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Michellekabod2, I hope I am safe.

I post jocular/sarcastic comments sometimes. Hope you won’t come for me in those moments.

budaatum:
I will have to assume that you never walked a mile in a woman's shoes or you would hesitate to say what you said here.

Not all us fighting against patriarchy are unachievers because of our gender. Some of us fight it despite our own achievements and gender just as we may fight against slavery though we ourselves are free people.

It is interesting that you would crop out a part of my comment and respond to it.

Anyway, I stated “my truth” (in the parlance of proponents of your movement ) and it is actually valid.

There is no grand scheme to subjugate women. I wonder why there is thus, a sweeping reaction to something that cannot be observed except in isolated infrequent instances.

I think women have enjoyed favouritism over the years and have weaponised it. In the pórn industry, women are paid higher. There is no reactionary movement from men decrying inequality because of that. Instead we have feminists suggesting that men have objectified the female body because of it and also, that we do it to promote that industry. Another case is the fashion industry (modelling).

Paying unsolicited compliments is a risk today. But since when are compliments solicited? The beauty of a compliment is in the spontaneous thoughtfulness of the observer. Why is a compliment from a man to a woman regarded as both condescension and predatory behaviour? Isn’t that reaching? In contrast, when men decry rudeness or wickedness from a female, feminists jump on it and say she is a strong woman. Lol. Bad behaviour is not strength of character.

Men today, walk on egg shells - at least those men who care to be politically correct. It’s all so interesting.

RedCreme21:
Its one thing to be ignorant, another to delibrately turn from the truth.
WOMEN HAVE BEEN STIGMATIZED SINCE TIME MEMORIAL. The common things your daughter can do, you great grandmum couldnt. Even now, your so called priviledges like driving a car, going to the office, schooling have been denied many. Dont pretend not to know that.
For years you've enjoyed this basic rights, we have to fight to do so too. Dont condemn a cause that speaks up for victims because of their gender.
If the tables were turned, you wouldnt find things funny. Afterall is that not why you hate feminism? Fear of that?

I have not witnessed this stigmatisation you are crying about. Except if you mean favouritism, then yes. Women have specific government programs for their advancement. Women and children are primarily considered for rescue in wartime. This idea was reinforced so much, it became part of pop culture. Men are not. In a case of intoxicated sex reported as rape, women are the victim not men, as only the woman can give or withdraw consent.

Quite amusing that “patriarchy” is now the monster. Anyway, I maintain that the concept is a feminist construct.

I don’t “hate” feminism. Rather, I am amused by the fervour and disorientation of its proponents today. Are you haters of men or seekers of equality or both? Are you the victims all of the time or do you admit to being perpetrators too?

Women and men are essentially different, biologically and emotionally. That is not a bad thing and it is certainly not the fault of men.

budaatum:
Listen to yourself please and maybe you would understand what you are saying. I have translated it for you below.

"Emancipation from slavery is a perk that your slavemaster gave you by removing the chains from your neck".

I am certain you would not agree that that is what you meant but I can't claim to be surprised with your minute understanding!

"The patriarchy you despise" created a situation where those perks became perks that feminist had to fight for. Patriarchy is a construct of pig men to deprive others of their rights.

Lmao. That you would equate this to slavery says a lot about your disposition.

Anyway, I do not see women in bondage. All the women around me have never been prevented from achieving anything just because of their gender. Rather they have enjoyed praise for their achievements. This is what piques my interest. Men do these things but that’s normal. Women do them and want recognition and applause. Lol. Interesting.

Magnoliaa:
Feminists are still individuals with biases and prejudices, subjective experiences. There are different 'branches' of it. We have the radicals, liberals, intersectionalists, etc.



It's easy to speak on things you're not experiencing.

Will you say the to women in third world countries?



Of course. 'Perks' and 'favours' that men put in place.

The patriarchy you despise gave you those perks. Why then do you fight against a concept that puts you ahead?

It appears this “patriarchy” of yours is actually a feminist construct that gives women undue advantage. Leave it in place then, and enjoy the goodwill of benevolent men. Lord knows I love women a lot, and I want them to contribute their uniqueness in society.

crestedaguiyi:
Efcc should focus on those stealing from the government.

