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Mariangeles:
They can do whatever they please, we are not backing down until the aim of closure is achieved.

What is the aim of the border closure?
How can they close the borders but are yet to fully support NIGERIA made goods?

One of the greatest challenge Lagos State government is facing is the inability to handle the drainage system.
Is causing havoc in Lagos State.
The relevant authority should act fast now to avoid the story that touches the heart.

Anambra can't get this type of man again as a governor. He is a man of his people, his people is after his heart.
Mr. Peter Obi, you are the best governor of Anambra State.

Do you know that there are more widows than widowers?

Do you know that most husbands death are stress related?
I am a Nurse and I can proudly tell you that.

Do you know that most wives don't know that their husbands are doing so much for the family until the poor man is dead and gone? That is when the wife realizes the enormity of responsibility the husband was carrying.
Wives need to understand and give their husbands peace at home.

Are men not trying? How can an African man with all kinds of loads and responsibilities be expected to be as romantic as an American man? Women, please give your husbands peace at home. Encourage your husbands. Stop being sarcastic to them.

Except if you like to join the widows club early. Note that the widows club is not funny. Ask members.
Help your husband. Contribute to the family.

Be a helper. Be submissive. Stop nagging. Build your home and marriage. It is not greener outside there.

Don't be deceived!!
Help your husband to live longer. Avoid rushing to join the widows club.

Men are physically stronger but die easily from too much burdens.

"Had I known is the saddest lexicon in human language". It is better late than sorry. ...(A reflection of an unconventional mind) May God help us.
https://allsinglesandmarrieds./2019/09/13/10-proven-signs-that-shows-your-partner-doesnt-love-you-anymore/

Whether you’re married or not, whether your marriage is good or not, imagine this. You’re looking at the person who decided to give up their heart, some dreams, their body, their years, and their singleness because they committed to enter a lifelong, exclusive partnership of selfless love with you. You’re about to tell them you’ve put all of that and so much more on the line because someone kept flirting with you at work, or because you didn’t think they listened, or because you felt like they lost their passion in the bedroom. Now is the best time to do whatever it takes to protect your marriage.

No one wants to end up part of that conversation, but too many of us will. Maybe we’ll neglect our spouse’s desires. Maybe we’ll enjoy time alone with someone else. Maybe we’ll let porn, work, or ministry get in the way of our marriage. But let’s kick adulterously bad advice to the curb and replace it with the good stuff! Here are four ways to protect your marriage from adultery today.

1. Radically reduce risks. Risk is for extreme sports, retirement funds, and business ventures—not marriage fidelity. It’s great to take risks together like moving to a new place or going on adventures. But don’t risk your relationship. Instead, stoke the fire of your faith. Never talk badly about your spouse to other people. Ever. Surround yourself with strong marriages. Avoid risky situations with the opposite sex. Is it really that important to go somewhere alone with the opposite sex? Don’t ever be alone with the wrong people.

2. Water your lawn. If the grass is greener on the other side, then water your own lawn. Discover your spouse’s love languages and pour into them with passionate service. Do dishes. Go to counseling. Work out. Listen. Part with that pair of sweatpants. Get alone together, spiritual together, and naked together. Make your spouse the most important human being in your life. Put your spouse in front of kids, work, money, things, hobbies, and yes, your own mother! Love your spouse like Christ loves the Church.

3. Understand the devastation of adultery. No matter what romance novels and television love-triangles say about it, adultery devastates lives. It hurts the two people involved as well as their kids, their families, their friends, their co-workers, the people who look up to them, their businesses, their ministries, and the future of their marriages. That’s the short list. It’s ugly and never worth it. Google this: How many affairs turn into marriage?

4. Know God’s Good News. Even when we are unfaithful, God is faithful. Like Pastor Craig says, adultery may be grounds for divorce, but it’s also grounds for forgiveness. Christ died for all sin. If you have experienced adultery, healing is possible. Look to Christ, find strength to forgive, seek counseling, regain trust, and do the hard—but unbelievably powerful—work of restoration.
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When a man of God is not strong in the spirit, the devil becomes his spiritual director and make him a slave of sex outside Marriage.

Life is a mystery.
Had it been a prophet told her something like this would happen to her, she may not have believed.
God please forgive whatever her sin is and give her another chance to live a normal life.

Please give him your pussy one more time.
He's your ex because you removed the letter s from it.

