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Dennis3D:
Bros, I would soley want to agree with you on some of your points. I actually stopped these last night. The name calling and the image she was portraying here which is making people to see it that I was accusing her is wrongly.

I do not wish to continue with this and at the same time I would wish people see things the way they are coz she is denying everything.

Just move on... remember both you and the client are on different side of the table, different spectrum and a judged with different mindset....

Going forward with the back and forth, you could be drawn in a battle that regrettably, you can't win.. you might even end up in the bad side of the law. like these phone calls possibly recorded without the client's consent is not even admissible in court and depending on the laws of the land, could be problematic for you. I will suggest you take them down.

Reading all these posts, I struggle to find posts that were critical of you regardingthe said project or no project.. they only criticized your handling of the issue..

You need to know when to fight and when to negotiate/ walk away...

read this book by former FBI negotiator ( Never split the difference).. it is on audio book also...

(Disclaimer: I didnt get paid to mention the book - it will be nice tho I just feel everyone ought to read that book to help us manage situations like this )

Dennis3D:
To clear the air more time. This time with my call with her husband last night before all this started. Again with the permission of the admins here.

Point 1: She claimed we never agreed.
Point 2: All she have said to me as confirmed by her husband is that they haven't started her job.
Point 3: My borehole installer did her borehole as one of the preliminaries before work starts. If she doubts it. I will still drop the evidence now.

Since many are quick to conclusion without asking the right questions and seeking for an apology.

Point 4: I will release another voice note from a reputable contractor here she contacted too and didn't use which no one is disputing she didn't have the right to.

What she did do, she is deceitful and that should be the watch word here, not saying I called her names as many are keen to look away from her numerous insults before I responded to her.

If you care to listen to her husband's admission last night then click this link. You will hear it yourself.

Again, this project as she had ever admitted as well as her husband have not started. They are still waiting for Omonile issue to be settled as well as rainy season.

Note I have done material schedule for her, connected her with suppliers who happen to resend her husband contact to me last night.

Thank God she admitted she has done the work.
Now it's up to the group members to ask the right questions.

Madam, so Stop making it look like I was after your job. No way. It's not a must for one do a job for anybody.

Am going to be dropping the voice call with another victim you coined into doing same thing for you and again you went on just like that.

So you should stop coming here to pick, use and dump people thinking you are smart. You are not. You are only making potential clients to find it difficult to get useful information and consultations here because of your act.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j_zTHU84Ud4

Just stop with this, let the sleeping dog lie.....

Remember these conversations however true they might appear where in confidence with your client?

What does that say about you? Should I be worried that you will throw our conversation online if things go sour in our contractor- client relationship

I am not trying to decide who is right or who is wrong but concerned you might be doing more damage to your image than repairing it.

Ningen:
An act of desperation.
Only a GUILTY person would do this.

He's not even trying to prove his innocence.

That's a piece of cake.. she could just hire IT savvy minds to unearth those deleted posts..

WhatsApp archives their messages, she might be able to retrieve the deleted text messages from her phone company.. facebook, Instagram..? People that know how could retrieve those messages back.. worst case scenario.. well, in a sane environment, with appropriate court documents, facebook and co will comply and retrieve the deleted messages.

Kobicove:
The incident allegedly happened in 2018 when D'banj was already a huge star.

Why did the lady not sue then when she could have cashed out?

She waited almost 2 years till when there an upsurge in rape cases so she too can also shout "Me too".

Anyone who can see beyond his nose will know that this is a false accusation!

Who knows who is telling the truth here? I dont!!

Dbanj might be innocent, but he might be guilty as well. I have seen where ladies throw their bodies ar this stars, I have also seen where these stars do stuffs that the feel they will get away with because they are stars.. just like Trump said, " when you a star, you can grab them by the p...uss..y and no one says anything".. so it could be either or, who knows

Kobicove:
If someone makes such a false accusation against me I will make sure I bankrupt her with the amount I will demand as damages

I understand your frustration which is legitimate by the way but this is D'banj's case to lose.

First he hired a high powered Attorney and will have to pay him.. the lady possibly dont have the financial war chest as Dbanj.... now this is assuming the accusation is false...

The case goes to trial, the lady will be able to gain popularity, victim of circumstance bla bla but a decent trial lawyer will drag Dbanj left and right in the court process that he would regret going to trial....

Again that's assuming Dbanj was falsely accused....

How could one be employed by the Special Assistant but not government employee?? Isn't the office of a special assistant have government budget?

