Donkogbe:
I have been married for 14 YEARS and 'we' have 3kids(all boys) but none of them belongs to me.

5years before I met my wife, I was involved in a car accident together with two of my friends. We were traveling from Lagos to Abuja and our car skidded off the road.
I was the only survivor of that accident, my friends died. I spent about 11months at the hospital and that left me with a condition that says I can't have children.

I gave my life to Jesus Christ and became a committed Christian after the incident.
In summary I became a pastor in a local church in my community 5years later and met my wife in the process.

I did not tell her about my condition because I was hopeful that God will heal me.

6 years into our marriage, my wife got pregnant and had 'our' first child.
To be sure, I secretly went for a DNA and it was clear I wasn't the father. I repeated the test for all 3 children and they are all not mine.

I have been living with this situation for the past 8 years and I am beginning to get irritated by both the children and my wife.
My wife pretends to be a good wife. She goes around preaching to women in the church about the need to remain faithful to their partners but she has had 3 children by another man or men I don't know.

I want to confront her, but I am confused as to how to go about the situation.
I am just angry and irritated by everyone in my house lately. I feel like a total stranger in my own home.

If you don't have any meaningful things to say, please don't comment

Another episode of things that never happened

Nazgul:
A member of a church underwent a major operation, and his medical bill was N245,000. And he couldn't afford it.

His brother went to the Pastor on Sunday and told him to assist. The Pastor picked the microphone and told the church that our brother needs N245,000 to settle his medical bill.

Members began to donate.

After donations, what was realized was N760,000. And after the church, the Pastor counted N245,000 and gave the brother to the sick person, and then he put the balance into the church account.

The sick person's family are aggrieved. They're of the opinion that members raised that money for their brother and not the church so the church has no right to keep back any amount given to their brother. Cos the announcement was specifically to raise money for the sick brother.

The pastor is saying that they requested for 245k and he has given it to them. So whatever is left belongs to the church.

Is the pastor right?

Or is he greedy?

Contributions are welcomed.

They have seen the money they prayed to God for. What else do they want?

EriMma1:


Thats my thoughts. If I drop them, I'll lose the original charges which is still very much ok and some of my competitors are already telling me to drop it for them but the increment is just ridiculous!

Just continue. Every single Naira that comes in matters right now.

EriMma1:
Please guys,. Help me reason this matter.
I've had this client for 6 years and last year, I approached them for increment but nothing happened.

This year I threatened to leave and this people promised to do something. When the pay came in last week, na 5k dem add. Like seriously??

Meanwhile, my other clients added up to 20k, and some added 10k the same time I approached all of them last year.

So I wanted to call and ask if it was a mistake but I said let me ask round first and some my colleagues in the same field said they even tried that they have clients of over twenty years that have not added one naira to their pay.

Please, is it worth it especially now that there's serious inflation?

One client added 20k, another added 10k, the 3rd added 5k. That's 35k extra monthly. Some people are not earning 35k in a month. If you drop this client, you will forfeit the main salary plus the 5k that you said is small. Just manage it for now.

Adeshi:
At first i thought it was stress, but yesterday, i was home throughout and it happened again. This is like the 4th time this year. I'm really concerned and i do not mind any advice as to what could cure the problem. I called a friend of mine this morning to request to see a urologist, he said i might have to wait 2-3 months to see one.

I do not want to wait another 2 months, my marriage is just 2years and my wife is starting to worry too.

A 34 years old married man still betwets. I need help please.

To stop bedwetting is not difficult. Just don't drink any liquid after 6pm. The main problem is how did you suddenly lose control of your bladder? That is what you should worry about.

Moh247:



This 30 years old boy no just get sense

Bunch of clowns

Atiku vs APC vs Buhari supreme Court case already settled issue of Nationality during 2019 election Tribunals

As long as one of your parents or grandparents is a citizen of the Geographical location of Nigeria, you are a National


.

The issue here is that he renounced his Nigerian citizenship

Chronicwanker:
Greetings everyone. I've had this on my thighs and under my scrotum for a while now and I've tried to get rid of it but it's still there. Please who knows what it is and how can I truly get rid of it because I'm worried.

I bath twice a day and I don't wear a boxer for more than 12 hours. I shave regularly too so I'm confused.

The skin area is white and sometimes falls off when I scratch it, but the marks are there and the whiteness still.

There is nothing wrong with u. Just dryness. Rub moisturizing lotion every morning

ASAPFERG:
Good day everyone..

please my actaris SP meter is showing CALL

please what do I do?

You get light?

edward1106:

U will make that guy you quoted begin to question everything he knows now.

I only asked because it looks like a gaboon viper to me.

Voltage7:
A gaboon viper is more deadly than this one.

