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Just imagine the effrontery

Queenlovely:
My friend is in a dilemma now. She has more Carry over in her final year. What do you think she should do. She was given economics to study as against the banking and finance she wanted. Now the day of pain is near. She cant tell her people of an extra year. They would kill her. She has so many other siblings waiting for aunty to graduate and rescue the family. What can she do. She no be slay queen oh.

Tell ur friend someone on nairaland says she's stupid, for choosing to waste the scarce resources that would have yielded abundantly if put into cattle rearing

BrotherJesu:
My mum is very beautiful, and successful yoruba woman but dosent regard her husband a bit,
Trouble got out hands when she got her first car and her husband who is an engineer doesnt have one yet,she then became pompous and over protective of the car that even those around; church and family knew that popxy doesnt own the car. Mumc is an established fashion designer and holds several positions in Nigerian Union ofTailors, as a result of this she comes home very late not givin any excus. As time goes by she stopped cooking him as she is always busy with work or travelling on state sponsored trips she does not bother to notify her husband whenever she is travelling.
There was a day i was so angry kus even my friends have started to take note and it becoming embarrasing, so i spoke with her, while talking she broke down in tears, she said she is the one responsible for 80 percent of the house expenses that popcy recieves 400k monthly bt always complaining of bin broke, she said other things i cant really type here.
This went own for a long time, they soon became enemies in the same house everyone going there way doing things differently, admist all these popsy has never rised his voice on her even when mumcy somethings did very annoing stuffs.
In the heat of this, popsy impregnated another babe although i have never seen the woman nor the child since birth which is close to two years. He apologised and promised to never bring them to interfere in our lives.
However this literary set our house on fire. While mumc was gettin over the haertbraek, she promised to get back at him which i didnt undesrand then.
Early this year, mumc bought 2 cars at ones, i was very surprised as she normally tell me her moves, she gave me one while she uses the other one. What broke myy hear was that she kept the one she was using before under cover when i asked her why she didnt allow popxy have that one she said she he should go buy his own and warned me that the day she will see him use my car na problem .
For sometime now she has been joking about moving us out of the country without his knowlege.
Popxy right now has facilitated his tramsfer to delta state.
Now they dont even see neida do they communicate again
the whole thing is driving me insane as i dont see popman coming to the house again pls guys help a brother what do i do
excuse my typo and coherence.

Sorry to say but ur dad is irresponsible. How do u think he would have treated ur mum if she had nothing? How would u have fed? How would u have managed to pay ur fees? A man who cannot spend his salary on his family and take care of their bills, then who's he working the money for? He no longer considers any of u as his children cos if he did, he wouldn't let ur mother no matter the circumstance and based on what he earns take care of the bills. Instead of you to be greatful to ur mum for being hardworking and providing for u and ur siblings cos ur father has failed to do so, u r here telling us she's proud. In fact she suppose collect that motor for ur hand for being such an ungreatful son

makydebbie:
Jeez how did you cope with the noise?

She had her fingers in between her legs .

Queenlovely:
My brother is a teacher in one government school. He brings home all The money. She never works. She was once a nurse but was fired. No reason was given for her sack. She stays at home doing nothing. Painting her nails

I believe not being apologetic is just a figment of the whole brouhaha. A wife is supposed to be a helper and not a pauper, one who cannot contribute to running the family financially but ends up gulping the whole proceeds from her husbands labor. Tell him to tell her, to get her lazy ass off his sofa and make herself useful to the family, which I feel he's either afraid to do or has done without any positive change in affairs. Let him man up and impose himself cos she's not gonna stop taking him for a ride, some persons are lethargic to reason.

..........................LOL
I was strolling and discussing with one of my badt muslim guy sometime last week when out of nowhere he said "na so dem go dey waka d streets without pant" . I got to understand him when I raised my head to see one beautiful chic on hijab .

Arthurwinner:
Well I'm not that super rich but I'm buoyant enough as God may have it...
To be very precise ....
I started dating this lady not too far from now and it have been moving nicely buh, lately i noticed some change in her attitude since she became very sure that I really love her...

For the past month we discussed about marriage and I told her that I'm going to marry her and truly I want to cos it feels like I CAN'T stay without her.....

