₦airaland Forum

Almaigaa:
This Niger Delta woman kept making Nigeria proud. Thank God She is not Igbo. Igbo People for no let us hear word today

True ND princess for that matter.

Bamocoded:
It's at Ogun state,very close to ogba iyo,ijoko,Sango ota.
Owner is relocating the reason for the distress sale

How accessible is this location from Sango Ota?

pinkPUSSY:
Meanwhile....I’m a presidential candidate and I say I’m educated BUT I don’t have classmates
Who am I ??

Alagbado and Oni-garri.

socialmediaman:
Peter Obi so you can punch like this? Hahahahaha

Chai! Below the belt line sef.

Dem guilty conscience people go soon land.

Ulunne777:
Exactly.She did it the wrong way but its for the best.
That baby girl should be under her moms watch to avoid stories.

The mother that first abandoned the children?
What kind of mother is that? What manner of watch is that? One that began with a kidnap and lies?

BlueIvy04:
Do you think a solution to this would be to make a standardised edoid language. Similar to how there are various Ijoid languages but they mostly use a standardised single language. Obviously [b]I’m aware a lot of politics [/b]would be involved if such a task took place but think about it in a theoretical sense.

You identified the main issue: Politics. It seems too late now. Any form of standardisation would have been a lot easier in the days of Mid-West or even Bendel. With Delta State, most people under 35 outside Edo State don't even know much about their Edoidness.
Standardisation, if considered, would likely centre around Benin/Esan as closest to Ur-Edo language. That won't sit well with many others.

Personally, I'd prefer that we preserve the various flavours and branches of Edo language as they are all very rich in cultural heritage in their own right. Various parts of Ur-Edo language are also preserved in these languages. For example, coco-nut is now mostly called ivin in Benin. A few decades back, elderly people still regularly called it "ekokodia". Urhobo and Isoko have retained kokodia by and large,

Instead, we can develop a more common orthography (to the extent that it is possible) that allows these Edoid languages to be mutually learnt more easily.

Stakeholders/traditional institutions/politicians can develop an Institute for Edo/Edoid Languages and Culture Research affiliated to AAU, DELSU and others. May be even Uniben. Unilag once had Edo programme long ago. Not sure of now. Uniport is another major school, that can be a part.

Imagine a linguistics graduate who can then further study to read and write in Benin/Isoko, Esan/Urhobo, Urhobo/Benin/Degema, Afemai/Isoko/Urhobo and can teach these languages. The institute can promote research.

Imagine Edoid language/culture festival every 2 years hosted by Edo or Delta or Rivers or Lagos to showcase the diversity of Edoid cultures. We can invite a guest state of the host's choice. Bayelsa, Ondo, Kogi, Benue, Anambra, Ekiti will be interested as guests. NOT just to dance, eat, drink and same in two years again. No.

A festival with artistes, academics, students, seminars, educational opportunities, scholarships, developing Edoid books in STEM subjects, apps to learn these languages, etc. Approach companies to co-sponsor. So many possibilities.

highchief1:
dna na for pikin when u no understand.if I even carry my kids go dna lab the lab pll go tell me say no need.if u see my kids u don see me.

Well, a late relative thought so too.

He only found out doing DNA test to relocate the family abroad. All the three kids were not his! If you check my old posts I have mentioned it here for years.

based on what labs see every time, no lab will assume anything.

By the way, a cousin of his fathered one of the kids. So resemblance to grandfather/mother that family members share can come from any relative.

Others were fathered by a known "friend". Trust is a scarce commodity my friend.

highchief1:
if I tell u wetin happen to my 7yrs relationship u go weak.we won best couple awards in uni.we were like 5n6.fast foward to nysc I paid her unplanned visit and caught her with a man in her house the relationship crashed immediately.this is someone that when I was close to her house I called her and was asking her how she was faring with my absence she said she can’t wait to see me bla bla bla.then to marriage.i stumbled into my wife’s chat on WhatsApp and saw a cleared chat.o asked her who is this and why was the message cleared.she said it’s our 2yrs old child that cleared the chat.i laughed.not deleted chat o but cleared chat.some adults uptil now don’t know how to clear chat but she said a 2yrs old boy cleared the chat.ok na who is the guy she said it’s her old uni friend that he ran into him when he visited her office.since that day,I removed my mind from her.we are happily married,but I can’t vouch for her anymore.i am not bothered by whatever.i cheat sufficiently so im living my life.in all this one day person go die leave both the wife and kids.i no see anything too special in this life.

