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There is a reason for the arrest so he most be informed of his offenses, other he should sue them because is the same as abduction.

LolaO:
My relationship of 5 years ended in the most heartbreaking way.

He got transferred to Asaba from Lagos and months later just stopped talking to me, no communication, no closure, nothing, just like that.
It’s been 5 months now.

This is someone I had planned my whole life around.

Distance does not make the heart go fonder.

I am so hurt, it hurts.

I'm sorry to inform you that your sweetheart has met with another damsel
in Asaba.
A relationship of 5 good years is supposed to be sealed with marriage
2 years ago, however you can deal with the situation and over come it if you can
follow this untold Keys that makes Long Distance Relationship to Work
which is....
.https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/10/the-8-keys-that-make-long-distance.html

Aboubou:
I met a lady I really liked and I only saw her once. We got along very well until the devil interfered and spoilt her phone. She got a new phone after a couple of weeks and things were not the same again, as the saying " out of sight out of mind " was what manifested in her case. While unfortunately for me "absence makes the heart grows fonder" was my own case. I tried all I could to get her out of my heart but to no avail. The more I force her out the more I fall in love. But I have a feeling part of it may be because she has not seen me or my picture since the first and only time we met, because I don't upload my pictures on any of my social media platform, I only post my works and there is something she does, anytime I upload about my work she is always the first to like it. Which makes it harder to forget her. I have had experience with a couple of girls that snubbed and ignored me online and also my calls but when I mistakenly met them the opposite was the case. One major obstacle now is that i got angry with her a couple of times because I hate being ignored and because of this I said horrible things to her. This happened several times which led to her blocking me. I called her with a new number and she was almost crying that she is tired of my attitude that am always hurting her that she can't deal with it. She does not want to have anything to do with me again. I just got a girlfriend and in the first week of our relationship i totally forgot about this other girl but as the relationship become older and boring I have started thinking about her again. Is there anyone here that have gone through similar experience because I am tired of forcing her out of my mind.

Is not easy getting over a break up but here is the best steps
that will really help you to deal with it.
https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/07/the-best-things-to-do-after-break-up-or.html

Lighthammer:
I don't understand how things is going again,everything has gone wrong,am in debt,no good job,everything has fallen apart.....struggled to no avail....
maybe i should just end it all

You can overcome it all, don't blame yourself for anything,
don't blame anyone either.
Avoid been lonely, go out with friends, no matter how small a job could be, try to
be engaged in it while you wait the big ones or while you wait for the ones that
is specifically for your profession.
Read more about deal with suicide....
https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/07/the-causes-of-suicide-you-must-avoid.html

I know how this feels. The frustration, the sleepless nights, the stench from the blood sucking insect-demons, when you hand-kill them.

I'll tell you how I got rid of mine after spending so much on these guys that carry insect spray containers behind.

You will have to do away with some affected properties. This will cost a whole lot of work.

I started by discarding my bed, mattress, pillows, bed sheets, rugs, if need be....even your wardrobe. Your sitting room chairs and upholstery should be discarded or sold if they've been affected or infected by the insect.

All my curtains and clothes were soaked in very hot water(over 100 degree Celsius) and I added detergent to it. Washed them all, dried them and put them in a black polyethylene bag(like the one they use for dirts). Tied them all up.
Poured very hot detergent water on the floors and all corners of the floor, on the walls, from top to the floor.

Then I bought "sniper".....yes you read well, I used sniper and it did the magic. I bought the biggest one. The one they sell for 3k and I bought two...that is 6k, with a spray cap and container. I covered my nose very tight and I started spraying carefully from one corner to another. I took time. I sprayed all the walls, lintels, even the rods used to hold the curtains. No part was left unsprayed. I sprayed all doors, windows, door handles, electric mains, wires, I mean....nothing was left unsprayed. Though I was doing it intermittently because the "sniper" was choking. So I run out for fresh air, relax and go back in to start where I stopped.

Mind you, all doors and windows were closed while spraying. I also sprayed all my books, dictionary, Bible, hymn book, all the books and table. I mean every every was sprayed intoto.

I couldn't enter the house for a week because of the choking smell. I went to stay with a family member.
After all done, I started repainting the walls and refixing things.

At the end, I conquered them. It's been almost a year now and I have never seen any single bug again. Not even one.

This process is time consuming and very stressful, but at the end, you will smile again.