Is there a way to tell the difference between Tower, Nigalex and EBM aluminum profile for casement windows??

Are there signs or anything to tell them apart?

Shouldn't Rochas be in jail already?

paulolee:
good....this post gave me memories...i remember blasting ps1 all day after school in a nearby game ous, me n ma bro go starve ourself our foodmoney jus to use it play ps1 and gradually became a street Champion and take betting chop moni tire because i don turn cheat...my biggest win was playing one rich kid and won his #1,500 around 2011, was xo excited and e payed me 1k cash n said i should folo him home for the balance..we go home n he gave me 4 real and i kinda pitied him and gave him 2h as "lasting" only for d mumu to ask if i would be chanced to come and Gamble with him again tomorrow and i said m nt sure bt he should be around d game ous shaaa...as early as 8am i was already in the game ous waiting for him and he actually came and lost another 1k again b4 he realized dt i was badder...when i de use madrid and use carlos, robinho and delima ronaldo as strikers, na die u dey......ps1 and ps2 was really fun bk then...

Wow I feel old now... you were playing betting game in 2011?

I did that back in 97/98.. street champion

mexxy1:
@HsLBroker, I disagree with you that Tower Aluminium products are the best in the country.

Have you tried NIGALEX or EBM products?

I have used Nigalex Aluminium products severally and can tell you Tower products don't match up to Nigalex products in quality, thickness and finishing.

As for EBM, I've never used their products but, I've seen them used and in my opinion, they are way better than Tower products.

Kindly do another research and some sampling.

Nice write-up and I hope it is original.

Thanks.

How could one tell the difference between Tower, Nigalex, EBM etc?

CC: HsLBroker

deepwater:
Lol

I will never get to wrap my head with the fact that girls openly have sexual intercourse with a serial baby daddy.

I would never blame davido or any serial baby daddy....

Our girls deserve all they crave for....keep giving birth to bastards...you only live once living it well is up to you.

Ms.lady.

It is a win win situation for both parties involved... dude gets to dig in the p... the lady gets a baby out of it... and she is set for life

Man.. people eat anything these days... snake,crocodile, monkey, whatever there snare catches... wow!!!

One person pocketed $800 million. Can you imagine how much infrastructures we could have erected humans established in Nigeria that will help create jobs and better the lives of Nigerians??

Dubai in 2003 was dust and deserts, look at them now!! Our political thiefs go there for a vacation ...shame on them!!

Man, that aircraft looks 110 years old....

Please dont quote me and talk bla bla bla...

Nigeria can and should do better.... we can't always be a beg beg nation waiting for a western country to dash us chaff that we will spend gazillions of dollars to maintain. If we could spend that much in maintenance, we can afford a newer model on our own.

duality:
What about those who don't like him too.
There's nothing Trump would do for them to like him. At some point you don't pretend to like those who don't like you.

He should be the president of both sides but he doesnt act like that.. he should!!!! That's my point!!

duality:
Trump didn't go fuel anything. Except for those who don't like him for mostly political bias.

Whatever Trump has said is the Truth.

Trump doesn't like anyone except his fellow conservatives....

Cares less about anyone else....

LordAdam16:
It is not a felony in Michigan where it occurred.

And so you know the Lockdown protesters did not loot any business, vandalize homes, or burn a church.

Trump is giving the looters sufficient warning. E go change am for them this week or next. Already, the national guard has killed one rioter.

-Lord

It didn't only happen in Lansing.. it happened in NC, Wisconsin etc.. mostly states with democratic governors.. and few states in the midwest with Republican governors.

Looting, riots is wrong in all ramifications.. I am not here to glorify violence unlike Trump.

All I am saying us Trump's policies are very divisive, wayy to partisian.. he seems to only care about conservative movement not anyone else.. but he is the president of both conservatives and liberals alike...

He could have chosen a better wayy to put his point across, I understand your pain but violence is not a way to go, FBI, DOJ are working with Minneapolis police to bla bla bla..... instead he called the protesters thugs, when looting start, shooting start , he made a comment about unleashing dogs on the protesters ( a sour reference to white police officers unleashing dogs on Blacks in the past- in the 60s 70s, 80 and 90s) he was saying all these while hiding in a bunker

Trump is just a disgrace!!! Not a competent leader!!

oluwasegun007:
If trump acts now they'll say he's racist.

