt' her to get back with you and then force her to do the stuff she doesnt wanna do cause she will end up hating your backside.

Just fill your head with other things and u will see that you will get over her soner than you expected.
And avoid seeing her or calling her cause you know you cant be 'friends' with her, even if she instigates it.

DONT DO IT.

Single - actively lookin but definately NOT DESPERATE.

The Devil you know is better than the angel you dont know?

Thats so wrong!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My friend told herself that till her man just mistreated her for like 7years.

Back to the topic - well its all good you have to get back on the dating wagon but make sure you ready to go cause you will not see things clearly.

I heard someone say that you should at least stay single for like 6 months when you brak up which is a good idea (depending on how long you dated).
You need time to rediscover yourself, cause you would have grown and you need to stop back and see what you want cause ur views would have changed.

Take a few steps back, think very hard before you take the girl back cause obviously there must have been a reason you broke up in the first place. She has probably seen that the grass isnt greener on te other side and dont let her use u as a door mat.

Go out and meet new peope and take up new hobbies and take ur tim before you leap into another relationship sweetie.

Blood Covenant?
Thats so 1920s.
What the heck is wrong with you ?
Dont you know there are blood transmitted diseases out there like AIDS and Hepatitis?

If your word cannot be your bond, then forget the whole thing - why are you getting yourself involved in something that will definatelt cause you heartache in the future.

Ignorance isnt bliss anymore - why toy with something so dangerous?

Just like ma guy Chuckdee has said DONT DO IT.

The thing is you see each other too often, when you break up, u still see each other.

Not really adviceable, DONT DO IT.

Well, i think you shouldnt do anything you arent comfortable doin.

If its a guy you know you like or you wont mind dating - then meet up with him in a public place until u feel comfortable enough to meet him in his house or maybe yours.

Dont be pressured into doing anything, move at your own pace and dont let anyone rush you.

And if he isnt someone you really wanna be with then turn down his advances - ther is no point in givig him the come on if you not interested.

End of.

Girl, this is the classic case of 'make the girlfriend appear foolish and make her loose her mind',

This is not a healthy relationship
This is not what you want for yourself.
You are too good to end up with this kinda life.
Your parents invested too much money to put you through school for this.
You are a good person ad deserve a good man.

If you marry him,you are only signing your psycho ward certificate cause he will drive you mad and you ill end up fraustrated and probably in a mental house.

Release him to go to that 'bit on the side' that will be the best thing you will be doing for yourself for life.

Thats so sad Lagbaja will miss her so desperately.

I wish her every single success.

I loved that song 'Wherever i go'

At this age am at i dont believe in doing anything discretly.

I just cant do it.
If am gonna date someone, if we have to hide it, that means there is something wrong and we are hiding something.
If you are gonna be with me, why do u need to hide it.

And besides am a real 'Ruth abokoku' i wanna go everywhere with ma man. Talk about ma man all the time and am just not able to keep ma mouth shut especially when he is a good man and a nice piece of ass.

See here now people lets not be fooled.

I had this discussion in the weekend, there is no way love can survive the pressures of the 'no money' syndrome.

Am not saying you have to be a millionaire but just having enough is good - cause that way you can do things for each other that you wanna do. You can actually keep the extended family outta your business cause your man would be able to cater for you.

There is just too much involved - me personally i dont think love can blossom in the face of such adversity like 'no money'.

It aint gonna work.

You are welcome sweetie and nobody said being in a relationship would be easy.

One more thing you could do that will crown it up - call her at hours or even times you know she would never expect it.
or text her something nice early in the morning, before she wakes up so she sees it as she wakes up and my dear she will go potty in your hands.

The thing is that most of we ladies are built differenly from men.
I personally like thefone calls al though the day, the text messages especially first thing in the morning.
but not all guys can give me that.

You knew the kinda person your fiance is - you knew this wehn you dates, and now you are engaged to her - its a case of give unto Cesar what is Cesar's. You have no choice but to deal with it cause you knew about her ways before you deiced to get engaged.

The case of her not answering your calls - she is practising the classic 'ignore him and he will see how valuable you are technique' also known as the 'dont always be available' technique.

This obviously must be someone you lve for this to bother you so much - swallow your pride and be the bigger person - leep calling and make sure you leave messages, keep texting her and assure her that you love her blah balh you know all the mushy stuff.

If he was my husband?
Oh ma goodness, i tell you that house wont be able to conatin us o.

What is he looking for in a woman that i aint gat? Especially when i satisfy his every desire and cater to his every need.

Omo he will have lots of explaining to do sha.

And then whether or not he stay or leaves? That will depend on a lot of factors like - kids, if we have a mortgage, if he is a good man, of what use is he is to me in thehouse in the first place etc

Thats so true.
Thats what the yoruba adage says and thats true.

But sometimes like its been mentioned, not eve all the women are certain about who the baby father is.
She could have slept with two men within the same period or was too drunk to remember who she slept with - such things do happen.

- Ultimate Warrior
- Hluk Hogan
- The Rock
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Na wa o.

Politicians are desperate people and their deceit is mind boggling. They will say and do anything they can to make you vote for them. If going via the route of churches will bring the vote, so be it.

I just feel its totally dependent on the pastors that want their congregations to listen or vote for a certain politician, they must hae faith in that particular candidate.

@Backslider, your name is truly baffling cause you know words have power they are like spirits- if everyone keeps calling you backslider, then you truly will backslide.

The way most churches are run these days, there isnt that much difference between a cult and a church.

The bottomline is to ave a personal relationship with God.

You need to have self confidence in yourself for starters and assure yourself that you ca get any woman you so desire.

Dont allow your fiance to read that you are not confident enough to be with her that you are having a complex. We women are very funny once we sense that, she will take advantage.

If she is with you, then she wants to be with you. Am sure there are more wealthier guys than you tat have asked her out but she chose to be with your ass.

Just take the relationship a day at a time and when you ready to get married then do it. Just take a day at a time.

Its about flaming time they have decided o get new uniforms for the Nigerian Police force.

Their uniforms have always been something of a joke to me and something i enjoy seeing when am in Nija (it makes me laugh so hard i wet maself) when you se different kinda shades of uniform and their shoes are just in another zone.

At least we know that this will be the official police colour cause there are too many people out there on the streets parading themselves as law enforcement agents and we dont even no who they are.

Here i start work at 9am and finish at 5.30pm. (slave drivers )

I see absolutely nothing wrong with smacking your child.

Thats the way i was raised, and thatsthe way i will raise my child.
Sometimes kids only respond to threats and smacking and i feel you need to discipline your child at an early age.

There are just limits to everthing and letting them know the reason for the punishment helps as well.

- The Little Mermaid
- The Prince of Egypt
- The Lion King

and i also like Happy Feet

Sweetie am so sorry for your hurt.
Girls always say stupid things and make up stupid excuses when they feel like running buck wild and doing their thing.

God knows i have given a few indecent excuses in the past.

Anyways, the thing is you are the only one that can answer that question.
You seem like a praying guy, pray over it and do what your heart tells you believing that God is guiding you.

Take her bck if you want- take a chance either way cause everybody deserves a second chance but i know it will never be the same between you two.

See thats what bothers me about guys.

For the simple fact that you chose to have a sexual relationship with your partner and sleep with her without protection? Just start buying the complimentary cigars cause that baby is yours until proven otherwise.

So congratulations Baby Daddy.