My brother, once you are sure that your kids are indeed yours DNA wise, forget the rest. The whole thing don cast long ago.
I pity those guys who over trust women.

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

First of all, congrats for meeting a nice woman!

However, trust is good but caution is better. It is a lifetime commitment, so why rush it?
I am not an armchair commentator. We don pass that road before. Na luck las las.
Do your due diligence, KYC and basic test first. Long ago, a basic test, patience and sheer luck saved yours truly from "a story that touches the heart".

How you design your experiment is up to you. It depends on what you want to test for or measure. One simple test is to make her believe that "this UK don tire you sef, you wan return to 9ja". And you are not coming with lots of money to live large. You lost your savings in a bad investment. You want to start afresh in 9ja.

After saying the above, you can also suddenly arrive in 9ja when you know she will be free (or when told you she will be free). Then ask to see her right away. See how keen she is to come. May be she has suddenly lost interest as japa option is no more on the table. Or if she says she's suddenly not free to come because she travelled suddenly due to an emergency. That one, na man be dey camp her. She nor know excuse to leave that place. May be she dey one faraway corner of 9ja with a guy sef.

A guy needs to be able experienced and waka a bit. You will recognise patterns easily.

The thing is most babes in 9ja don't trust a fiancé abroad, so they will have several local options. It was so over well 30 years ago, only probably worse now. Much less when she has not even seen you live yet.

Many of those babes in long distance thing have one or more "serious" bfs in 9ja. To follow you to UK, she will probably break one or two hearts in 9ja. You will never know of course.

Your woman might be a rare exception but the chances of that are pretty miniscule. It better be that you shouldn't have worried about due diligence than to regret not doing so. All the best!

Interesting story. Thanks for sharing.

It depends to some extent on current geographical proximity, how much a particular Edoid language has been influenced by non-Edoid languages around them, how long ago a language separated from the Ur-Edo language, how well the speaker of an Edoid language truly understands own Edoid language, etc.

Naturally, an Esan person will understand Benin to a good level, an Isoko person will understand Urhobo to a decent level, etc.

This is not too different from European languages. A Dutch person will understand German language to a good level but a German will understand Dutch much less. Swedes, Danes and Norwegians will learn German much more easily because German is still nearest to their Ur-Germanic language origins.

A Spaniard will understand Italian to a good extent because Italian is closest to their common Latin language origin. A Romanian will understand French less than he will understand Italian, a Portuguese will understand Spanish than Romanian due to proximity to Spain, a Romanian will understand Italian better than Spanish due to Italian being still closer geographically and to Latin origin.

Mutual intelligibility depends on many factors.

In the same way, a Degema person in Rivers State will find Esan harder to understand than Benin language.

As for the level to which people understand own language, if a Benin person doesn't know that Ekokodia is the original Benin name for Coco-nut, he won't recognise it when a Delta man says it. If he doesn't know that Osa means great ape, he won't recognise meaning of Osia when a Delta man says it, etc.

My worry is that with fewer kids learning their mother tongue, it will affect all the languages in the Edoid group.

tuoyoojo:
I never thought in my lifetime I would see a pound equal to 1000 naira

Like play like play Venezuela like crisis don dey dance they come 9ja small small o

When APC was asking if we were OK with 210 naira to a dollar, they should have asked them what they meant

Now same APC are promising heaven and earth

Our fathers says when nakednez promises to give u a dress, first look at what it is wearing

Another election year has come, they do dey promise again

Vote wisely

ROTF

MansoryMX:
That first line I highlighted alone says it all. Don’t be a simp. Take your turn and pass her Toto to the next preek.

He doesn't have to pass it. Others are getting their fair share anyway. Nothing spoil.
OP said he invested emotions. On top Facebook hook-up babe o. Chai! I shame for boys these days.

This OP is very funny o.

So you don't know that you are just one of her uncountable hook-ups?

Only that you provide extra on-top such as a place to relax. Others eat, clean mouth and pay.