Before you engage in sex with your woman.
You should first call her body to action, make her vagina and her entire body beg you to have sex with her.
Start by playing with her clitoris, don't just insert your fingers to start fingering her immediately.
Playing with her clitoris will make her body to arouse and be ready for the enjoyment.
While playing with her clitoris you can now gradually start fingering her.
While still doing these, you can as well be sucking her nipples. The nipples is one of the major place in the body of a woman that can make her to wet. (to be ready to have sex with you)
While she is dripping her vagina fluid, you can gradually insert your penis to take her to cloud nine.

So many people have asked several times, what actually do we gain when we have sex with our partner.

The 3 main benefits of sex you must know.
1) SEX HELPS IN BOASTING THE IMMUNE SYSTEM.
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There is nothing to regret because he has penis and you have the entrance of the penis.
Don't forget that your measure reason of going to enugu is because of the penis, so there's nothing to regret.

Mandyvicky:
I know am not supposed to bring my relationship issues here but I can't help it��
I stay with him at school cuz am having issues with my admission didn't want to go home cuz I will keep reminding my parents of the huge amount of money they wasted. I love this guy very much I don't joke with him and am a very good cook so I love cooking for people to eat, he cooks too so he is this kind of person that likes bragging about what he can do, so at times I ignore him. But what he did today is really painful. He was sick so I decided to make moi moi for us(with his sister) was washing d beans then he came to the kitchen, started telling me how I should have washed d beans(Wai I shud select d shafts first before pouring water) I was like it's still d same thing then I complained to the sister and she had to tell him (oga na dsame thing) I continued 4rm where I stopped (I was already provoked) but I didn't shout later I trekked to the market to grind the beans came back (mixed the stuff, started cooking) he was like it will take 40 minutes to cook I didn't talk.
I went to sit waiting for the moi moi to get ready within a while he came oooh (my name) it's ready ooo so I stood up didn't want to argue with him went straight to the kitchen brought the stuff down, removed them from the hot pot. Guess what the moi moi didn't cook well, he said is because I didn't put them well. (note) it's not my first time of cooking moi moi in the house ooo, so I got angry I swear the thing pained me then I told him to stop telling me what to do in d kitchen that I don't like it (it's annoying) pls stop he was like he will slap me we exchanged words. Right now am pained cuz it's not the first time he doing this he does strange things that I can't even say. His cousin came last time he was telling her how cooks very well Wai have she tasted his food before a guy for that matter, which one is dragging with ur girlfriend who cooks better than the other

Pls nairalanders help me I don't know what to do
Ur advice is need
Pls don't mind my write up
Thanks

Maturity is the cause of the misunderstanding here and also the ego of the fact that he knows some
of the kitchen activities.
I cook very well, i mean i'm a good chef and my woman can tell you more but i don't brag with it
and i always make sure that i appreciate her food and if there is any mistake in it,
i always call her attention in a lovely manner because is not easy to cook.
Men should learn to appreciate their woman, is not easy to do house chores.

Hamachi:
Men should marry not boys,

In Nigeria in those good old days, we see a trend of Igbo boys serving there oga, for years, after freedom they hustle, make money , some build houses, some acquire wealth, to make them stable for life and you see that boy becoming a man at 40, then vets married, mostly in those marriages, these men marry and make their wives very comfortable, many o these ladies immediately start having babies, and focus on personal growth because oga is upto , he's a real odogwu, he can take care of all the expenses.

Frankly speaking a woman that marry to such comfort will not forget to ever respect her husband, that's where you see them protecting their husband like their life depends on it. The wifes money doesn't concern the man at all, and these women will remain in the marriage no matter what, except for a few .

Now let's analyse these days marriages, a guy man just finished his nysc, gets a job the next month, the next thing is to organize his babe , and babe too start looking for pregnancy, no plan, no idea how to organise the home , or any investment whatsoever, then you hear the boy telling the giver l, 'am the man of the house, you must submit your salary' , my guy you don't have to remind anyone who the man is if you are doing your JOB well.

In marriage our lord said when a man finds a wife, , not a boy find a girl, therefore obi should wait and become a man first before looking for a partner. When God created Adam he gave him the job to tend all the animals in the garden, later he said, let me create a help meet, we can also looking at the book of Genesis , when they ate the apple their punishment was according to their jobs, their roles they should perform in marriage.

