You allowed your ego to belittle your dad, not good. What I would have done will be to assure him that I'm not into any illegal act and that people would always talk which is fine and that he should not worry you are trying your best to not let it happen again... Calm him down.
Don't you ever try to make your dad feel little about himself or not being able to provide for the family and stop feeling woke. He meant well for you.
DamianDd: My dad is a really good guy, I love him so much and he's gentle most times. Though he gets angry sometimes but he's reasonable about everything he does.
I came home 11:30 which is very late and I knew that and I even hated it too that I came home this late so I was trying to avoid him even when he asked to come to his room because I had a gut feeling that things won't gi right.
But I ended up going to get my charger that was with him, then for the first 5 minutes in he was making sense about why I came home late and I was agreeing to it that it's true
Then all of a sudden he starts saying "what will people think?" "Neighbors are watching" "they'll start saying god forbid, like father like son" "I nor fit let my pikin be like this boy" "which kind family be this, see when their son dey come house?" "People are watching, people are judging" and even more words and it started getting annoying to me, then he said they will say "see when this small pikin dey come house"
It was at that moment that I shut it down, I've never been that way to him but it was so infuriating, I told him I'm not a child I'm 18 which is legal age, I work for my money, I make 50k to 300k a month on my own; no neighbors give me food when I'm hungry, the landlord doesn't clean my eyes when they hurt from viewing my phone too much so I don't give a Bleep what they think of me. I told him to not put all those orientations in my head because it affected me alot when I was younger and it made me timid and shy and scared of being myself or having different opinions and that's what I'm trying to fix in myself and my mindset now.
What I do feel bad about is last year I paid for the house rent and packing when I had alot of money, I brought it up when I was talking to him and said "I paid for this house with my own money so who is landlord or the neighbors for me to be sacred to come in and out of my own home, I know what I did is wrong and I'm sorry but don't put those bad thoughts in my head" I shouldn't have said that though by bringing up what I did for family. He only called me back and said "don't worry I won't talk to you anymore until I use my own money to pay for the house next time" I didn't say anything because i know I was wrong and nothing good would come out of talking back, I just left his room.
OldBeer: These are certainly exciting times in Nigeria with the massive upheavals happening in all sectors. And Nigeria's premier station has not been left behind.
Any observer of the polity will notice that NTA has been having a major resurgence in the past couple of weeks.
For some time now, NTA has been at the forefront of breaking news in the country. They were the first to break the news of the sack of EFCC boss on Twitter, garnering surprises from people who weren't even aware that NTA is on social media.
During the inauguration of the National Assembly, NTA even offered its viewers dual view to ensure they catch both ceremonies as they were happening simultaneously, a feat that has never been done before in Nigeria.
This has led Nigerians to wonder what is happening at the hitherto moribund broadcasting giant.
Is this a case of a new NTA or the resultant effect of BAT's body language? Only time will tell. But for now, everyone seems happy at NTA's resurgence.
We end this report with what @TheoAbuAgada, a known PDP supporter, said back in 2021, "Any president that can revamp NTA can change Nigeria."
With this he's gone ahead to show he won't be religious tolerant of non-muslims. A minus to him considering Gandollar and Kwasia were all religious tolerant but hey their monkey their circus
MVNOs can't compete with mobile network operators rather they complement them by reselling the MNOs services. That's why they are mobile virtual network operators 😀
Possible he was padding the loans up and build his own war chest in anticipation of contesting and winning the elections to cover up the dirt. He was ill-advised.
uzomakanaki: Fellow nairalanders, please I need advice from matured minds in this group.
I'm in a two year relationship with my woman, we're both working. I'm 34 while she's 27. My montly salary and commision is over 200k with other side hustle i do that bring in funds for me, i also just got a car i want to register with bolt/uber to still bring in funds in my free time.
My fiancee on the other hand is earning 75k monthly. I take good care of her needs and makes sure she doesn't lack anything I can afford.
We both plan to settle down by December.
Sometimes last month she missed her period, after the test we discovered she's 5 weeks pregnant.