In case you don't know, she's sleeping raw with guys who offer a little extra bucks.

Enjoy your hook-up, dude!

ednut1:
ignoring them going forward. Irony is they are constantly in travel section looking for ways to japa

Best thing to do. They are currently lambasting those abroad on this thread. Their obsession with those abroad is sickening.

Ok OP Mr Wehdon. Now that you have cooked this sumptuous food, how do you intend to get into the mouths of Nairalanders?

Or you just want us to only salivate?

CEOKmotors:
If you are talking about wife in football, nah dis stupid Tottenham, Liverpool marry dem finish.

They're the surest big team for Liverpool in the premier league

This fools have won Liverpool only once for the past 9 years. What a stupid club.

At times, you deliberately allow your wife to win an argument. Not today though.

wiseone28:
E be like say we dey play for Home

YNWA

Yes o. YNWA!

Anthony Enahoro
OBJ
Shehu Shagari
Chinua Achebe
Wole Soyinka
Dora Akunyili
Ameyo Stella Adadevoh

These people should be considered.

chuksey1:
This has been my greatest fear when flying in and out of the airport in Barcelona. The airport is just on the bank of the Balearic sea

Oh boy, nor be small thing. But instead of taking like 6 to 7 hours to travel by ferry to Palma (that's how long it always seemed to me) not to mention being sea sick when the Med/Balearic Sea is choppy especially during the day time, I prefer the short plane hop over. But of course "in case of incasity", na only God hand person go dey.

Not being in those parts for years now.

iLegendd:
Know the person first for 6 months to a year before marriage. You call it anything you want, but do your KYC properly.

Chai! Old or new generation banker?

2Radii:
Weyrey man


U no invest in the future of Ur woman and children but u re busy sponsoring side chick to Europe...

The guy and OP must have had a different agreement. Maybe the idea was to make her move benefit his family in another way too. We will never know for sure.

Before a lady admits that she broke a man's heart, you can imagine how much water went under the bridge. She redacted the gist and told us very little part.

The man might have died of heartache and regret. Some are saying she has a good heart. Very funny logic people have these days.

This is more like guilt. Knowing how much pain she caused the woman, the late guy and his family. Sure, the man wasn't forced into it.
OP should do whatever will make her sleep better at night. I hope she will be happy if a girl from nowhere comes to try to scatter her "married since 2015 with 2 beautiful children" family.

Karma is a patient but aggressive bodybuilder.

ednut1:
english is not that hard. I said looks like its nearing collapse, I didn’t say is nearing collapse. You guys wish that we should be doing McDonald job’s abroad ba. But sorry to burst your burble na office job most of us dey do earning cool money. In uncertain times some will still make money, some will japa, its human nature.

My mum went for a burial in our state yesterday , a relative that had kidney failure, he was to travel to india next month but his dialysis was messed up by the hospital. Same yesterday there was news of kidnap on lagos ibadan i sharply had to call to be sure she no dey among. These are some of the issues wey dey make people japa o

Dude, never advice this group of people:
1-A random bad mannered swearing Nairalander about life abroad
2-A yahoo guy that yahoo is not good
3-A girl addicted to useless wayward boys.

Number 1 above is filled with resentment for anyone abroad. He would brag about how he is balling in 9ja and you are washing corpses abroad. Yet his foul words betray someone seriously unhappy with his life.

Around 10-15 years ago, some people in 9ja will just be saying how they just bought a new car, how they have everything in 9ja, how they blow their gen all night with AC and no need to travel broad or variations of it to say how well off in 9ja they are. I was wondering why say all this? I never told you anything about my life abroad, how good or bad it is compared to yours. Why do I need to know how well off you are?.

I just gradually withdrew from them so as not to say anything to annoy anyone.
Fast forward: In the last 5 years or so, same people are asking how they can relocate abroad, for their kids' sake, insecurity, bala, bla bla.

Discountsempai:
Actually, all coup plotters commit treason...Nzeogwu onwards...

The issue is, coups in the past tended to be generally popular. The 1966 coup, 1983 coup which brought down democratic rule, were popular....because people were fed up with the massive corruption then (things have not changed today...). It does not make them(the coups) right.

