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Intentionally when your Marriage Relationship is centered on Jesus is all-important. But how do you actually do that? Here’s what’s you should do.

1) Decide and Commit.
Have a conversation together to be sure you are shooting for the same goal. Christ centered means that your relationship is fully committed to Christ. Everything else is secondary. Try creating some belief statements that highlight how Christ will be at the center of your lives. “We have decided, as for us and this marriage, we will serve the Lord.” “We will trust the Lord.” “We will surrender to the Lord.” “We will follow the Lord.”

2) Individually Seek God.
Seeking God as individuals is a requirement of having a Christ centered Marriage Relationship together. A.W. Tozer gave a great example of this. He said, "Has it ever occurred to you that one hundred pianos all tuned to the same fork are automatically tuned to each other? They are in one accord by being tuned, not to each other, but to another standard to which each one must individually bow." To be unified together with Christ at the center, we must tune ourselves to Christ not to each other. When we take our relationship with God seriously, He brings the unity to us and for us.

3) Together Seek God.
You should make time to connect spiritually every day as a couple. This is where it gets fun. In order to keep your focus on Him, there are several things you can do. Your relationship may be strong in prayer. You may serve at church or in your community together consistently. Whatever passion God has given you as a couple, go with it!
For us, discussing God’s Word has become our most consistent and powerful spiritual connection. It’s amazing to discuss what God is showing us individually and where He is leading us together to.
When Christ is at the center of your Marriage Relationship, He will do more than you could hope to accomplish on your own, even on your best day. So, take a step to put Him first.

Let me just start things off with this: Your spouse is not your enemy. We all know our true enemy is Satan, who prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.
But it can be surprisingly easy to find ourselves reacting defensively or angrily when the person we love most disagrees with us, can’t it? Any number of issues can lead to...
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A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense. Proverbs 19:11

An elderly grandmother went to lunch with her granddaughter who was about to get married. The granddaughter had always admired her grandparents’ marriage. She wanted to remain married for over fifty years just like they did. Thus, she took this opportunity to glean some wisdom from her grandma about how to keep a marriage strong.

“Grandma,” she asked. “What did you do in order to have such a long and satisfying marriage?”
“Oh it’s simple,” her grandma replied without hesitation. “When I got married I decided to list ten of your granddad’s faults which, for the sake of our marriage, I would choose to overlook.”
“You did?” the soon-to-be-bride asked. “What are some of them?” she continued, looking for an example to help her choose herself.

“I don’t know,” her grandma responded. “I actually never did list them. But whenever Granddad did something that made me fume, I’d just say to myself, ‘Lucky for him that’s one of the ten.’”

If you are married, you know by now that you did not marry a perfect human being. Everyone has faults, weaknesses and even oddities. Oftentimes, these don’t come to the surface until after you say “I do.” But living with someone 24/7 reveals a lot. Unfortunately, fault-finding is one of the most tragic things to happen to a marriage. Primarily because there are plenty of faults to be found, on both sides.
But God instructs us on how to maintain a spirit of love and unity in our marriage when He tells us in Proverbs that it is to our own glory to overlook another’s fault. One way to do this is to always start by giving the benefit of the doubt. Rather than jump to conclusions or rash judgments about your spouse’s faults, mistakes or peculiarities, assume the best first. Let that be the foundation for your questions as you seek to understand the situation at hand. Then, if there truly is a.....
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Morning sex that is sex between 4am-5;30am is the sweetest. that moment when he is still asleep, all his body system have settled down and has his normal morning erection, just sneak out of the bed and go to the kitchen open the refrigerator, put small honey inside your mouth, wake him up with your warm lips on his mouth,caress his body a litu bit by playing with his dick.use the honey and suck his dick like your life depends on it.
His erection will be harder because he has not had his morning pee, the sensation of fucking a wet pussy while holding urine is the sweetest.
Hold him tight and plant a kiss on his lips. Make sure you're without panties or bra, slowly remove your nighty, let him watch you do it.
Stand nude before him and help him removed whatever thing his wearing.
The feelings and smoothness of your skin touching each other is mind blowing. Lay on the bed hugging each other tight, rub him with your breast, kiss him and then slowly go on top him, start sucking his nipples, give it a soft bite slowly and start licking them one after the other. Men nipples are very sensitive to them. They like it when it's been sucked. Then make him lie on his back, be a good wife, kneel on the bed and start giving him a Mouth Action. licked his rod like an ice cream. Take his rod fully into your mouth and start sucking his already hard rod, caressing his balls with your hand. Suck it like your life depended on it.
They love it when you lick their balls. You know those balls? Slowly licked the balls. You will be surprised to hear him moans, if you are doing a great job on him.