If good result is achieved in that area, those venturing into Yahoo will reduce drastically

Tiff na tiff. Whether government level or street level.

Interpol no be EFCC. They don’t have issue with our politicians. They focus on international criminals and Mompha is their latest customer. Face them not EFCC.

The way people openly hail yahoo boys now,... it is well.

pocohantas:
Living up to his name in her life...

Ayomide- Her joy has really come.

Make she hold am tight and do him right. They don't make them like that no more.

Nice handwriting he gat there.

Ayomide the Yoruba demon.

Yoruba Angels are the best. Everybody knows.

Sleevia:
Wrong. A cheat will always be a cheat.

Several years ago, I worked as a sales boy to a Yoruba woman who was nurse in the US.

This woman is damn pretty, she had 3 kids but would sure get hit by young lads outside if she allowed it.

She comes to the shop, does what is needed and go home after closing.

She was very nice.

The only flaw I could notice then was she didn't know how to cook.

The husband on the other hand was sleep little girls. They had two houses. He takes them to the other house.

But when things became hard for them, she left Nigeria and ran back to the US.

The husband is such a jerk. He was the major reason I left...

Lol. Exception, not the rule bro.

This thread really cracks me up. Why can’t these naija feminists agree on a creed? Today they want equal rights, tomorrow they want to subjugate the men, next week, they want all women to hate men.

You should not confuse the thunder/lightning that’s trying to locate you abeg. Stay one place.

We have witnessed undue favouritism for women in school and the work place and I do not care very much for the advancement of any special women rights. They enjoy basic human rights like us men. It doesn’t end there though. By reason of their gender many have enjoyed favours and perks of being a woman and somehow spun the stories to appear as the victims. It’s so bad that these days, chivalry is patriarchy. I just dey laugh.

I think many beautiful wives think their beauty is the be-all and end-all of their husband’s existence. So they don’t work on their character.

A man seeks peaceableness and companionship from his wife. If deprived at home, he would be sore tempted to seek them outside. He didn’t marry you to consume his money and look pretty for the association of instagram wives.

CanadaOrBust:
Why is this always the first comment - “I don’t know what some guys see in these (name it) small girls, fat girls, skinny girls, fellow men...” I find it a stupid comment. Attraction is not by logic or reasoning. People don’t sit down and do calculations just as I’m sure you don’t do calculations in being attracted to a woman. What you should condemn is their ACTING on that attraction

I’m not surprised. Paedophiles would be triggered by my comment.

One day you will be caught in your depravity.

Yoighaman:
I don't support paedophiles, it's wrong in all ramitifications but bro, don't sound like a novice, what attracts men to young ladies (18+) is the tight puna*i, ever tasted one? I bet you'd be hooked! Give it a try!

Lol. Attraction for me is a mindset that can be tuned. I still cannot bring myself to admire a small girl sexually.

I’m sorry for you if you are attracted to smallies. One day you will go too far and sleep with a minor.

mrvitalis:
Lol u expect Igbo man to give u his land for free ?

Which government takes peoples land without compensation ?

That might be their only land ...we don't have luxury of land like west or north

Who ever told buhari and APC that threats moves an Igbo man is lying to him .,...the more u threaten n intimidate the more determine the Igbo man become .

If u can't compensate the land owners leave the bridge

All land belongs to the government. That’s why you pay tenement. You’re only leasing it.

Guy, give her hot hot.

Don’t disappoint your ancestors. It shall be well with you.

Take a shot of this for extra effect.

Ariza:
You are cheap! swerve please!

Small pikin

This babe overreacted. She had no right to be so disrespectful to the driver. She will embarrass you one day. Spectacular embarrassment. Continue condoning shît.

I still don’t know what some guys see in these small small children. What attracts you to them? Let them date their mates please.

I hope these aunties also took their anger out on the randy man.

BabaAlabi:
You have to understand that you are dealing with humans that possess different levels of intelligence and kindness. Some people are evil but too cowardly to carry out the act of killing, so what do they do, they offer advice like 'mind your business'. What do you expect from the same fools that drive past accident victims clearly in need of help?

In this case, telling her to mind her business is healthy and reasonable. Why? Because the OP offered help and it was turned down.

