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money121:
School no be scam na you no sabi book
Although i get your point but no be everybody fit do business
If everybody do business who go be doctor, and rest..
So sch no be scam..
I be bsc holder and here on nairaland av handle roofing project worth billions of Naira

Professional courses can be given priority e.g Medicine, Architecture, Accounting etc.
Other courses should be studied in the library or online e.g Business Administration, Economics, Psychology etc.
Some courses should be scraped in Nigeria e.g Microbiology, Biochemistry, Philosophy, Sociology etc.

He talked about one going back to school if they wish too. So you can have your business and still your degree. But business first.
An 100 percent good advice he gave.

bukatyne:
And the next bible verse says 'Father's, do not aggravate your children so they would not be frustrated'.

There is the responsibility for both parties.

No sir, fatherhood doesn't stop when there is no finance.

How is secretly going to marry another woman an aggravation that'll lead to the frustration of the child?
What exactly is her headache about him marrying another wife?


No father will have finance, decide not to use it for his family, and still go ahead to perform other fatherly roles.
What made him withdraw financial support will also make him withdraw other forms of support

I'll end with this: Most African men are polygamous in nature. We can decide to practice it or not.

Lol

bukatyne:
P.S.: I am always against peeps washing their dirty linen in public so the girl could have rebuked her father privately.

You saw how young the girl was? A minor is who should be rebuking her father?
Jesus Christ!

It looks like I'm dreaming. Feels so unreal and unnatural.

bukatyne:
@bold:

Of course, what else does the average African man provide apart from money which wouldn't be enough considering the minimum wage and level of poverty?

That's why your children and wives don't remember you exist once they can fend for themselves.

You cannot provide morals, leadership by example, sense of direction and identity, encouragement, support or spiritual direction amongst other things a father & husband should provide.

Don't worry about disappointing her further, she has probably reached her wits end when it comes to you disappointing her

The list of what a father can provide is endless, but the prominent one is finance, that's why it gets mentioned all the time.
When I withdraw finances, I'm automatically withdrawing other contributions.

I don't know how y'all were raised, but I was trained to give cognizance to my parents even if they were irresponsible and on the wrong side.
You don't wanna get cursed by your biological parents.
Even the bible says "honour thy father and thy mother so that thy days may be long".

ukaface:
The issue is this said father LIED to his family that he is going for work but ended up going to settle bride price of another woman.
Do you understand

If he had told them outright that he is getting a second wife, I don’t think it would be seen as unafrican but the said father LIED ( you may not see anything wrong with that) and deceived them into marrying another wife.

What is he teaching his daughter? What idea about men is he telling his daughter?
No be everything be African related, morals is also an issue to uphold as a man or father

What the father did was totally wrong. But in Africa, there are some untold rules you must abide by. The daughter refused to abide by the rules(courtesy of her mother).
No matter what your parents do, you can't scold them.

If my daughter says this to me, she had better started to feed, house, clothe and sponsor herself. Cos I will prove to be a further disappointment to her.

Sholmakem:
Hmm. Anyways, thanks.

That picture was in 2022. Let's see an upgraded version 🙄

Sholmakem:
wetin your eyes find go there?

Lol Incase you don't know, anybody that sees you, that's where their eyes will go first. It's not as if we're perverted, but it's kind of unusual so it calls attention.


You look very pretty by the way.

Sholmakem:
what do you see there? 😃 You don't judge a book by the cover.

Don't know what you mean by the emboldened tho. Or you mean they are not as large as they look?

fadilaMaikiriki:
I would like to know if there's anyone here addicted to fruits like me. I'm so so addicted to fruits and tiger nuts. A day hardly passes without taking any of these. I won't feel much alright if a day or two passes without taking any of these.

I can cross seven seas and seven forests to go get these if it warrants it. Infact you can get me easily when you use fruits and tiger nuts, even more easier than you would get me with ice-cream, shawarma, babeque and the likes.


Please, is there any one here like that? That likes fruits so much. Please, let me know. Let it not seem as if I'm the only one in this. Thanks.




Attached below is the picture of the ones I got these night;

How can you eat so much Tiger nuts without your jaws aching?

Sholmakem:
I thought it's only me o , My social life is so poor .
I only make friends online, I've not attended up to five parties in my whole life .
My neighbors Always greet me welcome sister, how was your journey anytime we see .

