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lalopeto:
Hmm.. I don't starve her. You see when the going was still good she was the one that normally complains that my wahala too much for inside room. Na fire make cray fish bend.I just relayed 30% of our marriage story to you. Nevertheless, I do appreciate your advice and now that I am back home I will start my wahala again when we resume intimacy by the grace of God. Thanks

Please make her to see reason why sex is good for you guys and also good for your healths.
See it here
https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/08/the-untold-health-benefit-of-having-sex.html?m=1

lalopeto:
Good day nairalanders. I have decided to come here for advice and way forward because I know we have both intelligent people and professionals here. Our marriage officially clocked 10 years recently and it has experienced ups and downs, break ups, separation( for close to 3 years). We came together last year and it's over a year now that we have been living together. Though I come home every 3 months from the north where I worked to check my family. Recently I got a transfer back home and now come home from work from a neighboring city every weekend to see them. The problem I heard with my wife is more of a spiritual thing which she now admitted was anchored by her mother. since 2015 up till now no sex between me and my wife, we do all other things together like planing, praying and stuff. I even open a shop worth over 300k for her but, with all these no intimacy between us. she separated our rooms before the separation and now that she is back again, she still don't want us to share an intimate moment with our different rooms. The marriage is blessed with two lovely girls and they are doing great in their academics. What do i do to fix this? Please help a brother in pain.

You can proof me wrong if you have seen any long distance relationship that worked according to what you put down here.
You don't need a visionary to tell you that your wife need someone that can be put oil inside her vagina when you are away for months before visiting again.
Call her attention in the bedroom, you must first apologize to her for starving her sexually because she is human and she has sexual feelings too.
The major reasons for the ups and downs is because she needed you emotionally and physically too but you are not there.
When she needs you to have sex with her you are not there.
When she needs you to romance her and probably tell her how beautiful and charming she is you are not there.
These things affected your Marriage and you should be responsible for it and fix it.

Apologize to her for starving her and then beg her that you have totally come back to be with her.
Don't ask her to confess anything to you because the confession may destroy your Marriage forever
If she didn't change for good, then involve her family and your family, but don't forget to be very close with someone that she always listen to in her family.

You can also read to be in a healthy and Thriving Marriage.
https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/08/how-to-be-in-healthy-and-thriving.html?m=1

emmaphy22:
Hey guys, I feel like sharing my experience with you guys since nobody understands me in real life.
I'm from Kaduna state and I was posted to Ondo state for my youth service last year. I met this Igbo lady in Ondo around November last year and we decided to hookup. It was as if I've never met a girl in my life with the way I love her so much. We started dating but she wasn't that free with me, and I wasn't OK with that. With time we got used to each other including all her family members. I showed her love so much that people around her including her sister and friends began to envy our relationship. I planned on getting married to her in which she was also aware of but despite the fact that her family members are against our union as a result of tribal differences, she was still ready to take the risk because her mum was in support. Fast forward to 2019, she loves to go out with her friend to visit people mostly boys and I've warned her about it several times and she promised to change. Despite some challenges in the relationship, we still settle within short period of time. Two months ago I rounded up my service and decide to move down to abuja, but to my surprise, this lady in question suddenly changed towards me. If I call she hardly pick and when she pick she will give the phone to her friend to speak to me that she is not around. Two days ago I called her and she picked and started telling me everything that is wrong. She gave the excuse that we are not married yet and I'm telling her not to go out and visit people that it won't work. And that I placed someone that will be monitoring all her movement which is a lie. She was just giving excuses and wrong accusations.
The way she spoke to me that day make me belief that she as move on. Meanwhile someone very close to her already told me that she is seeing someone else. This is a girl that we plan on getting married in the next two years but now I don't think its possible because she no longer pick my call again.
I love her so much and she knows that. I've never for once show love like that to anyone. I can't afford to loose her just like that but I think she doesn't think the same way. I've decided to let her go but her thought is weighing me down and I don't know what to do now.

You guys are close but how close are you intimately?
You may be giving her all the care, all the money but do you care about her emotional drive?
Most reason why ladies break up with guys is when she is not given attention and good sex.
From what you said, she has moved on with another guy and she doesn't want to continue in the relationship with you.

Your next step should be.
Call her again, call her sweet names more than you usually do. Then apologies to her for all those things she accused you of, even though you didn't do it.
Make her to understand how much you love her even though another guy has brain washed her.
It may be hard but don't give up until you see that she doesn't want you in her life again.

One bad side about love is that,
Most times, the person we love with our hearts and is even ready to spend our life with, doesn't love us back .

Read how to be in a healthy and Thriving Marriage or Relationship
https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/08/how-to-be-in-healthy-and-thriving.html?m=1

bluefilm:
I read somewhere she's a lesbian.

