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baby124:
Do you have a comment or advise for the lady or are you just an arm chair critic. Drop your advise and go away.

as I suspected, you dont have a logical response to the comment.

@lefemmechoclat, dont let anyone mislead you. Your husband was clearly very wrong. It's a complete betrayal of trust. Should you decide to forgive him it's totally up to you.

baby124:
Go and make up with your husband and stop coming here to find support that will break your home. You have a provider and a hard worker but here you are ranting and raving. You married him without even bothering to know where he is from and understanding his culture, yet you want to blame him. That is your fault, own it! You don’t marry a stranger and form ignorant when they start doing things relating to their culture. You have a hard time admitting to faults and you are hell bent on blaming him.

Look, he will take care of you and family as he’s doing well and, he will take care of his family at home. It’s our culture, we have responsibilities. Best to advise him to get his dependents something doing, like a skill. Cheaper and he can hands off after that. His parents though, he will have to care fir them till they die, especially as a first son because, he inherits everything in their culture. Your fault for marrying without thinking. Now, you are married, work it out! You think taking care of a special needs child all by yourself is going to be easy abi?

If he cannot afford your demands after divorce, now what? Continue on the path you have slowly designed for yourself. You will come here and relate it. You need to learn the art of thinking, telling yourself the truth and trying to weigh risks and benefits for your own good. All the best. Lawyer is there to make his own money and does not care. At the end of the day, you will realize you played yourself.

As a lady, you consider it right for a partner to make a significant financial decision that could imperil the family without bothering to carry you along?

The husband is completely wrong and just abused his partner's trust. How many of the wife's tradition does the husband understand and will he be open to being a casually of an illogical decision arising from her tradition without his consent?

lefemmechoclat:
I'm a joker? Ok so be it. I worked 2 jobs for 2 years at one point even 3 jobs.. 2 during the day and a rotating at night to support my home. Even first car I helped him buy and cosigned..where is it? In nigeria with his parents. So you telling me i didn't deserve to know and how his igbo responsibility is most important. That is fine that is why i paid my retainer and signed the paperwork to initiate the divorce. You can sit here and really think him doing what igbo men do should supercede all the responsibility at home and the debts am carrying.

your husband's actions are inexcusable. He failed to liberate himsel from certain backward traditions held by the igbos.

I have igbo friends with successful careers, who lived and worked in Lagos, but were building mansions in their home towns which they only ever used when they went for the christmas holidays. I often questioned the logic of this reasoning.

I understand it's some kind of tradition that arose from the igbos having their assets outside their homelands expropriated during the Nigerian civil war of the 1960s. The traditional is now a main stay in igbo home town.

I am sure your husband knew it would sound illogical to you that is why he hid it from you.

Sorry....you married an igbo man that failed to break free from a tradition that many outside their region find illogical.

justwise:
Did you notice how other black celebrities were comforting him and not Chris? Did you notice that he received an award and standing ovations just after assaulting someone on live TV?

He did not even apologies to CR during his speech, only after hours of news coverage that he decided to apologise.

He laughed at that joke a first then turned around and noticed that his wife did not find it funny then lashed out.

Shame to those black celebrities comforting and supporting him after what he did.

Smith's behavior is inexcusable.

He is a comedian himself, and he no doubt has been poking fun at others, how many slapped him? are they not also people wives, husband, children e.t.c

Nigeria playing well....unfortunate early goal.

SE for the win!!!

Vaughanlanrewaj:
It takes someone with digusting lack of empathy to know one.
Right now, I will join other patriotic Nigerians to insist that FG must get justice for all the victims.,No terrorist must be spared! If this is US where terrorist kill their citizens, they will first unite against the terrorists even before going tribal or clannish like you are doing.
Every victim on the ill fated train is my brother or sister.
The evil though you wished upon Nigeria and Nigerians will visit you.

just go and write a cv. when tinubu loses you may need to apply for a job that requires you to use your sense.

Vaughanlanrewaj:
All you see is politics and that is why you pollute this thread with your hatred and bigotry against Buhari.

This is a time most citizens unite to beat evil forces but to hateful lots like you, anyone saying otherwise is supporting Buhari. How can evil forces maul down our own citizens and we can not unite to insist that those evil forces be dealt with just beggars belief. No terrorist should be allowed to go scot free killing or wounding a Nigerian!
You will reap the evil thoughts you have towards Nigeria and Nigerians in your life.

If you are still able to use your brain cells, I will leave you to draw conclusion between your dispicable comments and your fellow bmc.

I dont intend to drag it with you though, arguement with a bmc is a waste of time. same with those pushing the deadbeat tinubu.

