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hotseat:
I begin to wonder why other opposition political parties continue to efface themselves in the political arena.



The dismal performances of these two Siamese political parties (PDP & APC) should have been a veritable platform for them to at least have their voices heard.

Wusai!

Little wonder all of them fail woefully in all elections.

Let them merge and be prepared to go for the jugular of the political terrain.

If I had my way, these two yeyenatu political parties won't smell the seat of power in a very long time.
Alas!

This is Nigeria.

A country where any and everything goes!

Yes, it is. The old cargo desperados can Kpai anybody outside their political clique that suddenly emerges and has a genuine chance of winning. And nothing will happen. Such a person won't have the money to splash or protection of state apparatus.

If they bribe him with NNPC, NPA or any other lucrative position or money and refuses, dem go take care of am. It was for a lesser position than the presidency that Funsho Williams was kpaied.
Even Bola Ige, a serving minister was eliminated and nothing happened. Harry Marshall, same thing. This is Nigeria.

Babaken:
Lol, nothing do them their are just scared

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Qatar2022:
Investigate your wife, she maybe cheating on you that's why she's reacting that way, i maybe wrong though but do proper investigations

Your head dey there. Why did she abort the pregnancy? Is it that the baby is not his? Or she sees no future for both of them? Or the other relationship went wrong and taking it out on her hubby at home? Did she initially leave someone she was dating and loved to marry OP for whatever reason? She may now be regretting it. These are speculations of course but OP needs to investigate discretely.

Certainly, she's reacting negatively to being found out over the abortion. No matter what, a woman shouldn't be secretly doing abortion after just two years of marriage. Not like they already have two or three kids.

@ Lucaslookers, please also consider her mental health. Some women suffer from guilt and depression after abortion. If she has suffered damage to her reproductive system, she most likely won't tell you.

Qatar2022:
Investigate your wife, she maybe cheating on you that's why she's reacting that way, i maybe wrong though but do proper investigations

Your head dey there. Why did she abort the pregnancy? Is it that the baby is not his? Or she sees no future for both of them? Or the other relationship went wrong and taking it out on her hubby at home? Did she initially leave someone she was dating and loved to marry OP for whatever reason? She may now be regretting it. These are speculations of course but OP needs to investigate discretely.

Certainly, she's reacting negatively to being found out over the abortion. No matter what, a woman shouldn't be secretly doing abortion after just two years of marriage. Not like they already have two or three kids.

Please also consider her mental health. Some women suffer from guilt and depression after pregnancy. If she has suffered damage to her reproductive system, she most likely won't tell OP.

samuk:
You shouldn't have mentioned me. You are the one that have been claiming that Zik wrote something in the 1930s which was different from his 1970 autobiography, despite my repeated request, have you provided the evidence. Your anti-Benin antics is very well known here.

The guy is a clown. He thinks he can order anyone around to do his bidding.
The Igbo/Yoruba collabo over Benin Empire denial is very sweet, isn't it? Such collabo never leads to no good. Even way back Zik and Awo could not callobo to take 9ja forward.

They will soon be at each other's throat over Tinubu's presidency, IPOB/ESN and their other divisive antics. Their tribal divisiveness is what they want to spread to Edoid people. Failed mission.

I just come to laugh at them now and then these days.

RedboneSmith:
You have been saying this on NL for a while now, but each time you are asked to present the evidence you go cold. Please, give us a direct quote from Landolphe's diary where he said Igbo slaves were displayed on the road between Benin and Ughoton. Don't ignore this request, please [even though you'll most likely ignore]. Post Landolphe's statement to this effect.

PS: I should inform you that I have access to Landolphe's "Memoires" in the original language (French), s[b]o if you bring a fake quote, I will find out. [/b]

Oh, see who wants to impress me with French language. I laugh.

It's like you know that your post deserves to be ignored. But I thought that having a chuckle is quite nice.

Well, you may want to first ask Asari Dokubo (I'm not a fan of the guy) why he said that Igbo were Ijaw's slaves.

Is your argument actually that Igboid people were not part of Benin Empire, that Igboid people were not sold wholesale during slave trade or that OLaudah Equiano lied?

Jackandrose:
Good day nairalanders

i've been living under the fear of having a heart problem for more than five years, but my people refused that i should go for scan probably because of fear that it might be true, and there won't be money to care/treat it..

