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@ poster,

are you sure you are a graduate with a discharge cert? and you are on level 4 in the federal ministry?that is strange,

@ gudguy,
well said.

@ tellthem,

my dear you do have a low self esteem. y would you ask if you have the body of a 2 yr old when you know you dont? he lies to you by saying yes and you were hurt.

he sees you know he just lied to you and tried to redeem himself by telling you the truth that your face looks old and again you are upset!!! phew!!

my dear you are in your late 20's, probably havent done any plastic surgery, probably going thru the stress of life in Nigeria, of course you dont expect to look the way you did when you had nothing to think about.

its obvious he didnt mean to hurt you, but because of your low self esteem, you are making a mountain out of a mole hill (you seem to want nice complements all the time, and thats not realistic).work on your self esteem so that little things like this wont be an issue cos my dear as you get older, you will hear more and more about how old you have started looking.

try to improve your looks by taking adequate care of yourself, watch your diet and all and tellthem dont forget to smile often cos frowning all the time wont help your case.

my dear don dada, take a walk and dont look back.

@ poster,
shes been married 6mths and she wants to leave?when she said for better or worse and was smiling at her husband in front of the multitude, did she think every day of the marriage will be spent in a festive mood?

my dear poster, tell your friend that she has spent 6mths in her marriage and God knows how long developing a relationship with another man, time she would have invested in her own marriage. what has she not done that she ought to do?what did she do that she ought not to have done?she should ask herself these questions and seek the solution to her problems.

y did she marry him in the first place?does she really love her husband?is their marriage an agreement and a sham?are you sure your friend has no hidden agenda?

if you dont have the answers to these questions, then your friend hasnt told you everything.

congrats oh, and dont forget to keep the house posted

at entry level, take home is 91k. by the next year after you are confirmed, you get 500k. i think its upfront, am not sure. have a friend who works there and thats what she said. maybe those already in will enlighten you better.

all the best though.

@ topic,
sorry oh, but y dont you just look for an american man? cos the average african man is born with pride. you cannot take his son to another mans house then come back to him with two sons from that other man!!!2 sons!!!

my dear 4get going back to him cos he wont marry you, hes african.

@ topic,

i know a guy whose parents are both AS. there are 8 of them, 7 are AS and 1 AA, non of them SS. sometimes, science cannot explain it all. if you are still young, you could look for someone else and avoid the risk. if you are so in love and you think you can take the risk, then go ahead.

New_girl:
"I don't love you as much as I used to love my ex-girlfriend."

Please what would you think if your boyfriend said the above statement to you?
What would you conclude?
Is such a person worth committing yourself to?

what would i think? i would bounce!!! i never settle for second best. dont think you should.

@ poster,

your list is rubbish. LADI BALOGUN in the top 10? not even his father? fola adeola? cecilia ibru becos she runs the bank that belongs to her husband and shareholders like you and i?4 petes sake!!!!!


my dear poster do your research before you come to this thread to discuss with enlightened people.

there's absolutely nothing wrong with the ministry. go ahead if you get the chance.

@ sweetstjoy,

your joy is probably too sweet for nlng. dont worry, somewhere better that needs your sweetness is waiting for you.
to all of us that didnt make it, not to worry cos that other door you didnt notice is about to open

@ kuwena,

am glad you made it cos every time i read thru your thread i said a prayer for you.
to all of us that made it, dont 4get us when you are swimming in gas money.

@orjiggah,

i dont know any serving corpers that made it. so i guess if they have to resume 1st of aug like is being speculated and corpers are passing out after then, its really not legal to employ them. so keep your head up, a lot can happen between now and august.

my dear, you work at oceanic bank and not hell, so there is no devil to be scared of. just go about your business as best as you can, and try not to involve yourself in too much office gossip.be nice to everyone and be smart about it cos 'niceness' is not a virtue. you should be fine.

@ cute_ass, you took the words right out of my mouth.

@ poster,
a girl that loves you would not kick you when you are down. this girl has the guts to demand a car when she knows things are not going too well right now. she has the guts to rub your face in the mud by being in a hotel with another man(probably past caring if she is seen or not) just becos you told her to be patient till things improve!!!!

my dear poster, your girl friend will not leave you cos she thinks you are the perfect mugu(i.e she can disrespect you and you will even apologise to her for disrespecting you), she will continue seing her 'aristos' cos she knows theres nothing you can do.

so take a cue from all the other posters, dump her fast.

congratulations. i know h. pierson, they just reviewed their salary too. all the best in your new job and say hello to mrs shayen(your MD)

@ titilayo,
just read this thread, and though you made silly mistakes, am glad you took responsibility for your actions and things have become right.

dont listen to those that express their disgust with name calling, they may do worse if they find themselves in your shoes.

the important thing is forgiveness from God, yourself and your fiancee which you have.take the lessons, stay true to yourself and the one you love.

@ poster,
there are a lot of things about your friend you don't know. if she's really in love with another and set to marry in Aug. then she should know how to handle her affairs.

and why did she promise to marry the married man?was she the one that proposed to him?

thank God oh.

are you a doctor?

