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Renderhelp:
@Renderhelp

I am an Aussie married to a Nigerian man. He was a poor immigrant when we met. After we got married, he helped manage my Ranch. I must say, he's a hardworking bloke and a little Aussie battler.

I always wanted kids but he was never interested. He said the world was too wicked for innocent kids and I agreed.

He always sends a huge part of our income to his family in Nigeria especially his late brother's wife. I asked him why he does that and he said its part of the Nigerian culture.

One day, I was going through our bank statement and I thought to look up his brother's wife's profile on Facebook. I was shocked to see she had a few month old baby as her husband died years ago. I kept scrolling and I saw the wedding photos of she and my husband.

When I asked my husband, he apologises and explained to me about the culture of men inheriting their late brother's wife. I told him he was murking around, but I looked it up online and it was true!

I asked if he was the father of the baby and he agreed. He thought the woman was on pills. He said he had to perform his 'duty' to her if not she will report to the village chief and they will have him flogged at the square.

He suggested we bring the baby to Australia to stay with us. We are trying to process that and I'm thrilled about it.

I reckon this culture is bizarre and Nigerians are living in the dark ages. I am a true blue and I haven't seen or heard anything so ridiculous. I hope your parts become civilized soon enough.

TA!

asdfjklhaha:
Husbands please will you be happy with your wife,if you discover she is saving from the house keep money? Please give reasons.

I went to spend sometime with my elder sister along with my mum cos she just delivered. And recently her husband was quarreling with her it got so serious that mumsy had to intervene. after everything died down, I asked mumsy what happened she said the man was very angry because his wife which is my sister has been saving money from the upkeep money he's been given to her.

that if she had any left overs she should have told him so he'll add it to the next money he'll give and spend less. he said she's selfish and inconsiderate.

for me I don't see any big deal in it cos as a woman a nursing mother she should have some cash in hand.

please what are your views

stephenduru:
As shared by Paul......

'WHY ARE SOME NIGERIANS VERY MEAN AND WICKED TO FELLOW CITIZENS?

I have just received report of an attempted murder of one Elvis Omoiri by a neighbour, Best Uduophori who runs a beer parlor in Okoloba, Effurun, Uvwie LGA, Delta State, over a mere political argument. What are we turning politics into in this country? You want to kill someone over Buhari and Atiku tribunal matter? This is animalistic!

You break a bottle and stabbed a fellow countryman almost to the point of death over APC and PDP matters? So, someone doesn't have right to personal opinion again in Nigeria?

Just few days ago, we were all against South Africans for Xenophobic attacks on Nigerians. Today, it is a Nigerian that seem not to value the life of a fellow Nigerian. This is very disgusting, cruel, callous, mean and most condemnable.

I learnt the matter has been reported to the Area Commander in Warri and that the Police is on the look out for the guy, who is said to be at large at the moment. The Nigerian Police Force should do everything in its power to arrest the accused at ones and properly investigate this matter. Justice need to be served and fast. Until we get serious by taking strict measures against crimes like this, Nigeria will not be safe for anyone. The perpetrator of this heinous attack should be punished accordingly.

I have to download the photo of the accused from his Facebook account for easy recognition. He should present himself before the Police and answer nagging questions.

We must stop concealing serious security issues if we want this madness to stop'

Source: http://www.trezzyhelm.com/2019/09/man-almost-kill-his-neighbour-in-delta.html?m=1

miky:
One of the Best decisions taken by Buhari.. Should be 8% to be honest

We can't rely on oil anymore. We have the lowest VAT in the whole region, we need roads, bridges, rail, busses, security, oil is not enough for 200 million people.

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we have a national budget for 200 million people equivalent to a Walmart a grocery store and you want good healthcare??

ssgi4in1:
Good evening good people. I am hoping I will get some help here.
Pls this will be a bit a long. I beg you to read. So you can understand better.