Serious work but victory at last

The major reason for this sudden change is due to the fact that many people forget about the care, love and the attention they have been giving to their Partner during courtship so you don't expect the person emotional life not to change.
Keep on being caring and loving to each other and you will enjoy your Marriage.

Men are the causes of the breast problem women are facing because is the move to please men that makes women to go for breast implants or breast enlargement.
No size of breast is a mistake by God, whether big or small breast, it all awesome and attractive.

Normally pregnancy is divided into 3 phases called trimesters. Each trimester is unique and is marked by specific fetal developments and milestones.
Trimesters make it easier for management and tracking of expected developments in a growing baby. A pregnancy is considered full-term at 40 weeks. However, babies delivered before the end of week 37 are considered premature. In some cases, premature babies may have problems with normal growth and development, as well as difficulties in breathing and digesting. Some premature babies however might have no problems at all.

First Trimester (0 to 13 Weeks)
Of the three phases, first trimester is the most crucial and important to your baby's development. A lot of vital organ development occur at this stage of pregnancy. Expectedly during this period, your baby's body structure and organ systems develop. Unfortunately, most miscarriages and birth defects occur during this period.
In this trimester, the mother’s body undergoes major changes and these changes often cause a variety of symptoms, including
• nausea,
• fatigue,
• breast tenderness
• and frequent urination.
Although these are common pregnancy symptoms, every woman has a different experience and are wired differently. For example, while some may experience an increased energy level during this period, others may feel very tired and emotional. Also, while some will experience extreme vomiting and nausea, others might just be ok.

Second Trimester (14 to 26 Weeks)
This phase, starts from 14 weeks and ends by 26 weeks. The is often called the "golden period" because many of..
https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/11/stages-of-pregnancy-and-baby-activities.html?m=1

Most times parents give this instructions or caution base on experience or the nature and the lifestyle of that tribe or region.
Here are some of the tribe that most parents have told their son not to marry from or some single guys has vowed not to marry from, is not because they are not Beautiful and endowed but due to one of the reasons I mentioned above.
Find out more here.....
https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/09/some-of-tribes-that-has-most-expensive.html

AlphikkaTech:
How would you tell your wife the food is salty without offending her?

Call her by the usual sweet name you always call her and then ask her if she observed the new sachet of salt she bought now is more active than the previous one.
(Whether she bought new sachet of salt or not, you have called her attention to the salty taste of the food which is the main reason why you called her)
If she said yes, then tell her to reduce hand next time while cooking.

donbachi:
Honeypie,my love,the queen of my heart,sweet,world no1 chef......please,don't be offended.....Lot wife follow u cook dis food?

Not everyone will easily understand you because you are now speaking in parables.

Don't be too fast to quit your relationship because you see some bad behaviours in your partner; the truth is we all are humans.
No human is perfect and there is no human being that does not have one or two commas.

If you keep on searching for a perfect person to marry, then you will keep searching forever and end up not getting married; this is because perfect person does not exist; person that has all the qualities you want does not exist.
All you need to do is to correct your partner.

When you observe some characters you don't like in your partner, do not quit the relationship instantly, rather, correct him or her; counsel him or her.

Do not expect your partner to change immediately after you corrected him or her. Give him or her some time to change gradually; change is a slow process. Be patient.
This is mistake many people make, When they notice an ugly behaviour in their partner, they quit the relationship.

It is very wrong. It doesn't show maturity. Mature people don't quit relationships like that; they give their partners time to change gradually and then tolerate each other but listen be patient for him or her to change if you notice they really want to change.

Please I want you to understand something "you can't change your lover, if your lover doesn't want to change" so be careful when being patient and waiting for who doesn't want to change to change.
You can't change him or her if he/she doesn't want to change, only them can change themselves.

I didn't said you should go and die in bad relationship, remember " you can't change your lover, if your lover doesn't want to change" some relationship need letting go especially in dating.
Not waiting and loving a fool who keep cheating to change whereby he or she doesn't want to change.

Sometimes some people can't change that's the fact unless they want to change.
(Marriage can't even change them) Don't believe in marriage they will change, it doesn't happen, you can't expect your partner to change overnight because....
https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/10/15-signs-that-shows-girl-is-really-in.html?m=1

Some girls will tell you no sex but she's having sex with her neighbor or her boss or her ex or her colleague.
Imagine someone that told me no sex one year later got pregnant for another guy.

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NLSavage:
how are you even sure she's a virgin?

see bro, I've dated a girl that told me she is a virgin but when i went down with her, she was as loose as a borehole. funny thing is that when we broke up, one of my guy approached her and she kept on insisting that she's a virgin. Its a funny world we live in bro.

