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This is fake news. Ex-PGEJ said no such thing.

Dennis3D:
Half plot has its own statutory requirement. Just like corner piece as well... Remember. They put those into consideration. Half plot uses 4m front or 6m in some cases. 1.5m sides then 3m air space behind set back.

Statutory requirements and considerations are known. This is just requirements for the building itself. If we put soakaway/septic tank construction into considersation and drilling of borehole, the it will be most difficult for anyone.

If one is to follow such completely them most persons will never buy a land or even bother about building a house. I think the law is flexible in some areas to some extent. The client just ought to know how to go about it.

Anonymus010:
I Need The Advice Of Experienced Married Men

NB: This is not my real account, I created this account for the purpose of this issue.

Please, I need the advice of married people (especially married men). I will make the story as simple as possible and I promise not to compromise the truth to favour me in this issue.

Brief Introduction: I am a man in my late 20's. Got married last year and currently have a 3month baby.

Brief history of my relationship prior to marriage: I dated my wife for 4years before we finally tied the knot last year. I met her in the university, we were classmate in school.

Before I started dating my wife, I was dating a girl in the same class but we both agreed to separate after 1year because we were age mate and she was keen on getting married immediately after graduation which I knew I will not be ready for marriage by then (Note: No sex in the relationship, She was a virgin and because I couldn't assure her of marriage, I didn't sex her).

After the break up with my ex, I became close to my wife and we started dating. She was self sufficient as she had a source of income while in school, she supports me, gives me money, cooks and buy me food etc. She was the best woman any man can think of. I fell in love along the line and decided this is the right lady to marry.

Note: There were several backlashes from other classmates insinuating she snatched me from my ex but we scaled through all that. We dated for 2more years in school and we graduated. We dated for another 2more years post school till last year.

Brief history immediately before marriage: Everything was fine till my wife's birthday last year. I did tripple shifts at work(48hrs work non-stop) and came back a night before her birthday and slept off. I woke up 2:30am to wish her happy birthday. She got angry and told me I didnt put her in mind and that I was not the first person to wish her happy birthday (She later told me her ex wished her first at exactly 12am). I apologised to her and told her the reason I missed the time. I had just 10k, gave her 5k to do a birthday photoshoot, used about 3k to buy her goodies as salary has not been paid.

Fast forward to after 1week of the birthday, she came up with serious issue, saying she wanted a break but not total break-up for some months to put herself together. She lamented she was not getting anything from the relationship, I don't usually take her out, I didnt celebrate her birthday well for her, I didnt buy cake, I didnt buy gift etc. I apologised and pleaded with her to be patient as we had big projects before us (wedding, masters degree and family apartment) which she knew I was saving for. We settled it and had sex. After 7days, I saw a call log on her phone where she had a conversation with her ex for almost an hour between 11pm and 12am. After 1month, she missed her menses and was pregnant. I asked her if she ever saw her ex, she cried and swore that she didn't (Note: I trusted her because she is modest and she is not the sex type). So, I agreed, accepted the preg, quickly arranged an impromptu wedding, I quickly sourced for money, spent over N2million on the wedding......

THE PROBLEM:

2weeks after the weeding, my wife started abusing my family especially my mum, telling me she hated how my family behaved during the wedding. I pleaded with her not to allow this to affect our home. The insults and abuse became perpetual. My wife works from home and will give me several reasons why she cannot cook after giving her money for food stuffs once I collect salary. Its just 2 of us living in a mini flat & I wash my clothes myself, but she will give me thousands of reasons how the non-existent house shores prevent her from cooking.

