stasius:
Women have problems ooh.

Why will you give someone another person's child?

because women are not wired to love their husbands

Fryx:


More than 1.

Infact, if she is not a virgin.

I’ve got this girl that I am not actually dating officially. But she is my very close friend and hope that we get married some day.

Infact, she knows I have no babe, and she have refused to mention anyone to me as her own babe. However, whenever we fight, she will start posting how her boyfriend is maltreating her bla bla bla (that’s me).

She also did some diabolical stuff to keep me interested in her.

Anyway, since I am too busy to start courting, and since she already know my nature and accepted me like that, I decided to just hope on her. Moreover, she is a virgin.

I can’t vouch 100% for her virginity because I have refused to confirm it myself. Reason being that she still plan to go to school, and I have swore never to marry a girl that is not a virgin.

But, I am sure she would have mistakenly blurted it out that she is not a virgin and I can do my worst during some of our arguments. She is not the type that likes manipulating people for long. Although she is good at it, but she will reveal her tactics if you hurt her. (I hurt her a lot)

So, we parted for a while, and when I noticed she is worried that I will find some one better than her, I assured her that she don’t need to worry, I will marry her if she remains a virgin.

She got angry at that statement saying I am not a virgin and I don’t have the right to ask her that.

While that’s true, but I am not a womanizer either. I am a guy, and it will be foolish for me to remain celibate for ever. Guys genitals are not covered with leather, and that’s a thing.

Anyway, I insisted. And she was frustrated. But she kept insisting she is a virgin. And I plan to confirm it myself, without waiting for marriage.

What baffles me is that she said I don’t know how marriage works. I should ask those older than me. I believe she is referring to the infidelity in marriage and how those older than me just ignore it.

But heaven knows a woman sleeping with another man when she is supposed to be mine is a dishonor to my name. And that is a sin I can never forgive.

My plan is to confirm her virginity and get a kid or two from her. And if she so much crave freedom, and believe I don’t know how marriage works, she is free to leave. But a woman dishonoring me when she is mine is a sin I can never forgive.


And that’s the thought of a woman that have managed to keep her virginity to marriageable age. Now, consider the thought of those that have slept with someone else in the past.


Although I think she is only angry with me because she usually see girls visiting me, and believed they must be my mistress. Anyway, I will find out with time.

bros, no be to come nairaland to write loong story. I hope you have enough money to support this life you want to live. if you are a poor man, calm down .

greenie77:


Paternity fraud has been in existence for many centuries, remember the case of King David who impregnated another man's wife and wanted the woman to pin the pregnancy on her husband by having sex with the husband but the husband head strong, David finally had that man positioned to be killed in war...no be today e start!

the christian god endorses paternity fraud. even the so-called carpenter was not the biological father of his child.

Versal:

Coups do not come from top ranked officers.
The lower ranks who carry out coup have been bamboozled
with tribal sentiments.

Some coups are orchestrated by the top brass.

In nigeria, those top military guys are politicians in military uniform. To ensure the younger guys do not collaborate to forma coup, they keep pushing them to fight boko haram terrorists, ill-equipped, with the hopes that they die in combat or dessert the military. At the same time, they can squeeze more money from commander-in-thief under the guise of fighting in surgency.

Some will say the navy now has a sharing formula with the militants at the creeks, that is why there has been relative peace in that region. In nigeria, everyone is looking out for themselves, government exists to extort and bully the population. the earlier you realise it, the clearer things will become.

Versal:
The only reason why there is no coup yet is that politicians have invested so much in tribal hatred and war.
Some tribe, like Yoruba, is willing to bite theirs lips to spite their faces.
They are willing to support this druggie, peeing, rigger, even if it means
them dying.

another important reason Nigeria has not had a military coup is because this time, politicians have learned to share their loot with the military top rank.

that is why you keep seeing young nigerian soldiers cry out that they have located boko haram and other state terrorists yet the ogas will tell them not to engage. shortly after, the young soldier that cries out is tactically set-up to be ambushed and killed, a deterent to any other soldier who dares speak up and does not fall in line.

slaawomirr:
Damnnn niggar

All these emotional weak men



You have evidence of her sleeping with a man in a hotel
Just walk out of her life like a real niggar instead of all this videoing of her to shame her like a sissy niggar

abeg make her face dey out there so when we meet am, we go know say this one na for chopping only

ednut1:
some even demand monthly allowance from men they are dating. The first time i heard it from a guy who it happened to i shock. To make hair is around 300 dols, Manicure/ pedicure 80 to 100 dols. So they will say if you want me to look good , you should be giving me allowance 😭😭

chei... this is what happens when village girl go abroad

sotall:


Run away from Nigerian women resident abroad.