My problem started last year April (2018). I was diagnosed with typhoid and malaria. I was started on a course of treatment that involves anti malaria and an antibiotics (azithromycin). I noticed the quality of my sleep was dropping after taking the antibiotic for 2 days. My instincts was that it was the medicine. I eventually stopped taking it but by then my sleep have become badly affected. I woke up a Sunday morning after taking some drinks the previous night at a wedding with one severe type of headache ( I started the antibiotics on Thursday, took on Friday and missed it that Saturday) I continued that Sunday morning. So I eventually stopped all medicine and consulted a doctor friend. By then I had gone two nights with little or no sleep. He prescribed some drugs that was meant to induce sleep and even increased the dosage yet I still couldn't sleep.

Meanwhile before then, I am someone who could be called a sleeper. I can sleep at anytime without stress. I even take naps here and there in my office. So it was strange.

I eventually went to some hospitals and their treatment involved giving me sleep medicines and sometimes it could help me get very little amount of sleep and then it will make me feel very groggy and heavily fatigued. By this time a weird sensation have developed in the left side of my back head (this pain doesn't come and go... It is permanent). After spending some huge amounts I wasn't getting relief until I went to a neurologist. He first suspended all the sleep medications and started giving me amitriptyline 5mg every night ( after few days I started feeling better and had some deep sleep) but still the problem wasn't gone ( head pain and stiff neck).

I was paying about 30k monthly at the neurologists. It wasn't sustainable and I eventually stopped and decided to take my fate in my own hands. I eventually stopped taking any medication for sleep last November.

Between then and now, I have had some good nights where I slept very deeply and nights when I struggled. I have gone like 2 weeks without sleep issues. But still the pain in the back of the head and neck still persist.

Just yesterday I went to consult another gp and his diagnosis was that it was the poor sleep that is causing the pain in the head and neck. But I still find it difficult to believe. I will be having a video session with an Indian neurologist tommorow and I hope he will make a different diagnosis.

My coming here is to know if anyone have had an experience with my case and I would like to know how they solved their problem.

I will appreciate any suggestion that will be of help.

Thank you.

rotecch77:
You are right

rotecch77:
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At time it might happened that I met the building halve way (most pipe might’ve been berried inside slab) or on the roof already).
Some might be from the drawing.
Or at times I design it on my own.

But let me say I like downward system mostly bcs if your tank is far from the building this system is the best.

rotecch77:
Everything/every system has merit and demerit

Advantages of this system fly over ( upper connection supply)
1. It will reduce materials.
2. There will be water for both the upper and down floor of the building at the last bottom level of the tank water.
Disadvantage
1. Their will be likely air lock once in a while( but once the taps are open within 2-10 minute it will be off).



Advantage of direct downward system.
1. Air lock can not occur on this system

Disadvantage
1. Once the water on the over head tank is low, the upper floor will experience low pressure of water

Actually I use to do both, check the pics here we did down ward system for a nairaland member, Gbadex did the painting.

MobilityExpress:
Busola Dakolo should have asked for N100 billion, because her innocence is priceless and that was what he took from her. Not to mention the psychological trauma, emotional abuse, mental torture, physical degradation, spiritual isolation, societal stigmatization, economic implications, social limitation, sexual degeneration, predatorial manipulation, relationship misinterpretation, marital deprivation she has suffered all these years. COZA should just pay immediately

madridsta007:
More like she has won the case convincingly. An apology means he has admitted responsibility.

jesusjnr:
Not surprised at all.

Here's why:

Matthew 6:19-21 (KJV)

19 Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal:
20 But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal:
21 For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

Iblad0994:
The SS denied themselves the chance for Jonathan second term. He marginalized the Yorubas with the Igbos praising him thereby forgetting what the Yoruba did for him in his first term election. The Yorubas were not deemed fit to be in the first 4 top positions in the country and yet you said we voted him out.

Don’t get my reply up there wrong, I did not advocate for the SE/SS vote, I’m not saying the SW needs then like that, we’ve always have different voting patterns and everyone should be left to decide who they wanna vote for. The southern unity is a mirage.