But the problem is that since then whenever she's around I don't feel like coming back to my house after work cos all she does is to collect money for this or for that and when I try to tell ha that I don't have she always threatening to break up with me, every time I give her money to buy something that is when everything in the market becomes costly, sometimes I look at her and inmy mind I be lik'e "shey Dis gal no know say I sabi d price of all d things she dy lie abwt''
but I keep cool for the sake of peace...

Abeg can you imagine that a brown powder (Zara) she told she bought for 9k I checked it out and its sold for 3k... since night I haven't talked to her but as usual she's packing her bag now....I know in her mind she's waiting for me to beg her or she leave ......

What do I do FAM .....I truly love her

The moment u encounter any problem later in life(God forbid!), with such a person as a partner, u are automatically on ur own. Emotional blackmail disgusts me totally and that's what ur gf is doing to u

kibra4u:
Bla bla bla.........The question still remains....is she a Virgin as she has been claiming all along. The guy just made a nasty discovery after two years of deceit and lies. She has some seriois explaining to do as regards to why her pussy is so wide or is that the new virgin system. My advice to the guy, send her packing strait away. Women are full of deceit.........shior.

I'm really having a hard time coming up with a response for your rubbish, cos I'm baffled as to how one could conjure so much gibberish at a blow. Did she force him to stay? Or put a gun to his head for two years that he couldn't move on? So only virgins can be raped? Based on ur submission, u are a potential rapist

Rapmoney:
I only stated the obvious. I didn't make excuses for anyone.

What do u understand by "the obvious"? Abi u feel say na to dey speak English anyhow

Stop making up excuses, it was premeditated. U were tired of being turned down for over two years based on ur narrative and what u said u had done for her, and getting Urself drunk which I doubt u were was the perfect cover for any accusation. The moral from ur story is very simple, you are a weak sissy and a Royal mor.on as indicated by ur moniker.

Rapmoney:
The business of offering sexual pleasures for material things by humans, especially the female folks, has been in existence since a time no one can tell or remember. This profession exist in most part of the globe; even places where people eat, drink, dream and talk religious doctrines. The difference is the rate and modus operandi which are normally dependent on cultural values and socio-economic conditions.

Despite our cultural values we erroneously claim to hold so dearly, certain factors have proven to us that our so much touted cultural values have been beaten and rubbed on the mud like a lazy school boy by these same factors. Below are some factors that have necessitated the increase of prostitution in Nigeria in recent times.

1. POVERTY: The high rate of poverty in Nigeria has forced so many struggling parents to reluctantly neglect the welfare of their children. Let me tell you today, the level of patience in men is higer than that of women. It is easier for a young man to bear hunger and economic deprivation for a period than a young woman. It is even worse in women if such a woman is pretty and naturally endowed. Poverty and prostitution are like bread and akara; they go pari pasu. This has made many young women, both the educated and uneducated, to delve into the 'money for hand, back for fround' job. These days, the average naija babe you meet anywhere is likely to show you some olosho tendencies within minutes. Mechanics no let us know who be craze again; my guy, town dor cast! Country no easy!

2) THE MUSIC INDUSTRY: Most Nigerian songs promote the situation where young women offer sex for material gains. I mean, our music industry is so messed up to the point where these folks that call themselves artistes go to the studio to cook up crappy stuffs as songs with little or no sense! The main focus is usually worshipping the boobs and backside of young women and how they can die for these by spending their money. These are not love songs; we have always been given doses and doses of prostitution music over and over again in Nigeria. Now, what do you expect from young teenage girls who assimilate these songs into their mentality? They see whatever natural feauture they possess as means to obtain material things and offer sex in return.

3) THE OVER-DEPENDENCY MENTALITY OF MOST FEMALES IN OUR SOCIETY: Most girls now prefer to get quick money through this trade by barter that still uses currencies. They'd rather do this than apply their energy to other things that can generate funds. Some girls you call 'small girls' in your neighbourhood are not really 'small girls'. These girls take flight to places like Abuja and Port-Harcourt to bang and lick the navels of money bags over 60!!!