Even me, i'm afraid to go for scan, because the moment it is comfirmed to me, i don't kno if i would be able to live with it..

i can't run nor do hard work, my pulse is always high and sometimes my breathing stop totally.. I've fainted multiple times, and i've been living under depression for so long..

Now, this symptoms is increasing on daily basis, but my people dosn't want me to go for scan.. Is like they already knows the result will turn out positive.

But what if i go for scan an the result shows that i have a heart probem, how will i be able to live with it, knowing fully very well that we don't have the money to cure it..

I don't kno what to do nairalanders, i need advice..

Please see your doctor. Early diagnosis can save your organs from failure. Remember that aside your heart, your lungs and kidneys can also suffer greatly from cardiovascular issues.

Failure doesn't mean that they will stop working right away but their functions can be compromised and become increasingly less efficient over time. It may get so bad that transplant will be needed. You cannot afford a late diagnosis, if indeed there is something not in order.

The earlier you know what might be wrong, the earlier you can adjust your lifestyle, get medication or other necessary intervention, if needs be. No need to be afraid.

Jameseddi1:
It might really be so but if this slaves where Igbo or Yoruba this yoruba and Igbo was under the Benin empire according to slaves that was sold at that time. Don’t believe me believe the slave.

You still did not get it. Leaders and merchants of some territories of the empire wanted the right to trade in their people. Colonies always had certain rights that they could negotiate with the centre to keep. Benin could not ban everything in remote colonies if their leaders wanted to keep those traditions or privileges. That was politics. If they won't be bought or sold by Benin people, Benin people would not be sold or bought, then that was politically fair enough as part of devolved rights.

Ask yourself why most other tribes/kingdoms in Africa didn't have the vision to refuse to sell their people into slavery.

Benin wanted it's core Benin Citizens as warriors and administrators of colonies. Benin was therefore way ahead. When I hear that Britain abolished slave trade in 1807 I laugh. Left to Benin, slavery would have stopped before plantations in Americas really began to be in huge need of slaves. In the 1640s or thereabout. Some argue that Benin supported Eleko Kosoko of Lagos who supported slavery. Lagos as a colony reserved the agreed right to trade as it wanted. Benin had no reason to trash that agreement unless mutually renegotiated, not at the behest of Europeans.

When the Europeans refused to buy Benin pepper, linen and other goods if Benin would not sell them slaves, Benin banned all trade with those Europeans. Yes, it led to economic decline of Benin while Oyo rose on the back of slave trade. Money/economic power is used to fund military to expand territory. Even till today. History is there to read.

Remember that Oludah Equiano's case was even a raid in his village. Most likely by people who knew the area. It wasn't an area core Benin people lived close to. There were many illegal channels for slave trade, just like narcotics today. Banned by every government but still a thriving illegal trade.

omonla10:
5 million will buy you 2 corolla cars and u put on Uber rentals...

This gives u a minimum of 200k monthly

I mean u start earning 50k weekly starting from next week
Merry Christmas

Dude, where do they pay 50k/week on Uber? Lasgidi, Abj or Port?
Just curious to know.

Modified: I get it, for 2 cars.

SirNewtonNG:
Another mad man suffering from ethnic minority syndrome. There are many people in the Americas tracing themselves to benin you fool. And infact the benin yoruba kings did as they liked with their edoid benin slaves including urhobo and esan and indigenous Beni people. You are a mad man

I write because of cultured people quietly reading, so that a swearing uncouth agbero doesn't believe that he can intimidate reasonable people. Because 9ja is a place where thugs and touts run things, sadly.

While you like insulting anyhow like a garage boy, you have not been able to dispute what a contemporary French explorer and trader, Mr Landolphe, said. In his diary, during his journey between Benin City and Gwatto (Ughoton) port, of the 100 or so slaves displayed along the roadside for sale, the slaves and the traders were majorly Igboid and Yoruboid subjects. No Benin people. What you forget is that all successful empires gave various degrees of autonomy to provinces/chiefdoms/kingdoms who had their norms and traditions. Empires that refused to do so often faced disobedience and uprising simultaneous in several colonies. Very costly to quell many rebellions at the same time.

It's a pity many do not like to read anymore. Good to read about Egyptian, Greek, Achaemenid, Roman, Ottoman, and other empires.
Of late, some crazy Igbo people try to cause animosity between Benin and other Edoid people. A lazy divide and rule tactics. . They should focus on their Biafra fight with Fulani and MURIC and leave others out.