Instead of her to wholly tell you that she is no longer interested in sex before Marriage, she claimed she's a virgin.
Hope you asked her who drilled the borehole in between her legs?

id2019:
What's stopping you from fixing date for the white wedding. She told u all this before the relationship started.

The main things or rites in the Marriage as required by the tradition has been done, so they are legally married and not until white wedding.

igwegeorgiano:
Friends on NL I greet you all. Trust your day is going well? It is with very heavy heart and confused state of mind I sent this post on this platform so you can advise me on what line of action I should take. Pastors and genuine men of God should also advise me on what to do as well.

There is this lady i have been dating for about a year and 6 months now. We love each other to the moon and most importantly we respect each other opinion and decisions. She is a born again christian who appreciates the things of God more than she appreciates me which of course I have no issues with.

When we agreed to start up a relationship after being friends for about 6 months, it was agreed that there will be no sex until the wedding night but at a point I asked her "what if we are done with traditional marriage rites are we still not gonna have sex? To my creates surprise she said we won't until church wedding is done. I did not actually took her serious.

Fast forward, on the 15th of July 2019 the traditional marriage was done in her father' compound in the east and all I was asked to pay and give was paid and given without any remainder . after the traditional marriage we went back to my house in abuja. Note that we were not staying together before now. I am base in abuja while she is in owerri. When we got home that night I told her we can now make love as husband and wife hence the traditional rites has been done and most importantly the bride price paid. To my amazement my wife bluntly refused. She told me she will never compromise her stand on pre marital sex

I have been very faithful to our agreement based on her claim that she is a virgin. But refusing me my right over her body after every thing including the bride price has been paid is something I can never subscribed to and to this end I have I have involved her parent and her pastor her decision however, still remain no sex till the wedding night. I am putting the wedding on hold for now until she willingly allow me make love to her and she seems not to be comfortable with my decision as well.

This is the dilemma I have found myself please I need your wise counsels on this. Thanks and remain bless. Moderators kindly push this post to the front page so it can have adequate views it deserves thanks

Hope you guys did all the necessary test before going ahead with the marriage?
Such as Fertility Test, STI or STD test and many others.
There maybe secret she is hiding from you, she doesn't want you to know about it so you will not change your mind.
Read this SEVEN secret your partner maybe hiding from you which will open your eyes....
https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/10/the-7-secrets-your-partner-may-have.html?m=1

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Where are those that always patronize ashawo?
Come Here and speak their language

Why are they only interested in Lagos Ibadon railway, is other states not part of the country?

eddy1234:
lolz....already smiling at my question... OK guys what do u do ,or how do you remedy this situation? I mean if a girl you love so much has a loose and watery vagina ...

cos at that moment sex becomes boring to you and you feel nothing ....she has a son already though ....and u got a big dick cos other girls attest to that as they groan in pains during sex.....

There are ways you can use to tighten loosed vagina and her vagina will be like that of 20 years lady that just started having sex and you will enjoy sex as much as you want with her.

Hamachi:
Your boyfriend is not your husband!

A guy approached you for a relationship, and you tell him, 'I have a boyfriend', boyfriend ke. It's very wrong to tell a guy, "I have a boyfriend', when a
guy asks you out. Its totally wrong!

I once met a Lady of like 25 years I really admired, I asked her out and she boldly told me, 'no! I have a boyfriend!' Jesus!

A boyfriend at 25 years? A boyfriend has no right over any girl, because he is not yet matured to have a woman, that is why he is a boy.

You can only tell someone, " I am engaged or I am married'. Telling a man that came your way you have a boyfriend simply means you are still a kid playing around with a boy.

You can't keep a boyfriend for the rest of your life and expect to be married. A boy must graduate to a youth, then to a man. A boy is someone that keeps a girl for fun, a fiancé is someone that want to marry her, and man is that person that finally pay her dowry. Having a boyfriend that sex you doesn't mean you are in a serious relationship or you have a man that will marry you: it simply means, 'I have a boy that I have fun with'

You can have as many boyfriends at a time, but you can only have one fiancé and one husband. Dont tie down your destiny with a boy. Don't tie down your destiny because of ignorant.

Having a boyfriend is just like having a normal friend. Having an intimate boyfriend is like having a sexual partner, that marriage isn't yet involved. It is not being in a relationship. Anybody is free to toast you. Having sex with a boy doesn't mean you guys are committed for each other. You can be in a sexual relationship and thinks or feels you are in a committed relationship. Committed relationship starts the moment you both had graduated from that childish fantasy, from that childish fallacy.