So she doesn't even need a man.

No wonder she doesn't care to be naked for the public to see

Just to be popular, a woman decided to make her boobs public TV

I can only see that she is frustrated as a woman.
Tomorrow she will say no man is coming to marry after she has gone naked for the world.

NLSavage:
Guy

What I said is fact

Blackivy27:
After giving a man your loyalty, trust, respect and love he still cheats on you.
im beginning to feel there aren't any guys out there who believe in commitment. Why cant they value the vows of a boy/girl relationship.

Every man is not the same.
Most men cheat for their own personal reason.
Cheating is a lifestyle, is a choice made by some person's that they can't live without Cheating.
Cheating isn't compulsory and not mandatory either.
I can't cheat on my woman, I haven't cheated on her before.
Instead of me to cheat, I rather Break up with her simple.

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I have nothing to do with my ex.
She almost ruin my life.
She made me to cry like a baby just because of how I was treated by her.
She took my love for her for granted.
She said she loves me mean while she just wanted to eat me and run.
She said she loves me but was having sex with another guy to the extend of pregnancy for the guy.
She was the greatest disaster that has ever happened to me.
Am very glad we are no more together.
Thank God I no longer have her phone number again.
It was what I passed in her hand that makes me to start advising people on how to be happy in their relationship and Marriage.

NIGERIA is the only country that builds house but failed to create way for erosion.
Now the erosion has find them come inside their house.

Shibaraba:
But news people can lie sha. This lie na him thick pass anything wey I Don see for my life. Street wey Everyman Don japa as them no know who dem find come. Nobody dey house jare. Na all those olokada and street boys na them gather.
Bloggers cannot make heaven. Na now I confirm. If you're a blogger forget you dey go hell fire. If that one still dey o for I'm sure na the hell wey bible dey talk about we dey so.

He violated one of the 48 laws of power. "Never attempt to outshine the master". Never.

Not all bloggers will go to hell fire oo.
It depends on the area the person is blogging.
I can't lie just to get attention from people.
Check my signature and confirm this too
https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/08/how-to-sexually-satisfy-any-woman.html?m=1

And if I lied please come back and tell me.

There are many fruits and vegetables that can naturally boast libido and as well add value to the man's health.
Taking somethings you saw well packaged in a bottle can seriously affect the health of any man.
God gave us everything, even the fruits and vegetables that we should eat to satisfy our woman in bed.
Find them here and say no to one minute in bed or any concoction you wanted to take.
https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/08/how-to-sexually-satisfy-any-woman.html?m=1

Why in front of the church?
The rapist has dare God.
May her rest in peace, amen

Katier00:
in your heart of heart what do you think

Good characters of course because virgin fades away but good characters don't fade.

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DON'T TRY TO CHANGE YOUR SPOUSE.
It’s not our job to fix people; it’s our job to love them even while they are broken.
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davidflipcy5856:
Chosen for 'good characters', because after the first round of sex the hymen is gone forever and she is no more a virgin. Now, the man is left to deal with her 'not too good characters'

You got it.
Marriage is not about virgin but about attitude of the individual involved

nairalandposter:
Who, what why?

Is it your business, just wondering.

What are your own preferences, are you a believer in community marriage stuff where an entire community feels they are married to one single woman.

Does that make sense?

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healthserve:
Better single than sorry

Yes nah.
How can a lady wake up one morning and then design the type of man she want mean while she's not the standard for the man she want to marry

healthserve:
Pakam them don start to break bottle. Fight don start, e go soon blow.


Na where the mods. FP wars. This will boost traffic farano rocktation wouldn't you agree?

What I said is pure Truth.
There are men who are even ready for Marriage but there no lady to marry.

I will reverse what you said.
Ladies everywhere but no wife for the men.
95% of ladies today is not ready for Marriage, they just want someone they will answer his name.
They don't want to work but just to eat what someone son has laboured for some years and that's why most men don't value ladies again because they are seen as liability, after all the only thing she can offer is sex.
There are ladies everywhere but there's no wife for the men.

LillyVal:
Men everywhere, no husbands for the girls

Everywhere you look, you see beautiful ladies languishing. They could have moved on. But our puritanical society hates single mothers and despises unmarried ,
The truth is that there're so many men who're willing to marry but the girls we have today are looking for men who own cars and houses, The price of bride price is high there's no good job around,so the guys just promise them marriage,sleep with them,dump them and run away!

The heading is saying different from the message you are conveying.

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Katier00:
discuss what exactly

When it comes to getting married to a woman, is she preferably choosen because she is a virgin or because of her good characters?