You're trying with what I'm seeing on your picture o.
I'm pitying you because it looks like it will be inconveniencing you.

frozen70:
That's the question you will ask the OP

I only mentioned what she said

I am not the one that said so

I will not advice her to toast the guy or wait for the to toast her because I will not play any one roles for them

But I only gave his near close to toast ideas

That the area you can ask me questions and I will defend it

So ask me questions about my comment not about Op comment pls

Got it!

frozen70:
Go back and read my comment

This time around read it with caution and understanding

Then come back with a feed back

Am glad you found a man that you love but you don't want to look cheap by telling him

Why would she look cheap by telling him?

frozen70:
Am glad you found a man that you love but you don't want to look cheap by telling him

Well you can start with a daily romantic and sweet messages to gladden his day

He will decode you

Respect him and appreciate whatever he does at any point

Get gift for him if you can afford it, men love gifts and they love surprise ones

Be humble to attract him but don't pretend because it will bust out

Lastly and the most important thing

Does he feel the same way you are felling

Find out before you come here to complain of him not responding

Why do y'all think same way? Asking a man out doesn't make you look cheap.

Go abroad where in 3 years a man might not even ask you out. Nobody will teach you how to ask men out on dates and how to woo them.

Look, there's nothing like you looking cheap if you make the first move.
If he makes the first move and you play around for 3 years before giving in to his requests, it won't stop you from looking cheap later on.

Looking cheap is the way you carry yourself around a man, not by you not making moves to him.

Also, many of you are only scared of rejection that you dish out to men daily.

Persephone1:
Do some homework, find out if he is free I.e not engaged or in a relationship. If he is your type, his daily schedule, what he likes, what he doesn't then position yourself.

Never ask a man out directly, get close to him as a friend and make him see you are worth going after. While at this please never lose your self respect so you can move on with chin up if everything didn't go the way you want.

There's no way she won't have to risk her self worth. Going by your advice, it is easy to misconstrue the effort as just being friendly.

She needs to go deeper than a friend would.
A common way ladies have pulled that off with me is by breaking the touch barrier especially on the face, holding of hands, and tight hugs that linger a little longer.
Calling of personalized pet names e.g my love, my baby.
Strong eye contact from a close range especially while saying nothing.
Buying of gifts.

That's what I can remember for now.
Even friends around noticed the interest and it didn't make them lose their self worth.
It's now left to the guy to take it up from there if he is into her too.

NGArmyTerrorist:
They full here, some of they are nairaland chef! Ahnie

Leave our Nairaland resident baby mama alone.

Persephone1:
Actually we don't use/ know/ understand what pads are. We use leaves here in Nigeria.
Moimoi leaves to be precise.

When it's about that time of the month we go to the market to get this leaves, place the leaves between our thighs then we hold in place with ropes. We don't know what pants are too. And some of us grow these leaves in our compounds to save cost as well.

She's not based in Nigeria. She's in UK so.
When she was in Nigeria, liners might not be common. It's probably when she went abroad that she got to know what panty liners are.

Needless to say that she still holds the notion that liners aren't common in Nigeria.

Samantha124:
Whenever they see ladies without makeup, they would troll them and call them broke.

But when they see ladies with makeup, they would still troll them.

I still remember my second nairaland profile picture, I got trolled a lot for not wearing make and showing my afro natural hair.

I was called broke and hungry..😂😂😂

Was it the one where you looked like a cerebral palsy patient?

Smartguyboy:
I wanted to bang twins sis same night 30k in akwa Ibom but in Port Harcourt the Least hookup girl will take is 25k guarantee you will pay her bolt to and fro . Price one 20k she refused I was shook but in uyo 10-15k you will get a lekki standard babe . 2020 when I was serving at ajah least you can get is 45k.

Where you people dey see this money?

I dey uni, hunger wan pluck my eyes. Nobody wan show me way.😭😭😭😭

ChizzyBuna:
swear with your life that you have more than 200k in your account
poor fool

Ahn ahn! You're talking to our very own ednut1 like that 😂😂😂

Una no wan sabi una level sha.

Revolution2022:
How him take join wey him no be citizen or get a green card.Someone should enlightened me because this story no add up.

You can apply for green card immediately you marry a citizen.
After getting a green card, if you stay in that marriage, you can apply for citizenship 3 years after.

The guy marriage a citizen 3 years ago.

Persephone1:
Yawn...