Your disgusting lack of empathy is enough reason for anyone to knw that tinubu should never have anything to do in abuja. so I am not surprised...your mentor was also the one that mocked people complaining of herdsmen attacks.

Vaughanlanrewaj:
Your hate for buhari that always makes you wish evil upon Nigeria and Nigerians will eventually consume you.
The evil you wish upon others will visit you first because you reap what you sow in life.

I knew you evil lot deliberately used twitter as usual and I repeat, only the less discerning will not query your intention.
If you did not kill her and confirmed her dead, you should not get jittery and spiteful because I insisted that I will never believe any negative news from ipob hijacked twitter because of my past experience

I will not bow to your negative evil and toxic ipob terrorism .
Until her family or FG confirms her dead, I wish her soonest recovery and pray she is alive the same way those you reported dead during endsars turned out to be alive

Just checking, you are the freeloader that started as Buhari's bmc cum Tinub bmc...

I hope tinubu will give you something else doing when nigerian throws his presidential ambition into the bin

Also, hw is everyone who critises buhari , ipob? you guys need to do better in selling your candidates, if at all there is something to sell there

Vaughanlanrewaj:
Truth will still come out.
Past gory images on twitter have turned out to be fake.
I believe she has a family and one should expect to hear from them by now.

This should not be another lekkilies where suddenly all those reportedly killed turned out alive or having no relatives come out to state that any of their relative missing or dead.
Never again will we allow twitter be used to peddle fake news and hate news.

Her family should please speak up. Twitter is not her family or family compound.

Those speaking ill of Nigeria because they hate Buhari will reap what they sow.

If you sow good in Nigeria, good you will reap and if you sow curses, curses and badluck you will eventually reap from Nigeria. Nigeria will never bless you and whatever you sow in Nigeria.

another senseless one speaks .

What exactly does buhari give you guys to make you drop your basic sense of reasoning and self-respect?

Please if you have nothing better to say , keep quiet.

At least I noted some hardcore BMC monikers that have learnt that.

You support buhari not, no true nationalist can say the country isnt in a very sorry state right now.

Kobojunkie:
Please stop praying and go get him to see a child therapist. That boy does not need "deliverance", what he needs is special attention, and the clues you get from therapists can help you better understand and give him the kind of attention he needs..

Not to discount your good advice, but really do you think prayer isnt necessary?

Also, why do we look down on everything African?

The white men have their way of dealing with this, Africans also have their way. I for one, know the African way works quite well. Let us not be brainwashed into thinking the whiteman's way is always better.

I for one know if I can get him to Nigeria for 3-4 years he will be straightened up, I am concern about the emotional toll of family seperation

klassyguy:
I appreciate all the comments, suggestions, and criticisms from everyone. Some of the comments reminded me of some things I have observed of him.

1. He does seem to be technical. My son talks about trains, fire engines, and other stuff. He has several toy trains and he is always taking them apart and tries to put them back together.

2. Contrary to some comments, I manage their screen time. They do not watch anything or play the PS5 until the weekend. The games he plays are not violent. I intentionally have Parental Control on the console, and he only asks me to download his train simulator, Firetruck games, and once in a while he plays the Lego Jurassic park.

3. He knows he gets to only play during the weekend. So he doesn't even bother asking for the PS or even logging into Youtube until Saturday or Sunday. He does not go behind my back to play it while I'm not hime, and if he does want to play on weekends and I'm not home, he always calls me on his mom's phone to ask for permission first. Most of the week, he just plays with his toys and lego bricks.

Like some of you fine people said, he may be bored at the level he is and needs something more challenging. I remember one day I caught him watching something out of the norm. I insisted he showed me what he was watching. The kid was shaking that day. Only for me to see a video on how airplanes work. I asked him why he was scared, and he told me he thought I will slap him for watching something other than kids stuff on YouTube. another day he asked me if we can continue to watch the video I was watching on History channel. I asked him which video, and he said "Bismarck". I was surprised he knew about it, and when I asked him what it was, he said it was a big battleship that shoots. Right now as I type this, I can see him watching something about the design of school buses.

I plan on setting up an appointment to see his pediatrician this week to rule out the ADHD.

Thank you all and I will keep you all posted.

Bro, you're not alone. I have a son that about behaves this exact way except he is three years old. I also suspect attention deficit disorder.

It has gotten so bad, my wife is scared and embarrassed to take him outside because he can very easily throw a feat of tantrum.

On my part I must carry or hold him while strolling or else bros will get lost looking left and right.

I have also considered and still consider having him raised in Nigeria till he is at least 6 or 7 years and can properly understand instructions with proper discipline installed. His situation is putting a strain on us too...I have even started praying about his situation.