Tell him to lie on the bed, climb on him in a cow girl style, ride on him, grind on his penis, bounce on him, you can even twerk on his dick too.
You will hear him begging for more.Then lie in doggy position so that he can take you from back and view your bumbum, make sure your chest touches the bed, issa mind blowing something.
Let him insert his dick with force so it can touched all the walls of your pussy. As he move his dick in and out of you. Help him by raising your hips too, It will make you scream with pleasure. And he will enjoy
every bit of it. Tell him to Bleep you harder, call his name, saying I LOVE U and moan while doing that. Men love to hear you scream their pet name during
love making. Its another turn on for them. Sex without talking is no sex, whisper in his ears while the action is going on, use dirty talk, tell him baby u are the best, sweetie i can die for, there is no one like u, i will
forever love u. Offlove When he will eventually come, help him take his bath and dress him up for work, while taking his breakfast make sure u are looking sexy around him, help feed him and hug him goodbye and don't forget to pray for him.

You have just planted yourself in him, u will be the only thing he thinks of throughout the day, u have also succeeded in making his day great, he will smile at everyone in his workplace.
Lastly make sure u send him nice love message within the day especially when u know he is about
closing for the day, u will see him running back home just to meet u.
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When a lady loves, she loves for real. When she loves you, she becomes happy, she becomes proud of you and she feels happy when talking to you. She will be friend with your friends and relatives, your likes will be her likes, she will change her life style to fit in yours. No matter how much you disappoint her, she will
forgive you before you apologize, yes she loves you.

She will try to be a little bit jealous and protective,because she wants you to be hers and only hers. Her boyfriend will now become her EX, because all her future will be in your hands. She will reject all proposals from other boys.
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No matter how far or near you are, she will protect herself for you. She will like everything you post on Facebook no matter how stupid it is...retweet everything you tweet on twitter and will instantly reply to all ur messages on WhatsApp or Facebook, She won't mind, whether you give her Money or not, whether you are rich or not, coz her interest in you is your future not what you are now. She will show you all her friends and relatives, because she's proud of you!
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Look at that lady, her heart is made of Gold, so precious and full of love. She deserves to be treated as queen.
But this bastard (some guys) after making her love you
wholeheartedly, after making her waste her time on you, after making her reject other guys who would have been useful to her, and after all, having let her show you to everyone she knows that you are the ONE, Now you're leaving her, leaving her broken hearted, guys whom she rejected because of you are going to laugh at her, her friends and relatives will ask, WHERE IS HE WHOM YOU TOLD US?
All she could do is to sit put her head on her knees, cry as if there is no tomorrow. Cry endlessly because she loved you endlessly.
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Guys, don't make that lady regret why she loved you.
Don't make others laugh at her. Fulfill your promises to her, if she wronged you, give her a second chance, everyone deserves it.
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Sex is an important element in marriage and until there is sexual intercourse between a husband and a wife, the marriage is not yet spiritually recognised. This shows how important sex is in marriage.

When you look at how agressive men are towards sex you may think that what a man needs from a woman is sex. Of course, if he has not married you yet or he does not really intend to marry you what he will need from you is nothing above your body. But if he really intends to marry you or if you guys are already married sex is never what he needs from you - maybe let me say it better; "WHAT A MAN NEEDS MOST FROM A WOMAN IS NOT SEX."

Many young girls think because they are sexually active and experience they will easily be married and have their husbands loving them. And when a man approaches for marriage they think the greatest asset they have to show the man is sex. Others also think once they are giving out their bodies it means they are giving out the best for which reason they will be chosen above all.

There is this young girl who is very beautiful and sexually active. Due to that she thought sex is all that matters to a man. Ironically, she struggled for long before finally getting married. Her sexual dexterity could not win her the heart of a man until out of the blue and reason beyong imagination a very handsome good man married her. The wedding was grand and her tears were now gone. Unfortunately only a year after the wedding the marriage fell on rocks. Within five years three different men came her way but none could stay.

The problem was simple. She thought sex was all that matters so she would never submit. But submission is what men need, not sex. It is time for our young ladies to know that when a man is ready to marry he will not look out for a woman who will satisfy his sex drive but a woman who will submit herself to him. Excuse my language, "every woman has vagina but not every woman has humility." So when you are a humble woman, you are an expensive jewelry. And a man of integrity will fear to lose you.

