Godfavoritte:


Hi Blendy77, please sis how do I contact you. Please I need your help. Can you send me your email please sis

Ruonar2000@yahoo.com or u cod just use d DM or inbox option.

Find a way and come to Lagos. There's a Dr we use and his results have been proven to be effective but he's in Lag. Dedicate three days n come to lag to flush. Ensure you take serrapeptease and do castor oil massage minimum three months before u flush for effective result. All d best. If u need the Lagos Dr's number do DM me.

DownTime44:
Hi guys


Please i put up this post basically because of my elder brother. I sincerely want to know if i was wrong talking to him, or I could have just let him be. I wasn't myself ever since i talked to him, and i was somewhat having guilty conscience since then.


I have an elder brother, he's 38 years old and also the first son. I am the fourth child in the family of five. The second child is a female and she's married. We lost our third child, that's my immediate elder brother some years back, while i have a younger brother. I came from a humble background. Lost my dad while i was in JS 3, even before his death we had been hustling on a daily basis for survival, and we live happily as one big family. My mother, siblings and i do hawk daily before we could eat. All thanks to public school in Lagos, my family wouldn't have had the opportunity to basic education. We hawk daily after school, weekdays and weekend. My family was bred and brought up in Ajegunle.


Few years after the demise of my father, we struggled to pay house rent. We had to leave Ajegunle to a local and developing area. I didn't allow my family conditions deter or weigh me down. Never! I believe I'd make it in life legitimately without venturing into crime, fraud, theft etc. After my secondary school, i was into all sorts of labour work. I worked in factory, building site, cleared bushes, laundry man , just to save up and further my education. I worked for 6 years after my secondary school, bought a bike from the little savings i had and proceed to school through jamb. I gave the bike to someone who often deliver #6,000 weekly for the upkeep of my family. I was in year 2 when i let go of the bike, it was on a higher purchase and the agreement we have had elapsed. I hustled my way through school and graduated. I'm done with service last year but couldn't land a job, probably due to my age. I'd be 29 this year and most graduate trainee often request for age below 28. Although, i had a 2.1. I'm only managing in a pure water factory to make ends meet, keep soul and body together and support my family


I sat my elder brother down and talked to him. He has been hustling like every other person in the family but i don't understand what's happening. He didn't futher his education nor learn a handwork. He's 38 but still live under his parents roof. He has been doing conductor work for many years. The family had talked to him several times to look for something else. It's fine you are hustling as a man for survival but doing conductor for many years without thinking of what else to do is wrong. A family friend of ours who later got to know what he does for a living had advice him also.


The bus he was following, the driver had misunderstanding with the owner and he collected his bus back. My elder brother had been idle for months, doing nothing. He claimed he has gone virtually everywhere in search of bus he could be working with but couldn't get any. This is a family that we all had to bring something no matter how little to survive. I was talking to him as a younger brother. I asked him why didn't he heed to people's advice when they were advising him then to stop the conductor work and look for something to learn, if perhaps he doesn't want to further his education? He doesn't believe in Nigeria education, because he could count graduates without job or those with petty job. My elder brother wear almost rag as clothes. I had to give him some of my little wears I'm managing. He has just one slippers. We don't wear same size of shoe or sandals, we could have been sharing that also. He sold his phone to feed sometime ago and had been without phone. I was initially saving to get my mum a small phone but i had to give him the phone instead.


He was crying when i was talking to him. I understand the situation of things in the country, which i myself is going through. I was just trying to know what other things he could come up with. I am not happy seeing him sitting idle doing nothing. The fact that he's the first son and found himself in this condition at that age breaks my heart daily. My mum had been so worried about his condition. I had to convince her that things will be better. I don't want her to develop high Blood Pressure that could lead to her untimely death.


Please guys was i wrong talking to my elder brother?

The truth is everyone in the same family will not have the same hustling spirit. How can someone be doing conductor work at his age? A smart conductor would have learnt how to drive by now and either be driving for someone or driving his own bus or even doing uber business. That guy is not smart and you cant keep pushing him when he's not ready to change. Sit down with him and have a heart to heart talk. Ask him what can he do? If he loves transport business so much let him go and learn driving then you look for hire purchase car that he can use for uber. He can learn other handwork like sewing, barbing etc. You too while waiting for a paid job, look for other side hussle you can add. You were a hustler before you went to school, please dont stop in the name of looking for job because no one knows where this country is leading to. You can also learn driving and start uber business, buying and selling and other business to put food food on your table. You guys should try as much as possible to make your mum happy otherwise mere thinking of her kids alone can increase her blood pressure. It is well. Will try and send you a DM to know what you studied and how I can help. God who sees how far you have struggled will make things easy for you

Why do men value women who dont hav their time? U love someone when doesnt hav time for you because of her shop even on weekends. So when u marry do u think that will change? Instead of u to love the one that has ur time you are here confused. Maybe state what and what you u want in a wife, score both women and go for the one wt the higest score. If caring, has time for me and very fertile are part of ur criteria, u hav a wife material already

Softprecious:

At lily clinic warri,is there any particular doctor I should ask for,one with good record of successful transfers??