Ie, when he finally proposed to you and meet your parents.
Stop being ignorant!
Stop living in ignorance.
You can reject your husband because of a boyfriend. Don't ever be proud just because you have a boy that sleep

If all singles should stay from women both married and singles, crime will be on the highest level of it.

The barbwire that is kept for devil has killed him

Mrcashman87:
I am not new to Nairaland but I have to use this account for my story . I have met her in 2009 she was calm , doesn’t talk much but easily get angry and I also noticed that she wasn’t a good cook but was good in other things ( chores) , it didn’t stopped me from loving her, I didn’t tell any of my people even though I have sisters that are good cook but I decided to take her to catering school to learn how to cook which she went for lessons to practice.

We got married in 2013 , she got pregnant that same month and she became so lazy that I will go to work and come back to found the house very messy with everything’s all over the places , dirty dishes and not dinner yet, and I have to take over cleaning and cooking dinner for us. She claimed she could not longer clean the house , she is tired and need to rest so I have decided to get a house help for her , a small 14 years old, this girl was hard working , very obedient but to my wife she is evil , every single day I comes back from work , this girl is always in tears my wife will beat the hell out of her to the extent of giving her black eye , if I confront her she will start accusing me of sleeping with the girl which is not true, I can never stoop so low to sleep with an underage girl. I have nieces of similar ages what I wouldn’t want another person to do to my nieces and wouldn’t do to another person daughter.

One time I came back from work to found the girl in a pool of blood , that my wife hit her with a wooden chair and she had a deep cut on her head , I got angry with my wife even her reasons didn’t make sense to me , all because she asked the poor girl to warmed up the baby milk and she mistakenly left it for too long , the milk was too hot to give to the crying baby so she got angry at her and hit her . I have told my wife she shouldn’t act like that no matter what and here come again you are sleeping with her and that’s why u are siding with her , we had an heated argument that I have left the house to cool down , I came back after 5 hours and next morning I have send for my brother to take the girl back to her parents , I have given her money 30k to manage that was how the girl left the house.

When our first child was 6 months , we found out she was 2 months pregnant she cried that the baby is too small , she can’t keep the pregnancy , I have begged her to keep that everything will be alright . Our twins were born a girl and boy , having 3 children under 2 wasn’t easy for us and I have to go to work while she staying with the kids all alone and she was depressed , I have decided to bring in a house help 15 years old boy , the same thing repeated again , she was maltreated him the same thing she did with the girl , that boy didn’t even stays with us for 2 months , he run away . I came back to found her crying that the boy has slapped her and run away, I was angry for what he did even swear if I catch him , he will regret the day he was born but the other way I knew that boy did it for self defence .

After the boy left I said no more e help , she will have to manage alone because I couldn’t help her anymore , but my house become dirty that I wouldn’t even want to bring in visitors because of the state of the house , dirty plates can stay in the sink for 3 -4 days , laundry she has a washing machine but she couldn’t bother to do , cooking we eats take away every single night , imagine I comes back home 9pm due to my job and Lagos traffic , at that time I’m even exhausted but I have to started cleaning , one time I got pissed with her that she didn’t wash the eldest daughter school uniform and all her uniform 5 sets of uniform were dirty and she had no clean one to put on in the morning , I have to wash them at 10pm and for her she didn’t see anything wrong with that.

When the twins were 1 years she told me she is tired of staying at home that she wanted to go to work , I have told her to wait at least for them to be a year and 6 months to start school before she can pursue her career but she disagreed with me, so I gave her money for business , she opened a shop . We had an agreement that she should be closing down her shop at 7pm so she could be home with the kids and take care of the house , she was ok and I got a elderly woman as a help , she doesn’t lives with us , she comes at 6 am and closes at 8pm and I also brought 2 of my nieces 18 and 11 to the house. Every since she started working she has never get home on time , sometimes she stays until 10pm , if I talk she get angry and will start raining insults on me , we haven’t make love in a long time , she always complains of being tired , her stomach is paining her etc etc. I have decided to leave her alone and not bother her about sex anymore , and it doesn’t bother too. She acts as im a nobody to her. So it happened in July I came back home to found my niece 11 years old with a deep cut and blood on her eyebrows and my wife did it just because the girl broke a plate so she hit the girl with the broken plate , first all I had to rush her to the hospital and she had 11 stitches and went back home, all I wanted to sit with her and to talk sense with her but she wasn’t even interested all she could do was shouting at me , accusing me of sleeping with both my nieces and the elderly house help , was so angry that I have beaten her badly which I later regretted and apologise to her.