4) PARENTAL IRRESPONSIBILITY: Some parents are nothing but stooges and effigies in the lives of their daughters. They hardly care who she moves with or how she lives. All fathers are men and all mothers, women but not all men are fathers and not all women, mothers. You are raising a call-girl when you don't care how your 19-year old daughter was able to acquire a phone worth 170k and you know she is still dependent on you. You wey be her papa still dey stay zinc house!

5) LACK OF CONTENTMENT: Some young women are never contented with what they have. They are very eager to follow trends. They want to make use of the latest electronic gadgets, have their bank accounts credited often by different men, etc. Even some young women that work and earn steady income still engage in this trade just to keep up with trends.

Except you are married and faithful to your wife, or a celibate or eunuch, let no man boast he does not patronize prostitutes. Your girlfriend who you spend on and she gives you sex is likely a prostitute! That is the defnition of prostitution!

There are people who have been affected by these conditions and they are not prostituting, and also people who have not been affected by any but are into the business. It's a matter of choice, stop making up excuses on their behalf

MissKim:
Please, Is Her Man Playing Her Or Just A Victim Of Circumstance?

HI

My girlfriend came to my house yesterday and during girls chit chat, she told me something that is kind of baffling to me.

She met this guy late 2015 on facebook and they later met in person. They have been in relationship since then till now. She told me she had 2 abortions for him last year immidiately she missed her period by taking a drug. He gave her his reasons, that he is not yet buoyant to foot pregnancy, baby, traditional marriage and that his place is too small to house relations that may want to visit.

She missed her period 4days ago and she told her boyfriend she will want to keep it and suggested him paying only bride price since he had the plan to marry her like he said, but he told her that, that will obstruct his plan to travel out by him making use of his budgeted money and also it is expensive for him now to keep to take care of pregnancy,mother and baby. He then suggested she starts taking unripe papaya, parsley leaves etc to miscarry since she just missed her period. She came to me feeling confused.

I told her if the guy truly loves her and want to make her future wife finances shouldn't be the problem...but in all, the decision is hers to make. It is obvious this guy is not that serious but may be wrong.

Just wondering how many of you would decide to marry their present girlfriend if such case presents itself. Though i do not support marriage because of pregnancy.

I don't know if it's ignorance or sheer stupidity. How can she abort 1,2 and still open her legs for a third? Your friend needs Jesus!

nkwuocha1:
Lol.
Northern Army with their myopic mindset . IPOB Is a movement, a movement of certain percentage of Igbos who wish to have their their own country through referendum.

All these that happened in ABA was to taste the ground,the military needed to find out the level of destruction that might take place if they carry out their intended mission of eliminating Nnamdi Kanu. Smart people know their unintelligent moves. Definitely, igbos should expect more challenges as they know that Igbos too are ready for them as well. The quick movement of youths from different igbo speaking states with buses and quick destruction of federal properties was actually a game on. They got the message alright;IPOB meant biafra or death for REAL!They will restrategize for sure.The coming weeks will reveal other strategies.

Let's face it! Na gun be Army power.Power comes from the barrel of a gun. They are not well trained to defend themselves in physical combat. No wonder naija delta militants dey chop them like fish inside creeks water. If only this government will be truthful and post the number of Army and naval personal missing in the naija delta especially bayelsa....

I watched the video of the IPOB swimming in mould water. That's what they should expect and more if ever they want to be liberated. Nothing comes easy, sometimes ejaculation/orgasm still comes with pain.For those who lost their lives, my heart goes to their families. It's the choice they made.... We shall all die someday.

The Igbos might have their problems, but whatever be the course they are fighting Now will birth a message to other generations to come. There's is no room for slavery in our land, little wonder we had a decentralized government in pre-colonial times. We may not get biafra quite soon.... But the status quo where a particular tribe feels they are born to rule MUST change. Nigeria MUST change else the country can never be at peace!

Nnamdi kanu, I never liked the guy but he has got guts. Atleast somebody is revolutionizing the country, doesn't matter what way; The only language Nigeria government understands is violence. Dialogue has never worked, if it had, We won't be here fighting ourselves with hate speeches and ethnic/genocidal threats.


