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@poster,

dangote sugar is now N47.68k as at today.and its still depreciating.  

@ uyai, things have improved with my boyfriend.

i feel so bad that you have to go thru this.all i did was free my mind.i stopped taking a lot of things he did to heart.infact, when i dont see him, i tease him and tell him that hes running away from me, i try to bring up a past time that was really fun (e.g asking if he remembers stuff we've done together) just to lighten up the mood.

i just decided to be his friend instead of being his galfriend.dat kind of took the pressure off him and he began communicating.

if trying to be his friend doesnt work after a while, you can just slip away before he even notices. have fun with your new friends, enjoy your job, make sure you do yourself proud, there'll always be someone who will cherish you.

teee:
@topic
your own better
my girlfriend is 40 years older than me

bros ye, this your handshake has gone beyond the elbow oh.

@poster,
it dont matter much.

@poster,
are you sure you are ready to get married?maybe the gals think you are joking.

@poster,
who are these people everywhere you go?if you guys love each other and you two are not 'ss' then please start going somewhere else where you will meet more optimistic people.

i know a couple that was told their stars dont match, but guess what?they've been married for over 30years and still counting.

i'm virgo and my boyfriend is aquarius, our stars dont match, but we sure do.so dont worry about things dat dont matter. cheers

@IBB fan,
didn't see tissue paper in that john of yours.or na water u still dey use?

my dear, no be fine bobo we go chop oh

@poster

shes damn ugly-you must be damn ugly too cos birds of a feather flock together!!!!.

shes rich - you must be a church rat cos opposites attract!!!!!

that is the story of your gold digging sorry life,contradictions upon contradictions.you had better be a man and stop living off rich and succesful women.pick your sorry ass of the floor and go get you a job.

@cute-ass, you make loads of sense.

@uyai,
i feel your pain cos reading ur most made me feel like i was the one talking only no ex in the picture (cos when i move on, i dont look back or even sideways).lately my boyfriend that use to be the most caring person in my world suddenly seems busy and tired all the time. at first i was upset just like you and thot of so many things.

the questions you should ask yourself is
1.am i asking for too much?
2.am i crowding him?do i ever give him space?
3.am i pushing too hard or am i holding on too tightly to him?
4.do i have a life apart from him?
5.am i letting my insecurities get in the way?
6.am i communicating with him in the lang. he understands?

belive me, take this time to develop your self and find focus and try not to hold on too tight.its not so easy considering how you feel,but just pray for the strenght.if after a while things dont improve i.e you guys are not communicating, then my dear bouce, you certainly dont need headache panadol cannot cure.

i'm not married but i dont think lack of money is the leading cause of marital unhapiness and divorce.its more like disagreement over money.

when a couple starts to fight about money issues, then that marriage is on the way down.for those that do not have, the fight may be about 'when are we ever going to have?'and for those that have, it may be 'you want to finish all the money?'

na wah sef oh

vesta,that someone has your kids is not good enof reason to get married.it will be an incentive if you always wanted to marry the person.but when you start to have doubts then only you can make up your mind on what to do.

just wandering,if some gal makes you give up your dream of being a 'father' to being a father, dont you think she is worth getting married to?or is she your ticket to life out of the seminary?

as i child i wanted to be an air hostess, just so i could travel the world!!!until someone told me it may be my passport to the beyond!!!

also wanted to be a banker after that, but am scared of the stress!!!

never wanted to be a lawyer cos of the years spent in school and reading 2much.

but guess what?i'm a lawyer!!!!! and loving it too. life is funny!

obanikoro true true na your mouth no let you win election.lol. my guy no kill me with laff!!!!

congrats oh

my dear you are dealing with a gal that has psychological issues.she has to be handled with care and so far from what you have said, you have tried to do that. i guess she has a lot of mood swings 2. just try to get together with her even if you have to beg this one time, just get her talking. you'll be surprised at how much she'll reveal to you only if you can communicate.learn to speak her language, make sure what she wants you to hear is exactly what you are hearing, be her friend for that moment, just listen, and you'll probably hear a whole lot she's been trying to tell you.

gudluck bro.