Marry a wife and not a virgin.
Do you want to marry her because you met her a virgin or because she has the attributes you want in a woman?

Let's discuss

bluebay:
To be honest, we have had several issues and I end up forgiving and I’ve been seeing it as I want to get married to her out of pity and because of our boy but I must say the truth. Am not happy in this relationship. Am I’ve seek for help but ending up back to square 1

Here’s the fact
She’s takes her time work in the house but she does it at the wrong time . For instance last week, she just woke up and started using the machine to wash, without bathing our son nor feeding him. I tried to correct and and she just told me I should stop it for it’s what she likes doing she will.

Lately, she becomes lazy to go out to buy things. For the past month, I’ve been the one going to buy food stuffs, emptying the wastebin and even going all the errand for am on leave . It go obvious that people in my street always ask why do I alway go to the market . Anytime I ask her to, she’s always giving excuse of either she’s tired l, feeling pains or she can’t carry my boy out . It got worse that I even go buy her pads for her . She’s always like , buy this when coming, carry the dirty out and empty it. Am really tired

In the beginning, friendship was not in the relationship and that's seriously affecting it.
If you ask me, I will say you should end the Relationship because the Marriage will not work.
I know you love her but she doesn't want to work on herself so you guys can enjoy the Marriage.
It may be painful to you if you break up with her but your health and happiness is important regarding the fact that this issue is now affecting your health.

No Marriage can work without sex.
We don't have to pretend about it here.
Even if you don't want sex before marriage, at least you should both play a romantic play and if he's a man his penis will respond while still inside his boxer.
Is very crucial o.
Sex is not food but not in Marriage.
Sex is good and great to our health too.
https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/08/the-untold-health-benefit-of-having-sex.html?m=1

bluebay:
To be honest, we have had several issues and I end up forgiving and I’ve been seeing it as I want to get married to her out of pity and because of our boy but I must say the truth. Am not happy in this relationship. Am I’ve seek for help but ending up back to square 1

I ended my Relationship with my girlfriend then because I know our marriage can't work.
I had heart attacks in two different occasions because of her so I gave her some nasty character which made to break up with me without knowing that I have decided to end the Relationship.
Please never you marry out of pity for either your boy or because of her.
Even if you got married to someone else, your boy is still your boy. Worst come to worst you will be sending her money to take care of your boy for you but don't Marry out of pit because you will regret it.
If you know you can't cope, please give her character and she will Break up with you then you move on with your life.
Don't Marry anyone for pity, don't Marry with the believe that you can manage either.
You only manage what came up in manage and not what you know before you get married.
Even what came up in marriage, you can decide to go for divorce if you think you can't cope.

Let's discuss

Single mothers are very good but not all of them because some of them are single mothers due to their characters that chased them out of their man's house.
Some are single mom because the man responsible for the pregnancy broke up with her when the pregnancy came up.
Some are single mom Because she's a victim of rape.
Some are single mom because the family of the guy said their son can't Marry her.
Some are single mom because she refused to abort the pregnancy.
Most single mom are very good when it comes to good wife and good mother to your children because they have gotten the experience on how to manage a home and also manage Marriage conflict.
Marry single mom if she is okay for you to marry.
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This is why I once said that breast is no longer a private party since is no longer being respected by women.

zoba88:
According to the story shared by Young Doc,a man killed another man in Abakiliki and buried him in the farm because of N3m.He was later caught.

Below is what he wrote...

'Nothing is hidden under the sun a man kill his follow man just bz of 3million and buried him there in the farm my brother and sister be careful the world are turning up side down
Know the kind pple u associate with

Rip bro at obeke Nike. Abakiliki pple una strong ooh'.


Source: http://www.trezzyhelm.com/2019/08/man-kills-another-man-in-ebonyiburies.html

Please this story is not complete.
Because of 3million, how?
Is dead man owing the murderer?
Or the murderer is owing the dead man?
What is 3million doing in this case please

From perspective, failed relationship have one thing in common: Relationship fail due to a difference in the desire and ability to create true intimacy .

Don't you always wonder why relationships are fun in the beginning and then it feels like something isn't there anymore. Someone stopped doing what they did to get you now that you are theirs, they feel like they don't have to try as hard to keep you, before they used to pay attention, send you love message all the time, reply back quickly, be on phone for hours, have so much to say, always doing this and when you didn't even ask them to, be all over you. Now, they have run out of things to talk about, conservation's are dead, not making you feel like you are wanted by them that when you guys start drifting.

SOME MEN focus more on how to get a woman, they can do whatever it takes to get her but once they have her and after getting what they wanted, they loose focus on how to keep her. They start showing their true colours, the love fades away, they...
https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/08/why-some-relationship-failed.html?m=1

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