Trump fueled this thing, with his divisive and hwte filled politics.. why didnt he negotiate with the protesters like he urged democratic governors to negotiate with armed protesters protesting the Covid 19 lockdown??

simigold:
I think Derek must have had a beef with Floyd prior and waiting for the right time to strike cuz they had both worked together in the same company for many years.

Donald Trump's statement incited the violence more.

I agree with you 100%.. you sounded like someone that have shunned politics and taken a holistic approach to these situations .. kudos!!

Moneywirer:
This is no longer for late Floyd, I smell politics all over this.
What are the odds that the opposition party didn't incite a reasonable percentage of these series of events just to make Trump look too stupid and incapable of maintaining order with diplomacy?

Do you recall few weeks ago when Trump urged Democratic governors to negotiate with armed protesters in their state capitol?? Just so you know, possession of a firearm in a state Capitol building is illegal and a felony from the state of New York to The great state of Texas!! So the armed protesters were breaking the law but Trump encouraged them.. over the weekend, he went to hide in the bunkers as soon as protests approached the White House, why didnt he come out and negotiate with the protesters

Morale of the story , politicians are hypocrites. Be careful what you wish for..

Finally, Trump forgot that he is not only the president of conservative Americans, he is the president of the whole country, liberals and conservatives alike..

At a time like this, that's when you need a leader to step up and be a leader... rather, he was inciting hate filled speech via Twitter even at a time of disaster and chaos, shame on him!!

People "traveling out for greener pasture" all that glitters are not gold!!

cococandy:
For someone who went into debt just to bring his wife and kids abroad (I.e plane tickets), because visa fees are only a few hundred dollars a piece.
I wonder what he has that she will take from him in a divorce

Some of you are hilarious when you type long nonsense thinking it makes sense.

E big like say dem just buy phone give you abi? Someone dont buy mb dash you and two of us are online throwing barbs right

Don't say what you dont know, so what you dont know dont kill you... this is a proverb.

Like I told you in my prior response, ask questions to know the real answers.. dont make up a narrative to satisfy your curiosity.

You don't even sound like someone that understands the system abroad and have seen or witnessed real cases. Again live what you dont know alone.

cococandy:
Also a forcefully seized passport can be reported stolen. All she needs is to make the call and give them her SSN. It will only time a little while before the old one is deactivated and she gets a new one. Apparently she’s a citizen since only citizens can own American passports. I’m assuming he didn’t lock her up somewhere where she has no access to phones.

Make una softly with all these feel-good stories that obviously reek of lies to anyone who knows better. Sounds like the figments of someone’s imagination.
Things they hope they could do but obviously can’t.

Dont fill in the blanks in your head to fit your own narrative. Ask real questions to find out the real answers.

Who told you she was a citizen? Which countries passport did the lady have?? Who gave you all these crap you thought it was information? You just manufactured scenes to fit your imagination, that doesn't mean your imagination is the reality.

Again, divorce could be dirty sometimes that why I said planning prior to divorce to figure out a way to come out on top at the end.

Remember not everything people assume is "wrong" is illegal. Dude didn't break any law.

igbowoman:
Believe me I have seen worse women.My own relative married one.we begged him to leave her .It is a miracle he came out of it alive.

Ah ha!!

See whose talking

My dear, I have seen boatload of this, have tried to mediate in quite a handful sad marriages. But my women, my 9ja women... please please!! Marriage in yankee is not all that you watch in Telemundo or real housewives of yada yada... dont forget where you came from..

For my men dem, oga mi calm down a bit marriage is also a give and take... take time to correct madams mistake, it will take time for her to adjust.

But last last, there are couples that have no business to be couples to be honest... there situation just pass Iraq and Iran and the westernized world gives brings out the truth!!

igbowoman:
Your guy is just as wicked.
A woman is entitled to proceeds from the marriage in divorce.Being mean to take away everything from her ambushed in a crooked society is not right either.
Dont encourage wickedness especially when there are kids involved

Dont judge a book by the cover... you sound like a lady.. women advocate shebi

I wish u all the best but dont pray your brother marry a vulture woman, a saint in Nigeria but mesmerized with watching too many realty T.V comes to yankee and turns Jezebel.. madam you sef will be calling for her head in a platter!

LinLinGentle:
Disclaimer: I AM NOT A SAINT AND MY WIFE IS NOT THE DEVIL. I HAVE JUST BEEN UNFORTUNATE TO BECOME A VICTIM OF MATRIARCHY WHICH MANY MEN SUFFER ABROAD...

