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coogar: that's not the question, biolabee
the man is a philanderer - the act itself is philandering. so what pushes a man to philander?

oh oh, that's what you want to do? put the blame of philandering on the woman? where is his conscience to help him decide what's right or wrong?
you eh? unless I got it all wrong but

coogar: i doubt it - you would just rinse your credit card on QVC to get your hands on "big tools".

you are funny.

I think polyG is not not the issue here too.

philanders are, maybe take that part off bros.

biolabee: This post killed it!
JUDGED!!


Its sad really the double standards .....
Men have justified cheating but refuse to entertain their spouses doing same

Its a mans world

My take..

If you marry in a monogamic sense, then cheating on your spouse is to be condemned

if you are a polygamist and your wife is aware, then cheating on your man is wrong

you are a philander, sleeping with anything in skirt and if your wife cheats on you, she is wrong?
wow!! wait, come again!!

Biola, did you mean that (the bolded)?

yes.
all the same. Johnny is for me and I alone. I can't share mine and don't share yours. you do, you are goner/I walk and take everything with me.

biolabee: well...



it does not always work like that though women will like it for thunder and brimstone to fall
i know a guy that took his wife in after she messed up maybe due to the kids... but he is an exception
will i do same.. i dont know

Do i expect my wife to leave me if i transgress.. she may she may not
God knows but i dont want to try it

I have a question for the women in the house

Are these sins the same to yo, rate in order of 'worst-ness'
1. A man has a fling once
2. A man has a steady mistress and does not neglect his home duties
3. A serial philanderer like the man in the post

Will you throw away your marriage because of these

why are they all looking so dark? there should be mixture of light and dark skins now.

[quote author=tpia@]Whoever is cheating, repent and give your life to Christ.

Its not good the way people table others' personal lives here on nairaland ( not only on nl actually, but since its here, lets just use nl as an example).

But if you give them room to do it, they will.

If they are telling lies, t
hats different from if they're telling the truth.[/quote]you are right Tpia. not sure if given life to Christ will help them because some women cheat as pay back or do what their husband is doing. In days gone by, when husband cheats, their wife will cry and carry on, but today it is a different ball game.
I think women should take a walk from such marriage, I definitely will move out than do what he is doing.

when you feel like cheating, then it is about time you leave that marriage.

baba oyo, list yen ko complete ra ra. you should add liver to your list jare. Ask wifey for weekly liver fried rice.

cheap alcohol is bad

seaman schnapps no no.

Hennessey no no

Xpset: Some people just talk without thinking. We are Africans. And we have been leaving with black power before oyinbo carry Bible come give story which we begin to believe. What if tomorrow oynbo tell us say na them write all d story about wetin dey inside Bible wetin we go do.

If u won test babaalawo power whether it existor not meet one of them to inflect small madness (were) on u. That u go no say devil dey give .Moni.

simple explanation of the madness caused by your babalawo: they have access to barks/plants etc they know the use of opium in powder form or otherwise. they know the amount to give to that sane man to make him insane or kill him.
Wake up and free your mind.

The ancient war between the edos and the oyinbos for instance. The juju men fought with juju in small calabash, blowing opium powder and other harvested, sundried and packaged concotions on her majesty soldiers, the white ones fought with guns and bullets. Read your history books again

Bunch of lazy people. How can a p.enis use for peeing or b.reast for nursing babies change into money?
backward mentality as ever, pity pity.
Your American brothers are into special kind of money ritual (tax evasion). when the juju wanes, IRS the god of thunder comes after them.

at least langa langa ko ni level nou. kurukere kurukere la o ma je ogbologbo nou.
issorai

walahi Saanu da yamma girl

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]Rotflmao!

Whoa! Hauwa, kina ji Yoruba?!!!! [/quote]

o gbe idi obirin si pic, yet o so pe kin se enu e la ma gbo pe iya tisa ti ku.
of course, enu e la ma gbo pe idi yin ga.
isorai.

ummm, so where is your pic showing ikebe of oyinbo?
o ga o

ummm, the she disobeyed him cracked me up. Lord/master and owner, well done.

I think at age 18 one is capable of making decisions

this thread eh

that skating there, nna na dem broad for obodo send am?
carry palm oil dey skate kwa, ewooo

African men and their libido sef

sex isn't food your body can't do without. madam sit your guy down and communicate how you feel.

Coldfeet, bless you. nice one, married people give up too quickly. the grass is not always green yonder.

I hope the OP will humbly work on his marriage.

bibiji: @dayokanu she lost her mom in her secondary sch.days and she is left wit an aged and old and sick father that she cannot afford to help in any way. She said when she asked 4 capital 2 start a biz, he said d home front wil suffer because she wil neglect her family.

