Agreed no one should come between mother/father and children, there should be a period of healing, she might still be going through that period. Lets allow her and with time she would budge but not before then.
Not a silly excuse dear. You and I know not what they both went through but I'm telling you the obvious, she might have gone through a lot with the guy.
BTW OP didn't tell us who owned the house when they both were co-habiting or who was the initial breadwinner or their location.
True, marriage could have worked out or not but why didn't they give it a chance first?
So for 8 years, your brother was chopping the thing for free resulting in the first and second child Yet none of you his family members could advise him to make permanent the relationship?
Una nor try. Do you know the stress that girl must have gone through from her parents? Rejection from friends and her close family?
Please advise your bro to go get a job and forget for now the kids. They will come back to him someday but let them be for now. That's the truth.
kushsy: Out of desperation i bring this to naira land.
M brother had two kids from a lady they lived together for about 8years. After they met he lost his job and fell ill .
Somehow issues started when he could no longer do anything for his family. In our own little way we Assisted but not enough. She pays the rent, schools fees and all. I give her credit for this, not been easy at all.
The issue now is my brother moved out the house for almost a year now and she won't allow him visit or see his kids. She changed their school and moved them out of her house to a different location.
Recently they came for holidays and someone informed my brother who went to visit them but it resulted into a scuffle. She is bent on sending him to jail.. She accused him of kidnapping his own kids. My problem is he has no job, too broke to even fight back and we the family don't really want to get involved. They are in court.
I suspect the human right agency involved in the case are favoring her because of the circumstances...
contactmorak: It's no longer a news as it has now become a normal phenomenon where cheating wives in Kenya get stuck with their lovers during sex. You can read our last report here
Yesterday, April 4, 2017, another married woman and her lover from Bungoma were caught after they got stuck while having sex. The unidentified woman who has been married for five years, was caught with her lover stuck at a room in Plan B Hotel, Chwele town.
Speaking to Nairobi News, her husband, Wilber Kibagendi, who works in another town, claimed he served his wife a witchdoctor's concoction, which she unknowingly took to expose herself.
'I have been married to her for the last five years but I live in Bungoma as I have businesses there. I was told she was cheating on me and three days ago I went to see a witchdoctor who gave me a concoction that will help nab her,' he said.
It was also reported that crowd who stormed the hotel had wanted to lynch the lovers, but police men around the scene disperse them with teargas before rescuing the naked lovers.
The two lovers and the woman's husband were taken to Bungoma Police Station.
Is it just me or these our generation of photographers no longer know how to pose when taking pictures?
Most times when they take you snap shot it looks like you have a broad upper part and tiny legs because they take the shots from the top and not on the same level as you
Don't get me wrong, Nokia XL was my first attempt at using an Android phone. It was an hybrid android fork by Nokia.
You virtually have to flash Google Play Store on to it, it has got low memory space and runs on Android jelly bean version.
Trust me Infinix Android One is far better than this and if you must know it runs on Android 6.0. I also use a UMI Branded phone.... Yes ch1nko but a thousand times better than this crap that Nokia no longer supports.
Nokia Android phone they sell for 19k..... Na phone be that?
kingbee90: This Nokia Android phone is better than that China Chiko phone you are using. I can bet that.
Hahaha ...she forgot people vote multiple number of times for each BBN housemates before the close of voting and not necessarily 11 million people voting
These developments will assure the people of future development and help to drive away poverty in the land.
Remember when the various flyovers and bypass were being built in Abuja, people were like 'where is the traffic'? Today we know better.
Let False build all the bridges and roads he can now. When the next governor comes he will have less to do and delve into other areas of Governance.
BTW people are hungry.... You expect False to share the monthly allocations amongst the people?
ademega: One of the difference between fayose and ambode is that fayose. Will build bridge where there is no water, build flyover, dualize road just to make; 1. name as the first person to do it 2.to embezzle money through kickbacks and 3.to deceive gullible people of ekiti Note. All these projects are not needed in those places. Come to ekiti and see the fly over he is constructing and you will shake head for us. Despite the construction of the bridge no a mint hold up for the area. If you see semi towns fayose is giving dualized road, you will open mouth. All these projects are pure misplacement of priorities just like the Congo of rice and 200 naira he distributes once in a month in ekiti for random people. while Ambode sees problem and provide solution without delay. This man will get to a place and see a problem then the next you see its solution.