You guys always hide under southern unity to bring the SW to your fold. Where was the southern unity during Shagari/Awolowo, Abiola/Tofa, Azikwe/Balewa/Awolowo? Are you implying the treachery of the southern region started in 2015 alone? Spare me that saying of that rubbish southern unity. It’s southern unity only when it favors you guys and the SW is strong enough to hold both SE/SS and weather the storm.

My eye is on the ruling party and the ticket is already given to the SW zone, this is not a matter of begging anyone, it’s a matter of reaping result of hard work.

Even if the APC fields a Muslim/Muslim ticket as you opined, they will still win coz they have the zone with the numbers. Politics is about numbers, it’s not a game for the weak minded, and religion is not a divisive tactics in the SW, hence if APC fields Fashola/El-Rufai, then they will win the election
Either way, the PDP will be defeated in 2023, either by a Northerner or a SE’ner. Do you copy that bro?

QuotaSystem:
The PDP are the originators of zoning. Their failure to respect zoning in 2011 when they denied the North the opportunity to finish its turn by forcing Jonathan on the party as a scam "consensus candidate", was the main reason for their defeat in the 2011 Presidential elections (as even disgruntled northern PDP members, including the chairman, worked against GEJ) which signaled the beginning of the party's downfall that they're still struggling to recover from.

PDP will therefore not dare repeat their 2011 mistake by denying the south its turn in 2023. APC is also fielding a SW candidate with the support of its CPC & ANPP northern wing (despite SW splitting votes ) .

It is only fair for power to move south after 8 years of northern Presidency. This country is on a delicate balance and we know an attempt to dominate the Presidency for 16 years is a recipe for national chaos, so we will definitely support the south.

2023 will be very interesting.

Dubemcapital1:
Why a bricklayer sir I suppose one of the reasons for this thread is to promote professionalism, buy professional ideas and advice for free and to have value for your money after all.

I must say that bricklayers, as well as other workforce in a construction site will always have a need for an engineer not minding how small the project might be.

If you can't pay a QS please make sure an engineer handles if possible all your consideration hence construction is involved.
Non-professional or quackery should be discouraged.

One of the reasons why professionals are not frequenting the thread as lamented by some of us some weeks ago is actually because of this reason. Someone will go and conclude an error with an inexperienced worker and come here to throw the error on the house? You have already compromised quality sir...



Dubemcapital

beauty7:
There was traffic hold up in some parts of this fine city called owerri

From owerri,the bus was going to Abia and went via the double lane Aba road

It passed via the following villages/towns on the double lane Aba road in Imo state:


ulakwo


umuovum


umuowa in Ngor okpala LG around 9:06pm

Airport junction in umuowa

Ihite in Ngor okpala LG


umuochiem
and
umuohiagwu
and
umudim all in Ngor okpala LG

okpala junction.

Shortly after okpala junction,there is a bridge.


This bridge is a boundary between Imo and Abia

Just after this bridge we entered Abia state and the first city in Abia is owerrinta

From owerrinta we drove via the following villages in Abia:

ugba


umuvo


umuikaa

At umuikaa,the bus turned at the round about and went right through:

osisioma


Then Aba by 10:33pm.


I am presently in Aba to finalize the journey to Akwa ibom tomorrow by GOD's will

beauty7:
There was traffic hold up in some parts of this fine city called owerri

From owerri,the bus was going to Abia and went via the double lane Aba road

It passed via the following villages/towns on the double lane Aba road in Imo state:


ulakwo


umuovum


umuowa in Ngor okpala LG around 9:06pm

Airport junction in umuowa

Ihite in Ngor okpala LG


umuochiem
and
umuohiagwu
and
umudim all in Ngor okpala LG

okpala junction.