After 9months, she gave birth, I asked her who she wanted to come do omugo with the baby between her mum and my mum. She opted for my mum (claimed her mum will be giving her problem). Not up to 1week that my mum came over, she has started complaining about everything she does. Despite the fact that this woman will wake up 5am, wash everybody's clothes, bath the baby but she doesnt cook. My wife started complaining about her being obligated to cook every morning because of my mum's presence(Note: she doesnt cook in the morning, if I am going to work by 8am, I will either warm a left over previous night's food or source for food outside). When the complain was becoming overwhelming to the point of her almost insulting my mum in my presence, I told her I will tell my mum to go back to her house( my mum lives in a mini flat too with my dad, so they are very comfortable). She said I shouldn't. After 1 month, my mum left. The abuse, insults and complain continued. She will nag about how my mum did when she was with us, abuse and insults my family. I will appeal to her and defend my family. My wife became complete opposite of who she was when we were dating.

The real issue at hand: We would be migrating to the US soon. Lately, I can't control my wife, anytime I don't buy her idea or wish, she will rain insults on me. Just 3days ago, she told me I don't have sense repeatedly just because she said we should go and greet her mum's pastor which I told her not now but we can go later. If I tell her to do something, she will do otherwise and give me thousand of reasons she can't do it. 2months ago, I reported all her attitudes to her mum, her mum talked to her but no change, she is getting worse. Last week, I did 24hours at work, I got home, my wife didn't cook. I got into the kitchen, made custard and placed the soup on the gas cooker. We were both in the living room. She perceived the soup was getting burnt and insulted me, telling me it was because I was not the one that dropped money for the soup, thats why I wanted to burn it (She cooked the soup with her money because my salary was delayed). She insults me at will, gives me no respect and treat me as trash.(Note: I had never cheated on her and she doesn't doubt my fidelity. Likewise, I had never suspected her of such too).

I am currently scared because I know US is women's world because I have included her and the kid as my dependents in my green card petition. I am scared for my life and career because she could go worse in the US and destroy all I have laboured for.

Please kindly advise me on what I can do to change her.

Sorry for the long write up and any grammatical errors.

You are a great man, but do not let your wife kill you before your ancestors call upon you.
The signs you keep seeing after you got married are just a warning.
The greatest mistake you made is your calmness and not very observant of her doing before you got married. Guess your intention was to do whatever she wills at all possible best, making her happy.
There's no miracle that may make your wife change, now or ever.
You do not need a pastor especially her pastor(if you don't attend the same church) to tell you anything on this matter or anything concerning your affairs and marriage.

If you believe that God exists and His Son is Jesus Christ then pray to Him and ask Him for answers.
But as regards taking your wife to the US, kindly remove that from your list of things.

beebah247:
Good morning everyone.
I have benefited a lot from this thread and I will first of all like to appreciate all contributors so far. I have been following the thread because I had it in mind that in a short time I would be needing information about construction for a project I intend to start next year.

Being a novice I have followed all discussions with keen interest such that with what I have gathered so far from this thread I can have one or two contributions whenever construction is being discussed. So again many thanks to all those that have made this happened.

At this point I am negotiating a piece of land in Aguda, Surulere. I have attached the survey plan for the land, though actual measurements has shown that there probably has been an encroachment on the land as we got 15m * 27.8m after the exercise.

This plot is to be acquired by myself and a friend, and we will then divided into two equals. At the end of the day what I will be entitled to is half of this plot which will be a 7.5m * 27.8m.

There are however concerns from a few people we have consulted so far that this will be too small to construct anything meaningful. That there will be no space and the rooms will be too small.

What I intend to have on the land is a 2 storey building of 4 bedroom apartment on the ground floor for myself and my family, then 2 units of 2 bedroom on the other two floors, with parking space for just two cars.

I have gone round some areas around ebute metta and it's environs, and I have seen very nice structures built on equally narrow plots, though I didn't measure to check if those were more than the 7.5m we will have here or more.

At this point we need to make a decision fast so we don't appear unserious, and at the same time we need to confirm if the size of this land can work for the purpose we have in mind for it.

My fellows here, please I need honest and professional advice. Can this building I have in mind sit comfortably on this 7.5m * 27.8m land? If it can, will it be choked up as some have feared?

If this land cannot accommodate this building, what will be the best option for me on this land considering the fact that I want to have something on it I can stay with my family and some others to bring in rental income.

I thank everyone that would be contributing to this in advance.

