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Just wait for two more years and get married. It will not kill you. You guys can spend some time together with your child on weekends and free days.

@ Babymama Before i started dating hubby officially,we had a discussion and i told him of a very comfortable toaster i turned down. 'U too dull,why you no gree' that was what he asked me. He bluntly said that if he were to be a girl,he will date many men at the same time and all of them must be rich.U go fear naa. I was kind of shocked. See guy wey i dey eye was advising me to upgrade my runs,i weak. Dont mind these guys preachings ooo,they are more materialistic.

Hulalaaa gist is really flowing here. Babymama am enjoying this thread. I will love to choose my man all over again but he have to be mega rich,not this budgeting and saving levels at all. I will just work for fun on part time basis. I still hope for the later since anyi anyahana anya(we are just starting). Dont call my lazy oooo.

I already knew that the high preference of nurses by men abroad is all about money. Most times they dont ask for a good girl for a wife but choose any lady in as much she is a nurse. @ Pocketeconomics Thanks for the enlightenment. I have heard the case of a nurse whose husband refused to work and uses her as money making machine but i didnt know it was this bad. I will advice my little sis accordingly.

Happy 2014 to all nairalanders. @ OP i have not experienced racism before ooo

See food,fried chicken,cake, chin-chin,the madams in this house are loaded. I am salivating already. Have not even started planing for food for this Xmas,maybe munching on a bunch of banana and groundnut will do.

Abeg na who don cook finish because i won't mind to breeze in for some garnished jollof rice plus fried chicken.

@RR Hope this your morning baptism covers me. I will do my introduction next year. Merry Xmas to the bubbling house.

@OP am still waiting for you to be sure we are on the same page. They have dated for like 5yrs,so are you saying he just discovered she is from Ebonyi or got to know long before now? I would have loved to speak wit him directly,is he on nairaland? She loves him and ur guy was just an ordinary hustling guy when they met,sure she is not a gold digger. But if he cant forgive her,then no probs

@ OP correct me if am wrong,this girl's igbo name started with letter 'C' and she gave birth at UPTH. If it is the same girl do tell your friend that he have a good woman. Am sure he knows that too. I didnt hear this story that she lied but i know some big aunties who ur guy somewhat owes his life success to dont want them together just blc of her state of origin. Am from Anambra and i know my people. The paternity of those kids are not in doubt,ur guy knows that too. But if your guy still dont want her at this stage no probs.

@ OP Are you kidding me? Somebody need to slap the hell out of that silly man and foolish girl. Wish i can lay my hands on any of them. No wonder some women group complained that the quality of husbands is going down.

Discourage the use of bangers,it can cause a fire. Avoid pubic discussion of your wealth,kidnapping is real. Travelling during the season is not compulsory but If you must travel,plan ahead and avoid rush. Have a budget for the season,do not blow your whole year sweat in a few days,school fees is will be paid in Jan.

A teacher building an upstair with 18,000 minumum wage,i doubt this story. But if it is true,the woman is sooo wrong. The man's move is also wrong since it is not corrective. This family may suffer from this decision of his later in life. So OP advise your friend to make his wife apologise,confront his inlaw on this but let her go back to work. If he is my brother that will be my advice for him. Who knows tomorrow. No be Mile 1 market just burn the other day. Imagine him a victim of such.

@ Winniegirl and Toyinletstalk i believe God and say a big Amen. Thanks for those words. @ Babymama yeh i did a confirmation test in a different centre. God bless you my sis. It's well.

Enoquin: Honey, it is so going to be well with you. I hope you and your husband find solace in each other because apart from God, you need to be each other's support.
And of course, years down the line when you have your brood all over the house, this incident will be but a blip in the past.

Also try to know what happened so as to get closure.

Amen Amen . Thats for the advice. A closure is really important.

We already assumed it will be a girl,hubby already named her Chialuka(God did great) and i christianed her Raphaella. I prayed for hours for a heartbeat to be seen in the confirmation scan but no it didnt happen. I will still take my routine pregnacare tonite. But as i leave home tomorrow i know i will not come back with her in me dead or alive(booked for evacuation procedure tomorrow). It is difficult for me blc i prayed hard to get her(thats my first preg) and have already shared my testimony. Maybe it is not the will of God and i got to move on with my life. This my 3months story of joy and pain and i know there are great people on this forum who can give me the encouragement i need for this to pass. And please Pray for me too@ mods No front page please.