@la,
you are right.

i have a friend who dated someone that sounds just like this guy.she thought she could change him or he would grow to love her. the result? a baby boy she can barely take care of, a marriage that never was, time wasted on a no good brother, time being spent looking for the 9ja man that would love her and her son (still searching for that), no social life (has to change pampers), the list is endless.

so gal,dont ever think you can change a man, (except that man wants to change you cant change him). please have fun if you dont want to commit but beware of having fun with a messed up private life bro, the mess just might extend to you!!!be careful my dear.

thanx guys. you guys are 4ever helpful.belive me, you guys have put sense into their heads.they dont want to break up, so mrs. is ready to bend for mr while mr has agreed to go with whatever makes mrs. happy (she read all your posts by the way).

so to those who find themselves in a similar position,pray until something you like happens.

Why are you thinking about the short run? I personally believe in the big picture. I would rather do something that will pay off on the long run.

However, an MBA is an advantage in a lot of fields so you could try that or specialize in an area you are already familiar with.

8666, thanx for the info. i was interested until i realized i had to pay for form!!!!!all the banks are interested in is money in their account period!!!so for all those still interested gudluck and for those of us that want to play it safe, we'll wait for another opportunity we can identify with.

sorry oh, but is the foundation a sole proprietorship?no directors, no trustees, no patrons, just ugochi abasi?hhmmmnnn

thanx a bunch

@ thoniaslim,
you are right.

you can be rest assured he is suffering one way or the other, you dont have to add to it.try and have fun with your new boyfriend and forget you ever knew him.being in love with another person makes forgiving easier. just let sleeping dogs lie and enjoy your new love.

it use to be milo all the way, but believe me bournvita is fast catching up.have you tried it lately?

i think they look alike

true love does exist in Nigeria though it may be hard to find.

byby naija:
[b] true love does not exist anymore! especially now that we are in world of money rules our woman, they even fancy money than love, they will always tell u love is blind, and love without money, u know what it means,lol. they even prefer to love older man that the younger man, all in the sake of money. who knows what might happen in ten years to come, maybe woman will always love woman (lesbian) and man will always love man (gay) in Nigeria and get married. But my answer to your question is, that i believe my girl friend love me, lol

who says there are no gold digging men?

my dear long distance relationships are expensive to maintain.the question is how long are you going to be away from him?can you maintain the relationship for that long considering all the expenses involved?if hes not financially bouyant he may be feeling a bit insecure(considering the stress and money involved commuting from continent to continent)so even when you guys love eachother if you cant maintain the relationship, build on it and make it grow, you may have to give it up no matter how much it hurts.

i've noticed that overpossessive and paranoid people (guys and babes) are usually very insecure. my advice, find out what is making her feel insecure, and try to do something about it.you just may see an overwhelming difference.

the boy no fit find another work? the 5m no go finish?na wah oh

havent you met ugly gals that are soooooooo unaproachable?them plenty oh despite having a resemblance to their uncle obj or uncle taribo in some cases !!!so the issue is not about pretty gals, its more like gals with d wrong attitude. so if you find a pretty gal with the right attitude, be a man and approach her if you like what you see.

if she like make she marry mobutu seseseko papa, na she know.

he proposed to her knowing she attends another church, but he took it for granted that she will change to his church, and she took it for granted that he will let things remain as they are(attending their various churches).he attends one of these flamboyant churches and she, a kind of conservative one.i thought it was such a trivial issue until i realized what they were going through and how much an issue like this could test your love for eachother.

please Nairaland users, i have a friend who is about to get married.

She doesn't want to attend the same church with her future husband because she doesn't particularly like his place of worship. He insists she must agree to attend his church when they get married before they can go on with the ceremonies and he is not willing to compromise.

They both love each other yet they are both stubborn. Do you honestly think attending the same church is a prerequisite for a happy marriage? I need your opinions on this.