GerogeI:
Yes, this is a big possibility, but the real truth is that there ain't so many countries rich in oil and gas, and capable in technology, and with a stable government able to prevent war from Russian territories. So investors will readily lend to Russia, again and again as long as they issue that directive for Payment and the funds exist. Who is more risky to lend to, Russia or Nigeria?

Now I know many argue blindly here. Only government held investment funds with a political mandate symphathic to russia will be willing to invest in their debt market right now.

Even their stock and capital market remains closed because most international companies are are the door waiting to exit the economy.

Neither the economy of russia nor ukraine will come off better from this war

https://www.aa.com.tr/en/russia-ukraine-war/russia-s-stock-market-to-remain-closed-this-week/2534261

Mynd44:
Queen to D7; Check!

Nothing to check bro... in the near future when the government goes to the market to raise funds. They will know the implication of their actions.

The private sector will also struggle to refinance or issue new bonds with very high interest rate to compensate for the risk of non-payment

Babsojimjim:
Dear Concerned friends,

After leaving me for almost two months which I did make mention here on this platform for no just reason, my wife is back on her own will with our little kid but I cannot fathom any positive change in her character, instead she is irritable, never wants anything intimacy, disrespectful and unsubmissive and extravagant despite the harsh economy.
.....


Thanks for your input in advance.

Oga you are OYO. Let's hope it doesnt really go down hill from here for you.

I recall along side others advising you not to allow her back except she can genuine and deep remorse not just from her but from her parent.

post=110922373:
Since 1960,
Almost 62 years of independence,
Our Darling nation cannot boast of just one refinery!!!
What a shame to all our politicians and leaders.
There was a country.
This is not the change we voted for.

Nigeria will succeed in our lifetime.
We Rise.

Chief zombie!!!

KOPArespect:
I am Osogbo base but went to Lagos yesterday for an interview, i didnt print a copy of my CV so i decided to branch a business center to do so. the good thing is that the shop was open even as early as 7 a.m compared to Osogbo people that wont open shop until 10 a.m and even 12 pm sometimes.

I entered into the shop and met a lady who asked me to transfer my file to the company mail which i did... grrrrrr document came out and i open my wallet with dignity and gave the lady 1000 expecting change of 850... but to my surprise, she gave me #400, at first, i didnt say anything thinking maybe she is still trying to find the rest of the change.

Then this lady sat down and continue with another customer document, i then said "excuse me, my change is not complete" i was moved to tears when she told me its #200 per page. i couldnt say anything as i have to respect my suit and tie and package my self out of the Cafe.

i went out of the shop and noticed my shoe is dusty and i need to shine it which normally cost #50, i saw one aboki by the road side, I pulled out my shoe and put on the slippers he offered me. just as he was dusting the shoe, my spirit just told me to ask for the price and to my surprise, he said #100... i didn't know when i screemed "for shinning shoe?" oga dont worry, gimme my shoe back... nah so i take commot for his front and use my hand take dust am

Its both ways bro.

How many jobs in osogbo can pay entry level 200-300k net? You are poised to make more in Lagos

Aduke23:
Good morning, everyone.

I've a serious problem. I would say it's serious for it's making me offending my parents and making them have some negative thoughts and feelings about me that there's likelihood that I may not be a merciful child in future...

.

Learn to love yourself and appreciate who you are.

If its looks, some of the brightest and most successful women in Nigeria are not the fairest e.g Okonjo Iweala, Oby Ekwesili and many others.

You'll be fine when you learn to appreciate yourself for who you are.

LollySeaSide:
Russian economy is in a serious free fall.
This time yesterday, the Russian Ruble was exchanging for 4.96 Naira. Right now, it's 3.82 Naira to a Ruble.
22.98% crash in 24 hours!!
Oh Putin!!!!!!!!!

Let me know if it becomes N1 to 1 rouble. May be I will help their economy by buying their currency. Also Buhari can boast of it as one of his achievements.

Cc

Mynd44:
You mean the EU is about to commercially make sales on an ongoing conflict? This is what the issue has always been, the West takes every chance to sell weapons to sides during a conflict.

They can get involved directly but they refused. They could have not nudged Ukraine into a war they know they can't handle, they refused.

They could have given then these weapons for free too but this is the EU and US. Money is the most important factor which they will book as a loan to Ukraine with crazy interest rates when Ukraine will need money to rebuild

EU is buying and giving to Ukraine as lethal aid (not selling). Ukraine is a country of 40million plus people, the sheer displacement of millions of refugees is a threat to the EU. So really they have to act and Putin was well warned not to invade.

