what is with the search for wife today?

can i assume its raining men??

bee444:

Well, what about knowing you yourself? You seem the friendly type

Err , but you asked to be hooked up na?

@ Poster, i'm not sure if you are really serious, but if you are, how can anyone recommend a friend or someone they know to someone they barely know?  otherwise i have made friends from this forum and i mean decent people that actually do have great lives,

@ b who u r,

I still insist there is something both of you have not told us, that is the fundamental issue here. Fine she breached your privacy code, but really did she? she was talking to a bunch of strangers, and you would have waited to see her response before loosing it, that way you would have known if she was going to listen to her 'new friends' or if she just wanted to talk to someone other than you or Labake on the issue.

While we cant tell you how to live your life, I can assure you that breaking up with your fiancee on Nairaland is just pure WRONG! please do NOT give Musa the key and Sia would not come and pick nothing.

If you are the person you want us to believe you are, then be a man and talk to Sia face to face. break up with her if you want to, but be a man and do it in person.

and all the best with Labake, am starting to believe you were starting to like Labake all the while you were with Sia and you were just waiting for the slightest excuse!

@ Sia,

don't fuss it, try to give him some time and then speak with him. if after that he still wants to leave, then please let him go, yours will come to you.

@ Labake,

again, na wa for you!

Is this still about the poster & her atheist bf?

i wish we could all state our different views without having to insult each other

@ OP,

I have learnt over time that there are some battles you don't fight, not because you don't care enough, but because its not your place to fight, most especially when it comes to another human being. Lance Armstrong faught cancer, but not many people can, people fight addictions, you can fight it for them, you can only show them one of the many reasons to fight and its left for them to see it.

while I understand that you may genuinely care about this person, I can only tell you that his addiction battle is not for you to fight. Again, when you have a nagging feeling about something, please never ignore it. think long & think hard before you go into a relationship with this guy.

@ 4amorc,

Please tell us what YOU as a person knows or has experienced with Amorc, lets know if you understand the basic principles and values that they live by or not. if we want Pierre Freemna's point of view, you have showed us where to find it. please we want your own so we can learn from YOU.

Labake is the problem , he heard all what she had to say and believed her before even reading your post! if he had stumbled upon the thread without Labake's prodding, chances are that he would never have posted anything.

if hes not taking your calls, get someone he really respects to talk to him. infact, you should refer the person to the thread.

please try to sort this issue out and then deal with Labake.

@ Labake again,

Na wa for you!

Na wa , See drama! enter be who you are and a certain Labake!!!

@ Labake,

Na wa for you sef o, you no try at all

@ be who u r,

are you really being who you are? is your galfriend's perception of you who you really are? if yes, the please prove it to her (not us because we are as faceless as you can imagine) Again, please what are your intentions towards her? do you really love her or you just fancy the fact that she will always remain grateful for your help and you will be a hero in her eyes?

@ OP,

Are you sure you really know this guy? your issues go deeper than religion and you know it! there is something going on in your relationship that probably goes against the foundation on which you have stood and lived.  I personally don't think whether we tell you to go ahead and marry an atheist or not is the answer to your problem.

@ Mad Max,

well said.

@ all,

You guys rock I beg , very interesting replies

@ Poster,

The only reason i'll say sorry is because you are leaving what you know and entering the unknown, and this can be annoying especially when you are not prepared for the transition.

but my advice to you is simple. take some time to rest. rest your brain, rest your feet from the waka about of marketing, and decide what exactly you want to do. by that I mean do you want to look for another job or you want to go into business? if you want to remain in paid employment, then please respond to any vacancy that resembles what you have done and what you studied in school. you must revamp your cv to make it broad based, and your cover letter for each application must be tailored to the job you are applying for. don't look down on any advert either in the papers or website (am speaking from experience, its just that my story is too long, i would have given you my own gist). even if it is a yahoo adress please apply. if they ask for 3 years and you have just one, still apply. and like someone said, erase all that big paper figure banks promise to pay, because another organization may be willing to offer less on paper, but more will be take home.

if you choose to start a business, then you have to think of whether you want to buy and sell goods or you want to provide a service.

most of all, have a clear picture of what you want and focus on it, it will surely happen. and pray to God that it doesnt tarry.

all da best.

Ujujoan, Please chill for the poster. i understand your need to try to reason the issue out, but your reasoning is actually comming out as an attack! who cares if hes making up stories, just give him advice if you feel the need to.

@ Poster,

If your wife wants a divorce because she doesnt get what she ask for on time, then there are many ways to handle the matter. but if she says she doesnt love you anymore, then i'd advice you find out how the love went out the window and what you can do to run after it. but before i say grant her divorce, i really need to know the reason you are in america & she is in nigeria. she cant love you when shes seen you only 3 times since you've been married and you guys dated online for 2 years!

you will agree with me that it is difficult to love what you dont know!

please how does she humilate you? or are you battling with inferiority complex?

the reason you dated her for 5 years should keep you married to her , & you better treat her right cos shes your wife now!!!