What does the holy �say, "wife, submit to your husband." The reason is that a man's true love goes out only for a woman who is submissive. Your beauty cannot make another woman ugly but your humility can let him love you above all other women.

Sadly, many youngs ladies in our days call submission as "control." And you will hear them saying in tiny romantic voices, "As for me I don't want any man to control me oh." If you don't want to submit don't think of marriage because no man in his right sense will offer his love to a woman whose heart is higher than his height, no matter how short he may be.

When a woman bows her knee before a man, the man will automatically bow his heart before her love. And love her sincerely. There are, of course, recalcitrant men who will not value women of humility but I tell you that every true man does not need sex, but submission. It is submission that truly makes you a romantic wife. So be the African queen you want to be but when it comes to dealing with your husband, play the role of a humble maid. Don't forget that it is the spirit of humility that has caused many maids to hijack their mistresses' husbands. Be your man's queen and be his maid also.

I wish you all the best as you submit in your relationship and marriage. May God bless you with good marriage, my dear sister.

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As a single lady, will you marry him or allow your sister to marry him?

Marriage is such a beautiful gift from the Lord! But our fleshly hearts sometimes make a mess of beautiful gifts. Nagging notions of worry that we may not have married the right man can creep into our minds and begin to take hold of our thoughts. We wonder if perhaps we were too young, have changed too much, don’t get along as well as we used to, or didn’t know each other well enough from the start. We can begin to doubt that our husband is really our “soulmate.”

Sister, may I speak some kind words of wisdom from a fellow mama who has been married a decade and a half and has had a mix of both good years and hard? Let me tell you this…when you married your husband, he became the right one for you! He is the one that you are meant to spend the rest of your life learning to love the way Jesus loves you.

You do not have to wonder anymore if God had something better for you. Your husband is God’s best for you right now and for the remainder of your days on this earth. If you will allow Him, our loving Father will gently use your marriage to show you His love, to refine you, and to make you into the beautiful daughter of the King that He intended you to be.

God wants to use you in your husband’s life to teach him about the love of Christ. You are a messenger of the Gospel of peace to your husband. But guess what this requires: dying to yourself. Do you want to live your best life? Do you want to have the best marriage? You are going to have to die to who you have been in order to grow into the woman God wants you to be. But the most wonderful news is that He will hold your hand and carry you every step of the way.

Sister, look to the Lord today. He is the only “soulmate” you will ever need! Ask Him to show you the ways He wants you to grow in your walk with Him and follow Him in your marriage. Pray that God would replace your fleshly heart with His pure heart of love, compassion, and forgiveness for your husband. Pray that God would show you how to love your husband in the way Christ loves you. I promise, when you walk in this way, there is so much joy and peace ahead!! He has beautiful plans for you and your marriage!
With love in Christ,

"Marriage is one of the most humbling, sanctifying journeys you will ever be a part of. It forces us to wrestle with our selfishness and pride. But it also gives us a platform to display love and commitment."
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Oh, what a life.
Death why why, why death why.
God, may their souls rest in your kingdom, amen.

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Thought it was okay until I started Feeling pain in my breast.


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The one that stain pants which makes ladies to wear pad is menstruation and not fluid.
Vagina fluid helps the penis to penetrate into the vagina without causing issues such as pain or tearing of her vagina wall.
Without vagina fluid it will be difficult for penis to penetrate into the vagina.
That of which you see dripping down when she's Hot is vagina fluid, for men that sucks vagina, you can suck the fluid if she's free from STI and STDS.

Before going into Marriage is important that you know what you want, your vision statement for that Marriage and don't forget that there is no Marriage without challenge.
Marriage is deadly when you want it to be deadly more especially when you didn't prepare for it before going into it.

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What exactly is going on here ?
Can someone say something?

AkeNathan:
Why is Tinubu face not there?

The jagaban has been dumped

It’s easy to fall into the trap of doing what others desire of us rather than what God demands. This is particularly true when we are insecure in our relationships. In Galatians 1:10, Paul writes, “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people?” Notice how he emphasizes the question by asking it twice. Who am I trying to please? Maybe I want my boss to notice me so I get the promotion (or at least keep my job), so I agree to doing something I know is unethical. Perhaps I don’t want to lose a friend, so I verbally agree with her on everything, even when I don’t agree in my heart. To be concerned about careers, friendships, or anything more than God is to replace God with an idol. And it does nothing for relationships, because people- pleasing simply can’t ease insecurity.