What you forget is that Benin people moved as far as Ghana. I have met many Ga people (principal owners of Accra) who confirmed their Benin origin. You were idiotic to read where I wrote that there were some raids in peripheral Benin villages. If in all 1,000 people were caught in those raids and assuming 500 survived the transportation and inhumane conditions to arrive in the Americas and if even just 250 managed to reproduce, don't you know how many thousands their descendants would be today? Yet, it would be miniscule compared to Igbos in Haiti/Tabago/Jamaica or Yorubas in Brazil and elsewhere.

All Edoid people knew their relationship with Benin/monarchy, including confirmation of dukes/rulers of those places back then. Some may not know in the confused, messed up and distorted 9ja entity of today.

Toks2008:
Story

They will never tell you the true story.

Dangote will not tell you how he made his breakthrough with the help of the Nigeria government.

Otedola will not tell you about the connections his dad made when he was Lagos state Governor..

Jimoh Ibrahim was telling the world how he made his money through organizing seminars but will not tell you the Koko.

I believe in hard work and I believe it pays but I don't like all these funny talks of starting a poultry with one egg.

Lol. She try sef with a cup of rice. Some say they began akara business with a single black-eyed bean.

Dude, the situation will not change. The couple are not serious. They are leeches who freeload but will still never appreciate it. As much as you have helped them, the minute you stop, you will become a bad guy. If you marry and change, they will blame your new wife for it.

The fact that there is a lady involved is very delicate. Be careful before you are accused of toasting the lady when you change.

Best bet is prepare to move out and never lose guard in your new place.

DrGoodman:
This president is the worst thing that has ever happened to Africa.

This man elevated bigotry and incompetence to a federal government policy.

By the time this man is done to Nigeria, Sunday Igboho and Nnamdi Kanu will find out that their jobs were taken over and completed by Buharri.

The budget will still be used to stock up arms and ammunition that will be used to slaughter Nigerians in different regions.

Now, the country is sitting on a very big keg of gunpowder, with many states indirectly arming their youths with weapons in the false hope of defending themselves when the shiit hits the ceiling fan. The dss has been going around the country with a lighter, but it will surprise them all what will happen.

Anyone hoping that this presidency will ever get one thing right in this country is only hoping that their 90 year old grandmother will give birth to a bouncing baby.

So in essence, until Abraham and Sarah case happen again (although Sarah wasn't a grandma), we are really in for it. Chai! This na uppercut to presidency o.

Don't put it beyond Nigerians o. Miracles dey supposedly happen in 9ja daily. Headlines like "Barren couple blessed with bouncing triplets after 30 years of marriage". And they say it with a straight face. No mention of IVF/ICSI or whatever.

Passionate888:
You don't know what you're talking about

iramure is right. The meat is not that tasty. The grey smaller antelope is far tastier. Back in the day this red one used to be locally called deer and was very cheap to buy. Most people didn't like the meat. Not tasty although healthy.

Porcupine, grasscutter, wild pig/boar and cane rat taste far better.

StylesX:
Na better meat be this, I look forward to the day I'll taste this, I've never had the opportunity to sample it before, I bet it tastes like goat meat.

It's not that tasty. They call this deer locally. Antelope is the smaller grey coloured one. Antelope is a lot tastier. Back in the day many hunters/trappers won't even eat this deer. Not tasty. It's lean meat by and large and healthy meat.

Babsojimjim:
Dear All,

The write up below is exactly what a friend is going through from his wife. Please what sort of action can he take?

Despite, all he has done to please his wife, called Reverend fathers and pastors to counsel them both, his wife is still indifferent to him and is threatening to quit the marriage, citing accumulated pains of the past.

Currently, she says she wants to go back to her parents house else she will die or commit suicide. The man called her parents, and their advise was that since she is his wife, he should decide if to allow her leave his house to come and see them (parents) or stay in his house that the decision is his as the husband.

At this juncture my friend is confused and dont know what to do again.

Even the unmarried friend of his wife who came to stay with them is not helping matter at all as she seems to be enjoying the challenge between my friend and his wife.

Please advise needed. Thanks.