I remember some obama guy started a thread on the state of health of oceanic bank & he was almost crucified until Sanusi's announcement forced all of us to be more objective. i dont work in oceanic bank, but the poster does and has simply expressed his concern, while people may find his post a hasty generalization, i think we should pick out the message he was trying to pass across and look for ways to make changes instead of calling him names.

while he has posted on Oceanic bank alone, i can say from my own banking experience (both as a staff & account holder in other banks) that the laxity cuts across board, though some may be to a higher level than others. I dont particularly fancy GTB even though i maintain an account there. their tellers can be slow depending on the branch you're in anyway but so it is with the other 23 banks.

my point is that we should take the lesson we can from this post and disagree without being disagreeable instead of resorting to name calling. oceanic bank treated their staff well in my opinion and i give Cecilia credit for that, I just hope some people read this post and sit up.

you are not wrong my dear , but you are wrong in thinking that a guy that hasn't 'made it' at 30 still doesnt stand a chance. you are also wrong in thinking some guy in paid employment at that age (be it bank or oil co.) will have all the things you have listed and will be willing to share with you alone.

first of all, you may want to find out the average age people graduate, serve & get a job, believe me with all the ASUU strike here and there, the bobo for don dey cross 30 sef (lol).

again, a guy at that age that is in a bank like you stated will not have money to spend on you as he would have taken all the available loans and his salary will be used to service his lifestyle. you will still find yourself giving him money to buy petrol in his brand new car from time to time.

guys in oil & guys are the most unstable. at that age, a lot of guys just want to feel cool & date the most beautiful girl around, they probably not thinking beyond living each day the way it comes.

so like someone earlier mentioned, your best bet is old money , the Ibru's, Dozie's, Adenuga's of this world. i just hope you are ready for all the issues that will come with it. abi you think you are the only girl that wants to marry rich man? all the others thinking like you will be struggling with you for the bobo and believe me some will win you (_{na so life be})

please let other qualities & character be priority for you and then the pepper can be the icing on the cake.

my 2 cents.

you have to be a man & make your own decisions. if you allow your parents to impose a wife on you, then be prepared to allow them put food in your mouth. please leave that girl alone because you will make her life miserable, you will never be able to love her as much as you should and you know it! as for the girl you have a crush on, please wake up and stop all that secondary school stupidity. this is the real world, please deal with issues like a man!

i had to seek out this thread to post my comment!!please where are all the people that have called the poster names and praying for his sack? instead of the poster being sacked, the CEO was shown the door - what irony!!

people must start to realise that those in branches & areas outside of the head office may not know as much as those in H/O or those that their branch heads are close to management. the poster was giving information he was priviledged to discover & people called him all sorts, is there anybody that really believes banks dont cook their books? the issue is to what extent!

if oceanic bank really was that liquid, they should have at least dipped into their reserve and paid chin chin to shareholders, as soon as they didnt do that, i knew the poster had a point even if at that point i felt he was exaggerating. now we know & its a shame!

whitelexi:

You need a reality check, or a self check, or both

@sinako,

are you a happy and attractive person? do you have those qualities that you like the man to have? that is the 1st step. number 2, that saying is true , when you are not looking, hes probably looking at you. so at all times, that smile must never leave your face. i have been in your shoes. when i attend occassions, go out, go to the cinema and blah blah the first thing i do is check for guys that look my type and are single and when i dont see, my fun may even reduce, until i decided i wasnt looking anymore. i got myself some DVD's - girlfriends, graya anatomy, boston legal and just freed my mind. the next party i attended, i made up my mind to have fun and not look out for any man & that was it - that was how he saw me.

but guess what, i didnt send him then. i did give him a tough time not because i planned to, but because he just wanst the kind of guy i had in my head and so i didnt bother with whether he was nice or not, i just ignored him. my point is that you may have met the person that will make the rest of your life worth the wait, but if you have ideas of how he should be, you may walk past him over and over and not recognise him because he may not come in that package.

again, when you meet guys, never have the mindset of checking if they are relationship material, check if they are friend material. the best relationships are between friends.

my 2 cents.

Fhemmmy:

u get time oh.
how can pple fight over side of the bed.
someone shd take the bed away and give them mat to sleep.

abi ooooo , they even saw bed to fight over , i think the mat is the solution, then they will get to appreciate the benefit of a soft matress and probably fight over something worth fighting about. God i beg oooo

MRbrownJAY:


also there must have been something fishy already within your marriage for you to go snoop in your husband´s phone. if everything was nice and lovely, the thought wouldnt have come to your mind to do what you did.

gbam!!!! u just hit the nail on the head with a sledge hammer !!!