At the end who is making name, building a lasting legacy and wining people's mind.?
I do ask, where is the fountain of the knowledge in Ekiti state?
Dedicating this page to all ekiti people who has been reduced to refugee and destitute, I pray you wise up next year June.
Gtb has left ekiti now because fayose asked them to bring 10m as tax meanwhile they have just 100k as debt. There is GOD in ekiti
Modify : For people quoting me. Agreed the bridge would be needed in future. But I will like to him judge by his motive? Why is he doing all these things? Do u think he is thinking of the future?? Forget. People are hungry in ekiti! Go and confirm this. People are hungry and angry. What is the usefulness of bridge and a dualize road in a small town when people are hungry? Fayemi made almost same mistake. Just that during fayemi salary was regular. People only hate how he was trying to control the workers. But fayose is just giving us what we don't need right now. What they need is salary and all other things would fall in place. Go and check, go and ask anybody living in ekiti. People are dem hungry. Forget all these media abracadabra.
Then, I would I compare ekiti revenue with that of lagos, I dey crazy? What I am just trying to say is that, ambode is solving lagos problems. He is constructing bridges where necessary and needed. Thank you
Nairaland is mini-Naija (Lagos for that matter). Na jungle and in the jungle no brother or sister everyone na predator! In foreign forums we behave just like we do when we travel out. Come and see us when we land Naija airport we turn back to our true color
thecommunist: Nigerians typically behave themselves when they are in a non-nigerian atmosphere(especially with Europeans and North Americans). the way we interact on quora is so polite and well mannered ..such a far cry from the way they interact on nairaland.
You're normal. The heat has been too much these past few days.
sosexy111: I like drinking water especially the ones that are not chilled. I take more than 17 plastic bottled water everyday.. I know that water is good for the health but there is a saying that anything done out of moderation is bad. I don't ever get sick or anything, I feel fine but my people are beginning to think its a course for concern. Even this morning in the bus, people were just starring at me strangely as I kept buying water and drinking. I felt a bit embarrassed but what can I do. Please friends, hope its ok if some drinks plenty of water? What's your opinion? Have a blissful day.
chimebube: A 500lvl Building Technology student of Covenant University, who has been identified as Segun, reportedly died yesterday, after he was rushed down to the school's hospital after being hit on the head.
Getting to the hospital, basic hospital equipment like defibrillator and oxygen were not available, and the life guard, who was on duty couldn't do his job. Also, the student who disclosed the recent incident, claimed that the hospital is filled with quack doctors. Segun who was driven down to the hospital by one of the school's lecturers, eventually died.
Request for rejection! No bi by force to serve for military hospital naaa
meilleur: I AM LOSING MY MIND, KINDLY ADVISE. I am a doctor and corper, posted to one of the military hospitals in Lagos. I was actually pregnant b4 service and few months in service, I was delivered of a baby. I was made to observe my maternity leave and I resumed this January but ever since resumption, it has not been easy. I returned this Jan to meet a newly posted military boss (doctor) who hasn’t made life bearable for my daughter and I I was initially taking my baby to work, but as a baby, she is susceptible to infections of all kinds. I opted to take her to a day care. I worked 8am to 2pm before this new boss, but now, 8am to 4pm. And two weekends in a month, I do ‘weekend call’ which makes the matter worse, for such a week, I practically have few hours to spend with my baby and the government is talking of 6 months exclusive breastfeeding. I met with another LGI who said corpers were not meant to do calls. I don’t need all time off work, all I need is my normal 8am-2pm, Mon to Fri I was doing and I will manage to cope without complaining. I thought NYSC promised married and nursing mothers a better treatment, if not, I would have waited till this yr, now that I am even 30. My concern is my baby, she is growing seriously lean by the day, she lacks attention and my boss doesn’t care. She has had persistent rashes and big boils for over a month she resumed day care and its totally driving me crazy. I went to see my Local govt inspector to complain only for him to chicken out just because a military woman lambasted him on phone, leaving me to my fate. If something bad happens to my 5-month old daughter, NYSC wld say, "but why were u silent?" It’s a military setting and really don’t know the process of lodging complaints. My boss seems to be a sadist, maybe not, but she has really never been nice to me. A scenario; My baby was hot overnight and I felt I needed to watch her a little before dropping her at the day care, and I felt I needed to inform my boss. I called her, no response, sent her a text message of late coming, she didn’t respond only for me to get to work and she said all sorts. Her own grown child fell ill, she took the day off. If this is what NYSC is all about, it is seriously not worth it! I have 2 months to complete NYSC, but I can’t help seeing my baby in this condition. Even at work, I lose focus. Can u imagine what a doctor out of her senses can do?? Its tearing me apart!! Am I taking it too personal or the treatment should be fairer? I am literally losing my mind and nobody is fighting my course. WHAT DO I DO?