Why do we care more about what other people think than what God thinks? Why would we want their praise over the praise of the Creator of the universe? Insecurity.

I want to be in the business of pleasing God, and the only way to do that is to place my security in Him alone. By doing so, I can be in a right relationship with Him as I work on resetting relationships with others so that they become more like what He created them to be.
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Many times people find themselves in relationships that do not demonstrate true love. Whether it is an abusive, ungodly, or hurtful relationship, we have to recognize that this is not of God.
You don't Force yourself to stay in love with someone that you don't really know if he or she truly loves you.
You should identify the difference between lust and true love.
Since God is love, our relationships should reflect God’s love through its acts of....
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Women generally has a way you can please them and you will become her Best friend and lover too.

1) Always be neat. No matter your profession, your lifestyle, your fashion trend or your daily job. Always be neat, it Makes ladies to believe that you are matured, and also that you are a responsible man. Look attractive that your appearance will convince her that you a man and not a boy.

2) Be engaged and hard working. What do you do for a living? What is your job? What is your monthly income like?
Can you be financially responsible for at least some of her well-being if...
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Having in mind to confuse a lady to date you and then after having sex with her you broke up with her is called selfish and a useless lifestyle.

Some people are not supposed to be a soldier.
Simply because they don't value the life of those they are protecting as a soldier.

Most powerful way to win a woman's Heart.

1) Be protective. This doesn't necessarily mean that you should be her bodyguard. It simply means that you shouldn't allow anyone to treat her like nobody. You shouldn't allow anyone to take her for granted or abuse her and go away with it.
Stand for her provided she's not guilty of the circumstances, provided she's innocent in every form of it.
Don't allow her to feel rejected by anyone, even if is by your family and friends.
Speak good about her in every essence of it. It will make her to be proud of you and also believe that you truly love her.

2) Be a man. A man is the male human being that knows what is good, the....
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So the motorist stopped because of her ?
Please convince me oo

Her submission was that since that was what the husband needed the car for (instrument of fornication and adultery), they were better off without it! She therefore bought 4litres of petrol ahead the arrival of her "adulterous" husband to set the car ablaze! End of story!
In his response, the husband thanked everyone present, took note of them and promised to invite them when the issue was ripe for discussion!
Most of the neighbours left with mixed reactions! Some condemning the woman's actions and others saying he deserved what he got...
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sorextee:
That girl is mad.
Later, one bad guy somewhere will do her dirty then she will start saying ALL GUYS ARE THE SAME.

90% of naija ladies are impatient to build a future with a man.
She want already made man even if she doesn't know the real thing the man does for a living and that's why is easy for Yahoo boys to use them.
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Has anyone ever said this to you and what was your reaction to it?

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Breasts is still 100% private parts and nothing can change it only that some women that doesn't know the value of Womanhood don't respect breast as private parts.
Breasts as we all know is one of the most sensitive organ in the body of every woman.
Breasts should be honored and respected too as a private parts.
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No matter how much you fight your fellow lady because of a man, you are making a big time mistake because the man knows who he love.
He knows who he want.
Even if you give him pussy 24/7 if he doesn't love you, he still can't love you.
If you are not after his heart, all that you are doing is bullshit.
So why should any woman fight her fellow woman because of any man?
I really wonder.
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He woke up in the morning and found her praying. He heard her praying for him. He stared at her. It has been a long time since he has seen her praying. For the past few months, they have been arguing. Last night, they had a nasty fight. He went to the kitchen in a hurry to prepare himself breakfast.

These past days, she hasn't been cooking for him. Shock on him. He found breakfast already set at the table. He ate. He went back to the bedroom, to prepare for a shower. She left the shower. "Good morning. Have a blessed day" she said as she entered the bedroom and he left for the bathroom. After his shower, all dressed up for work; he found his wife at the kitchen, eating breakfast in peace. She was looking at some funny videos on her phone and giggling. He looked at her then walked out the door. The last look he had of her before he left was of her at peace.
That last look disturbed him. This is not how she should be. This is not how she has been. He has been hurting her, she has recently found out that he has been flirting with other women, he has cheated once and used money meant for their family on other women. She should be angry. Her peaceful demeanor disturbed him.