Now let's go further ,when we talk about submission in marriage, the Bible clearly admonished the husband to live his wife even ad Christ loved his church and died for him, naturally any woman that's loved will have no issue with submission, except on certain issues

Thanks you for mentioning the old days, we are now in another century, another generation I must say.
90% of women don't submit to their man this days because they have automatically become the liability of man, 90% of youths are lazy, they want it very fast and easy so they can be famous and that's why Marriage this days easily break like egg, so many get married just to answer Mrs.
Don't blame anyone, because we are in 21st century.

handsomeyitayo:
Just now I see a rat staring at me while banging my girlfriend.. I have to stop but I continue due to konji.. looking towards the window, that rat is still there, I have to throw my palm slippers towards the window but I miss target ..I go back to as usual before looking up the rat came back ..this makes me to be stop and confront my girlfriend about it that what did she kept in her house that attract rats because she leaves in owoduni ketu Lagos. She said there are many rats in the street of owoduni. I have never experience this before .. anyone with similar experience?

Please investigate your girlfriend and her ex lover.
Then get back to us

She's selling her products (body organ) to men that may be interested or tempted to touch them

God is good to her and then give her a second chance in life.

A lady of 24 years old is this you mean?
Please interview her, I want to know how many men that has sucked those breasts to the nature of flat tires.

kalvoken:
Primary and secondary school love is one thing I laugh over anytime I flashback to those days. Imagine so many written letters on sheets of papers that were never given to the girl, probably for fear of being rejected or another.

Just like the case of Kenneth omeruo, some girls had the luxury of having cell phone before we guys. So we would just use either mummsy's phone or that of our elder ones to send her text. No one ever tried his or P.mans phone, who wan die.

So Guys, did you ever practiced this?

Back in those days, I have Nokia 1600 so no one disturbs me on how to send her love messages and I never want anyone to go close to my phone.

Selfkontrol:
Good morning everyone. I had to create a new account just to post this to stay anonymous. Forgive any grammatical error pls.


I have this gf of over 6 years.(note: there has been breakups between this period and even one that lasted for two years but we always come back) We started dating since my 200 level in school and there has been ups and downs between us. Quarrels, fights over all little things. She’s 24while I’m 28. Well towards final year we broke up because of a lot of things that happened. I want to be brief as possible.

I must say she’s a loving, supportive gf through out my university days but threw in the towel towards final year and started dating someone else because she couldn’t cope with my brokenness anymore. Well a lot contributed to that too. I was hurt and bitter for weeks but I didn’t blame her because she tried staying up to that moment. Even my friends where surprised becos she’s a beautiful girl. Al those period she never cheated. But to be frank, I have never seen an insecured, controlling, immature, obsessive, nagging gf all my life. I know I also had my shortcomings but this girl is worse. All our fights we had was not because I cheated but because she always assume I do. She always suspect. She’s too fast to conclude even when I’m so pure to the heart.

Fast forward to months later when things became well for me, for the fact she never cheated on me, and she really helped me during school days tho never stayed still the end. Well she was still young and immature. Being so kind and grateful, I rekindled the love we had becos we actually do love our selves. I don’t know if I was stupid doing that or just being grateful for all what we went through but one thing I know is I never regretted my decision.

Time has come and gone and we are still dating and also dealing with her nagging attitude and sometimes very rude when she’s angry. ( after school she went back to Lagos where she is based while I’m based in Warri) so I fell distance contributes too. But honestly I do ask my self if this is the girl I really want to wife because I actually love her and wants to wife her because she’s a good girl. But she nags a lot, too rude, verbally abusive, wants to be controlling. Because of this girl I never had any female friends in school because we where living together after some point. Well mostly because I couldn’t afford my own rent in full so we had to team up and rent a house. I was also isolated from my male friends.

I’m really in a big dilemma to be frank. Sometimes I’m scared if I can’t get a good girl that can be faithful and loyal as her because girls of nowadays are something else. Or I’m just stucked with her. I have actually not tried having a real gf durin our breakups because I wasn’t just ready for something new so I really don’t know. I’m confused as hell. . This girl don’t give me peace of mind sometimes. This moment she’s cool then next minute she’s something else. One incident that happened. I was on a video cal with her and an urgent call came in. I told her baby give me a few Sec to pick the call. After picking that call this girl flamed up and started giving me attitude. That I was supposed to finish that video cal with her before picking any call without even asking me who was calling. Well I’m just stating that to give you guys the kind of silly attitudes she exhibits.