Are you new in this country to know NIPOST or anything Nigeria Government operates is inefficient?
Anyway looks like the guy played you. He got the iPhone and decided to claim he did not get it. It's an old trick perfected by Nigerians back in the days and that's why the likes of Amazon and eBay do not ship electronics to Nigeria.
sirlop: No. Their charges are cheaper...i just decided to give them a try. I thought they will be as efficient as China Post, Hong Kong post, Netherlands post etc. Cos they fall under the same category.most items I buy on Aliexpress come in via China Post and Hongkong post.
He probably knows someone more powerful than your bosses or HR ....Let go and live your life bro before den sack you instead
wowgist: I love my job, my Boss and my colleagues. As an Accountant, our job requires that we sit long hours on our computers updating the Companies expenditure and asset database. however, there is a challenge.
My department colleague is hardly on sit during working hours. he loves to leave to chat, socialize and even do personal runs during work. I have tried to help him severally by discussing (one-on-one) as par 'man to man', but no effect. He is simple and very intelligent but not focused because he is to playful. This has affected our department's output severally, as personally I discussed this matter with the HR, my own Boss and other familiar Bosses, but all seem not to be too concerned. They just sympathize. I love my work, we are well paid and really doing well as a company.
Or even buy land shei? I searched for this in your write I no see am.... Abeg na her money, let her do with it as it pleases her
Synord: honestly, Why buy an iphone7 for a Nigerian mother who only needs to make use of activities provided by a phone that a Good gionee m6 can provide with strong battery
why not use the remaining money to buy her food,clothes ,drugs and provisions...something she can take every time and remember u in prayers anytime she uses them..
Am pretty sure that woman can't use up to 40℅ OF the things that iPhone 7 can offer ...
well if the children can afford it and comfortably take care of the mother...
CliffordOrji: We Igbos support Senator Dino Melaye. How I wish Senator Dino Melaye can rule us in Igboland. Infact Senator Dino Melaye must rule us in Igboland in Jesus name. Dino Melaye is greater than all Igbo men both dead and alive.
Dino Melaye is greater than ojukwu Dino Melaye is greater than chinua achebe Dino Melaye is greater than nnbamdi azikiwe Dinoi Melaye is greater than nnamndi kanu
gozzlin: Sorry to tell you this, but you'll have to rely on lens for life. If you're short-sighted, you'll need to have your lens changed every two years or so, cos as you get older, your eyes get weaker. Your optometrist will recommend a pair of lens with higher power every two years.
The common misconception among people that are newbies in the use of lens is that the lens will in time correct/cure their short-sight or long sight. That's not true.
The only cure for short-sight or long sight is to undergo a lasik surgery which is expensive and can only be done in the UK, the US and a few other countries.
Ok may be its hereditary ...anyone in your family on prescription glasses? Mum or dad? It may also be as a result of nutritional deficiencies Why don't you just see an ophthalmologist?
Romance › Re: Ladies, How Do You Decline Giving Guys Your Contact? by bigtt76(f): 6:17am On Apr 06, 2017
they abandoned him till date. 