Your friend is a funny guy. He should be helping her pack her bag and baggage and ensure that he deposits her safely with her parents. Then immediately ask for refund of dowry (as a final traditional agreement that marriage is over). With a stern warning that should the girl suffer harm or abuse in a campus environment, the woman will pay heavily for it. Pay for girl's upkeep and education adequately. Then commence court divorce process without delay. No hard feelings.

Let the woman get custody of the daughter because if the guy remarries, his new wife may not treat the daughter well. Only a very few women can treat a stepchild well. VERY few. Forget their religiosity and pretence. Forget about money spent on her education, Thank God he has a daughter from the marriage. Nothing lost. The pain will go after a while.

Let the woman follow advice of her friends and live the new life she wants. Then good luck.

Adakintroy:
If that child has reach the age we're he can be beaten by his parents then he already aware of wrongs" am sure he beaten by parents all the time for wrong act. In Every society good people exist so does bad. A child walks into the Hall in america and shoot up a whole class do you blame the parents or the school or the society. I repeat no one owes you shiit
If you don't know the consequence for putting niddle in your own eyes. Then go into it and find out is how reality works. Some things are bad some are good it's nature. The school would have done it's best am sure that's why they get recognise. but even in an examination no one or only few will score a 100%. unless we are talking about ideal situations which are usually out of this world.
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They ran into the market screaming thier children was unjustly killed. But this is perhaps what really happen. you child culpable. he is not as innocent as you want the world to see him. It puts blame on the child too That's the angle. He was not unjustly killed. He sought death out himself. That's how truth works. i will feel sorry for them only if they admite the truth. We need to teach others why cultism is banned or why we say certains things is wrong. right now no one gets it. And if you yourself keep puting the blame on the school and exonorate those kids. No onewill get it. Death needs to scare them straight.

Only that you don't get to dictate the truth to the whole world, thank God. Different societies have their laws. There are folks who research these things for 40 years of their career. So I wonder where you believe that you got your "better" expertise about how life works from. Your post does not suggest proper exposure to different societies/jurisdictions for comparison.

As for America, that is another matter. So you believe that if a parent carelessly puts a pistol under the pillow, a child of 9 finds it and shoots a neighbour's child with it, the parent (gun owner) has no fault? You do not realise that if there were 75% fewer firearms in circulation in America, there would be much reduced homicide in US?

Your argument is similar to NRA supporters slogan that "guns don't kill people but people do". Because you mean that bad environment plays no role in influencing children into cults and society plays no role. No wonder 9ja let politicians get away with doing nothing. Wow! Well done.

FYI, I live in a society where I want my taxes to be used to better the society, provide more security and promote societal cohesion. I exercise my right to vote against a govt that I feel has not done enough to improve the society by creating enabling environment/policies for jobs, health, security, education, etc.

It is this quasi-extremist view that prevails in 9ja that will make it difficult to address the root causes of Nigeria's problem. We fail to learn from those that have managed to turn around previous basket cases/banana republics into progressive and working/prosperous societies. We stick to jungle justice, punish and beating up mentality. We make beating up and violence appear to be solutions but we only inculcate that violence in people. See the high level of violent crimes and domestic violence in 9ja today.

Compare say Denmark or Japan with Nigeria, for example. Places where violence are frowned upon compare to us that see it as a solution.

Dude: No child deserves to be killed. No child. If a child commits any atrocity, let them face the juvenile court to decide their fate. We are not in a medieval society. Na wa o.

Adakintroy:
Na not true..you are snicking around the issue. And it's too smart of you. We know ideal situations in every context. But then it's incumbent on an individual to safe guard their own life's. You first. Nobody owes you shiit. Not the school not the goverment. If you don't know this then what do you know. If you don't know not to put your hands in fire, what do you know? If you don't know you were sent to school to school what do you know?

My angle is not that of sentiments but truth. Truth don't care about your feelings. Let me paraphrase ben Here. All of you are giving the hard line to kemi cus she lacks feeling but never for once did you all consider that angle that it may have been a willing act. He broke that glass for you. Cus the boy was too cute to be acting cult. You judge by feelings and sight. That's how many of your senses work. That's was how the chidinma thing worked until hard evidence came.

We do not know if he was pressured or he joined willfully. That's still under investigation. But it a a good thing to open up that angle cus you all were running "straights" all this while.

There must be examples to point to that says see why we told you all not to do This things? and they must be expensively painfully examples. Cus right now this kids thinks being a bad guy or girl is very cool. Good guys are fools. Let the truth come out. Just be courageous enough to stomach it.