You are not bothered but you made sure to give a mention

Albertone be kiaful

I'm not bothered at all. I only responded on behalf of Nairaland men.

I scrolled down and saw your already given response. God saved you.

Persephone1:
The consistency with which you all sit and come up with write ups and topics that centers on women all the time should be studied in uni. Sadly you don't maintain this energy in researching how to make your lives and country better.
Tsk tsk tsk

I don't think that should in any way bother you. You keep saying this all the time while neglecting the question being asked.
That was how you dodged the question of what women have to offer with your gaslighting.

I'm not bothered btw.

sharone21:
True story( lol)

In Secondary school( JSS) for weeks our classroom wasn't swept or windows cleaned.... One day, I asked the Class captain and Assistant when we would start cleaning it and both said , the girls in the class should sweep it and forget about the boys..... I didn't understand such English( lol), so it meant girls are destined to cleaning the classroom till we were promoted to the next class( lol)..... I then said, ' if una like, leave it like that, so in your house na only girls dey work?( Lol).....So, after a week, the boys held an 'emergency' meeting and said they will sweep, Inshort they will also clean everything. We didn't believe them till the close of school, when we saw them bringing brooms and stuffs to clean.... I was moved by their service and I also,took a broom to sweep.... But, they stopped me while few girls swept... I still took up piece of cloth to clean the tables and chairs after cleaning the board.... We all worked with togetherness spirit. Years later after we left school and I was already in Years university, some came to visit me and that was when our tank had issues and I had to go manually to bring up water from the tank downstairs, immediately they saw me with bucket they carried the buckets for me upstairs then I took it inside.

Truth is, when a woman KNOWS she is loved by her husband, she can do ANYTHING for him. That is why Christ said men should LOVE their wives and women should be SUBMISSIVE. Christ( Man) LOVED the church( Woman) even when she knew him not... That's why those saying a woman should love a man more are not following Biblical principles and anything outside the Bible easily collapses.

True talk.

I see no reason why a man shouldn't help out with chores when he is free.

And I agree submission comes naturally. If a man has to constantly remind his wife to be submissive, then something is wrong somewhere.
Of course, there are exceptions such as feminists.

I need to date a feminist to show her even if we do 50/50, she still has more weight on her.

OloYeOfEgbE:
Air pollution..

Why illiterates full N.A like this..that nonsense adage say aboki no dey hear come only go crap has to stop in the south..

What should we use in opening it?

frozen70:
A man that can't perform his responsibilitys as a husband and father to the children is already weak
So his wife will definitely be stronger than him for being able to perform such task

What has the irresponsibility of a man got to do with his biological and physical strength?

Aunty you're wiser than what you just typed. I'll assume your kid typed this.

sharone21:
Still isn't equal:
Some encumbrances especially after giving birth:

Not same strength, that is why men who change their sex to women shouldn't/ can't compete in women's sport( category)... Same strength is when the man is disabled.

Period: Men don't see period unlike women who do and in that condition still go to work, do all her wifely/ womanly duties, go for lectures if she is furthering her education.

Easier being a man unless one wants to be a woman illicitly, then it becomes lucrative

You're right.

But those things are biological and there's nothing we can do about it.
This is why in most households in Africa, men usually provide more than 50%(even 100%) just to try to balance things up.

Any woman clamoring for 50% is only setting herself up.

frozen70:
Am not justifying what she did because I hate reading anything about beating spouse

But for the fact that his wife was able to beat him to that point
He must have been an irresponsible man and has lost his respect long ago

Probably he subjected his wife to all sort for family responsibilities which includes
Feeding
House rent
Medical

No woman will be playing this kind of role and you expect love and happiness while the husband contributes nothing, not even security for the family

Is that what we're saying?
How was the wife strong enough to beat her husband?

1Sharon:
And this is why when it comes to 50/50, the woman ends up doing more🥴

Husbands can come back from work and relax.

But wives that come back from work, simply cannot.

If it's 50/50, the husband cannot come back to relax. He has to join her to do chores too.

Slaysor:
I eat six to eight times a day,my workout session will kill most humans. So I must eat well to regain energy. What I eat in a day mostly are moi moi,egg,pap and milk,oats,rice and vegetables,potato and vegetables.
My workout session include 300 press up,200 squat,25mins jogging,5mins intense run,100 sit ups,100 bench press,100 squat jump...

100 reps of bench presses of which weight?