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This is so unfair, life can be so unfair.

Anyways, about overlookig that religious barrier - my girl, that will be very difficult.
Its easy to say talkless of doing.

What you need to do is break off the relationship with the second guy, although he can appear best for you, i believe you will have problems in the long run when you are married and start having kids. Trust me i know.

About the first guy, dont marry him yet, give him time and see if he is really a changed man or not.

What you shouldnt do is marry both of them.

Think long and hard cause its one choice you gotta make and dont mess it up.

Just hurry up and make up your mind before they find out abot each other and the make the decision for you.

Why isnt it fair?

As long as you are not foling them and you are genuine, then its all good.

Sweetie what did you expect? She probably didnt recognise you seeing that she was drunk going to the party.

But maybe she doesnt wanna be seen talking to you in public but might enjoy your converstaion in private.

I SAY SHE DOESNT EXACTLY ACT LIKE SOMEONE WHO LIKES YOU.

Oh ma goodness - thats not love, its LUST.
He shouldn do that.

He liked his girl well enough to date her for 4 years and then this?
He shouldnt cause a rift between the family members. He should just keep his mouth shut, go ahead with the wedding and stay well away from the younger sister.

He should make sure he is never alone with her so he doesnt act the fool.

STAY AWAY FROM THE SISTER.

Thats what am saying - you guys are so blah blah.

Why go there with the girl when you know she isnt someone you would date anyways.

Why sleep with her?

You are not being irrationa, You just seem to understand the sverity of a marriage and thats why you are being careful.

But really girl be realistic. Did you expect him to be in Nija and not have any female friends or even girlfriends?
Sorry but am just keeping it real.

The fact that you are in different countries is just not a good idea. You really need to decide what you wanna do- visiting four times in a year is not enough and not as good as seeing the one you wannabe with everyday.

And if you are willing to go and live in Nija- make sure you go there for like a month and have trial runs o living there cause its just not the same place you left 6months ago.

DONT LEAVE THE DECISIONS TO HIM, MEN TEND TO SELFISH SO DO WHAT COMES NATURALLY AND IF YOU ARE A BELIEVER, PRAY ABOUT IT AND MAKE THE DECISIONS THATGIVES YOU PEACE.

But girl dont be fooled - whats gonna happen when you move in with him, you will have problems cause he is used to being a free agent and you moving all the way down to him will only 'cramp' hisstyle which will lead to hassle.

Omo dont be fooled.
Where is she coming from talking about love right away?

She is a ver confused girl in need of alot of help and attention. Dont get drawn into her life of deceit and she doesnt really know what love is.
She is very confused about love and lust.

If you know you ant control yourself when you are near this girl, then avoid her at all cost.
Allow her sort out her life before she comes into yours and messes both your lives up for good.

She really needs you to be a friend to her that will tell her the truth not someone that will come and sleep with her and add to her problems .She isnt altogether ok, so dont get involved sexually otherwise u are in serious trouble.

And stay away from her cause she is blackmailing you big time - and who is to say she is really pregnant?

Thats the best thing about women - we are good at multitasking.
We are able to balance our worklife, home and kids and probably still be doing a course as well.

It takes a lot of sacrifice. But you just have to find something that works for you cause loads of women have been doing it for years and are stll doing it.

The bottomline is that when we become born again, we expect all our bad attitudes and characters to just disappear - which is never the case.

Everything takes time.
Rome wasnt built in a day and God doesnt expect us to be like Jesus in a day. We can never be perfect cause if that happened the why would we need God?

I firmly believe that there are things we do tat need a lot more work when we become born again and this for you may be one of them.
From personal experience, i learnt that there are some things we will decide to give up willingly and its decisions like that that last longer.

You need to wanna give it up cause God is looking at your willingness to wanna give it up before He starts work on you.

Asides the fact that you are born again, its also bad for your health.

Definately;

- Professor Wole Soyinka
- Mrs Ransome Kuti (Fela's mum for being the first woman driver)
- JJ Okotcha and Kanu

I get that when i go to Nija, everything irritates me and i have to constantly have something sweet or minty in my mouth.

Maybe you should try cutting out dairy from your diet - like milk or yoghurts - thats what my sister told me when i feel like that but i couldnt cause am a sucker for yoghurts so tyr it out and see.

Well, i think most of those nija celebs ave to add a bit of fakeness to themselves in order to get noticed.

That Monalisa girl, she isnt fake but that her yellowness baffles me when she isnt halfcast.

Hank is definately fake, so is Jim Iyke but i like him so his fakeness is ok.

I have heard that these days men dont want virgins they dont wanna do too much work.
Its really sad but thats just the world we are living now.

Well if you say you really loved her/ him the screwing someone else isnt acceptable.

If you say you like the person then you obviously cant love them and screw someone else

thanks alot people

Thanks girl for the love

Whats happening people my name is adeboo and am new in this joint please show me some extra affection.

Girl i so feel your friend its amazing.

But lets call a spade a spade - what she and most of us ladies do by dating out of reach men(married men) is inexcusable and wrong.

I feel her ause she has been looking for lovign arms to hold her during those lonely nights and she had been seeking attention and the only place she found it is with this guy.
They always appear like an angle of light, they are the best people, treat you well, make you feel good and not too damanding but all that is good for the short term but in the long run its just disaster.

All i can just say is she needs to get out more and hang out where she is bound to meet single guys cause the problem here is that being in the relationship with the married man is that she has a false sense of security and thats actually stopping her from putting all her efforts in looking for a single guy - all i know is that there is a man out there for all of us.

I think it works cause am a firm believer in matching people up and being matched up myself.

Which other way is there to meet people - except if you are introduced to those people.

Well Girl the thing is you really need to slow dow wth this whole engagement issue.

You are still young and he should be the one pressuring you to get engaged not the other way round, i have been in the spot where you are at today, i know that whatever anyone says may not even register with you but pls listen to me.

He just wants to ensure that he gives you a good family life when he odes marry you. Its better for him to study now rather than study when you are married and he needs to work to provide for the family.

You didnt mention if you were still in school - make sure you are educationally sound before you do get married cause nce the kids start rolling in, you wont be able to study.
Just let him be and organise your time doing other things, take up a hobby so tat all your life wouldnt be centred around him.