@ poster,

care to talk about the real reason you read his text message?

PurestBoy:

pofpof or what do u call ur stinking name? You're full of rubbish and don't let me call u a fool, angry

Oga Purestboy, take a chill pill na, we are done with the insults and name calling - how many times kpof kpof go talk sorry? abi e don tay u chop puff puff?

this thread is soooo funny the venom from kpofkpof kept me lmao  

but having said that, i work in a bank and maintain accounts in other banks as well. some of the charges we pass to customers are unnecessary, there are other ways of making money off the public. really, there are 24 banks, if you dont like 1, try the other 23. i was forced to open an account with intercontinental bank, when i observed that my account officer couldn't service my needs like i wanted, i took all my small change and moved to Diamond bank and opened HIDA account quietly. for me, its all about the best deal. no need to shout from the roof top , if 1 no give you, believe me by the time you count to 23, you would have found a bank that meets your needs, nigerian banks are not that bad now ,

I just couldn't help but comment , its possible the poster is telling the truth , if the guy has the money to spend and has no qualms spending on the poster, then please let him spend , and poster , please enjoy , it may finish tomorrow & it just may not , but at least if it finishes, you can look back and know you enjoyed while it was there.

but poster wants to know what she should do to show appreciation and not my opinion on whether or not she is telling the truth or anything about their relationship. so i'll ask, did you do anything special but be yourself all this while? i suggest you keep doing what you've been doing , a guy that likes you likes you, whether or not you slave on his behalf. if you been pretending all this while, keep pretending (_{no even try show ur real sef}), if you been as real as you say, then keep on keeping on , and all the best 2 u,

and after that, what next abi u dey see vision?

25th Aug ,

@ Shuku, z pixel, adultebony , happy birthday in advance y'all ,

Ijapa888,

At 32, I suggest you should work on the following:

1. Your views about marriage, while your comment made me lol, its not always like that with the right person and communication.
2. You should work on creating wealth (wealth is different from having money. it's total and encompassing)
3. You should work on distributing some of the wealth (create employment for people and mentor them)
4. You should work on creating a brand (maybe Ijapa 888 Dynasty or something, let your name register like Aliko Dangote's)
5. Work on yourself, because after achieving all of the above, you will need humility!

Please keep us posted on what you have decided,

my 2 shillings!

over time, i've come to view cheating simply as giving to some other person what you would otherwise have given to your partner. it could be any number of things , as long as what you have given would have denied your partner access to that particular thing, then you have cheated. but importantly, i think the question should be why do people cheat? sometimes, the end result of cheating may be good or bad. it could be good if it helps you appreciate the good in your partner & bad if it only brings hurt to you and/or your partner,

my 2 cents

@ poster,

she is very perfect for your pocket. if you start the relationship with that kind of treatment, God knows what you'll get in the marriage!!! would you ever trust her? will those kids really be yours? when your pocket runs dry, will she move on to the next person?
if you are as descent and cool as you say, you'd find her comment extremely insultive. there are a million and one nice gals out there that will be less likely to give you heartache.so pls be an ibo man and remain one. ibo men are known for their pride and choosing the best.

my 2 cents.

@ Jairzinho,

Zenith bank actually has lifestlye financing, besides their usual current/savings/children savings.the issue is that they dont advertise them. i imagine its because of their target market. their focus is on mega transactions and they have relegated retail banking to the background.

to be fair to zenith bank, they try their best when it comes to service delivery, and contrary to what people say, their charges are no different from what other banks charge.

truth is the banking sector in Nigeria is just getting on their feet, with time things will improve and all our concerns would be a thing of the past.

my 2 cents!!!

i see HSBC, Credit Suisse and other banks advertising on CNN, does it mean they are stupid? so why would a Nigerian bank advertising on CNN mean something other than what it was intended to be? i.e an advert? the aim of advertising is to create awareness, and really you can choose to advertise in anyway or anywhere as long as its not offensive!

besides, i wonder why people are really attacking the banks!! if you go thru the job section, most of the adverts or comments are about one bank or the other recruiting. how many threads start with "thank God I got a job with Shell" or "Elf" or "Cadbury" to mention a few!!!so whether we like it or not, the banks are instrumental in providing job opprtunities. that is one plus

Ajose Adeogun street was paved by Zenith Bank.Fidelity Bank, ETB plants flowers and beutifies the environment!! how many are done by the oil or telecoms or manufacturing sector? the banks are there to make profit, like any other private sector organisation so please have mercy!!!

my 2 cents

my dear, let sleeping dogs lie. people have done worse, so dont worry you will heal. take care of your son and try to look good so that the right person for you would be able to approach you. he'll come back to beg to see your son, and then you will have the last laugh. take it easy dear, all is well