The one that happened just of recent. Just last night. We didn’t speak the whole of Friday because we where avoiding each other so Saturday I called her but she gave me attitude. I left her. Later in the evening I said let me hangout with my friend. A female friend tho Out of the blues her calls came in and I picked. She asked me where I was I told her I went out. She said with who. I said must I go with someone if I want to go out like I can’t I go out alone. She started nagging and requested for a video call. I picked the call and showed her around to tell her I was alone but she never believed anything. She kept on nagging. Kept calling me repeatedly oo. See me case. Someone that didn’t have my time earlier. Well it got to a point I never picked her calls nor video calls anymore partly because the place was very noisy and because it’s embarrassing shouting on the phone and explaining to a gf in present of people. Well I have said enough.

Guys I need advice. I feel like breaking up with this girl. I don’t know if I’m just being selfish or making the right decision. I might look stupid to some people right now but all critics is allowed. I will share screenshots of the messages she sent me when I wasn’t picking her calls

You mentioned one thing here which is very crucial in every relationship and that thing is MATURITY.
Maturity is definitely different from age, even if the person is 40 years old but mentally he or she is not Matured, it simply means the person is not Matured to be in any relationship.
So many things can make a lady to be nagging and this includes when she is mentally disturbed due to family issues, pressure from either family or friends, career, and also expectations and this includes what she expected from you that did not receive.
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In so many Relationships and Marriages today, many of the couples are facing challenges they created by themselves, either knowingly or not.

Before you fully accept to marry your partner, is very crucial that you found out the following from him or her.

1) Genotype and Blood Group. Have you taking it into seriousness to ask your partner about his or her Genotype and Blood Group?
You may think that is too early to know this in the first month in the relationship, what if eventually pregnancy get involved in the relationship and it happens that you and your significant other is both AS?
Nobody prays for such scandal and that's why is very crucial to deal with it on time because for AS to marry AS, their children will not be happy with them.

2) Is crucial that you know the HIV/AIDS status of your partner right from when the Relationship is getting serious before you make love with him or her.
This virus doesn't announce itself to anyone that comes close to the carrier either does it appear in face, but through the medical test, you will know your way with him or her.

3) STI/STD.
Don't say had i know because you didn't care in the beginning. Just like HIV/ADS doesn't make announcement and doesn't appear to the public from the face of the carrier, likewise STIs/STDs does not.
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15 Signs that shows a girl really loves you.
1) When she has openly told you some personal things about her life.
She doesn't keep secrets from you, even the things her Best friend doesn't know about her, she has already discussed them with you. Some of the things she does not discuss with her parents, she already opened up with you. It shows how deep she loves you. Love brings trust and that's why she trusts her secret with you

2) When she wants you to meet her parents or guidance. For your girl to be proud of you, and morally encourage herself to bring you to the visibility notice of her parents or guidance, is a sign that she really loves you.
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Samuel4689:
So today i told my girlfriend that since three months we started dating she has never one day wash my clothes.

Immediately she got angry, removed my head from her legs and looked at me and said how will she wash my cloth, that she don’t do that, she will never wash my cloth and if I want her to wash my cloth, I should go and marry her because she can not do that.

She continued to say that was how she washed cloth for her ex and did everything who later abandoned her and after she finished washing my clothes and every other thing like a house wife, i will later go and marry another girl (she saw a old Facebook conversation with my ex where i said I’m going to marry her but deep down me i know i was not serious about it), that she can’t wash my clothes and walk out of the sitting room to living room.


Please advise me on what to do about this relationship.

I love her, and I would love to marry her but there are some characters she displays that i hate but think with time she would take correction and change but this her response looking right inside my eyes telling me she can not wash my clothes and walked out of me is so scaring. I need your advice!!!

I want to tell her that if she can’t never wash my cloths she should leave my house??

The memory of her past relationship is disturbing her.
She thought every other man is like her ex.
Proof her wrong if you are not the same with her ex.
Also remember that she must not wash your clothes, it will look as if you are dirty and lazy that
you can't take care of yourself without her.
Do the cleaning and the laundries by yourself, is a sign that you did not take her as a maid
in the relationship

bayocute:
I met this girl last month. We exchanged numbers and since then we became close. I started to have feelings for her. After couples of weeks to when we met, I profess my love to her. She told me she would get back to me. We became so close that we're already doing some nasty things even when she his yet to give her response. I got her several gifts, took her out and gave her money even when she never asked for it. The problem is she told me she's a Virgin (I got no problem with this). She told me her ex cheated on her with her friend which led to their breakup but the ex keeps coming back and she can't resist cos she loves him so much. She told me that she loves me too but she can't really say who she love most. So me and the ex should keep competing that she would choose whom to live her entire life with . She told me we're like 4 but she love me and her ex the most.
Please Nairalanders, Should I bank on this Relationship or I should just let go. I love the babe so much that I can even stand no sex before marriage. What am I supposed to do plssss?
Forgive my Blunders plss

Don't be surprise that she will be impregnated by her ex,
She is eating your money for free in the name of virgin
Clean your eyes, you are inside water and soap is already in your eyes.