I'm against abortion because of the dangers involved in the aftermath, i suggested she keep the baby while I come and see her family and do some necessary things before the main wedding. But she insisted in aborting the baby, reason being that she can't be pregnant and be working. Unless I place her on a monthly salary.
She has aborted the baby and had complications because of the quack nurse that performed the abortion. I spent a lot to make her back on her feet
I'm gradually losing interest in the relationship cos that single act of her. I've kept this to myself.
I just need advice on how to handle this. Cos I'm already fed up with her with her recent disrespect and the way she talks to me anyhow even in public.
woginid967: Forget about him, why dont you let me take you out of that apartment, to a short let and we get loud slutting each other out, while you sit on my face till you squirt and i cum inside ice cream and you drink it to stay healthy. Just do crazy shit like threesomes and orgies together. Your neighbor obviously wants to fuvk u, so he's frustrating you will u go up there and silence him with you labia.
What did you study gan gan? Are you in the UK? Are you applying directly to the companies or through job boards? Like Temi231 mentioned above, try going for IT support or technician roles and see where this get you to.
adedapodvirus001: Good morning my people, please I need someone in the field of data analysis to show me the way oooo. I have self learned it before and fortunately enough, my former employer enrolled me for a diploma course in data analysis. I have packaged my CV and threw out applications to so many places including the NHS but nothing yet( No interview, No call back). I have targeted entry level roles too but everything I've been getting is unfortunately we are not progressing with your application. I also tried to carry out some research on LinkedIn concerning the data analysis jobs of a thing and I discovered that almost all vacancies that I clicked on often have over 200 applicants, there are some with more than 500 applicants. All these things are making me to have a rethink on my decision to follow this path.
I have tried my hand on cyber security but I later discovered that this area of IT is not for entry level applicants. The feedback I got from some people that I know who studied master degree in cyber security in the UK is also not encouraging because they also find it difficult to secure entry level roles.
Selfkontrol: Good day Nairalanders. Pls I need some mature advice because I’ve been in a dilemma for a long time now concerning relocating abroad or staying back in Nigeria. First of all I’m not a japa advocate. I believe if you’re doing well in Nigeria then there’s no point relocating abroad but I feel there’s so much uncertainty and I don’t know what the future holds for me in this country.
Now I’m a married man of 30 years. I will turn 31 by this September. We have no child yet but wife is preg now. I have a B.Eng in petroleum Engineering but have never worked in my life. My current business is crypto trading which I have been doing for years now. During the 2021 crypto bull run I made lot of money and acquired some properties that’s currently valued atleast 60-70m naira in total. bought my car same year and got married same year to my long time Gf, settled some family members etc . I don’t have any other investments or business aside my properties and crypto portfolio because crypto trading has taken all my time and I won’t complain because so far it has been good. Making money in dollars while in Nigeria is bliss. Even though we have been in bear season since 2022, I still make some money every now and then that’s sustainable for now until we hit another bull run which is likely to happen from next year 2024.
My fear lies here, on the long run crypto trading is not sustainable. If not for 2021 bull run I don’t think I would be in this position and even the projected bull run next year is not 100% certain
I plan on learning a programming skill which is very difficult, I tried learning it late last year but stopped along the line because it was distracting me from trading and missing some opportunities in crypto because making money is most important. Coding would probably take me a few years before I start earning even though it is sustainable long term but crypto trading can be life changing but not sustainable long term . It’s more like a gamble most times.
My plan A, is to gather enough money from now till 2025 which is the duration of the projected bull run if it happens and start investing in real estate development, Like building and selling and other businesses too but I don’t know how feasible that is in our present day Nigeria and if I don’t make my target amount, I might have to start with the available resources present.
plan B, gather some money, learn a skill then relocate to Canada with my family via study route since I don’t have any real work experience aside crypto trading but that would mean me going to study and starting afresh.
For my wife, she also has a degree in Human Resources with just nysc as working experience. She learnt wig making and installation and has been doing her online biz selling wigs etc.
Abroad folks, what are my chances abroad considering my current profile. Is it worth it coming over there to start afresh And build? I have heard so many things how it’s hard getting a job and you have to rely on survival jobs for the first few years expecially for someone without any work experience.