Well, I live in an environment where kids of 11 are called minors and therefore unable to consent to most things. They don't have that mental capacity yet. That's how biology, society and the law put. They are still developing both physically and emotionally. For that reason they cannot by and large be criminally culpable. You cannot equate the responsibility of an adult with that of child. Fact. I know my privileges and obligations as an adult citizen. From paying my taxes and obeying the law to right to vote, etc. Kids don't.

The question remains: If there wasn't a cult group in that boarding school, assuming you are right that he was in the cult, would he have been in the gang whether willingly or forcefully? No.

It is sheer failure of society where cults thrive openly. Kids are just copying it. People can do their cult stuff quietly. nobody is saying they shouldn't but without violence.

Another fact is whatever information Kemi has, she cannot be categorically sure because she wasn't there either and never ever met Sylvester.

Safeguarding those who are vulnerable in an environment such as schools is a big responsibility in saner climes. Failure of which can easily send you to jail. You don't push the blame on the dead child. Nigeria needs to learn a lot about protecting children. Battered and abused children are a time bomb for any society: poor achievement, crime, drug abuse and mental health issues are some of the impacts that result from it. Take it from someone who knows one or two things about this topic.

Adakintroy:
Many Nigeria run much on emotions. Not reason. If them tell una say that chidinma go fit kill person, remove money from account sell laptop and not flinch. Many if una go swear with una right balls say na lie. Because judging from Her appearance she is innocent. Looks fools.

Done for once think this innocent children you de look are innocent. Na for house them innocent for outside them know pass you. forget sentiments If you come school there is always that one hostel for girls weh renowned For pickups. Basically na brothel. but if I tell you say that our innocent sister don gbolo you go say na lie.

I point this thing out last time cultism dont go about bullying people to join. That's not how it works. They toast you with promise of fame power and women. Those are cravings if any young man. They know it. So the ideal that they beat him To join them I don't know that.maybe as a family it's hard to take in. The believe our own isnt capable of wrong to that extent. It indicts us the guilt. So we save ourself first and call the others guilty. If they arrest the other children you all will hear the truth.

Look, Nigeria and honesty are parallel lines. Yes, Kemi was insensitive in her approach because the loss is still too raw.
There are cult groups in primary schools now, much less in secondary.
Most likely, the boy was pressured into joining and may have initially resisted. He may have later yielded albeit under duress.

This is the key point that Kemi missed: Why should an expensive boarding school provide an environment for cultism and violence to thrive? ? Why did they put money and reputation above the safety and well-being of kids?

In all, all the kids are victims because that school environment provided the fertile ground for all that happened there.

The worrying thing is that this may well be happening in many private boarding schools that are supposed to be better than public schools. Despite charging millions in fees.

Krismas:
Frumentius was d Bishop of Aksum cathedral as far back as 4th century. U so wrong calling Ethiopians proselytes where infact they were more Jewish dan the dispersed Israelytes wit doubtable pedigrees. The Ethiopians with descendants from Menilek, who was the child Solomon had with queen Sheba were the purest form of Jews available over the last 1000yrs It was in the 12th century Lalibela built the extraordinary Christians cathedrals in Ethiopia. So it doesn’t add up that 300 long years after was wen Christianity showed up in west Africa wit the coming of d Portuguese

Oh Boy, even Emperor Haile Selassie dismissed the myth of Sheba's son o. I don't think me and you know their history better.
Assuming she did have Solomon's son, Ethiopia was already established and that son could not have been the father of all Ethiopians. It's like claiming that Oduduwa was biological father of all Yoruba. Not possible. Yoruboid people already existed long before Oduduwa. At most, some ruling houses and some nobles descended from him. Spiritual leader, perhaps.

Ethiopia has well over 70 tribes of various origins, nothing related to Israel. Most who were proselytes were sneaked out decades ago during Mitzvah Moshe and Mitzvah Schlomo. Operations Moses and Solomon respectively by Israeli govt.

Nobody said that there weren't Christians in 4th Century. Christianity got to Ethiopia in 1st century. In fact Philip baptised the Ethiopian ambassador/eunuch of Queen Candace before destruction of the last Temple in 70AD by the Romans. Acts 8: 26 narrates it well. Acts was reportedly written by Luke.