Marriage is for matured mind, yes the age is important but there are
many that are biologically aged but they are not matured to be married.
If you have an aged and matured lady between 30 to 35years who is your friend and ready to marry
you, please marry her.
The reason is these,
Once a lady is ready for marriage, she will no longer be acting childish,
She will be responsible,
She will be accountable for her mistakes,
By this time of her age, her head has calm down and not like the under age
that is interested on how to be a slay queen.

Ague with me if you doubt

You are facing the challenge you are facing because your wife think she can starve you sex because she has vagina while you have penis.
Tell her in the face that is because she is denying you sex, that is while you are cheating on her with masturbation.

For me, there is nothing to regret here.
Don't take the advantage of the fact that you guys are close and have sex with her, she will not forget it in a hurry.
Secondly, truly she may not be attracted to you emotionally as she said because you may not be the kind of man she want to date.
Open the door of your heart for someone else who will love you for who you are.

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Most people do not know how to handle being separated from their partner physically on a daily basis. The truth is, this type of relationship dynamic comes with many challenges which require a specific set of solutions in order to work.

Here are a few key tips that can make your long distance relationship to work and last.

1) Lay out your rules and expectations from each other.
Before you part ways, ensure that you have a deep and serious conversation on what you both expect from each other. Write down some of the boundaries that you should have as far as the relationship is concerned. You should also ensure that you clearly define the exclusivity of the relationship to prevent arguments and eventually, break up.

2) Know each other’s daily routines.
One tricky aspect of the long distance dynamic is the misaligned routines. When you are on different time zones, it can be difficult to find common time frames to bond. Let your partner know your work and daily schedule so that you can prevent inconveniences and misunderstandings which will trickle down the trust he or she has in you, this will also help you to set time for date nights, video calls and other activities you enjoy doing together which will be of great benefits in your Marriage or Relationship.

3) Trust your partner. Trust is like glass, when broken, it doesn't have any engineer that may fix it.
Any relationship whether close or long distance is built on trust. Breaking this trust can be very detrimental to any relationship. On the same note, insecurities are also a major cause of break up. Avoid this by openly communicating with your partner and reassuring them whenever they feel insecure. You should also be honest on your part to prevent unnecessary confusion. Don’t be quick to judge situations no matter how you view it.
A constantly insecure partner puts a strain on the relationship and that's going to negatively affect the Relationship.
Deal with trust issues before you part ways as this will allow you to believe that the other person will remain loyal while you are away from each other.

4) Effective communication is one of the lifewire of any good Marriage or Relationship.
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Is obvious so many single people don't do the necessary things before been in a serious relationship that could lead to Marriage.
You did this Genotype and Blood Group test late, before now, you should have known all this things including HIV/AIDS status, STI/STD status as well.
Don't go ahead with the marriage because you will not like the results later.
Others should learn to avoid decieving yourself

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Suicide is one of the deadliest things that can destroy life.
Even when the husband is a pastor, she is still facing some internal challenges that she couldn't deal with alone, believe me if her husband gave the time and the attention required, it would not have happened.
No matter your profession or career, always give attention to those around you.
Find out more on how to avoid suicide....
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Love is one thing that when tasted it's true form, you can't wish to be in a relationship without being deep in love.

Below is the 15 Signs that shows she really loves you and wants you in her life.

1) When your girlfriend doesn’t hesitate saying yes to you whenever you ask her to hang out with you, is a sign that she wants to always spend quality time with you not minding whenever and wherever it is, provided it has nothing to do against the happiness of your relationship with her.

2) When she doesn't have shame in telling Her Friends about You. Is doesn't necessarily mean about introducing you to them but once she finds it as a happy moments in talking about you with her friends, then she really loves you and she can protect you in the midst of her friends.

3) When she does specific things Whenever you are with her in the midst of your friends just to make sure you are happy. A girl that always want your happiness in your Relationship with her, is really in love with you and she's also a selfless woman.

4) When She Initiates physical touch whenever you are in public.
If she is not ashamed of crossing her hands on your shoulder, she doesn't mind kissing you, even in a crowd. Is a sign that you are truly after her heart.

5) When Conversations between the two of you seems effortless.
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