Many of them have the whiteman's gender equality law written all over their behavior/character.Them carry am for head like gala. They are quick to remind you that they can throw you out of the house if you offend them.

They are very arrogant and have thrown away the respect women accord men back home.

The worst part is many of them become single mums and their toxic behaviors ensures they are chronically sex-starved. They are usually happy with their single mum status because they see it as a means of income from the government.

They are quick to ensure your marriage with them dont work so they start getting support money from you as well as getting paid by government.

imagine, it's a lie jor

which government will pay you for beiing a single parent?

Resetinc:
There is no real love feelings for any Nigerian lady abroad, even when u dey on top her for bed she dey calculate her moves… Love to them is an ‘opportunity’ and when she is ok she wil kick your asss..

If you don’t want to regret the rest of your hustling life in your country of residence, avoid any woman that speaks pidgin .. just greet her as a sister and keep moving.. e get why😂

best advice on this thread

Klass99:


I am not in the diaspora but I stumbled on a thread where someone made a sensible comment about this same issue.

They said something to the effect of everyone being too smart because of their papers/stay, nobody wants to compromise or make sacrifices, for the sake of an authentic relationship because too much sense is worrying all of you there.Na una know wetin dey worry all of you sha!

From my observations, there's a tendency in most of you japarians to gravitate towards self conceit and a vain superiority complex, where you start to think you're better than other Nigerians because;

1. You've lived in obodo for XYZ number of years or you have papers, so even new immigrant Nigerians are like an affront to you guys (meaning their very presence in your host country is like an offence)

2. You think with your papers you have finally arrived what can any Nigerian offer you again. But your papers alone don't provide healthy social interactions, good friendships or companionship, laughter and fun moments with others.

I see that superiority complex even here on NL with folks who haven't lived overseas for 2 years, I smile and shake my head, thinking to myself, poverty is really not a good thing. When you grow up privileged very little about the white man trips you to a point where you start to insult or look down on your country and fellow country men. Because you grow up knowing what your own people are made of and capable of. It's not so much about privilege alone, but having a healthy dose and sense of self worth, self esteem and self love.

My friend engaged an asian cabbie in conversation in the UK, while riding in his car. The cabbie told her it is very disappointing to see the way we Africans/Nigerians in particular behave overseas. He said we are quick to throw away our cultural values to embrace western ones, we are the ones who are quick to talk back to parents and disrespect them (that was an incident he witnessed in his cab with a Nigerian family)

Whereas he sees Indians, Chinese and some Asians hold onto their cultural values and practices, maintaining the family unit, and refusing to let the west negatively influence them. I think the cabbie's experience and narrative, may help you understand why you are having a hard time finding a Nigerian date.

who culture epp? I advise any Nigerian to discard their nigerian culture of anyhowness and try something new for a chance. With all the cultural preservation, where is nigeria in the global stage today?

abegi

Smile4mee01:
I have been abroad for a while now and i am curious to know why some of our ladies decline dating or marrying fellow Nigerians in the diaspora. I have tried to date a few any they are often quick to assume i am after them for their papers while i just prefer my own, someone who understands my culture and where i have come from. Even when i try to date the ones that don't have paper, regular work visa holders like me. They seem to want to be with the guys that have papers.

Also, when i am old, i would like to return to Nigeria. Marrying outside would make that transition very difficult.

I study other races, Immigrant groups from India and Asia. they work together well, and don't have these difficulty.

Should i give up on being with a Nigerian or keep trying ?

Regards.

Face your front. Why did you go abroad? to marry? face your front.

Religion is BS

Jman06:
It's not just in the banks and financial institutions. It cuts across every profession.

Education and employment of women in Nigeria has created serious problems with our family system and love relationships between the two genders.

Most ladies find it very difficult to settle down in marriage these days due to their unrealistic expectations from men. Imagine a lady who has gone through school and trained in a profession, is employed and earning six digits wage. She has EQUAL opportunities with her male counterparts both in education and employment.

Yet, that same lady would insist on marrying a man who earns higher and is richer than she is. She'll never accept to marry men of equal financial standing. This has put a very serious strain in marriage these days because such ladies would rather wait endlessly for a non-existing richer man until she grows old and become unattractive to men.

