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killyaselfie:
But it controls their behavior and keeps them subservient, and sometimes it does stop them from doing wrong. Your post that I quoted is proof.
The history of Catholicism and Christianity as a whole is a master class in scaring people with the imaginary.

You Protestants partly exist because certain German elites were fed up with the Roman Catholics terrorizing and extorting their peasants with the imaginary purgatory. The so called “Protestant reformation”.



Sometimes, the imaginary lord validates their evil behavior.

Hell, you are a Christian because the imaginary lord gave some European elites permission to pillage to their hearts’ content.

killyaselfie:
You know, it’s good that the wild animals think there is a cage around them, regardless that the cage is imaginary.

Without the imaginary cage, they might cause untold amount of chaos worse than the ones they already cause.

The imaginary cage for the wild animals is one of the principles undergirding religion.

LordReed:
Because you know I will make points you can't get around?

LordReed:
I wonder why. LoL

Skyview01:
There are some dynamics in a marital relationship that cannot be understood as a single individual.

Richy4:
I might be wrong but my guess is that u were not married.. that could explain your anger... Trust me, your anger is justified...

I want you to understand that it was not always like that... Yes she said that to put the man off her... But OP didn't say if she was always using bad choice of words...It could be once off isolated statement..

A lot of us Including me don't have the same level of OP's tolerance.. because as I said earlier, 7months is too long...Also the idea of her going to her parents home and OP handing her a blank wide request card for her to fill in might not be a good idea..

But as long as it works for them both, it's all good.

Richy4:
My brother, In marriage, so many unprintable words could be said or exchanged... That is why it's a close door institution ... U can't keep scores on what u say or heard.. if not, u might keep changing women like underwear.. Even at that, what is the guarantee that the other lady will not have more acidic tongue than the other ...

Richy4:

I don't think he is stupid. He is a married man that wants his relationship to work irrespective of the unorthodox way he was using...I admire his courage, sacrifice and tolerance level...

Regex:
What in actual Bleep did I just read?

luminouz:
What sort of nonsense is this?

You condoned all that rubbish and you are still talking as if you expect us to pat you on the back for what,a job well done?

Alaye, you better take two redpills or you will suffer well well

Skyview01:
Are you married?

LordReed:
So you think the only reason to behave well is because of belief in hell?

Yinkakolawole:
But the north is not like this before, there is sharia law. I dont just understand what is now leading them into killing & kidnapping themselves.

jeff1993:
Some of u castigating her ehn she may be the best wife ever!!!!!..... U never can tell

ShyBabe:
Rest abeg!
You talk too much, Nairaland hyping don too enter your head.
You ended up saying nothing meaningful, after all you typed here.
Elejowewe, a' fi bi afi'se.

cococandy:
Well just so you know, victim blaming usually denotes a subtle support of the offender even if one says they don’t support such.

Yes she should divorce him

Germi9:
You guys conclude too quickly you never know she might be the best wife,or would you have rather prefer she pretends

But sha……

Kriss216:
See wetin person go marry

cococandy:
It seems you consider the slap more violent than the rape itself. That in itself shows that you have a lot to grasp when it comes to bodily autonomy and consent.

Yes the rape is worse than him seeking his sexual gratification elsewhere be it with his sister or sister-in-law. Long as it’s consensual

Afterall sexual incompatibility is a good reason for divorce. But rape is never a justifiable outcome no matter how you try to twist it

Mercychen:
Can you stop misquoting me and go straight to your opinion?

I never said marriage is literally about taking nonsense. That was just an idiom! There are things you would normally not take but for the sake of marriage, you take them.
Got that?

So, if sex is not pleasurable or you don't feel up to it and your partner is dying to have it, you can't sacrifice to satisfy him that moment? Hmmm
This was why I said marriage is SELFISH AND SELF-CENTERED these days. It's always about one person. As long as you're fine the other person can go to hell.
Where is the love (sacrifice) we claim to have for each other?
Where is the selflessness that should be Paramount in our marriages to make it work?

These are the things causing divorce and separation in so many marriages and the more reason I'm still looking at it in 3D for now.

cococandy:
Those things you mentioned are not violent crimes

cococandy:
She’s not the cause of his behavior
He raped her because he’s a rapist.

End of discussion

cococandy:
Why she denied him sex is a separate conversation.
The focus here is that he’s a rapist.

Did he rape all his girlfriends who refused to sleep with him before marriage? I mean since y’all are so enraged by the fact that a man went a month without sex. I’m assuming you think it’s biologically impossible for him to abstain and try to get to the root of the problem in his marriage.

cococandy:
And that’s fine. She’s allowed to not be in the mood.
That shouldn’t turn him into a rapist if he wasn’t one to begin with

obinoral1179:
You must have done something for her to deny you sex for a month...... If you guys are Christians go to Your pastor and report yourself let them call her and they will listen to both you if not look for someone she respect and talk to the person and let them talk to her on your behalf...

Picktrust:
But why is she denying you sex?

Kingcalls:
I bleeped over a hundred girls b4 i got married , and I still ended up marrying a virgin

mikeweezy:
Lol 15 used to be my body counts in a week or two
But now i want to serve God