Shortly after okpala junction,there is a bridge

This bridge is a boundary between Imo and Abia

Just after this bridge we entered Abia state and the first city in Abia is owerrinta


From owerrinta we drove via the following villages in Abia:

ugba


umuvo


umuikaa

At umuikaa,the bus turned at the round about and went right through:

osisioma


Then Aba by 10:33pm.


I am presently in Aba to finalize the journey to Akwa ibom tomorrow by GOD's will

Xisnin:
They get 13 million per month which is too high in the first.
So there is no need multiplying that by 3 to score political points.

yinkus6750:
Stop misleading us with false infos.
Some of the calculations are annual.
Am not supporting the huge waste if tax payers money on the sinators.
But we should say the right thing.

opebiboy:
They are all scammers. People beware of them. A standard three bedroom house will cost 8million naira to complete. Anybody saying anything less than that is a criminal and scammer. Beware of people giving you cheap price. By the time they gain your attention they are closer to your pocket. You will regret it

Dennis3D:
That's another option. That can be correct only if the person is into construction and has the right figures too. It's not everyone that designs that can do a BOQ remember doing BOQ is an entire job of a Quantity Surveyor to do, just that in Nigeria here, an experienced and well groomed architect or builder can try to do it...

beauty7:
I may not want to name the company.


So that it will not appear that I am targeting any company.


I am not going to say that the company is GUO

beauty7:
I am preparing to take a Luxurious night bus from Abuja to Aba in Abia state.



I have already booked the ticket for N5100.





The bus is due to depart by 8pm this night.




The bus is very new and has air condition(AC).



What an enjoyable journey it will be!

praxs:
My land is 50*100 which is just a plot of land. The picture is attached is from the internet, so I don't have the design. However, I wish to build a two bedroom apart with a similar frontage just like the attached picture. Discard the garage design, I don't need it, just the frontage. More to that, to reduce cost, I will prefer to go for flat roofing (Dubai Com temporary roofing, don't really know the name).
Do you think 2.5m can do this job? Location:Somewhere in the north

frozen70:
Don't just build a room and parlour for you intending marriage

But two apartments so that you can have a neighbour


If you have money, buy
20tones of sand,
5tones of granite
300 blocks can take you to window level or linted level
50 bags of cement will take you to same level

Take a break and plan for roofing and pvc ceiling noggin

Take a break, while on break get an aluminium guy to get the cost of windows and prepare them down

When you are back from break, fix the windows, get a plumber to do the piping, electrics connection too and plaster the entire house, that will cost you another 50 bags

Take a break and come back to fix frames then do tilling of the floor and fix doors

Any time you can save up to? 200,000 go to site with it.

EvaFemi07:
I am new here and I really want to thank everyone for what I have read so far on this forum. Please I want to ask about BOQ, we have a duplex and all drawings are ready so I would love to know:
1) How much does it cost
2) How detail does it always fo
3) Some told me 50k and I think it might be too expensive, what do you think
4) I dont have any ideas about it so what should I look out for
5) What differentiate a good BOQ from a bad one
Please I nedd your help

rosy1992:
Numbers 6:3 – The Nazarites were told to eat or drink nothing from the grape vine.

Deuteronomy 29:5-6 – God gave no grape juice to Israel nor did they have intoxicating drink in the wilderness.

Deuteronomy 32:33 – Intoxicating wine is like the poison of serpents, the cruel venom of asps.

Judges 13:4, 7, 14 – Samson was to be a Nazarite for life. His mother was told not to drink wine or strong drink.

1 Samuel 1:14-15 – Accused, Hannah said she drank no wine.

Proverbs 4:17 – Alcoholic drink is called the wine of violence.

Proverbs 20:1 – Wine is a mocker, strong drink is raging.

Proverbs 23:19-20 – A wise person will not be among the drinkers of alcoholic beverages.

Proverbs 23:29-30 – Drinking causes woe, sorrow, fighting, babbling, wounds without cause and red eyes.

Proverbs 23:31 – God instructs not to look at intoxicating drinks.

Proverbs 23:32 – Alcoholic drinks bite like a serpent, sting like an adder.

