₦airaland Forum

when you have a principled man with real head on his shoulder, and knows that we are in 2013? you just called that potent juju? you think it is only when you carry third leg around that we can call you a man?

chidindufrank: I swear your juju too potent. You put the poor man inside bottle eh, I pity him and his parents .chai

Please how does cassava bread taste like?

is it the same as the soft Nigerian bread?

ileobatojo: Lawd have mercy! So the sem*en transports itself directly from the veejay to the breastmilk ba?!

lmao

coogar: i cannot rule that out - i would get the baby tested for all sorts of STDs. what are the odds the corrosive sëmen of the 3rd party has not transmitted impurities into the newborn?

the op should be led to seme-border and she should be told never to return to nigeria.

you are really good with biology. What's your GPA in school? I could recommend you

so funny

between the chicken nugget and sleep

Oh yes, when you always say your testo gives you the privilege to chop anyhow, then the best option is to cut it out.
so says the good book. If any part of your body cause you to sin, pluck it out, pluck it out, pllluuuuuuck it out!!.

This idea of man can do it but a woman should not is so old. I hope in real life you are keeping Johnny in place .

coogar: so she can chop off my thingy? hell no. there's something evil about ujujoan. she's not the type to be messed with.

thanks for that.
flying on the broom you mean.

coogar: i have a very good suggestion - send them to ada resort in osun state. you and i can then fly out to obudu ranch.

Thank you.

naijababe: Ibadan ke?! Unless you want to send them to D'Rovans at Ring road But seriously, Osogbo and the likes are only an hour+ away and would be well worth it.

be serious now Cooga.r

coogar: kokodome!



there's no fun without a man!

give me something good.

Aunty,
lol, well they have worked hard for us and hardly check out of that town, a surprise one for them.
mine is very confidential
still in honeymoon phrase. As a military chick, you know better

SemperFi

Idowuogbo: Aunty, dis wan u dey talk my parents dis dat since, u nko? U no like faji ni?

any good place in Ibadan for my parents, i mean sort of like a weekend away from home for them. how much will it cost in Naira for a weekend away from home for 2?

I read this when Toshmann first posted it on the General section.
This is just so sad how bad things are. Me too, I just don't know how else black people can thrive in this society.
I think Black work more than any other group in my own opinion, but still always down. I don't know why.
I do agree with you, and many Africans are continuing this same pattern: set church, Nigeria church, nig friends etc. I'm just short of words. Starting for younger age, aim for your kids to attend good school especially one that has high number of other race children in classrooms (go for private schools), try not to live in community where only blacks are. We have to start somewhere, there has to be a way to break this sad realities.

JeSoul: Not entirely. Racism is still very very real, especially rampant in certain parts of the country. But you're right, with a black man in the white house there are fewer excuses as to why we can't succeed. Me I don't know the way forward... so na to manage my own tent. Much of the black leadership also continue to foster a sense of 'victimism' among blacks, therefore perpetuating the cycle - rather than preaching empowerment and taking advantage of so many opportunities in the system, despite the bad cards you may hold.

To fix the problem, the mentality has to be slowly chipped away and replaced with progressive thinking. There is such a dearth of morals in many black communities, despite the fact they're populated with churches. The breakdown of the family unit is to main one of the biggest problems- this is the root problem of symptomatic social ills like drugs, gangs, teenage pregnancies etc...

Black people also tend to stick with other black people (attend 'black' churches, go to 'black' events, eat 'black' food, go to 'black' places etc etc). We've boxed ourselves into all kinds of stereotypes to our detriment. We need to learn to maintain our identity, and simultaneously interact with others - for collective growth. No man or race is an island. It is important to forge meaningful alliances with others, we can all learn from each other.

I was just thinking of how to send my parents on such getaway.
good idea.

alutacontinua: Might not necessarily be Obudu Ranch but definitely not a village thingy. Depends on how fat my pocket is then. But seriously, my parents deserve and need one of such!

didn't you see where he said when you have inner peace, pineapple juice is not necessary?
hey you, continue to drink from the gallon/keg, even use funnel sef

coogar: baba oyo, the story is incomplete - did you try the pineapple therapy?

abi o, I know, with chopping from every korner leaving their wifey to suffer the consequence of their action. OP, the game is on you brother. now ojuju want to help him call coldgate ASAP.