Nigeria is a forced union. It's either we live in peace or war in pieces. Truth is, Nigeria was never at peace. We just had a country where her citizens go about their activities as long as they can work and get paid. The recession just brought out the worst in all of us coupled with the bad leadership of president Buhari. Is he the first northerner that has ruled Nigeria? Fulani herdsmen are terrorists yet they have miyetti Allah as their political platform. Whatever happens to them is ultimately defended by the association. Who are we deceiving in this country?

The civil unrest that is brewing is inevitable. It's long overdue. The country need to be thoroughly overhauled through restructuring FIRST, then secession if need be. No matter how we try to manage Nigeria, it cannot work, the average Nigeria youth is tired. A tired, hungry and subjugated man is one who has got nothing to lose if he decides to fight for a better standard of living. Even a rabid dog down,do not want to be hunted.


To those irritants who feels this "war" is an igbo /hausa one, I laugh you with my neck bent upwards. When it starts, it will bring along various riots from aggrieved groups; Those butchered by herdsmen,Muslim Vs Christian, Mambilla vs Fulani, aggrieved Shiites vs Sunni muslims,States with border /land issues especially those states that suffered political divide and rule tactics, Boko Haram will intensify, Naija delta militants, etc.All will hijack the whole unrest ... at the end of it, How many will remain?

What is coming in few weeks to come will be terrible.

My brother u really have foresight. Many who have chosen to sit by the fence are gradually jumping into the field. Declaring them a terrorist group is simply asking for an arms struggle which is very unwise.

Kayceenaz:
I take exception to your view. The foundation of my contention is a sheer desire to see ladies embrace a perspective of purposefulness, difference-making and discard life-patterns that stiffle the maximization of their potentials. It is not necessarily feministic, because the same orientation is applicable to and can be shared by men. The article's basis is humanism. More so, I made that statement to clearly define the scope of my article and avoid getting entangled in the feminism debate.

A writer who isn't open to criticism and instead of asking why, comes up with a defense is either lethargic to learning or has no desire to improve.

Kayceenaz:
Going through one of the Groups on Whatsapp social network that I am fortunately a member of, yesterday evening, exposed me to the thought-provoking speech delivered by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, a literary juggernaut, titled "Why We Should All Be Feminists," in an event few years ago. Reading each line was a voyage of discovery, as I was amazed the more by the wittiness of the author and her articulate redefinition of feminism. Few days earlier, I came across a topic in a textbook bordering on feminism, which piqued my interest and was perceived as a means to enrich my-inquisitive-self on the much talked about feminist school of thought. Without further ado, I immersed myself in it, hoping to be cured of my feminism ignorance. Feminism is not an uncommon word in the female sphere and this is not unrelated to its etymological reference to female folks. This is becoming the case in the male sphere, too mainly because of the idea that it is diametrically opposed to status-quo and aimed at undermining the male folks. Whether feminism is valid or invalid is a topic for another day.

The focal point is the relentlessness of this woman of difficult virtue to carve a niche for herself, and contribute meaningfully to the evolution of global thought amidst a society where priorities are being ill-defined. It is no breaking news that this misunderstanding of what a lady or woman should feed her attention on is a thorn in the skin of our socio-political well-being. This sheds light on the crave for fashion, relationship/marriage, and money that is widespread among most ladies today. Although all the aforementioned are worth having, problem creeps in when they become the be-all-and-end-all of most females' consideration and dominate their scale of preference. The distance between what truly matters and themselves is so wide, and yet they remain unaware.

Sadly, it is a rarity to see Chimamanda Ngozi Adichies today in this part of the globe that are willing to break free from this ugly trend, enhance the society via their talents, and envision to leave their footprints in the sand of time; ladies that are committed to touching lives and exuding emulative virtues. Making your existence count is a product of re-prioritizing your priorities. It entails calling yourself to order, re-evaluating your interests reflective in your actions, and weighing them on the scale of difference-making/purposefulness. Brandishing your body shape or figure, clothes, relationship status, or material acquisition puts a very big question mark on your person, values, and inevitably the female agitation to be taken seriously summarized in feminism. Aligning yourself with the "happening babe" notion depresses, rather than impress. It depresses your spirit-man, self-esteem without you in the know and supresses your potentials to a great extent.