Sadly in 9ja we conceal mental health issues due to stigmatisation. So, it's hard to rule out previous mental health issues.

We should be more aware of delirium due to medical conditions/pain or treatment with medication. Opioids, anti-histamines/H1-blockers and benzodiazepines can commonly cause delirium not only in the elderly as expected but also in younger people, albeit not so common. Even H2-blockers for treating stomach ulcer have the potential to cause delirium.

We also need to forget the idea that it is only an acute condition. It can wax and wane for months. People discharged from hospital can be at risk. Facing a massive life event such as marriage after discharge and moving to a new environment can be an additional stress to trigger it seriously.

She might have prescribed benzos lately to sleep well or calm her nerves leading up to the marriage and put her at high risk of delirium.

RIP to her.

joyandfaith:
Nigerians and tiles. In France it only medical doctors that can use the title of Dr. Phd programmes are for those in academics and they don't use title Dr. They put Phd after their name.
In some countries as well, use of Dr title for non- physcian is restricted in any healthcare setting and if you have to use Dr, you must qualify it so as not to confuse the patients.
If you are yet to get your Phd, use Phd (in view), you are still a candidate.

Most modern lawyers educated in USA have Doctor Juris or JD including Obama, Clinton, etc. You never hear anyone call them Dr.

Worse is honorary doctor degree holders using Dr everywhere. By convention, if you have an honorary degree, it should be:

Mr Otapiapia Gbudugbudupreye DLitt (hc)

Mrs Otutukpoyoyo Shekaugida Sambisa PhD (honoris causa)

Otunba Ogedengbe Onyeagbulam Fapohunda. DSc (ad honorem)

hc = honoris causa and equivalent to ad honorem, although ad honorem is not that commonly used these days.

They are used mostly as suffixes. But in 9ja, we must prefix names with big titles. You see Engr, Arc, Pharm, Buildr, etc. Buildr for builder as a title cracked me up lately.

What next, Herb (herbalist) Tradr (trader) or Posop (POS operator)?



Op, PhD student/candidate is the current description.

bluefilm:
Who is naming all these SCAMdemic variants?

When a new variant is reported to WHO, if they confirm that it is really new, they give it a name. They use Greek alphabet names in this case.

Omicron (om-e-cron) is letter O in Greek. It should have been N or Nu (New) in Greek but it would sound too similar to "New Covid-19", a term already used since the beginning of the pandemic all over the place. So they jumped N to letter O.
In reality, there is another alphabet that they jumped between N and O, which is Xi. Calling it Xi might have looked too much like Xi Jinping of China may be?

Although Greek Xi is pronounced as zz-eye.

Dude, Covid-19 is real. If you haven't seen where it is treated you may not know. It is as true as people delivering babies or being rushed to hospital after RTA daily.

Krismas:
When u evidently don’t know the story? Why dont u readup the Moses story again? For Solomon, it was more of too much wisdom becoming his downfall. The wives only made him stop worshiping God for their gods. Solomon was already deep in astrology b4 all of dat. Lastly, Egypt, Libya, Ethiopia were mentioned in the New Testament before Spain and Rome. Europeans did not teach us Christianity

Lol, me to read up story? You seem to be confusing Christianity and early Abrahamic religion. Who was the first African/black Christian?

Ethiopian proselytes didn't take monotheism to Okitipupa, Afikpo or Kafanchan.
Igbo Jewish story of Gad is not historically or Rabbinically proven yet.

Let us not bask in glory of Horn of Africa people who see themselves as very different from Sub-Saharan Africans (Southern and West Africans especially).

By the way, I was taught by both Biblical and Talmudic/Rabbinic experts. Not everyone on Nairaland is writing from a face-me-I-slap you using candle light from Ikotun-Ijegun or Ahoada.

Krismas:
Moses training, even within Pharaoh’s palace was with Hebrew mysticism. The Hebrew clans in Egypt went unsoiled by devotion to the gods of Egypt

Hmmmm. Yet much later a whole King Solomon himself, who even had the benefit of unparalleled wisdom, historical knowledge and hindsight was influenced by the religions of his non-Jewish women. So Jews were working as educators of royal children in Egypt. lol.

I know that religion and being objective don't go together.
The oyinbo who brought us their religion are critically looking at themselves now.