That was the first time I have lay my hand on her something I vow not to do to the woman I love but she pushed me so bad and I have been remorseful but she refuse to forgive me . It’s now 4 months we don’t talk , we don’t sleep in the same room , she just do her own and come home anytime she pleases. I just don’t know what to do anymore , I love my wife and children but her attitudes isn’t right. We have 3 beautiful children 5and twins are 4. Sometime i want to divorce her but when I think about my children I just don’t feel like going ahead with divorce but I’m also a human and can’t stop living like this .

Please my brothers and sisters help me with your advices

I have always said that Marriage is a life of it's own and a world of it's own.
People changes in marriage and not that Marriage Changes people.
The hidden characters of your wife is what you are now seeing in your Marriage with her.
It will be better for you to report her to her family, this is touch, this is what usually leads to domestic violence even though you have already hit her once.
She is going too far.
Report her

It will really help the economy of Nigeria to grow big and strong if only the federal government should now support the NIGERIA farmer and every other business by making loan accessable and also making the business environment to be conducive for them to operate.
There shouldn't be strict policy for the business owners as well.
With this, Nigeria economy will grow big and strong.

Thanks to God they are choosen by merit and not by connection.

How can we be sure of this things stated here.
The fact remains that we know that no big company like Innoson can say anything against the federal government, unless if he wants to be destroyed in one month.

Sex gives most of the greatest Health benefits you can't get in your daily meal.
Here are the 10 goodness of sex you should know that nobody has told you.

1 . Having sex relieves headaches. Every time you make love , it releases the tension in the veins of the brain.
2 . A lot of sex can clear the stuffy nose. Sex is a natural antihistamine . It helps to fight against asthma and spring allergies .
3 . Making love is a spectacular beauty treatment. Scientists have discovered that when a woman has sex , it produces a large amount of estrogen that gives shine and softness to hair.
4 . Sex is one of the safest sports. Make love often strengthens the muscles of male and female body. It's more enjoyable than swimming 20 laps in the pool and there is not need special shoes!
5 . Make love slowly , smoothly and in a relaxed way reduces the chances of suffering dermatitis, skin rashes and acne . The sweat produced cleanses the pores and makes your skin glow .
6 . Lovemaking can burn all the calories you have accumulated during the romantic dinner before bedtime.
7 . Sex is a divine remedy for depression. It releases endorphins into the bloodstream , creating a state of euphoria and leaving women and men with the feeling of being unique.
8 . Sex is the tranquilizer and muscle relaxant to a safer world . It is a thousand times more effective than Valium .
9 . Sexually active body releases more pheromones. .
10 . Kissing each day will keep you more time away from the dentist . Kissing is an art which makes the cleaner teeth and saliva reduces the amount of acid that causes tooth decay . This prevention eliminates many problems , in addition to offering a breath constantly renewed!!!
if you can't hold body, go and...https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/08/how-to-sexually-satisfy-any-woman.html?m=1