However, Jane Goodall, a reverred UN ambassador, said "You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you. What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide the kind of difference you want to make." So become a lady or woman that her worth transcends her physique or ring on the finger. One that is appreciated due to the beauty of her intellect, character and not primarily the beauty of her body. A lady that growing kids, guys and ladies, men and women would look up to and come to value her values. A woman of substance and societal relevance that resonates hope to all. Would you become one? Yes? Make it happen.


Kaycee Naze
(Rational Pen)

When I got to that point(bolded) I stopped reading cos it simply meant there is no foundation to whatever u had to say.

kennybabs1980:
I started pastoring a small parish of a big Pentecostal church in Akure in 2012. We used to meet in a small location in a housing estate until 2015 when we relocated to our permanent site, a location that's about 10km farther than our former site.

Most of the worshippers in the former location refused to relocate when we moved because of the distance and associated stress. That means we have to start the parish all over again. So we have been having very low attendance which has been improving since about 4 months now.

The new site is a new community occupied mainly by people who have just moved to their personal houses. More than 60% of the plots remained undeveloped for now.

One major issue here is the rate at which most people that attend the parish sees the church as a place where their needs must be met. They keep coming up with one demand or the other every week. Their demands include food, money and now that school is about to resume, school fees and books. Parents will teach their little children to go and tell stories of how they can't resume at school since they don't have school fees and books, elderly people even come around to ask for money and food, this situation is becoming very disturbing and worrisome.

How can people see a very small church of less than 40 (90% children) in attendance as a source of supply of all their needs? Our parent church don't get involved in funding the small parish, we are the one who returns our tithes and offerings to the national headquarters every month. Offering in the church is small, adults come around to put N10 or N20 in offering bag and later send their children to go and ask for N10k assistance, I got pissed off this evening when a small girl who attends a public secondary school came around to ask for school fees of N10k and books of N10k for herself and same for her 2 siblings making a total of N30k. We bought exercise books and gave 4 to each pupil just last Sunday with pencils and biros and between then and now, they have bombarded the church with demands of well over N100k. Where do they really want the church to meet their demands? The church is operating under a temporary shed we put up in 2015, we've not been able to continue with serious building project due to paucity of funds. We (I, my wife, my assistant and his wife) have been trying in the areas of giving out food items, money, drugs, clothes etc to these people yet its one demand or the other on a daily basis.
I see these attitude as unwholesome, disturbing and unfair.

I need serious suggestions on how to really handle this situation as it is already dampening my morale. Matured and spiritual suggestions welcomed, thanks.

Start giving account of their offering to them every Sunday so that they know how inconsiderate their demands are.

Nice

This is just like going to the market to buy size 40 when u know ur shoe size is 20, the shoe will end up on different people's legs

Just Tell her she's like your elder sister and u can't imagine urself bunking ur own sistet then watch how fast the feelings will die, cos women hate to be friendzoned

Freeman50:
As seen on Facebook.......

How true is this?

what ya say here guys?

Brainless people shouldn't use the social media cos they can't start using any platform that will expose their stupidity

lafflaff123:
Divorce difficult because they are Catholics?

No wonder promiscuity amongst married Catholic women is very high. Makes sense to me now.

Mr. Man, it is not only an abomination in all cultures what your wife just did. It is also insulting and a painful slap to your face.

Kick her out to her parents house first. Then,you can start the divorce proceedings later. But first kick her out today and not tomorrow.

What rubbish is this?and if the Catholic church wants to say anything,give them the middle finger and move on to the Anglican Church.

May God never let us bachelor's marry a girl,and then bring up the child of her EX boyfriend as ours, AMEN.

Expecting some useless people to call the News and the Newspaper a lie,because it says the woman was married in Anambra State.

According to the Catholic law on marriage as contained in the canon law, deceit automatically makes the union invalid cos the pregnancy is an impediment.

bluetrails7:
What

I just used that to book space

bluetrails7:
Which is the bigger threat to marriages of the next generation ?

1. In-laws

2. Feminist Ideologies.


Don't go too far, let's take a vote, for In-laws click like, for Feminism, click share

Feminism is a misconception of roles and nothing more. The proponents of feminism don't even have a definition for it. It's easier to face or tackle your in-laws than a confused partner.

