₦airaland Forum

ZeroAccess:
Potential clients await her. That's what she has always wanted.

DropsMic:
Na hypocrites dey go church

Meanwhile from experience i've found out that those who don't go to church and those who do but are not the typical hook line and sinker Christians are very honest people. But you see those ones who sleep in the church, those ones who won't hesitate to tell you how good of a Christian they are, those who talk about God alot and pastors generally - when dealing with them always keep your guards up.

Do with this information what you will

Freestainworld:
Plastic surgery in action

illmatic101:
CHAI!!!

Where is my Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala. A woman who's better than 100 sons.

debbydams:
lol,dated a guy that said I shouldn't shave,he said pubic hair turns him on..lol

heniford2:
Next time lock ur stuff off,stylish send her to buy stuff 4 u use that opportunity search her bags and check stuff if u find any remove them and lock up

ReubenE:
Ijaw not Urhobo. Blessing is Ijaw from Gbaraun Ekpetiama Bayelsa State

Its Ese Brume that's Urhobo from Ughelli

Tranquill:
Blessing is Ijaw from Bayelsa while Ese Brume is Urhobo

He was referring to the other lady that competed with Blessing, representing the USA. Her name 'Mensah' is Ashanti (Ghana) unless she's of mixed parentage.

daveP:
Blessing Oborodudu did well!!

Learnt both are Ijaw Ladies(Herself and Tamara Stock repping USA)

Congratulations to Ese Brume and Blessing.

Now 64th on medals table, thanks to these two ladies. Can't wait for Adunayo's medal.

Cc Lalasticlala

Karlovych:
Very dirty, hungry-looking and wretched creature. How can you leave your home without money even if someone promised to pay for the trip? Imagine the level of ignorance and entitlement. The driver should tie her to the trunk of his vehicle and drive her home, then maybe she will recieve the much needed sense, spits.

McOluOmo:
he posted one pics, that's what i was talking about

McOluOmo:
Big Sis! Mention me when the pictures arrives

Priceless007:
Hello Nairalanders,

It's a long story, but I'll try to keep it short and to the vital points. Please endure the length.

There's a girl i met at a theological college in where I was studying to become a clergyman and also learning a skill under the civil engineering department of the college. She was my junior in the course, as I was a year away from graduating from my first course, while she was just a fresher. She was always having issues getting through her courses and projects and would always ask for my assistance since I was the course rep in that department. It was forbidden to have any intimate relationship with your course mate or anyone in the college for that matter, the penalty would be expulsion. But unfortunately for me, out of sheer lust and seduction on her part, and gross indiscipline and lack of self control on my part, I got intimate with her and we ended up committing fornication during one of our semester vacations. And it just happened once, of which out of deep regret and remorse I confessed the matter to the college Admin when the next semester resumed. We were panelled, after which I was suspended, while she was expelled.

During this time I was learning a skill sponsored by the college, of which I use to get paid some weekly stipend. After I was suspended I was also stopped from continuing my apprenticeship, because I was not to associate with any of the students or lecturers in the school while my suspension lasted. So I was without a job and without a source of income since I wasn't yet mastered on the skill. The condition that was given to me to resume my studies and apprenticeship was that I should go and get married before I could come back to college, so as not to be tempted to repeat my error. But I wasn't ready for marriage whether financially or any other wise for that matter. So while I was contemplating my next move, this girl came to me that she was pregnant, that she needed us to go and see her parents. I told her I had no money neither was I ready to father a child at this point in my life. I pleaded she should give me time to think about what next to do. Two weeks passed, and I called her to enquire about her welfare but her number wasn't reachable, I decided to go to her place, but I was told she had travelled a week ago to go see her family. A week later, I received a call from a woman telling me she was the girl's mother, that her daughter came home with a pregnancy, and she asked me if I was responsible for the pregnancy, I answered her in the affirmative. She then asked when I was coming to see her family. I told her I wasn't sure about coming to see them that I needed to speak to the girl first. She said okay, then later that day the girl called me, and I told her to come back for us to talk deliberate on the way forward. When she came she told me her parents (who are by the way divorced) will not accept her nor the pregnancy without me coming to see them for marriage arrangements.

I explained to her I wasn't ready for any such thing, that I have a calling to answer and a course to finish, that what happened between us was just a stupid and careless mistake that has been as a setback for me to achieve my goal, and that I was ready to overcome the trials and get back on track, and I explained to her that before then I had neither dated nor been intimate with anyone for over seven years, and so any kind of relationship or marriage was not even in my nearest future plans, and besides, I didn't even have a job, not to mention having enough money to embark on a marriage plan. She said she would never accept such excuse, that I should look for whatever means to make sure I come see her parents before her pregnancy becomes obvious. She also said that she needed money to move her belongings back to Imo state where her family resides. I agreed to raise some money for her. I went to do some menial jobs and raised some money, about ₦20k, which I gave to her and she traveled back to Owerri. From then on her parents kept calling and pressuring me to come and see them for marriage arrangements. I told them I was going to come, but just to introduce myself to them as the person responsible for their daughter's pregnancy not for any marriage arrangements. But they disagreed, that if I wasn't ready to come for marriage that I shouldn't bother coming. I pleaded with them to give me enough time to look for money to come and see them, but they instead started threatening me with court cases and arrests, at one time they brought the girl and some soldiers to my family house and harassed my family members including my mother.