[quote author=baby_123]Which of your girlfriends did you piss off recently? Which of your girlfriend's is capable of such a behavior. Check yourself OP, you are the one bringing this on your wife. One of your wh*ores is losing it. Some people sha, the way they form innocent is irritating. Like you don't know its a woman?[/quote]

em, was that the name off the iron kondom you use to hammer awon gurls eh?

haven't you heard it can be acidic down there? meaning your iron Kondom could get rusted?
Make you guys stop to dey eat 'sides'
ojoro ko da o.

Pataki: Yeah I did something quite similar of recent. But am surely learning one or two things from Baba Oyo's babe.


The legendary Mazi is here?!

I am a great silent admirer of all your write-ups and I look forward to contributing to your next work: Legend of the F*****S!



Baba Oyo, you should have told her, those condooms were Dutch souvenirs... On my last and recent visit to Nigeria last month, I brought some Ruff Ryder with me back here.....the story is for another time! I can't wait to read further from you tomorrow. Ka sun re!

Baba Oyo one question for you.
Do you think you'd forgive if it were her who did the same?
I hope you will forever not cheat again and remain faithful to your vows no matter how far away you are from her.

God bless you and keep you both together. May she continue to be the apple of your eyes and you the apple of her eyes.
When I go to the store and see old people walking and holding hands, helping each other (more Americans though) I say to myself that's how it should be.

Baba Oyo: Lol......Amy girl.....leave Pataki alone o.
Biolabee, a big amen to your prayers. much appreciated sir! !!!


As she said, I had been a bit complacent with how I treated those around me when things moved up.
And I really remember looking around for that condom and when I saw it in a wrong suit pocket, I had taught briefly for a second how it got in the wrong pocket. But surely when she was all sweet and happy when I came back, I never gave it a second taught.

Now I had to apologize and assure her it had all ended back there which was sincerely correct.
She really told me to let it go, that she would be surprised if I was away for a year without helping myself to some "nice meals" .
After all the apologies, I could feel a part of me being free, because sometimes the guilt of yester-years can be disturbing atimes.

With a little pull on my ears, I got pardoned.
P.s.......all of una wey dey do side netting, don't count on this o, u might end up somewhere you will regret forever.
Ma se ni ogun ma mo o!!

Now all the energy drink came back into the room, after the tense mood had changed.
And am sure some of the red wine she took have started giving her some heat too.....lol.
By the way, it is of note that Energy drinks are not so healthy for both men and women as it contains some ingredients harmful to the body.
I took it for the first time ever. just to confirm something. .. .hehehe. ...maybe I confirmed or not, let's wait and see

Baba Oyo singing..........Turn your lights down low........

I hope men like cougar and Pataki will learn.
Pataki said he did same for his lady, well pineapple juicing was all we heard.
Let see if baby O carried some kegs with him. Okay okay, let me read on.

[quote author=Dr.C]I have noticed that we Nigerians seem stuck in this traditional belief that the man is solely responsibility to provide for the home financially. While i do understand that this belief is strongly rooted in our traditional family value system in this part of the world, i have however noticed that education and civilisation has enabled us drop a lot from our traditional family system which we perceive to be either obnoxious or unfair.

Let me highlight a few examples here. In the past a man never cooks, it used to be a taboo for a man's hand to be seen in his wifes pot but today men cook for the home as well as the women. In the past a man does no home chores today it is also acceptable that both do them. In the past when travelling, it is the woman that carries on her head the loads and bags for the family, today this has shifted to the man beacause they are physically stronger. Men alone go to work to earn money also in the past while the woman stays home and caters for the family but today it is generally acceptable that a true man is the one that not only allows his wife to work but supports her financial and other dreams. Finally even while performing the act the man alone use to stay on top but these days i need not describe the scene.