That girl is the most stupid idiot ever . No amount of explanation can change the impression which that picture holds, Just imagine the impudence.

Just imagine the impudence.

The army based on the torture video that's in circulation has over stepped its boundary. The use or show of force has never been the answer to any agitation, it's like fuelling a flame. They want to begin another war when the one they, out of propaganda used in winning the election is growing by the day. Its a pity that some persons are cheering on forgetting that the barrel of a gun has no relatives.

Nope, I don't have time to waste.

eberetos:
My friend told me a lady after her wedding ceremony left the new husband & went to collect 3 rounds sex or so from a man.....Dont you think she can still go into adultery later People can rubbish marriage ooh

No matter how u dress up a pig, it will still roll in dirt.

Seunosewapenis:
Since i broke up with my ex I've been lookin for this new slayed queen that wont form hard to get.So my guys introduce me to this girl,After thr introduction i asked her out and she accepted,So i ask if she we can hangout at my place and she accepted.Now the D day finally came mehn she looked so hot i instantly goy hard so i ask her if we can sex.Bet she said no that she doesnt have sex with guys on the first date.So my question is why cant Girls have sex on first date?

Fallacy of hasten generalization. The decision to or not to is relative, it's not a general thing. There are ladies who would initiate it on the first date, I believe u weren't convincing enough.

Riwo11:
I mean very unromantic... They don't even deserve to have a female friend talk more of a girl lover.
Ahh.. The only thing they know is "baby oya naa you go come weekend for my place" and the girl go carry body come, it will be all about bed racing and in each 5 mins both will be sweating and breathing like people that climbed olumo rock.
Some cannot even kiss well.. But let me not even go that side.
No! guys. No!!.
Learn to be romantic. Learn to be caring.. That girl you think that can't offer you anything but sex happens to be the way you made her, since you only give her nothing except white drops of semiliquid substance in a 5 secs electrifying mood.
No. Guys.. Be romantic. I mean show her you love her.
Many girls are not that demanding, but be romantic to give her money for hair once she post online.. "This is my natural hair".
In fact take her to a saloon and let her make her choice hair style.
When ever she posts "make up free day", it is a lie. Call her and give her money to buy plenty foundations and other make up kits.
Adore her. Be like "you look sweet, your hair is lovely, your make up is so cool. I love the way your lipstick goes same colour with your shoe."
Guy have you not observed that she almost have same pairs of panties and bras..
Ahh ahh. Bro. Don't always rush to pull what you don't know the price.
Go to super market. Buy her panties and different sets of underwear.. The owner of the shop will not chase you away. Lols..
You can even help her to wash them.
Can't you see that your babe have this body odour. Not that she smells, but buy her perfumes, body sprays, roll on, in different fragrances. You will still be the person to enjoy her neatness.
Take your girl to movies, sit by her side, hold her hand and watch movie with her.
Girls are gossip and they enjoy doing with their man. Why not be her gossip mate; gossip with her very well.
Be crazy for your girl. Tell her how you want her to be.. Tell her "baby, I don't want you to wear black pant today, why not wear that pinky pant with side rope.
It is not only when you call her you tell her "I love you" at the end of conversation. No no.. Borrow words from Shakespeare. write love lines; send her early enough to read once she is awakes; tell her how you love her in each line.
Guy don't just stay inside d room waiting for your bae to cook and bring food for you from the kitchen.. You are off from work and what are you doing .. "Nothing". Join her and make the cooking fun so that even if the food is not tasty you won't even observe while eating..
Don't forget to give her money, pocket money, chopping money, shopping money, in fact place her on salary scheme.
Place a standing order with your bank to always recharge her line with a certain amount of money from your account at intervals.
Bae can be very romantic if actually you are. Take the lead and that is why you are the man. She will reciprocate well.
Don't allow her to have any opportunity of finding joy from any other man and she will cheat on you.
ciolayemi.sylva
Let me come and be going....
Anyway am waiting for your bashing o
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Shovel is very cheap in my area, and i can afford to get u one free of charge so that u can start digging for gold from your fathers compound.

There's nothing to prove, cos nobody will listen to u when things turn sour. simply Stop hanging out with peoples wives