To me most things written in religious books are great. Good moral principles. But humans have turned it into business and politics. Some are even killing those who disagree with them on doctrine.

Igede are vibrant people in Benue State. They are Edoid people via Edo North to where they are now.

They have faced marginalisation in Benue and have had to be resourceful and smart to survive and grow. When squeezed between Idomas and Tivs, it can't be easy. It's same problem minorities face across 9ja. The so-called big tribes would very much like to totally swallow up minorities, a modern colonialism at local level.

They are increasingly reconnecting with their kilt and kin in Edo.

Krismas:
U correct Karma is Hindu. Its Nemesis dats Greek. Yet Karma is not Egbesu. The white man did not invent Christianity. Africans have been Christians since the 4th century, long before colonial incursions into Africa.

Look, go read the story of the god Horus and his parents Osiris and Isis. Pharaohs of Egypt traced their ancestry mythically from Horus. Including how Isis resurrected her husband Osiris from the dead. But Osiris said he could not live among the living anymore. Does this story sound familiar anywhere?

Mind you, this myth already existed in Egypt before Moses was born there. Moses was educated by the very people at the top of Egyptian society: Officials at the Palace of Pharaoh because Moses was basically Pharaoh's adopted grandson.

So Pharaoh had been educated about this Egyptian culture long before he began writing the Bible.

Well, I will not tell you what to think o but you can reflect on it.

Krismas:
Mr Bodmas does no longer believe in western religion YET he believes in KARMA? Is Karma not from Greek mythology?

Karma is from Asia, especially Indian religions. Hindus, Buddhists, Sikhs and so on believe that actions bring effects later.

Cause and effect basically. For example, those who did great and noble deeds in life may re-incarnate as great people and vice versa when they die. The Karmic cycle can go on indefinitely.

African native religions have a similar concept, with different twists depending on local tradition.

Jodha:
I don't know why I'm being dragged for making sense.....

Nairaland guys will not cease to amuse me...

Jodha, we understand the point you are making. To some extent you are correct. Even if a guy is rich, a lady would still want him to be decent, agreeable and cultured. Same way a guy would appreciate a pretty girl who is not rude, not olodo, doesn't sleep around and when she talks, it doesn't make one feel like a kpekpeye (duck) just pooped.

The thing is guys are at the frontline of relationship's merciless jungle out there and their experiences with ladies' expectation have shaped their opinions. This is re-enforced by discussions among guys and their experiences seem broadly similar. Although a bit exaggerated at times

See my dear, there are some ladies out there who work hard and they want to make it on their own and share responsibilities with their men. Commendable. But majority of women are not in this category. Many still feel that a guy must carry all the financial load but things have changed. 50 years ago, an average man needed to provide just shelter, food, clothing and school fees in a govt school for his family. O pari. Most households had no car. But now an average family needs a lot more. More fashion, expensive private schools, more ICT gadgets, Cars, DSTV, lots of bills, etc. Women now also work far more, meaning child care expenses to pay too. Yet, men must shoulder all the bills.

Any self-respecting guy in 9ja is acutely aware that he is on his own in terms of financial responsibility as a father and hubby. So he needs to be financially buoyant before marrying. He also knows that most girls are sniffing out financially sound guys for marriage. He has no illusion whatsoever. Most girls don't even pretend about this any more in fact. Even if some won't say it openly, their very obvious actions and moves make it very clear.

We need to evolve generally from "men must have money to finance the household" to "men and women must plan, grow and finance together".

Sure, some women suddenly find themselves as breadwinners some years into marriage. Perhaps due to hubby's job loss, illness, etc. So na by force/unexpected. But 95% of ladies won't go into a marriage if they knew that the man would have no income a few years later. They won't. No matter how cultured and great the guy's personality is. We all know how emasculated most of such men become because the vast majority of women are not used to spending on men. They received money from their dad, boyfriends or sugar daddies throughout their life so far. To begin it in marriage when they thought they now have a licence to receive from their hubby cannot be easy. Although women often claim that the man's ego is to blame.

It is very simple, if you are one of those exceptional ladies who don't see everything from the prism of money only, you need not worry about most men's belief. Be yourself and your man or future man will appreciate it and and hopefully it's a guy who deserves a woman like you.

The taste of the pudding is in the eating.

ok

nairavsdollars:
The funny thing is, this bros saying one pound is useless in UK may not have been to the airport all his life ooo