Proverbs 23:33 – Alcohol causes the drinker to have strange and adulterous thoughts, produces willfulness, and prevents reformation.

Proverbs 23:34 – Alcohol makes the drinker unstable.

Alcohol is a sin. The moment you indulge in it, you will find it difficult to resist

Truthbites:
I'm a good cook as well..but it's d portoporto rice I have or know no secret about .

Good to see a man that can cook

newsynews:
Let us see if truly all wine mentioned in the Bible are alcoholic. Kindly read the below passage.

John 2:1-11 King James Version (KJV)
1 And the third day there was a marriage in Cana of Galilee; and the mother of Jesus was there:
2 And both Jesus was called, and his disciples, to the marriage.
3 And when they wanted wine, the mother of Jesus saith unto him, They have no wine.
4 Jesus saith unto her, Woman, what have I to do with thee? mine hour is not yet come.
5 His mother saith unto the servants, Whatsoever he saith unto you, do it.
6 And there were set there six waterpots of stone, after the manner of the purifying of the Jews, containing two or three firkins apiece.
7 Jesus saith unto them, Fill the waterpots with water. And they filled them up to the brim.
8 And he saith unto them, Draw out now, and bear unto the governor of the feast. And they bare it.
9 When the ruler of the feast had tasted the water that was made wine, and knew not whence it was: (but the servants which drew the water knew the governor of the feast called the bridegroom,
10And saith unto him, Every man at the beginning doth set forth good wine; and when men have well drunk, then that which is worse: but thou hast kept the good wine until now.
11 This beginning of miracles did Jesus in Cana of Galilee, and manifested forth his glory; and his disciples believed on him.


Verse 10 says the bad wine is brought out and served to people after they have WELL DRUNK. The governor of the wedding was surprised that in this case, the good wine was brought out last after people have WELL DRUNK.

To you guys who say it was alcoholic wine that Jesus miraculously gave at the wedding, what you are saying is that when people were totally drunk and wasted, Jesus now gave them MORE. He gave them more so that those who will drive home will have accident.

No buddy, he gave them more fruit juice. Read the passage below which talks about alcoholic wine. Look at how the bi le described it's effect which is exactly how one feels after drinking alcohol


Proverbs 23:31-35
31 Look not thou upon the wine when it is red, when it giveth his colour in the cup, when it moveth itself aright.
32 At the last it biteth like a serpent, and stingeth like an adder.
33 Thine eyes shall behold strange women, and thine heart shall utter perverse things.
34 Yea, thou shalt be as he that lieth down in the midst of the sea, or as he that lieth upon the top of a mast.
35 They have stricken me, shalt thou say, and I was not sick; they have beaten me, and I felt it not: when shall I awake? I will seek it yet again.


When you say it was alcoholic wine Jesus miraculously turned water into, what you are saying is that Jesus exposed those people to start beholding strange women and say junk as seen in verse 33 above.

Can you now see how wrong you are? The Bible not only kicks against drinking alcohol, it also says we shouldn't look at it as seen in verse 31@bixton @mcval @neddstark

SenatorAiyzik:
The problem is most of us do not know the meaning of the word SIN. To first ascertain if alcohol or anything is a sin, we must first know the true definition of the word SIN! Sin according to Google is "an immoral act considered to be a transgression against divine law" now take note of these words "transgression against divine law". Now what are the "divine laws"?? It is safe to say divine laws are also the commandments of God! Which we have the 10 commandments for. It is also stated when you go against the 10 commandments of God therefore u have sinned! Last I checked drinking or drunkenness was never part of the 10 commandments/divine laws of God which we were asked to live by. So this in turn means when we drink or get drunk, we didnt at any point go against the 10 commandments (divine laws) of God, therefore we haven't sinned. Summary is DRINKING OR GETTING DRUNK IS NOT A SIN! But being led astray and going against the 10 commandments(divine laws) when drunk, is a SIN and NOT the act of drinking or getting drunk!