Let her move forward and forget about his refusal. Start applying for jobs, no matter how small (she has to start from somewhere).

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]I agree oh, was not on one of these threads someone (I believe Oyb) posted pictures of some politician's wife who was kicked out...kids in tow, in the snow?!! She wasn't allowed to temove anything but their clothes in one bag out of the house.

Let everyone just make their own money...why is that such a hard pill to swallow?!! [/quote]you have to fight for that right, don't buy into that 'baby, I want you to stay at home', it will come back to haunt you.
so OP, she should do something ASAP.

ileobatojo: Even those ones are not worthy! The day he decides to follow the newest husband snatcher on the block, my a*ss would be out on the street with cobwebs for brain cells. Too late to re-enter the work force. Hian! The only time I agree to such is if there is a rock solid, legally documented, financial back up plan for moi; as in millions in cash and investments that he has stashed away in my name in case of a rainy day. Otherwise, no deal o!

same here, but come Africa woman suffer o.

OP,

I think you should tell her to start applying for jobs right now!!
what kind of marriage is this that she will be asking for this and that from husband of 10years?
odikwa serious. Shouldn't she be the one managing the home as homemaker/home engineer?

True NaijaBwoy: Na wa o

I always thought people who divorce must have been lazy in their marriage to keep things together.... but the sad fact is i am now going through a divorce. Its even more painfull to realise the key reason for me parting ways with the woman i still love is simply because she wont address the error of her ways.

Ironically, if she had said, "my husband, i am sorry please fogive me and lets patch things up (even for the sake of the kids)". I would with out doubt reconsider. it would help restore my confidence in her and my marriage.

The harsh reality is without these words, I would continously battle with her in respect of who wears the pants in our marriage. it truly doesnt help that her tenacity is supproted by her family. This truly chops my legs of me manhood and dignity... My marriage is currently the spin off from Eastenders... the family affairs is out there...

Im guessing you want to know what she should be sorry about it will pop out when i get enough feedback from the women out there.

9yrs knowing her, 5yrs married, 2kids later and a divorce............ Ladies, Learn these words, it goes a long way to retaining your marriage " my husband i am sorry"

well maybe you haven't been really supportive and she was at her last lap?
I'm sorry isn't enough from one party, have you told her you are sorry?
I'm sorry baby we are at this phrase, don't you think we can work this out, I love you and I feel we can make it if we give it a try. I love you, I really love you etc Try harder and don't give up yet.

so what are you going to do if in such situation, beat the child? you know beating is against the law here so what will you do?

davidylan: my father baptised my behind daily until i learned maths by force. I feel for the parent in this case, her daughter seems to be really dull academically and i hope i dont have a child like that because i know quite well that i am not very patient with kids who take too long to grasp what i consider a simple concept.

My dad was the same phew!! I don't have patient too. I hope to have real good money to send mine to private schools (especially catholic schools , have extra tutors at my home while we the parents play our part.

UK, UK, UK all the time, smh.

RIP

Acidosis: How about those 'poor' parents that give birth to 12 children? 8 girls & 4 boys.
Dad is no more.
Mum a trader (sells groundnut).

heard they use s.ex to relieve stress/pressures etc of life.

so nice to be able to talk with your dad like that.

average nig parents would have landed hot shinning star slap on him first before anything.

who opened the door hot slap, dad it is not me another hot slap before even knowing something is missing.

damn, those nig biology teacher could make someone have poor intellect anyway

osmosis and the one they use fart as example

molar mass/conc h2so4 very poor teaching method in nig.
thank goodness I left.

coogar: it would kill me if my child is slow amongst her peers!
this is one of the reasons i have never been an advocate of divorce. children raised by single moms are more likely to be dumber than the ones raised by single dads and ultimately, they are way slower than the kids raised in the normal family unit.

Right, At least no distraction for the kids. Mom and Dad present are important.

now you are sounding funny. You personally don't have control over gene/the fastest swimming tadpole.

coogar: he would adapt!
kids are very flexible - God bless their brains. a kid below 10 can learn 8 different languages without stress. it is what you instil in kids that they would learn. forget all those of might not necessarily be academic. smacking drilled out all the non-academic talents out of me and i embraced academic. what are you talking about? no vacation for me if i don't score 100% in math.



birth defects is another dimension entirely.
if one's kid has birth defects then that is totally out of the parents' hands. we are talking of a healthy child here - why would he tap traits from his grandparents? it is what I want him to be that he would be unless i don't try enough.

[quote author=tpia@]if you collect nookie in lieu of money, na you be maga o.

which kind yeye "show of appreciation" be that.

there's nothing wrong with her bringing the money to you in full view of the public, or is she a spirit who must not be seen in daytime?[/quote]one question for the OP , maybe she saw you in such places in the past collecting your money ?