That i wont kno but the clinic does ivf so u cam walk in and ask. If u dont mind travelling, Primecare Abuja is the latest bride in town. Cheap ivf plus high success rate

U are better off with keeping it a secret except you want to live a lonely life at old age. You already trained them and from the write up they are all doing very well. The only other person who is aware that could have spilled the news is already dead so forget the past and move on with your kids. You can remarry for companionship to enable you forget the past but telling your children this at this age, honestly they have nothing to loose cos they are already made but u hav everythg to loose including your biological daughter who must have formed a bond with her siblings all these years so itd best you just let sleeping dogs lie. It is well with some women n infidelity sha, tufiakwa!!!!

Softprecious:
both name of doctor and good place for ivf but am in warri I need recommendations around warri and ughelli

Try Lily Clinic Warri or Marviscope in Benin.

beesan:
Please, which hospital is good for ivf in kaduna and their prices.

Try and go to Abuja, Primecare Fertilty Hospital at Garki. Most people from Kano and Kaduna that I know, its where they used and got results.

Trippletripplet:
I want to give 10 gwoza for all mothers trying to conceive,keep moving, one day you will look back and realised you are an over comer.please I want to ask if it is possible to adopt a frozen embryo.those left that the parents don’t want to use again.it is possible.

Its very possible if the intending parents hav given permission for it to be adopted out. Unfortunately in Nigeria most people prefer to discard rather than adopt and most clinics wont adopt without permission cos they can be sued.

beesan:

Sent you a message, but didn't get your reply.

I responded o. Pls check

UyaiIncomparabl:


Can you give a clue about the price, please?

Not less than 2m cos it depends on ur treatment plan and age. I posted because you said you are not concerned about the money but quality amd success rate. Send him a chat 08032011536 and he will get someone to send u their price chat, if u mention from NL you might get some discounts. If u are willing to travel to Abuja and use Primecare's Dr Ese, you will spend far less than that amount less thn 1m and he's one of our best for now. For Lag Emeka still remains one of the best.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Thanks. It’s the track record I’m concerned about, not even the price.

Do Olive Branch Lekki if u can afford Dr Emeka. They are one of the best in Lagos. I had my twins with them

mbok:
Please who knows the total cost of IVF in national hospital Abuja? What about university of Benin teaching hospital? Is IVF also successful for a 32 year old TTC lady? Please reply

I dont kno cost of ivf in these places but ivf at 32 is a very good age cos ur amh at this age shd be very ok except there are other issues. To achieve a successful ivf is not by age alone, u need to ensure ur uterus is free from obstacles like fibroids, polyp, adenomyosis, bulky and too tinny lining. Ensure ur tubes are either open or completely blocked from the proximal or uterus side cos if its open n blocked at the fimbrai or ovary end, fluid from the tubes can affect implantation so Drs now do a procedure called salpingectomy to block d tubes completely to increase ur chances. Ensure ur hormones are balance espcially prolactin, as this can affect d quality of eggs if very high. Finally ensure ur husband's sp.erm is ok, this includes count and motility. These and many more are the reasons Drs conduct comprehensive tests before embarking on most IVF procedure except u are a returning patient. All the best

beesan:

Please can I PC you about this?

Yes you can ruonar2000@yahoo.com

ecolime:
Useless mother. Send her to jail ASAP


It is only in Nigeria evil doers justify their acts of wickedness. Some morons have started saying "Eh yah"

Expect fools to start donating sympathy money for her.

The father is not useless for not helping his wife offset the loan abi? Where was the idiot when the wife was hawking pour water to pay loan? I didnt see u address that because you be man too abi? Her actions are wrong but if she had normal human being called husband or father of her child by her side none of this would hav happened. That is if he wasnt the useless man who set her up sef and decided to report to the police because he didnt get his share of d deal

BrighterThanDay:
As a child from a broken home, I saw marriage as my happy ending of finally having a home filled with love and mutual understanding. After the death of my mom, growing up with my dad and stepmom was hell. I was treated as a stranger in my own home, so I thought starting my own family will be a lot better.

After I completed my education and got a good job. I had a lot of suitors willing to settle down with me. Most of them were rich and accomplished men, but there was no spark, I felt they weren't genuinely in love with me, and since I was never a materialistic person, I turned them down. I get easily content with what I have and I spend prudently. Then I met my husband. It happened that I was his crush back then in school, in fact, he even approached me as a student then, but I turned him down because I knew where I was coming from and I never wanted to gamble with my studies, it was my only hope to leave my father's house and fend for myself.

Fast forward to when I met my husband after school. He didn't even have a good job. But I could tell I meant a great deal to him, we'll speak for hours on the phone. I fell hopelessly in love with him, I could already picture a happy home with him and our kids. Then he proposed, and I accepted. I met his family, they were nice on the first visit.