Incase you didnt know , india fought pakistan over same issue when they invaded west bengal (now bangladesh)

grandiose4ever:
And so what if he envisaged it. Doesn't mean he wouldn't face the economic consequences. Putin is not the strategist many of you think he is. Man made a wrong calculation and invaded a country unprovoked and would face his consequences squarely.

If Putin could turn back time, he would likely not have invaded.

Right now, russia image as a co-supreme power is being tartered by a far less superior ukraine army. If russia leave without taking down the ukraine governemnt, it will completely loose it influence in ukraine because it has done its worst and failed.
Putin has also created a united opposition in the west and probably offended a lot of oligarchs who are being sanctioned for his war

gbagyiza:
If na here all of them for don run away.

Bro leadership is key.

If the Ukrainian leadership had fled when the battle started, the resistance will have collapsed.

Rayd502:
They should be careful,wouldn't want to lose them in the frontlines.Their willingness to defend their country shows the highest level of patriotism.

The conflict ia revealing as to why europe is more developed than most continents - patriotism.

Inspite of possible death and the overwhelming odds, see the leaders sit with their people even when the battle is right in their city and they will be primary targets of their enemies.

The ukrainian president himself has no miltary background and is a fairly wealthy. Yet he and his ministers are staying put risking their lives to ensure the country does not fall against an overwhelming odd.

In Afghanistan, the president was one one of the first person to book a private jet out of the country inspite of having a numerically superior and better funded army once taliban approached the capital.

In Nigeria, our president wont dare use the roads if the weather isnt clear for using flight and you expect the army to be willing to show bravery when the leader shows cowardice?

Leaders make a people!!

Fasindo:





The video took place in China.


Anytime Nigerian military especially the army comes out to debunk something just know that that thing they are denying is true.

A closer look at the topography of the video background knows that the place looks like north.

Maybe be *ubanka kwuo* spoken in the video is a Chinese language

Very true, that how they startes by denying being present at lekki toll gate, then moved to using blanks, the live bullets shooting upwards then agreeing they shot some with live bullets but it was not a massacre

Mercychen:
In an interview with... She talks about her ordeals in her marriage with FFK. she also recounted how their relationship started and what led her to marry him.

After watching this interview, I came to the conclusion that men are not worth pitying.
They act all nice and sweet just to get you and later change into a total stranger once you fall for them.

Hers was a Pathetic one.

Click to watch.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n5AW8qHe2K0

What a balanced conclusion

A young pretty woman finds a very wealthy and influential older man who has previously married and separated from 4 other women, her best pick in the ocean of eligible bachelors.....and she wants a happy ever after ending..?

Madam, start by acknowledging she was a gold-digger, she probably didnt appreciate the amount of stress it would take to mine the gold.

Today FKK has gotten another young girl to warm his bed....tomorrow she also will tell us tales by moonlight of how evil a man he is Are they all so dumb to know that the previous 4 (now 5 women) left him for a good reason? or they are too blinded y gold-seeking to see the danger in their front.

aloskyyoung:
How about tourist? They won’t bring money into UK?…..This is not an argument though

He is asking, how is it SCIENTIFICALLY okay for Workers and Student to travel.

He is not referring to ECONOMICAL aspect.

It’s just like saying you can’t have Covid because you are a student or worker

The UK is very protective of its education sector. The average citizen pays like 1/10 of what we pay, that iis big money for the education sector. Same reason they not only restored but extended the duration of post-study work visa for immigrant students of which a large majority are from developing countries.

LuchiBianca:
School's address

Thanks

timilehyin01:
Did mine yesterday..the lady used the school address for all of us including the kids

Thank you

for those who have done their TB test, please what is best address to use for this request by IOM given I am yet to secure a residence in the UK - "Address in UK with Postcode is compulsory" . Should I use a friend or the schools address?

for those who have done their TB test, please what is best address to use for this request by IOM given I am yet to secure a residence in the UK - "Address in UK with Postcode is compulsory" . Should I use a friend or the schools address?

hmmm

The inevitable end of a ponzi......God will judge the paid thugs/scammer on nairaland that promoted it

cc jabolo

https://www.nairaland.com/6173357/mba-forex-please-need-better/9

youngbuffet
tope777
drakpa

Until we learn to keep institutions of government separate from religious and racial influence , Nigeria will remain a shithole and a bastion of religion-inspired terrorism.

What is the logic in the NPF organizing quran recitals? Is that what taxpayers pay them to do?

The only reason why this thread isnt flooded with people looking for cars to drive is because they do not know the opportunities here.

You see falling over themselves over 30k npower n probably less than 150k frsc job.

I wish us all well.