Not sure it may fit a 4 bedroom completely with needed facilities.
It can take a 3 bedroom on the ground floor and the required 2 units-2 bedroom on the upper level.

westliverenterp:
Hello house; Can a half plot of land accommodates 2units of 2bedroom flats bungalow and a bq...

With respect to ground floor alone; Nope.
If you build a single unit, storey building (2bedroom+BQ); Yes.

MelesZenawi:
Danjuma said they used him, and he lost control .


This his story na pure wash....

Do you really think Danjuma will say anything that will put him on a bad spot?

Just read that line again and reason it out....................
Why would someone who is more or less ones' guard/guide lead strangers to his boss capture?

Raddie:
thanks but Google doesn't seem to come up with anything related

I refer to them as wall plate clips or ties.

Dubemcapital1:
About 120 bags

Alright.
Keep up the good works.

The PDP in a statement by its National Publicity Secretary, Kola Ologbondiyan said it was strange that the list did no create space for the youths demography, who the future is said to belong to.

I find the bold to be some form of hypocrisy.
Is there any youth as a governor in the PDP controlled States?

Dubemcapital1:
Very ready for concrete casting

Impressive concrete fascia profile.
Please what's the estimated number of bags of cement for this german sized fascia?

lexy2014:
Am not aware that there is a law that is y I asked d lady. Maybe she knows something that we don't.

So if there's no law regarding types of marriage, that means there's no biblically approved type of wedding
If Jewish traditional wedding is what d Bible recorded, that is because its a reflection of d Jewish people. I don't believe d Bible will now expect us in Africa to marry according to Jewish tenets when we aren't Jews. So therefore, African traditional wedding is d way to go

Okay.
Instead of people to push for the negative aspects of traditional wedding to be expunged they are borrowing another man's culture.
Alot of age long miss-interpretation about the Bible has infested men and they are not ready to sit down, read and study the scriptures.

Graduateacher:
Continue deceiving yourself. The idea of a religious leader blessing a union comes from the book of Genesis. If you don't believe that your priests and pastors act as God's servants and representatives then don't bother calling yourself a Christian. God ordained marriage and the presence of these spiritual leaders in your union should remind you of that

You are the one deceiving yourself and you think you are a Christian.
Are you a Christian and do you know what it takes to become a Christian?
Do you think anyone is born into this world a Christian?

Graduateacher:
Referencing from the first wedding in the book of Genesis, the Lord himself precided over it. It was his idea. Now, we as Christians are not worshipping any other God besides the one who conducted the first marriage ceremony. Now, who are the people representing God here on earth, is it your ancestor or your spiritual leader which is your priest or pastor. Was libation, kolanut and offering to the gods of the land conducted by God when he brought Adam and Eve together?


Regarding the wedding in Cana, which God do the Jews serve? isn't He the same God we Christians are serving? was Jesus a Jew or not?

You are bringing up matters that necessarily does not concern the subject topic.
God the father, instituted the first joining and marriage recorded in the Bible. He is both the Father of the Adam and Eve.
Now from the children of Adam and Eve who instituted their marriages?
From the marriages of Abraham down to the last son of Jacob who instituted their marriages?
Who instituted the marriages of Moses, Aaron, Joshua; please kindly point to the Bible verses as reference.

This idea of pastor or priest as spiritual leader where did it come from, is it scriptural from the Bible?
Did you see any of the apostles referring to any man as their spiritual leader?
Or can you point to where such was used, or persons like giving interpretations to what was never said or written?
Kindly read Matthew 23:9.

lexy2014:
If there's no law, y did d person I responded to talk about law? D marriages u referring to in d OT& d one u said Jesus attended in d NT, were they Christian weddings or Jewish traditional weddings?

Jewish weddings both in OT and NT.

Please point to the law as it concerns weddings as written in the Bible based on the subject matter?