Domestic dispute is very slippery. The rescuer could easily become the villain. Madam OP took the right decision by reporting to the police but the victim has decided not to follow that path.

No offence, I don’t know how old you are but you’ll eventually arrive at a point in life when you’d realise you cannot force anyone to take wholesome advice. You will have to sadly watch them self-distruct.

I am passionate about balance and fairness in relationships, but I’ve learned through embarrassing situations, to stop offering advice (repeatedly) to people enduring toxic relationships. They, more often than not, never listen until after the fact.

This victim is determined to work out her marriage her own way. Let’s hope she survives it.

Madam, if you don’t withdraw the case, this woman will quarrel with you when she has the strength. She and her husband will tell you off.

My advice is drastic but necessary for your sanity and safety. Avoid that family as much as possible. They are a terrible example for your son.

She probably thinks she’s the first virtuous, long-suffering wife ever, who endures the pains of the world. It’s like her ancestors are beckoning and she misses them. Let her continue collecting beating.

Let her village people finish the work they started.

I pity her and I really do pity her children. She’s trying to hold a marriage together, using her life as adhesive. If she continues to condone this nonsense, one day, the husband will go too far.


It’s not every couple that will celebrate 40 or 50 years together. If one person is habitually and unapologetically abusive, leave him or her in that marriage and move on.

Op is definitely a guy. Brilliant content!

Bar man, give this guy 2 bottles.

Naija babes don’t believe in love o.


Well, maybe the love of money. But na guys dey rush them. If you want to laugh, just ask your girlfriends to show you their Instagram DMs.

GrabHisBalls:
I actually knew I was going to read a comment like this from a guy. Assuming the table was turned, I would have read a comment like ' You want marry Olosho put for house? Guy, you be mumu'

Why the double standard? What's good for the goose, is good for the gander. Stop giving advise you won't take if you were in her shoes.

Double standard? No. Now you’re overreacting. Calm down.

lilmax:
This is how girls miss a great sex partner

Look at it this way


You're his main

He uses his sides to have more experience in sex matters

By the time you guys are married, you will find out why he did this things

You have said it all!

Mehn, guys are moving mad o. If you’re sure you’re the main chick, no problem. If you’re not sure, better ask him to clarify your position in the pecking order.

We don’t want things to get messy.

matildababy:
WHY MEN ASK FOR SEX ON FIRST DATE.CANT MEN BE COURTESY ENOUGH?. JUST ASKING O.

It’s not a matter of courtesy. Na ask dem ask. If you’re down, good. If not, fine.

Something that both of you will enjoy, you babes will be acting like you’re offering us gold.

MrCork:
...ok although am from london, am a playA.. Technicaly, this mean my job is to chase married women, single women, lightskin women & most importantly...HALF women.

Next week I shall be teaching technicks of how to kiss them.... THANK ME LATER!!!!

This guy, you still dey Nairaland?

Anyway, you just can’t postpone the tutorial to next week. Post the lessons now.

Sambaby7640:
lol at the bolded

Sambaby7640:
Though falz might sound comical with his style of rap but he still remains the best rapper in naija(argue with your keyboard).

Falz is very good lyrically and also very creative with the way he put words together...little wonder why he is now the most surge for Rapper in the game.

His raps flows are top notch but comical and that is why people find his rap interesting.

I will say he deserves those awards and truly he really did

Correct.

The people saying nonsense about Falz are slaves. Yes, slaves with inferiority complex.

They prefer naija rappers who rap with the accent of a black american thug. As if such fake, forced accents represent the originality of your upbringing/society which influences the message in your music.

One boy born in Nnewi will now be sounding like low budget Future, with the ethnic accent stubbornly peeking out at intervals.

The video was well made!

So girlfriend na investment abi liability?

When will you learn that once you put up your affection, attention and body for sale, you have unwittingly thrown your dignity and self respect out the window.

You want equal rights after selling yours? Lol.

Naija feminism that is spiced with pepper inside.

They only want equality when benefits are involved but certainly not for responsibility.



Nice list.

Mods, front page straight!

Officialgarri:
This is a text after consuming alcohol and konji sets in.
You'll just be like "fûck it'' I'm gonna ask whatever I want. It's ask I ask, I didn't kill anyone

You are very correct