Isn't that a gaboon viper?

dustmalik:
Not that I am supporting anybody, but does it mean that all the cars in his compound belong to the government?

Did you notice the one with a covered seal of office? That shows it is a government vehicle

dukeo:


jimts GAZZUZZ
Having same issue with my 02 Camry. Much noticeable when AC is turned on

Does the speedometer work when it starts behaving like that? If it does not work. Does the gear select properly when it starts fluctuating? Does the BRAKE light on the dashboard come on when it starts?

abiolag:
I drive 2003 Toyota Camry

The issue was that my RPM usually goes up and down on its own even when d car is on P(Park). It will just be fluctuating on its own. I changed all coil and plug, clean throttle mouth and fuel injector, changed fuel pump but nothing work until when d brainbox was changed yesterday
I drove it today and it seems d car is moving normal until this evening when I noticed the rpm is rising again. Pls what could be the cause and permanent solution?

Does the speedometer work when it starts behaving like that? If it does not work. Does the gear select properly when it starts fluctuating? Does the BRAKE light on the dashboard come on when it starts?

sweetgala:


He is not challenging the election but the membership of the party. To be a candidate in a primaries you need to be duly registered member of the party and your membership must be notified to INEC at a certain period before such primaries.

That's the issue here , that Alex Otti won the election is not in contest but that he is not recognized by INEC as a member of labour

Isn't this a pre-election matter? He did not just hear about it after Otti won?can Pre-election matters be filed after elections?

Teemothymass:
Dear Nairalanders,

Please where can i get our local bird or even tge trap wooden cage around agege or surulere ojuelegba axis

Pictures below for clarity.

I would really appreciate a lot.

Thank you

Go to Agege market by the railway. You will see it, even the white one.

Did the plaintiff participate in the election he challenged?

lhordspy:
I listened to Yunusa, Peter Obi's spokeperson reaction to the nullifcation earlier. He said same thing Alex Otti is repeating now.

Alex Otti is saying:


It seems Alex Otti, Labour party and Obidient in general don't understand the judgement order, legal proceeding, and the declaration of this particular judgement.

Let me explain it for you guys. This particular case was filed not by the opposition, but by a labour party member in Kano, an ex-chairman, Haruna Ibrahim . So the defence of the petitioner not having a locus standi to initiate a suit is dead on arrival. The case was filed by a member not PDP not APC. It is LP vs LP.

An aggrieved card-carrying Labour 'parry' member, Haruna Ibrahim filed the suit and tagged Labour party and INEC as the respondent. Peter Obi and Abure failed to send lawyer to represent them in court.

Alex Otti is a goner. Peter obi and Abure just fried his governorship ambition like Akara.

May God heal him

tocin44:
I am planning to start a small poultry behind my house and would appreciate suggestions from people with experience here on the best breeds to go with.

What I'm looking for;

1. Easy to care for and not requiring too much attention.

2. Breed that is resilient.

3. Breed that can possibly produce small amounts of eggs for family consumption.

4. Can be fed with anything, leftovers, basically not requiring spending much on feed, even if I'll have to.

5. Can grow to a reasonable size for consumption (at least bigger than our regular local breeds)

Suggestions please.
Hoping I and others can learn from the experienced nairalanders. Thank you. 🙏 🙂

Noilers. Noilers are local fowls with broiler traits.

godofuck231:
Black Mamba

Black mambas are no black

Biglol008:
Good afternoon Nairalanders, pls I need your advice. I’m married 28 years, no children yet. Newly wedded, I have a problem. I don’t last long on bed. I cum very quickly and it takes a long time like 4 hours for me to get another erection and most times it’s not very hard like my first erection.

I was told the nitric oxide in my body is low. Pls I need help. How do I boost my nitric oxide in my body or if there are any supplements let me buy.

I’m afraid if I don’t do anything now my wife might eventually cheat in the future. I no longer have my morning erection like some guys do. I have exercise, did ginger, garlic, bitter Kola nothing seems to be working.

What can I do to remedy my situation. Pls no talk of hospital health wise I’m very okay. No diabetics or anything no infection pls help me so I can save my marriage and my myself.

First call your wife and discuss the issue then discuss possible solutions you are considering

001Lagos:


https://punchng.com/parents-put-padlocks-on-daughters-graves-to-avoid-rape-in-pakistan/?amp

Why not just seal the grave with concrete? Not like the person buried there plans to come out any time soon

7david7:
Good morning my people, I am writing you people at this delicate hour of 12:39am because my son's condition, it's getting worse by the day.

Dandruff wants to kill this beautiful boy, I know it's weird because we all know, myself included that dandruff doesn't kill, but watching myself lose a part of my son everyday.