Amacaco:
There are four kinds of Marriages recognized under Nigerian Law viz: (a)court marriage (b) christian Marriage; (c) Customary marriage and (d) Islamic Marriage. Court and Christian Marriages are called Marriage under the Act. Most marriages are a hybrid of customary and christian marriage but are strictly recognized by law as customary marriage because the Church blessing and ceremonies do not add anything to the customary marriage which had already been contracted with the payment of bride price and fulfillment of customary rites. So if one sleeps with his wife after payment of bride price, you are strictly within your legal rights. [b]But if you are a member of a particular Church which [/b]forbids sexual intercourse before Church blessing, [b]you are bound by the rules of your Church as disobedience and rebellion [/b]everywhere is Sin before God. Strictly Speaking, Marriage under the Act does not require payment of bride price and parental consent but consent of the two adults intending to get married. Fornication and adultery therefore in these cases will arise where the two have not completed the requirements and process under the Marriage Act.

As regards the bold as long as it conforms to the word of God as written in the Holy Bible then it's right.

There are too many age long miss-interpretations of the word of God and people will still use them against those who do not the study the Bible.

kilisi:
Travelling out, alimony......

Okay.
As regards alimony, I think the Nigerian system needs to look into prenuptial agreements.

PHIPEX:
Some people don't even know the supposed WHITE WEDDING is only about 250yrs since it started. That's why it was never mentioned in the Bible, they run full scale with a tradition that has no Biblical basis and feel they have fulfilled all righteousness.

Neither Jesus nor any of the disciplines conducted a wedding ceremony. The error of white wedding is same as the error of tithe, imposing and teaching other people's culture on children of God as commandments.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_wedding

There's no error in tithe.
The only error is from those who interpret it for whatsoever reasons best known to them.

deleyi20:
Correct me if I am wrong. But the real white wedding is done at the Registry where the government recognised certificate is issued.

The law also recognises traditional marriages which the customary court is in charge. Please read about it.
The purpose of the court wedding and certificate issue is for a different intending unforseen reason. This of which even a person's WILL can over ride.

Arysexy:
I hope with your so called traditional marriage u can claim Ur spouse's estate? Or use it to obtain visa?

If u are a Christian, what joins u and Ur wife is a Christian marriage or blessing backed by certificate. Same for a Muslim. Traditional marriage only bring both families together to agree to let their children unite.

Does traditional marriage issue certificate of marriage?

Does the certificate stop a man from divorcing his wife?
Does the certificate stop a man from infidelity?

The essence of marriage is a unification of 2 persons(body and spirit) becoming as one and keeping true to each other. It does not rests on certificate or rings or hand bands.

The use of certificate for issuance of visa etc,etc, is for a different purpose and if you go through the process you'll see that it was specifically formulated because of the women folk as proof to be shown.

kilisi:
This is absolutely true. Although it is good to register your marriage with government for future necessities.

I don't understand what you mean by future necessities.

Graduateacher:
Marriage is honorable and the bed undefiled. Read through the wedding at Cana which Jesus attended. Will Christ attend a traditional ceremony which entails libation pouring and other sacrifices to gods of the land, will he perform miracles and manifest his signs in such a place?

If you honor traditional marriage over church wedding which is blessed by a priest/pastor then you are not fully a practicing Christian. I find most Africans swinging both ways especially when it concerns burial and marriage.

Marriage blessing can be done as simply as inviting a priest/pastor to bless your union in the presence of your parents/family, it doesn't necessarily entail the fanfare we see today


Chose who you will follow, as for me and my family, we will serve God.

So in your interpretation, traditional marriage should be abolished?

lexy2014:
So what is d law of God concerning d subject matter?

There is no such law given.
You only need to take a cue from all the marriages done in the OT and that in the NT that Jesus Christ was in attendance to understand what is needed and required of one.

famouscargo4u:
i'm not. but if you maÿ ask, what is marriage? it is a union between a man and woman usually with the consent of their parents. You need the approval of the girl's parents and NOT pastor!. Remember when Abraham was to get a wife for Isaac, he sought Rebecca's parents!