@ topic,

whether we like it or not, marrying couples with the brides pregnant is simply exhibiting double standards.

the same christains will preach no sex before marriage, yet their fornication is celebrated in the open church with blessings from the pastors and congregation!!!! a pregnant bride should marry according to her tradition and registry and wait till she has put to bed to receive a marriage blessing and not a church wedding with all the attendant flamboyance.

@ topic,
christainity is being Christlike and not churchlike. Jesus Christ welcomed everybody, tax collectors, prostitutes e.t.c, he even warned his disciples not to call any of his creation unclean. but today most 'christains' have chosen to brand muslims as hell bound, atheist like seun are looked at with a shake of the head, and armoc, eckankar e.t.c are simply cultist. then what makes you a christain if you cant follow Christ's teachings?

a marriage between two people that understand that sitting down side by side in the same church is not a sine qua non to a happy union, and that those kids you seek to protect will oneday go their own way is definitely bound to work. but a marriage based on the church or mosque we attend is bound to fail cos Allah or God is the foundation of the marriage and not the church or mosque.

@ poster,
your friend is 24, that means she is not a baby.please leave her alone.

i have a friend who is just like your friend, i even stopped talking to her cos i felt that would make her get the gist. but when she refused to listen, i decided i dint want to loose our friendship cos of her choices. i have never dated married men and never will, but dat doesnt mean you should judge the next man.

leave her alone gal, and just be there for her, cos shes going to be crying a lot very soon. my friend sure did, and she has learnt her lesson. a word is enof ,

@ poster,
let me give you some legal insight to your issue. there is something called 'breach of promise' to marry. thus if she can establish that
1. you promised to marry her,
2. people around know her as your fiancee and some even call her your wife, and
3. she can establish that she has refused other advances and made sacrifices just to be with you and support you, then my dear poster, considering  how long court actions take, you will certainly spend more than 50k and even waec and nysc would have given you a new cert (considering how long that takes).

as per your documents, you must establish that you have a certificate (by showing photocopies), you must establish that they are in her possession(in that case she will be given a notice to produce), and you must also establish that she is witholding them out of malice.

my dear, the darling police may not be sympathetic to your case cos you have brought shame to the gal (you must have known the kind of person she was before leading her on). going to a law court may turn out to be against your favour. EFCC may not ba able to help you recover your documents cos they are configured to deal with large sums of money.

so my dear, consider all your options. try to make her see reasons why you guys will not be right for each other. try pleading with her to release your certificates and if that doesnt work, my dear get the photocopies of your documents, swear an affidavit to the fact that they are missing and certify your photocopies (i.e certified true copy) until you can recover the originals.

and in the process, make sure you learn your lessons, cos its not only those in pyschiatric hospital that are mental-you just jam were (mad man).sometimes people like you that toy with peoples emotions can make some people go mental.

@ topic,

what concerns me is the take home. there's no point putting 2.6m on paper and giving me 85k. at ecobank, the gross is lower than some other banks yet the take home is higher. i'd rather my gross is 1.3 and i take home 100k than for it to be 2.6 and take home 100k.

and that access bank is as stressful as hell.know someone who resigned to take up a lower paying job cos the stress was too much.

@topic, i think everyone is entitled to their opinion and be ready to take responsibility for whatever they choose to believe.

@seun, nferyn have you ever come across the the book 'In the Light of Truth, the Grail Message by Abd-Ru-Shin?' you shld try reading it.

MUMU would do for me.i.e someone willing to make me signatory to his fat account or gives me blank cheques.

@ poster,
if you want gifts from your bf, then tell him without being ashamed. the truth is whether you ask a guy or not may not necessarily change his feelings for you.there are people that get expensive gifts from their boyfriends yet he still breaks up with them.

if you want a gift ask for it, cos if the relationship ends and you dont ever get anything, it may leave you with a terrible feeling.

also my golden rule in dating is never date a guy that is SELFISH or STINGY. run from such.
if hes any of the above, my dear run oh.cos whatever happens in a relationship may get worse in the marriage.

dont know much about unity bank, so am wondering if both banks really have the same vision. just curious.what will they be called?

@poster,
i'm not sure i get you. is it that both guys are exactly the same only one is richer than the other? well if that is the question, then i would definitely go for the rich one.

why? becos i have come to learn that a man shows his true character when there is money in his pocket. the nice one just starting life may be humble because he doesnt have anything. when he gets money you'll be shocked at his true self. the rich one on the other hand doesnt need favours or anything from you so he gets to show his true colors.

i always prefer the devil i dont know to the angel who may be a more develish devil (if there's anything like that)

@poster,
if you want money, then go for the new job and dont be ashamed to want money.while you are making money, try and think of what you want to do and how you can get it done.

but if you go to the hotel, eat free food, drink beer and malt, sleep on fine bedsheet and forget what you went there for, then you'd have yourself to blame for not making hay while the sun was shining.

@ cutey01,
pls next time to come to 9ja dont buy eva in the traffic, eva na supermarket or shop buy. buy cascade or aquadana those ones are fresh(lmao)

@Igbonla,
na true you talk oh. infact i hear say person chop gala, e come vanish, another one buy pure water sef and vanished.

so not only do you risk bullets, you risk vanishing too, na only God go save person for 9ja.