Evening came. He went home and met his peaceful wife again. She was cooking and laughing with their children. She had come from work two hours ago. The dinner was enjoyable. Good food, she having warm conversations with the children. He as the father felt left out. His wife and children seemed to be having fun despite him hurting them.
After dinner, as she washed the dishes and the children had gone to bed. He approached her.
"Are you OK?" he asked her.
"I am more than OK. I am blessed "She answered.
"Are you not mad at...
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I have heard them say, that communication is the lifewire of every Marriage and Relationships.
I'm not disputing that fact but how much more do we consider understanding in Marriage or Relationship we are in with our partner?

Understanding plays major role in every Marriage Relationship. No matter how much you were able to communicate with your partner, if he or she does not comprehend what you are communicating then is of no need to continue.

For any Marriage Relationship to be enjoyable, you and your significant other must understand the you way each of you deal with things in every situation.
You must understand the way your significant other react to challenges, it could be Financial challenges, family challenges, emotional challenges, and personal challenges which most of the time is caused by the hectic days at work.
Comprehension, regarding the facts that both of you grew and were trained in different family background and norms, will help you to...
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He will spend hours with you and still go back to his wife. He will give you a hundred orgasms and tell you to take emergency pill. If you dare get pregnant he will tell you to abort while he celebrates his wife missing her pees.
He will ask you to be faithful to him, when he has someone else. While you are in the background, he will post pictures of his beautiful family, talk highly of his wife, and talk about how he loves his children, while he disrespectfully tell his friends what a LovePeddler you are in bed.

You are left wondering about the love he talks about, whether he truely loves you or not. Think about it my sister; why does he make you do all those things to your body and make you believe you supposed to be behind the scene?
How can you even be comfortable being in a relationship that requires you to hide whenever you are with him in public!
You keep quiet and listen to him talk to his wife while you lie on his chest after sex at a lodge, thinking you are fooling his wife, forgetting that your are just fooling yourself, and getting a fool out of yourself. When his wife asked him who are you with there, in your presence he will answer her "NOBODY" so he sees you as nobody and takes you as nobody and you're nobody.
How do you feel when you call him, he cuts the line, only to send a text saying,."Am with my wife, call you later."

Does he really value you? Does he respect you? Does he love you?
Do you think he will one day leave his wife and marry you? The answer to these questions is a big NO!!!
He is just using you for sex, and when he is tired of you, he will throw you away like a used diaper because to him you are just another cheap girl.
Wake up my sister! Instead of breaking your back in bed for a married man in those lodges, break the curse of being a side chick because you deserve better.
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1. The child you aborted.
You are a young lady, you get pregnant and you are scared. You take the aborting option quickly thinking of that moment then. But when you are much older, you will look back and wish you kept that baby. When you will be rich and successful you will wish that child you gave up on would be around to enjoy the fruits of your hard work. Being a single mother doesn't mean you can't make it in life or you can't find a man in future.

2. The child you rejected.
Young man, you impregnated a woman, she told you she's pregnant with your child. You rejected her and the baby and ran. But years later when you're 50 something, you will wish you were responsible, you will wish you manned up and became a father to that child. You will see that child excel and become an adult but will have no claim to that grown child who you rejected from the beginning. You will regret being a Dead Beat Dad by choice

3. The marriage you destroyed.
So you get married to your good fiance; the first months in marriage were good but shortly after, with your money and charm, you started having affairs. You became unfaithful. Your spouse begged you to stop, your children started hurting, your marriage was collapsing. One day when you are older, it will hit you how foolish you were to destroy the good marriage you had began to build for mere temporary thrills in affairs that did you no good. You will realize the damage you caused to your children and spouse.

4.The God you disowned.
When you are much older you become..
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How many of us have haphazardly traveled through life and allowed the wrong relationships to form in our lives?
How do you really know if you are in a relationship God intended?

Check in with the Master.
For every relationship, it is extremely important to check with God first. Connecting with the right person may not only affect our lives but our loved ones as well. Nothing teaches us this lesson better than the story of Esther. Her marriage to King Ahasuerus had a God intended purpose and an awesome power.

Because she was in the right place at the right time, she was able to save her people from death. But what if she connected with the wrong person or simply been disobedient to the plans God had for her life? This reminds us of this: the person we are connected to could either help or hinder us. Are you in the right relationship for such a time as this?

Discernment.
God give us all the power of discernment and wisdom, if we ask! Before entering any relationship, ask God what is this person’s purpose for my life? Acknowledge God’s wisdom for your life, and question whether you should move forward with this relationship or simply move out. God will reveal His will. More importantly, once God reveals His purpose be prepared to...
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