So my question comes, why is it that our society has accepted so much of the practices from the foreign value systems but seems adamant on this one? Why this cherry picking? Could it be out of ignorance or could it just be that the woman gender are still so week in our society that they need this protection. From my last count there are more women going to school these days than the men and also it has become somewhat easier for women to gain employment after school than it is for the men. Today's life opportunities are open to all irrespective of gender. While it is possible that most men who still strongly belive in this value system are those who remain stuck in their thinking that it is solely a woman's responsibility to cook, wash nanny the kids and lick their nyashes on all issues, it is also possible that most women in this class are those who lack the understanding that the essence of working wether for the man or the woman is to carter for the family.

As for me, i am a firm believer of equality of all humans. I will not raise my girl child in this generation to grow up believing that there is a man out there who will carter for her needs either in or out of marriage. If the man earns let him provide, if the woman earns let her provide and if both earns let them both provide in love, with understanding and give the family a living standard that is commensurate with the combined earning power of both of them. Let me state categorically that any woman who provides financially either by supporting her husband or by leading in the role, while believing in her head that she is carrying out a role meant for the man, will never truly respect the man nor will she ever be able to provide in love.[/quote]I don't know where you guys are picking from. I grew up in a society where all the women are working (fed,local/state jobs, their own sole business, even some married women hawking) etc. Large percentage of store owners at bodija are women. I used to think it is the other way round (women fending for their families) but NL is telling me a different story.

Can someone post that famous song, as a lil child, I used to hear my mom singing:
Muritala Mohammed
.....
.....
oh Dimka oo, uwa oooooo

If anyone knows the song, post am.

May he rest in Peace.

now this one made me laugh so hard

yeah, God has butter their bread. A sure way to jet out of the land of suffering and smiling.

Vikin: Lies!

Typical Naija guys will say she don old!
See the dropping contacts and PM!

Because dem see UK and SA ...

Even small gigolos. ...

OP should be smart enough to turn down all those suitors who sent her PM from NL.

I thought people shave hair to donate them. shaving off Brazilian hair to donate?

good job trying to create awareness.

Take it easy with yourself. Get yourself involved in your work. Have you thought about going back to school? A good place to meet charming bachelors. Join activities in your church such as choir etc Dress nice and keep your looks. Relax and do not fret.

[quote author=Happyness_Chima]Thank you all for the replies.

Permit to me say this to some of you. Just because I'm looking for a spouse does not make me your comic toy. I will fight back if you come at me rudely. I work too hard for myself and give respect to others in all situations. 12 inches, your comment didn't hurt. You are unmarried so we're in the same shoes. Unless you feed a woman, clothe and house her, your ridicule points back to you. I dated a man for 5 years and I know he's in God's hands smiling at me whilst shaking his head at some people here. Is it easy tomove on? Tell me is it? Have u ever worn my shoes? Some of you just talk anyhow like we're all unserious people in our lives. I found solace in my achievements and turned to partying more with my friends but i realize its time to grow up and adapt to change. Only broke men that think i'm proud because of your poor self-esteem.

I'm the go-to person for organizing baby showers, wedding events and children'd bday parties. I'm a God mother to 3 children. Everybody loves me. The reason I opened this topic on this website is because last night one of my friends called me that she and hubby have been praying for me to get hitched that im so nice but why am i unmarried. It broke me to tears so i decided to come and seek advice here. As soon as I mentioned Uk, some people almost died on top the matter. If i tell u that im in SA right now on official duty, they might even have heart attack.

All these attacks are inconsequential. You cannot diagnose and analyze the life of a person you've never met with so much confidence and rudeness as if im a baby. Many women are in my shoes but fear wil not let then open a topic like this. For all those that had something beneficial to say, God will locate you.[/quote]

The Lion said the truth. A hearty Big Amen and Amen to that.

Vikin: Just me?

[quote author=Texas.Cowgirl]Omoge mi, bawo ni?


If they've got money, they can do it.

Most poor actresses/ regular people don't look like Yvonne and Rita after bleaching.[/quote]girl, mo wa . Enjoying my holiday. How are you?