The sad thing is, people just sit down and clap. If people had stood up and said no to army rule in 1966,and again in 1983, by now, we probably would still be running parliamentary system of government, and we may have been doing it better (AND Lagos would have been the capital)...or we would still have the NPN and UPN..and probably 50 states by now (yes by 1982, more states were in the pipeline allegedly) But we were all too angry with the political class to come out and protest.

At the end of the day, it would have been better if Nzeogwu, Buhari , et al had resigned their commissions in the army, taken part in politics, and let the politicians muddle along instead of coup...by now we would have had a stronger democracy.

But Nigerians want instant instant...and that includes army rulers.

True. I removed Nzeogwu, Dimka, Orkar and others as they never were in govt after their coups. Or were indeed shot.

Fuckingmallam45:
You don't need to excuse Ngige from the situation we are in. You can't know better than the ASUU chairman and is members that have been faulting Ngige since all this while.

All Labour ministers in the las 40 odd years have faced same criticism.

Shagari had 2 ministers of Labour: Adebisi Ogedengbe and later Emmanuel Osanmor. Same issues.

Or you forgot the difficulties Dr Samuel Ogbemudia faced under Abacha regime?
Nor be now dey break. Those who have been around a bit will know.

FG should make sweeping changes to how these negotiations are made and fulfil agreements signed.

Whether they call it Minister of Labour, Labour and Productivity or whatever, it has been a toothless bulldog over the years.

Discountsempai:
Ex-convict.

Actually was eventually acquitted of all the charges on appeal after being sentenced to death.

If we go by that, Bubu committed treason by overthrowing Shagari. Had the coup failed, he and his boys including IBB, Abacha, Bali, Dongoyaro and others would have being shot.

9ja has been ruled by criminals, those who should have been shot or jailed for decades.
Nothing new.

SadiqBabaSani:
Ngige should be sacked, but that would be unjust seeing that even his boss is more incompetent than he is.

Both Ngige and Minister of education should be dropped, but you would be shocked to discover their replacement would be far worse.

This government is the worse in finding square pegs for square holes.

Worse government in hiring and firing.

Ngige has a very difficult job o. He's like a diplomat always on errand. He doesn't control education, health, finance or indeed anything to keep promises made to civil servants in all these sectors. Buhari's govt has made otherwise good people look quite mediocre. Even Fashola has done below what we all know he's capable of doing under a different president.

Not that I see anything that particularly unique that makes Ngige stand out as minister of labour. He was never a labour leader, diplomat or any such before. Being a medic and short term governor are what he brought to the table.

SadiqBabaSani:
Ngige should be sacked, but that would be unjust seeing that even his boss is more incompetent than he is.

Both Ngige and Minister of education should be dropped, but you would be shocked to discover their replacement would be far worse.

This government is the worse in finding square pegs for square holes.

Worse government in hiring and firing.

Ngige has a very difficult job o. He's like a diplomat always on errand. He doesn't control education, health, finance or indeed anything to keep promises made to civil servants in all these sectors. Buhari's govt has made otherwise good people look quite mediocre. Even Fashola has done below what we all know he's capable of doing under a different president.

Not that I see anything that particularly makes Ngige stand out as minister of labour. He was never a labour leader, diplomat

wolement:
Any man that is afraid of DNA test is a coward. The truth will set you free.

Well, those who picked wife from a brothel may see no need for DNA test.

Otherwise no normal guy will say the nonsense that guy said.

advanceDNA:
Keeping multiple sex patners even to the time of marriage...this generation and lack of sexual discipline na 5&6...
The next phrase from them now will be "paternity fraud does not mean she wont be a good wife"

Dem never start am already?
They are already saying that shebi the man too was not a virgin when they married?

I have said here for years that around 35% of firstborn kids and up to 30% of all kids don't belong to their supposed dad. It may even be over 50% in some inner city face-me-I-slap you settings, bank marketer ladies, etc.

The double-dating until marriage (or maybe even way into marriage) is one thing. Not using protection and wickedly knowing who the real father is and passing the child to another man is the height of it.

OP doesn't know that his life is in danger. An average woman can kill to conceal such shame. If she suspects that the man knows but has not told anyone yet.

To be double sure, OP should use another good lab for a second test. If same result, take her sample and the child's to a lab to test for maternity. If the child is hers, then she cheated.