He's been suffering from this condition for over 6yrs now, we've gone to the hospital and after buying and using all the prescribed drugs (Nizoral shampoo, selsun blue, head and shoulders, tea tree oil, miconazole cream, ketoconazole cream, terbinafine cream, fluconazole tablet, terbinafine tablet: almost killed my son, griseofulvin etc) nothing has changed, instead it's getting worse by day.

From complaining of headaches, to weakness (my son that was filled with energy and plays all the time now barely moves, he is always one place complaining of tiredness and pain), to joint pains, to confusion.

According to him, this dandruff has ate up his scalp so much that he can now taste his bathing soap on his tongue the moment he washes his head. We are now scared of washing and applying anything on his head because he will complain of tasting whatever we put on his head in his mouth and he will start having reactions. It's almost as if the skin on his scalp no longer protects him from outside soaps and other ingredients.

The moment he washes his head, his lips and tongue will swell up and he will start having reactions. My once active and lovely boy is now a shadow of himself. He's refusing to play, always complaining of tiredness and pains.

Pls help me my people, I don't know what to do anymore. I've tried every hospital and everything, I've done all I know, and now I'm watching my son deteriorate gradually before my very eyes without having a clue what to do, pls I beg you, help him, help me.

Nearest hospital straight. This isn't dandruff

Collins4u1:
can't we eat them?

You want to eat a dog that is more expensive than a cow

blackpanda:


Even in south africa it's about $3 per liter (N2250)

22.5 Rand can never be 3 dollars. Petrol is like 550 Naira per litre in SA

FreeStuffsNG:
This is not really a good sign that the peace entreaty worked and I am genuinely concerned.
The Itsekiri are in the midst of unfriendly neighbours and their greatest strength should be their unity.

You can not have another Ologbotsere when one is still alive. I pray the issue is well handled for the peace and prosperity of Itsekiri land.
check my signature for free stuffs!

So the Olu should go and beg Ayiri to come and pay homage? Ologbotsere cannot refuse to go and see the Olu since the Olu was crowned and expect to retain the title.

Westerhoffe:
Ain't this too small compared to footballers', knowing they both run same race around the pitch…

Refereeing is a hobby, playing football is a profession. Most referees have other sources of livelihood

Billionaire2:
People may not agree with me but ….. if not that Nigerian military is politically compromised and highly tribalized… I prefer military rule to this present political system…

Apparently, all African countries under military are more peaceful than Nigeria

Our democracy is so expensive that military rule might end up saving us trillions of Naira per year. Look at how many legislators we pay for doing nothing. Let's not even begin to talk about corruption.

Dsalvo:


Even Derek Chisora holds the Nigerian flag too. Unlike some who only see our flag as fit to burn, spit on or soak in blood to display cynically at a beauty pageant.

Is Chisora a Nigerian? Never seen him holding the Nigerian flag cos I know he's a Zimbabwean.

barbstee:
Ok

I think Obi will learn a lesson here and not waste the courts time.

BAT is our president elect.
May Allah ease the task for him

Do you realize that PDP lost this case based on technicalities and not the merits of the case? Obi's lawyers must have learnt from it.

SmartPolician:


I thought the court was supposed to serve him the process and not the plaintiffs.

In Nigeria, it is plaintiffs that serve documents. Bailiff can refuse to serve until it is too late

You know the man better than any of us. If the only fear is what you experienced in the past then I think you should put the past behind you. Talk to your children about the man. Let his kids come and spend time in your place without their father. Let your kids spend time in his place without you. Once all the children get along, there can never be any problem in future.

Vyvyanvyvy:
Hello guys, I am a 36 years old single mother of four. My son will be 15 in August, first daughter 10 in october, my third 5 and youngest 3 by june.

I have separated from my husband because he didn't want my son to come and live with us, I have been taking care of them singlehandedly for 3 years.

I have been friend with this man, a widower who is 57 years and a father of 2 children. He is asking for my hand in marriage. To be honest, I don't want to be married again, all I want is to focus on raising my kids because I have been through a lot in my previous marriage and I don't want another marriage wahala.

He asked for my hand in marriage, I rejected him and I had explained to him why I don't want to marry again. I told him what my ex did, he said he is a mature man he will love me and my children and he will never hate them or ask them to leave his house. I told him I have to think about it and I will get back to him ASAP. But I am still scared to accept his proposal because I don't want history to repeat itself and he is still on my neck. He wants me to accept his proposal. I am confused.

Please advice me. Is it a wise choice for me to get married again after everything I have been through in the past?

RuMiRgO1stSon:
Family dog develop leg problem on husband right front leg, limping since 2 days ago.... I have check the leg but see no wound, the local vet also came and checked but couldn't not tell what the problem is. Any help pls

Check the paws. Press softly and the dog will try to withdraw the leg when u press the painful part