I really don’t like joining the bandwagon cos everyone seems to be leaving, I love to weigh my options and hate taking unnecessary risk that might lead to regrets, at the same time don’t want to regret not leaving since I’m still young and have the opportunity that’s why I’m here asking these questions to learn from experienced and matured family men home and abroad the action they would take. We learn everyday,
For my unborn kids, if everything checks out, my plan is to give birth to them in either Canada or US for the passport and raise them in Nigeria and when they are grown, send them to study there and that is only if I’m not relocating. And if I’m relocating, what are the in-demand skills and professions I have to take since it’s clear I might be going to school because I hate survival jobs. What is your advice pls. Mature advice pls. Thank you 🙏 @justwise @Disguy
I'm sure you will get it where you designated for its collection.
crossbonehelped: I actually plan to arrive in Manchester on the 21st making it past the 10 days arrival date to get the BRP. And no, I haven’t received any message about my brp being sent by any courier
elisinho: For colleagues working in the nhs i was wondering if anyone have hints about questions likely to be asked for a band 7 role in an allied health field specifically for sonography please.
20th June is still within the 10 days period since you arrived on the 10th of June 🤷🏿♀️ or are we missing something here?
Once you've stated your collection point during your application process, it will be despatched there in wait for your arrival and collection date specified. Did you get any email from the courier service stating your BRP has been despatched? They usually send one.
crossbonehelped: Hi. Came in on the 10th of June and still staying somewhere around London but I’m supposed to get my BRP in Gorton, Manchester within ‘10’ days of arrival according to the BRP letter I got. Problem is, I’m actually supposed to wait for some reasons till 20th of June and that will be past the 10 days for the BRP. Don’t know if this could be an issue and if I should cal the post office ahead to say this or I definitely have to get it within the 10 days of arrival or I should just ignore and it isn’t much of an issue. Thanks in advance house
Exactly! And for those also wondering why pay in full - it saves you the stress and also help you build a good credit history. I could as well pay with my debit card and not use a CC if building credit history is not a part of my long term plan. Not everyone who takes a CC cannot afford to live life without one.
AKALAMAGBO: Bro no dey deceive urself, realities are different. People’s living condition are not the same, because you can’t pay in full doesn’t mean everyone else can’t… No be everybody get COVID that year when e dey do people strong thing… I pay mine in full before the direct debit date just so you know, and I have a combined total credit card of £8,000 on 2 cards ( Amex and Aqua)…
And how's that an issue if they could afford to do that and you can't? You need to grow out of this childish habit of trying to gaslight people into thinking your own way, very poor and ghetto mentality. Everyone is different from you or your habit. If you have a CC limit of £8000 and you chose to spend all and pay monthly £1 that's entirely your business. It shouldn't prick you if I have a limit of £1000 and spend only £200 out of it but pay in full ....nonsense
Tier4Dependant: You are seriously asking this? Guess you should go back to part 1 of this wonderful thread
Why would you think it is statistically improbable? Do you know everyone's debt appetite? Or do you think most people with credit card spend all their limit and more than they could actually afford to pay off their pocket? If you can't afford to pay yours in full why should it bother or be suspicious to you when someone who does mentions it? I don't understand you people's thought process really and that's why other country nationals are thriving better than we do as a community.
koonbey: The point the person was making isn’t that it’s an issue to pay your balance in full - obviously that’s best practice and what everyone should be doing.
The point was that everyone claims they do that, which is sus, to say the least, because it’s statistically improbable. Especially because it usually comes up when some people are encouraging ’newbies’ to apply for cards (without mention of whether they need it and can handle the responsibility).
Funny how people like criticising. If one chose to pay in full their CC balance, how is that an issue. Not everyone would like to owe much on CC if they could afford it. I do same - I pay in full my CC balance, reuse and repay in full. It has its advantages when you are intentional about your targets and future. Ignore them my brother @Justwise, you are not alone on that table. Let them say whatever they want. Thanks for always sharing
Family › Re: I Stood Up To My Father by bigtt76(f): 3:18pm On Jun 16, 2023