This is coupled with the fact that women are more in population than men. Most men have taken solace in marrying from the pool of younger and perhaps not so educated ladies thereby leaving the so called educated ladies without men to marry them. Such ladies are everywhere including hospitals, banks, manufacturing industries, oil and gas companies etc, so it is not just banks.

In order to solve this problem, it is either we stop educating and employing the female gender so they can become fully dependent on men or women who have been empowered with education and jobs desist from hypergamy but condition their minds to marry men of equal or even lower financial status. That's one way to justify the huge investment people make in training and empowering the girl child.

Parents and families must desist from raising their daughters and sisters with the wrong mindsets that their husbands must be rich and must provide for them. We should redefine marriage as a partnership between a man and a woman where both gender contribute equally to raise families in order to ensure continuity of life.

Ladies need to understand that once a man loves his lady, he naturally wants to care for her. So while you work and make your own financial contribution in the home front, the man would equally make his and still strive to do things for you to show his love and care for you. You are even more likely going to enjoy marriage this way than when you marry one heartless moneybag who would treat you badly while also using every opportunity to remind you that you are a parasite to him.

congratulations you have discovered Islam

juche:
I don't see any issue with it. Is all about our mindsets. I actually did it and is better off with it. I actually married my twin's ex. Before I married her, I actually discussed my intentions withy twin who s already married to another lady then and he gave his full consent. He told me she's a good girl and that their separation is from him. She left him when he got the present wife pregnant. She refused vehemently initially but my persistence and assurance that I have no issue with her past finally won her. We have been married for five years and has 3 wonderful boys. She has been the best thing that has happened to me. I have never for one day feel any how about it. I don't care what anybody thinks. I am a happy man, my marriage is one of the best and my family is good. If u marry a woman that's not a virgin, difintely u know, that somebody has been there before u whether u know the person or not. Is a personal thing anyway.

she married you to spite your brother

women are special. they gave birth to all of us!

Ajione:
I remenber a friend once said 90% of ashawo houses in southwest and nigeria at large are filled with ladies from south south and south east.
Please stop this tribal stuff it won't take you any where.

them dey rotate this thing. go to brothels in south east and south south and you will find an abundance of southwest and northern tribe women.

these women are smart. lol

Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

you see why I say do not marry a poor woman? see how money is causing problem in your house?if your wife had money, would you have come here to complain?

this one would not go and treat his high blood pressure, he is looking at politicians that are there to steal.

Very true. Most of these "feminists" share one thing in common, they are undesirable by men as a reliable partner. they are only good for intercourse. that is why they have so many messages in their dm.

alos, they are ugly as heck

TotoIsGud4boy:


You’re confusing rich w independent.. talk from now till tomorrow I don’t want independent woman… they’re irritating… my wife is not rich but I made her rich and she’s dependent on me.. I live like the head and she serves me like her king… And I treat her with respect. I don’t know what’s wrong with kids like you

your wife is poor and you know it. you can not handle a rich woman so keep shut.

GO0DHardDick:
Dear women,

Some of you lack sense. A young man says let's have a date, let's meet in a public place, you responded you don't have transport, Send me money to come and meet you. Are you not ashamed of yourself? Any girl that tells you she doesn't have transport, do the needful and avoid her like plague.

Women, the way you package yourself that's how they will carry you. A young man asked for a date and wishes to send you transport fare, asked him for what? Tell him not to embarrass you that you can transport yourself! By this you're letting him know you're not cheap. Only Poor broke and cheap girls without worth and value asked men for transport fare

na you dey follow broke girls.

Ifashakin:
If you are an older woman, and you have not been satisfied sexually in a very long time, now is the time to have the best fun of your life with a younger man. Or you are looking forward to satisfying your sexual fantasies.

Life is too short. Take charge before it is too late. I provide a very discrete service. And your privacy will be well respected. At a very reasonable price.

Send me a message on WhatsApp only via 07068581328 and let's take it from there.

Why would dey contact an old cargo like you that needs erection pills to have secks when they can find young boys around to service them?

SIMPonPatrol:
Another rubbish thread to bash ladies!

Mr. SIM, I know you like 40+ women. Na your marriage spec be dat

Escabado:
No girl I repeat no girl between the age of 18 to 25 years will tell you she doesn't get men asking her out for a serious relationship and alot of these men even propose marriage to her but she will refuse because she want to fvk an test all the penix b4 she can get married.