I see you painting the entire land red
real Moremi ajasoro
what's your summer plan? Done buying bikinis?

Nig is such a screw up country. This is s.exual harassment, if it were me, I will look for way to teach this boss a lesson, pepper spray his abunna. She should tell her husband. So sad this is happening in 2013!! He offered her a job, so what? why are nig boss so immoral? Huge shame on that your boss OP. You better call him to order.

What is the different between bleaching and toning? is it the same thing?

Check out many AA actress they call it toning, check the Ambi section at walmart, always empty

how is it possible to lighten every part of your body (Rita D)? I'm sure it might be a lot of work trying to keep it going or maybe it is the camera?

So cracked up with all them funny looking awon boyz with ororo on their body.

why are they all posing with boxers, I thought we have male bikini out there.

or Fada refused that?

lol, giving the poor baby sleepless night and still complaining on top of it eh

you cracked me up Ileobatojo

I think OP should use the living room chair.

amen

ileobatojo: Have you tried professional counseling? Since you love her so much and you're trying everything possible you could try that. Individual and couples counseling would be the thing to do. It may or may not lead you two back together, but it should make aid your decision making process along. Active word here is professional, add experienced. I'm not talking about church leaders or elders please. God help you.

Yes there will be a time you won't remember. Work on it more, see a counselor, you will be surprised to know what brought it all in the first place, negligence, lonely, stress, no shoulder to cry on etc. Why didn't you use the last 8months for both of you to see a counselor/therapist/psychiatrist? you might have been working to provide that you forgot her emotional need.
Many women have been there before. They learn to live with it for the sake of the marriage/children.
Hang in there and don't give up, all will be well with time.

WhyMe222: Thanks everyone for your contributions. You have all spoken well. I love my wife and I love my daughter silly. I leave no stone unturned in taking care of my family cos that is the only reason I go out daily (To provide for them). Her friends are a testimony to my capability in taking care of her. Her colleagues in both her former work place and the present one all appreciate for her what she has in terms of her marriage and husband. So there is no gain saying I may not have been leaving up to my expectations as a hubby.

In the last 8 months I have tried to heal, I have tried to see how we can work around it, I have also tried living like it never happened. In all this, none seem to be working. I loved my wife and that is why I have made all these efforts but the torture I live through will never go away and for this singular reason I feel there is no need going on like this. At the moment, I am only tolerating her and that is not good for marriage; reason I said marriage is not meant to be endured. Can there ever be a time I will not remember the incident? Can there ever be a time I will laugh it off and not hurt instead? The sex is dead; No urge because she repulses me and there is no way I will think of S£X with her without remembering what they did. So how can one live in this manner?

God help me.

how did you know?

Orikinla: Let her go, with her baby, warts and all. And trust God to replace her with a woman who will truly love you.
Don't revenge.
Just let her go where her lust leads her.

Keeping her is dangerous and believe me those who cheat on others can harm or even kill them to continue their evil sex life.
You may also harm or kill her in rage of jealousy and revenge.

Just let her go before it is too late.

hear hear. In Nigeria, men can do the do, women should not.

OP, if you still love her (beauty and brain shebi) try to work things out. i'm sure she learnt her lesson. Divorce is very bad. You now have baggage and may not find the right woman who will love you and your kid. Try to work things out, take your wife and relocate. Life is full of ups and downs.

jidegirl12: OP I'm truly sorry for your dilemma. Very very tough situation.

My own advice; Before you develop a HBPand make rash decision pleeeeeeease see a psychologist / marriage counsellor I beg you for goodness sake, I plead to you with sake of every living thing around you to try counselling to know what options you've got left.

Truth be told, if this story is from a woman, I'm 110% sure we'd be reading totally different responses here such as;
Keep your home for sake of your kids
Forgive and forget, Endure... Not that I'm against them but why do men think they are an exception to infidelity forgiveness.

Nothing new under the sun oh, or where'd you wanna start? Devil you know oh ( I'm still dumbfounded )