Sis Yetunde walked hastily into the buzzing Lagos traffic. She wanted to get to the nearest bus stop as soon as possible. She had a lot of files to attend to in the office and she just wasn't ready to waste anytime ;that was why she decided to go by a local bus popularly known as "molue", a commercial vehicle instead of going in her car. She didn't want to get stuck in the hold up very much typical of the busy Lagos roads.
As she approached the bus top she bought a newspaper from a vendor, clutching it tightly against her chest, hoping to read it in her office during recess. Sis Yetunde had heard of many strange occurrences that morning ;series of news about mysterious kidnappings and presumed disappearances of people.
"It isn't strange anyway, it's a sign of the last days". She thought aloud to herself as she alighted at the next bus stop close to her workplace and walked down the driveway, humming a tune.
She had hardly sat down to begin her work for the day when Ada, her secretary knocked on her door.
"Yes, come in". Yetunde said looking up.
"Good morning Ma". Ada greeted genuflecting as she walked in, looking puzzled. "A lady is here to see you ma, her name is Sis Kene". Ada said.
"Let her in"Sis Yetunde replied.
It was sis Kene, Sis Yetunde's prayer partner in church. It had been long since they met last as sis Yetunde's promotion had increased her workload in the office. Their weekly prayer meetings were now sparse, if ever held. "I have to put in my best following my promotion at work and besides, God understands", She would say anytime she was confronted about her nonchalant attitude to the things of God.
"Sis Yetunde it has happened!" Sis Kene shouted, panting heavily and pacing up and down. She was holding her. scarf in her hands with her handbag flung on her shoulders. She was dishevelled.
"What has happened?" Sis Yetunde asked jumping up from her seat and ran close to Sis Kene who was now crying dejectedly, stamping her feet on the floor. Ada was bewildered, a frightened look pervaded her face.
"What has happened sis Kene? Ada what has happened?" Her voice had risen now. Sis Kene only shook her head and screamed louder, startling Ada who spread her hands to show that she couldn't make out any meaning from the whole scene.
Then as if remote-controlled, guided by instinct Sis Yetunde returned to her table and reached out for the newspaper she bought earlier that morning. She read the headlines:
'Millions disappears mysteriously!', 'Pilot disappears, plane crashing, killing millions'! 'Government sets to intervene as panic engulfs the entire populace'.
Sis Yetunde screamed and ran out of her office. She returned and picked up her phone, dialing her pastor's number, she wanted to be sure it was all a joke. It rang and rang but no one picked it. She tried Mummy Tope's line too, the pastor's wife but it wasn't picked either.
"Oh Lord I hope I didn't miss the rapture! She screamed and woke up. She was sweating and panting heavily. "Thank God it was all a dream". She said aloud heaving a sigh of relief.
She pointed her torchlight at the wall clock, it was 3:20 am. She knelt down by her bedside, ruminating over her life as a christian. Recently, she had begun to pay less attention to the things of God, her promotion in her workplace had delegated more responsibilities to her while God was at the bottom in her schedule. She hardly had her quiet time these days and her prayer life was in shambles. Money was a must get and a lot of things had really gone wrong! �
She lifted up her voice and wept like a baby, reconsecrating her life to God and with that resolute and determined faith she asked God for grace to serve Him fully, without following the Saviour from afar.


The certainty of Christ 's imminent return can't be over emphasized.If you're a sinner it is time to confess your sins and accept Jesus into your life. There's no repentance in the grave.
If you're a born again christian cleave to Jesus and never give room for frivolities and mundane things which have no eternal value. Let's not follow Jesus from afar. Let's follow Him fully. He's the ultimate.
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BY: ORJI FAITH AYOMIDE
God bless you
Maranatha.

I crave approval and affirmation. No matter how much I get, it seems like it’s never enough.

I want to hear:
“I love you.”
“I choose you, even on your bad days.”
“I like being with you.”

“You’re A-OK in my book.”
“You don’t need to change, I like you just the way you are.”

“You make me smile.”
I want to feel affirming arms around me and to be understood and validated.

Can you relate to any of this?

Think back to when you were in grade school and the teacher singled out two team captains to pick their teammates. Do you remember how good it felt when you were finally chosen? We all want to be chosen. The next time your husband approaches you for some “fun” and you’re contemplating turning him down, remember: all your husband wants to do is love you. He is choosing you. He is choosing you above everything else, above anything else he could be doing. He’s choosing you. Maybe you were the last one chosen back in grade school. Well, now you are being chosen first.

When you say yes, you are choosing to feel closer to him, to feel loved, to feel chosen. I promise you there will be times when the last thing you want to do is a bit of tumbling, but once things begin to heat up, you’ll feel completely differently. Give things time to heat up. Allow yourself to be chosen. Fully accept all the affirmation and approval he wants to give you and embrace this love as God’s gift to you.
It’s through God’s mystery—the mystery of two becoming one—that we will experience exceeding joy, limitless pleasure, and divine exhilaration, both spiritually and physically. Indulge, receive, cling, and bask in love committedly and devotedly.

God fashioned us into beautiful images of Him and created us for pleasure, for relationship, and for His glory. Embrace the way God made you by being sensual and responsive.

So what? Is there something holding you back from fully indulging in physical intimacy? Two becoming one is a gift from God. Receive God’s gift and allow yourself the joy that comes with it.

Let's Pray.
Dear heavenly Father, please help me to erase all the bad programming I may have about intimacy and embrace the love, enjoyment, and pleasure You created.
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mysticwarrior:
The border should remain closed, Ghanaians una never see anything yet "goat never wake up from sleep finish he say na lion he wan follow fight" is that not foolishness?

What is the main reason for closing the border?
Because I expect Nigeria made goods to have filled all Nigeria market by now as a reason for closing the border?