If you marry (even with pastor'pronouncement)", without the consent of the parents, it's illegality. The parents MUST give consent. Thereafter, you need to be recognised by government as married, hence, the need for certificate which can be gotten from recognised religious body or registry.

There's no such law as needing a certificate as proof of marriage.......
You need to read about how the customary court acknowledges traditional marriages.

Criticaltemp:
Traditional marriage is far na, immediately after the introduction ceremony.. Oga, na ur wife b DAT.. Whether u pay her BP or not.. Uve made ur intentions known so ure now her hubby..

Introduction is not marriage and never will be...........


So in the instance where the introduction does not lead to paying of bride price, what's happens?

Redman44:
Hello house, thanks for your input and contributions on this thread. I am looking for answers on tiles. What is the best floor tile for a factory? What kind of floor tile is the best for the floor of a factory? And please,where can I get this tile? How much does it cost to get this tile per carton? Thanks a lot.

You'll need to state what type of work/jobs will be done in the factory before anyone can recommend the most suitable floor tile or a better alternative.

Cassie74:
This should be pumpkin seed not the fluted.. Ibos call it anyu

Thanks

Hum2020:
Op look for another person to give quotation but you did not stated if the building is bungalow or duplex however the quotation is pn high side 35 bag of cement and workmanship at 350per sqm i think it should be 250 per qsm while believe that between 20 or 25 bag of cement can do this work

At #250/sqm. .........please where is the artisan from?

9icetoo:
You confirmed what he said. Lightning can't do shit to a car.
Even the top gear bloke said the car shell acts like a Faraday cage.
Fake news.!!!

It's never good to see one view on any subject matter. Sometimes the possibility of it occurring might be 1 in 20.
Check out the views of persons here .........

https://www.quora.com/What-happens-when-lightning-strikes-a-car

Jaynom:
Carefully read my last post. If you don't see it then forget it

I thought as much.

Jaynom:
(1) No sir! You've been misguided

Hebrews 7:18 The former regulation is set aside because it was weak and useless 19 (for the law made nothing perfect), and a better hope is introduced, by which we draw near to God.
we follow Christ and the teachings of Christ and his disciples. Alot of these teachings contradict Jewish Laws (The old testament) and that was why he had issues with the Pharisees in the first place.
(2) The Bible IS NOT ONLY THE RULES AND REGULATIONS OF GOD. Please study your Bible WELL. The Bible contains the words of God. The words of the Devil. The words of men and the words of a Donkey! Not everything in the Bible is the word of God. Not everything in the Bible is CHRIST LIKE.
(3) Peter. Paul and the other disciples were Jewish converts! They left their Jewish ways to follow the ways of Christ! We follow the Doctrines Established by Christ and in Christ ALONE

I'm trying to arrive at your point and don't want to assume it.
Before I go further, is the old testament abolished or did Christ abolish it?

Sterope:
It is not the state governor. It has always been there.

The land are provided for farming. I don t know if they are available for ranching. Either way, I am yet to see the news of FG or SG providing support for herdsmen until today.

So you see farmlands for farming is provided for farmers.
But it can't be so for cattle rearers(herdsmen).
The reasons are not far fetched because both are done differently.

Jaynom:
(1) Hebrews 12:2
Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.
(2) Uncle read the entire Mathew 23 and tell me you didn't see insults!
(3) Not EVERYTHING in the Bible is Christian. Matthew 5:43-44
43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.(This is not Christian)
44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,(This is Christian)
David's prayer in Psalm 109 is a wicked and UNCHRISTIAN PRAYER

1) I needed you to do that again to ensure that you realise that the words in the Holy Bible is the rules and regulations(laws/commandments) of God.
2) I guess you have a different definition of what insult is.
3) Matt 5:43........ That was as spoken of in the old testament. There was no such thing as a Christian then.
44.......Christ tells us the new way we ought to do. Pay attention to the word "persecute" in that contex.

The word Christian was formulated in the new testament as it meant to be "Christ Like ". So don't expect King David to be one. David was a Jew, a Hebrew and he practiced Judaism.