So I later traveled to Benin city to go look for money. After one week of my arrival in Benin, I lost my phone and I couldn't retrieve my number. I lost connection with them until I got back to Uyo where I got her phone number from a friend of hers. At this time, I was told that they came to my house several times with police officers claiming I raped their daughter and impregnated her then absconded. At this, I established contact with the girl again and she told me that I should not bother her that she wasn't in the mood to talk to me, I kept calling her but she often ended up abusing me or we often times ended up in quarrels, so I left her alone for sometime.

Two weeks ago I related the matter to one of my distant uncles, who advised me to gather some money and go see her, I called her and told her I wanted to come and see her before she puts to bed, which is expected to be sometime next month (August). But she told me that she still stands by what her parents had said, if it's not for the marriage issue that I should not come, that I should rather send her the money I would use in coming so she can use it to buy the baby clothing and buy some hospital requirements before she puts to bed. I called her parents and they told me the same thing, and said if I don't come for the marriage agreement before she puts to bed, that after she's delivered of the baby I should forget ever coming, and should never mention that I have a child anywhere not to mention coming to claim it ever in the future. And that I should just forget about her and the child.

The issue now is this, I am a bit frustrated because I seem to have lost everything at the moment because of this issue; my calling, the skill I was learning is gone, I have no job aside the menial jobs I do at construction sites which isn't available regularly. Now the little I have saved so far, I am contemplating on whether to use the money to pay for my skills training and continue with it and start my life afresh and forget about her, the child, and her parents, or use the money to support her in her hospital requirements for her delivery. Because I don't want to be seen as abandoning her when she is in this condition, and I also don't want to give up on the child, though I'm not capable of taking care of the girl and the baby right now, and probably, I might end up getting married but not under my present circumstances. I know I've made a grave mistake and this is the consequences for not being true to myself and my calling, and I deeply regret it, and I've suffered for it in any way I can possibly imagine, but I also need to put my life back in order, because right now I'm so devastated that I'm contemplating terrible alternatives to survive the storm, I'm at a very critical moment of my life and I just feel like giving up on life altogether. Please I need your help and advice on this issue. Thanks.

PS. Please if anyone is willing to teach me any skill, I would be very grateful and willing to learn.

Almaigaa:
True talk

Michelle55:
Drop this sanctimonious act abegi, this is how you will be giving unverified advice as if you've tasted marriage before to know what goes on in there person tell her husband say money no reach, you dey yarn dust. Are you her or is the woman your younger sis? All these pretence no go change anything, man wey go marry you here go still marry you so drop the act.

Have you been to the market lately to know what is really going on, goods worth of 50k wouldn't fill up mini shopping bag unlike before when things are cheap and it's even more difficult seeing that she is expecting. A pregnant woman has cravings and she mustn't depend on her husband to get her those things when she can easily dip her hands into the monthly upkeep to get them, make you no dey yarn opata for here jare.

An expectant mother can see a fine unisex clothes or shoes that she admires and would like to get it for her baby, are you expecting her to wait for her husband to get back from work before she can get it? Wait till you enter your home, then come back and tell us how you run it with 5naira. Save 30k for this Buhari period where person no fit cook pot of soup with 2k again, we hear you ma! Ala koba!

Niece:
His mama became known in her grave. Did he kill 200 cows when his mom was alive? How many diamond chains did he give to his mom? All these unnecessary show off. Someone said the road to his village is nothing to right home about.

ruggedtimi:
Lately I stopped attending church because I see most of them as a business center....one certain church in pH if you no book seat online you can't gain access to the church on sunday

4tomandchi:
Love is bitter sometimes.

stevolinkon40:
If you mean Georgia in Europe
If you are going there to look for job, it's definitely a NO..even natives are looking for job, all their university websites and agents will tell you they don't have jobs so you don't end up disappointed. If you have enough money to setup a business or you are a freelancer that just need a nice country to work from remotely then you can consider going because the internet is cheap and super fast, electricity won't be a problem anymore, the rent is cheap and cost of living is low.

drnoel:
What the guy above me said ∆∆
The country is in recession and not a good place to job seek unless it's business U want to do.

drnoel:
Question would be do your mean Georgia as in the state in USA or Georgia as in the country?