I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ''roughing'' it abroad to pave way for them, I finally succeeded and my family arrived a few months ago.

I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my inadequacies and reflect on them. I am now significantly calmer due to the determination to make my marriage better and as per ''abroad levels''. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me and the environment we find ourselves in. First thing she did on getting here was to cut of my entire family. She said she doesn't want to have anything to do with any of them anymore. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career, as all she does is endless picture taking and editing for social media hyping. I know this might be due to the initial ''euphoria'' phase cos she is coming abroad to a big house, big car and having no limits on most things we used to manage back in Nigeria, and she thinks things are bread and butter. You would never think for a second that she is a married woman if you check her profiles on social media!

She has become even more toxic person than she ever was in Naija. Now very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, ever ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates with me as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with the constant noises from our house, and finally her threats have now tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for all the ''gra gra'' I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no wan hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be.

The popular threat is usually ''I will end your career''. I wasn't taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with the threats by constant calls to the police and other services, making spooky and baseless career ending accusations and allegations against me.

I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst.

I discovered that she has signed up on dating sites and when I even caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that if I am convulsing like this over just a sex chat, she's waiting to see what I'd do when I see a man on top of her.

My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet.

I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them here hoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my citizenship and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us!

For now, I don't know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends.

THE SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP!

UPDATE:

Divorce has now been filed. I also recently got lucky as I was able to secure a restraining order when she messed up again and hit me daring me to do my worst. I called the police and made a proper case and she was arrested. She has been banned from the house for a month. The police advised me to talk to my lawyer and extend indefinitely if I want to. I hope to get this done ASAP. The law here does not only protect women but also protects innocent men. All you need is patience and wisdom. Thank you all for your ideas. Still several hurdles to cross but I am on the winning side for now.

I hope you had a conversation with a divorce attorney prior to filling one.

Not sure which country you reside or which state (if U.S). Sometimes the situation might even be worse when you fill for divorce, like if you have to share your property 50 50 and pay spouse support... she will take half of your property and will never get married again or even want to work because the spousal support will stop.

This is one of the reasons why divorce is sometimes bloody... check OJ Simpson.

People are upset the woman is trying to reap where she did not sow... clean out the guy and guy man don't want to smoke back from ground zero...

Not admiring the bloody divorce tho..
I know a guy that went through this one time.. he kept calm played along, have his men dem in 9ja hype up the lady, around one of the holiday season sent a car to Nigeria told the let's visit home, she gave her a list of what to buy for her and for her whole village..dude purchased all...

On arriving to Lagos after clearing the airport... he took away everything from her including her passport, and filed for divorce in Lagos... this was a very carefully laid out plan...it was an ambush. She was served paperworks the same day she landed in Nigeria. That's all he needed, to serve her the paperwork, she thought it was a joke... she was a no show during proceeding and divorce was granted. It costs a bit a of money but wayyy less than he would have spent in the U.S.

Again, not recommending anything just a story on how people go crazy during this divorce process and also to ask questions prior to filing, like questions on how to come out on top...

People that live in communal property states, some intentional rack up debts , re mortgage the house, like taking off all the meats in the bone then file... knowing that they would lose the bone but again they have securer to "meat" to help them back up from ground zero. It's all about planning.

Cheer up my guy, I have heard so many of these stories from guys in the U.S and Europe and it's not even funny.

diordaves:
I take it you don't want to install a bath, so it is the traditional Nigerian wet room. IF the tiling is done right, there is little chance of leakage. So you MUST bevel the tiling (floor) towards the drain. So water flows swiftly towards the drain and water doesn't gather on the floor after each bath.

With this arrangement and the right kind of cement slurry during tiling, there should be no leakage.

However, if you think your decking was done badly, introduce (nylon) membrane while tiling. But this is truly not necessary.

"Nigerian Wet room"

That's a perfect name for it.. I am not a big fan of the "wet room". But people seem to like it...

Quick question:

I have seen a number of "self contain" bathrooms with accessories fixed differently.

What is the correct or say the most efficient way to install bathroom accessories??

I have seen many bathrooms with the toilet on the window side, wash hand "basin " on the opposite side and then shower in the middle. I am having trouble understanding the concept behind this arrangement.

Is this the proper arrangement?

Emeka Ike looks like Iniedo in that video..

If he grew up in 9ja, he will be 27 today

Let's see video of him going to toilet..

Rubbish!

Wike chose an easy target!!!