@ebuetor Thats a great gift you got. @ Post when i was little,there was a spot on a path in my villa i was very scared of. Recently my younger sis told me she had the same feelings abt that spot too back in the days. That place is usually very quiet. A day came that mum sent me to grandma's house in the evening. At first i refused to go blc i know it will be late by the time i will pass that spot on my way back. After much pressure i went for the erand. I was 11 then. On my way back i saw a very beautiful strange woman with white light around her walking towards me. Instantly i know she is not human. My knees melted,i couldnt run or shout. I simply dragged my feet till our path crossed. She simply touched my arm. Her nails are well kept and long. I got home with high fever. I told mum wat i saw,of course she didnt believe me but since then she neva sent me out late. There was anoda exp that my fam believed. Will be back.

@ Op i guess that the main thing u have against this woman is that she will collect her share of the inheritance,leave ur family,remarry and enjoy it with anoda man,probably the boyfriend u claimed. Lol dont worry wen her daughters(ur sisters) will be getting married charge huge bride price to get even. On a more serious note you have gotten good advices here. And the earlier your family rid yourself of the revenge and women have no say idea, the better for you all. She is in a better position to negotiate qed. Also from ur explanation,ur father have 2 wives not 4. The children of the other 2 women are entitiled to inheritance but not their mums.

Congrats dear.Destiny children are usually very sweet. Chidera Odego

It is generally argued that homosexuality does not affect us directly. But this case shows that it does affect all of us and the right to adoption given to gay couple will haunt the world even more in years to come. @ post In as much as the baker respectfully denied them his services,the judgement is flawed and should be appealed. The baker have his rights too. And lastly we should look for a solution to gay problem,as attack will not solve this problem. Just like madness,rehabilitation will help. Dinachi pls look into the later part of my comment. Thank you.

Ghosts do exist and people do encounter them but the reasons for an encounter is either good,bad or ugly. I have a girlfriend who encountered her late dad spirit. The man died suddenly and nobody know anything abt his finances. The family was preparing for burial when his spirit visited his daughter in sch. She wrote down the info;documents,locations,names and everthing was as she was told. Mystery! My personal experiences are scary. Jesus is my protector.

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When my grand dad was alive,he provided all the family needs. Pay all the house bills and still do all the hard work. My dad also try his best to provide for the family but since he doesnt have a great job,mum bears the major financial burden. He still helps at home with hard jobs. Nowadays our young men sit in front of TV,do no house chores,even the hard ones but still expect their wives to bring money to the table. Modern men are simply lazy. If you will not help your wife,then dont ask for her help too. After all you will still take her for granted for rendering assistance. As for me I can spend my last kobo if my hubby needs it and he can spend his energy in house chores if i need his help. And it works for us. Shalom

I dont see reasons why intimacy should be a problem to new parents if there is understanding. If the woman is yet to heal then smooching should do chikena.

I watch football too but the way some guys go about sooooooooo is annoying. My hubby is a diehard Man U fan and I stand in for Arsenal FC but there are times he make me feel jealous as if Man U is a co-wife. Now his friend is a crazy Chelsea fan. Imagine the other day we were discussing family issues and his friend cuts in to ask if Eto will be fit to play on Sunday thus derailing our discussion. And his crazy football news in the morning from PH Love fm-Cool FM -Nigeria Info-Ray power. The thing dey tire me. Haba

@ OP It seems this guy has a thing against your age blc even in the birthday text he mentioned it. Pls how old is he? I hope he is not younger than you.

Hmmmmm wonder what will be the stand of some of the posters now homosexualism is a crime in Nigeria. Well my view is that homosexuality is not just a sin but a disorder which can destroy generations to come. Praying a means of rehabilitation will be available some day.

@ebiboy So sad to hear this.Remember your dad is still alive in Christ.So do not mourn like people without hope. You have to be strong for your mum and siblings ok. God will make a way for you.

@ OP I doubt if this guy is genuine. Maybe he is being pushed to get married. It seems He has nothing to lose if this marriage didnot hold. My advice is to tell your mum about this new development. See how it plays out.You can postpone the wedding for now. If eventually you guys make up,fix a new date. My own xp,A week to my trad i found some filthy chats btw my fiance and some babes. I was mad. Well He begged even on his knees,unfriended the girls and even reported himself to his mum and elder sis to plead. It took some courage for me to still go on with the marriage. Dont know what is wrong with these guys.

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Great thread. Will send hubby this link. He is tryingoooo but need to up his game.