Girls between the age 18 to 25 yrs these girls feel very comfortable showing there nakedes all over social media and in public showing there nipples for everyone to see in public

At this age they see noting wrong with oloshoo , seeling themselves for money and when they do these tinz finish by there 30 yrs they now want an innocent man or a simp to accept and marry Dem LoL

Never u make a mistake of marrying a girl above 30yrs . There a very bad and negative reason she is single and that reason can never do you any good if u finally end up with her you will regret it.

Very very true!

benuejosh:
The biggest mistake a man can do is marrying a woma who wasn't meant for him.

A woman can be poor financially but has so much ideals and can be the best support system to bounce the man into greatness. Most women we tag poor only need a platform and they will rewrite they're story.

Most 'poor woman' just need a little support.

I classify you as poor when your mindset can't bring anything out in terms of ideals and ways to move forward. Most 'poor women' think and reason better than 'rich men'.

I did not quote Bible for you to start twisting words here. The poor I am talking about, and what everyone knows, is money. Financial balance.

What are you talking about "support system to bounce man into greatness" ?

If she no get money, she should not think about marriage! Don't you get it? Same goes for the man. If you know you are poor, avoid marriage and make good money first.

Truly suffer no dey tire una

TotoIsGud4boy:

Lol … you’re in naija trying to talk about cash? Lol peasant.. how this conversation turned into what I can afford makes me laugh.. you’re truly a peasant.. besides women wants a strong male figure like me.. bet I’ll take your wife/gf real easy… you’re not smart.. I expected a stronger argument but your argument is really weak and doesn’t reflect the current state of women and society.. you must be a lazy man who can’t handle a woman or you must be a woman who’s too afraid to submit to a man

My wife already is very submissive to me if she one day stops, the relationship ends there. Bet you can’t pull this off because you’re broke in real life and just trying to survive

Go home to your poor wife you poor man

You are a weakling. Person wey no fit marry rich woman because it will destroy his tiny ego

Wait sef, a rich woman will puke at the thought of marrying an urchin like you.

TotoIsGud4boy:

My wife must be submissive I don’t know where you got the word control from … I’m a man of culture. I love my wife, she’s submissive, what more could I ask for? I’m not one to go around looking for ghosts… A good independent woman is like searching for ghosts, they don’t exist. You’re just a kid. You know nothing about life.

PS: the more independent she is, the more problems you should be prepared to handle. Marriage is supposed to be “happy” not stressful. Also don’t confuse independent w her making money? When I mean independent woman it encompasses everything that has to do with the word itself, that being: “making important decisions on her own, carrying out manly roles in the house and everything that comes w being independent.

I’m not comfortable with this, she can make all the money on earth but she must be dependent on me as a husband… if you don’t still understand this wall of text then you’re lame.

Oya go to the village and marry your poor and submissive wife to be. the one that will be asking you for money to buy pad every month.

This is why women should have their own money so they can look at men like you in the eyes and tell them to "get out". "my wife must be submissive to me", control freak. If I check your profile now, you don't even own your own house or can afford your next years rent. yet you want an adult to be submissive to you. who the hell do you think you are?

gargoylern:

The positive thing is that they are able to earn well. I met one that was working in first bank back in Nigeria and earning about 120k a month. Now she earns a little over 3.5k canadian dollars on the average working customer service after a lot of overtime. She is always stressed out sha. 3.5k is about 980k.
It looks like she is on course to save a lot of money before mid-year, and plans to visit Nigeria by July. She didn't tell me explicitly, but clearly she's going back to see how she can revive a few friendships back home that may lead to marriage. She is soooooo lonely. She cried sef. Eyah!

big fat lie, these girls dey enjoy abroad life. she no go tell you how many oyibo guys dey her mata because she no wan cast. bliv naija women at your own peril.

Especially in Nigeria. Money is undoubtedly an important factor in marriage, as it can significantly impact a couple's quality of life, well-being, and the overall success of their relationship.

It is totally unfair for one of the couple to bear the primary burden of financial demands of a marriage and family.

Nigerian women that live by the mantra "his money is our money, my money (that is if they have kobo) is my money" are parasites and only exist to continue the poverty cycle of which Nigeria is now the capital of the world.

Let these women work for their own money before they get into marriages. Domestic violence will reduce, see finish will reduce, the children will get the best of the best when financial support is coming from both parents. STOP MARRYING POOR WOMEN