After the introduction ceremony with my family, I started noticing certain things. I was taking pictures with his phone when I saw a message from his mom telling him I'm a stranger and he shouldn't allow me to come between them. I was surprised and wondered where all this was coming from, I asked him and he reassured me that it was nothing.

Then his father told me that hope I know that a son should love and care for his parents more than his kids. I kept pondering this statement. Then the worse of it all was his married sister, she hasn't even met me, but she rained insults and abuses on me on his phone and why he needs to make money first and allow his family to enjoy his money, before getting married. She said I was old, and just forcing him to marry me. I was just 26 then, but my education was very fast.

I had to speak to her dad about this and he cautioned her. I tried speaking to her myself but she rained insults again on me. I called off the wedding at a point but my then-fiance begged and involved my brother and so we went on with the wedding preparations. The wedding went well and his entire family stayed with us for a week before leaving.

My husband got a good job, I was working, we were fine and money wasn't our problem. A few months later, my father-in-law died. I sent messages and called hubby's siblings to comfort them. I couldn't travel with him immediately due to the nature of my job. I kept calling to check on him and inquire about the traditional rites I might need to be a part of. Hubby said his father was a pastor so he won't need to do anything, while we were yet speaking, his sister who hates me snatched the phone from him and said I have to do this and that or I should pack my things and leave the house and then she shouted at me.

I was so pissed and acted in a way that wasn't right considering that we were all mourning. I sent a message to her, telling her to be nice considering that we are all mourning but if she chooses to continue insulting and humiliating me for no reason, I won't take it. She forwarded the message to the entire family, including uncles, aunts, and grandchildren. On the day of the burial, I was treated as an outcast by the entire family, she told them not to give my birth family food, even though they came bearing gifts and comforting everyone. Hubby had to step in and ask the caterers to serve them.

She kept fighting and shouting at my hubby throughout the burial and tried denying him of things he was supposed to do as the first son and child. I was humiliated and she kept castigating my name and insulting me to hearings of everyone. I wasn't even allowed to eat. I was quiet all through, when family members were asked to sit behind the corpse, she asked me to excuse them.

For fear of my life after the burial, I had to go lodge in a hotel outside. The next morning she and her brother kept shouting and complaining that why did hubby allow me to lodge and that I should have been with their mom. They continued the humiliation, I couldn't take it anymore or hold back my tears so I left.

Hubby later told me that she held a meeting in my absence with the entire family and told them I'm a bad wife and needs to leave her brother. This was when hubby stood up for me and said I wasn't going anywhere.

Our marriage was never the same. Even when we had our daughter, no one called, hubby was ostracized from his own family and he blamed me sometimes. I couldn't concentrate at work, and my job is performance-based. I was scared that I'll be fired, so I resigned.

Hubby's income wasn't enough to sustain us, so we started facing financial difficulties. He had to even go meet the same sister to borrow money, even though I discouraged it. She always mocked him for it and I had to pay off the loan at a point.


When she saw that we are now broke, she stopped fighting with him and they are on talking terms now, of course, she still wants nothing to do with me. I know that they are family by blood and nothing is too hard to forgive, but each time she calls and they are happily discussing, Ican't help but feel angry for all she has caused us. I'm sometimes tempted to leave this marriage because this is not what I envisaged at all.

My brother is also married and I have never felt the need to interfere in his marriage or fight his wife.

I don't know how long I can continue in this union, even my innocent beautiful daughter is hated by them.

The fact that u hav a supportive husband is all you need. I think you are giving these people too much credit. If a family doesnt like u my Sister face front and face your husband. Infact stay very far away from them before the physical hatred turns spiritual. How can a SIL tell caterer not to serve your family at their father's burial? Irrespective of what you hav done, thats witchcraft of the highest order. U sef no try, knowing the kind of people they are, you shd hav made Provision for your guests cos same people would hav complained if u didnt invite anyone. Abeg avoid them and face your husband and kids o. You guys should should live within ur means and stop meeting them for help, that's the height of 'see finish'. Try and get a job or business so you can be financially independent. The Sis will come around with time if she wants to but if she doesnt want to abeg avoid them. Who wicked and nasty SIL epp? Its ur husband you are married to and if after a child they still dont want to accept biko bone them and face ur husband and ur marriage. Just stay very far away from them till they come around. They hav seen u as very soft hence all these nonsense. They wont try it with you if u are mean like them so better avoid them and stop trying to force friend where it doesn't exist with them if they wont accept u. Bettomline make money my Sister and build love and peace in ur marriage, thats all u need for now not bitter souls around u. Imagine resigning from a well paying job cos of extended family issues. U no try at all

Saintmary:



I don't see how your quote will help either the boy or the mother.


Unless you're looking for attention.

U are free to think whatever you want my Dear, its your thoughts, its your brain. Suit yourseelf

Vyvyanvyvy:
Hello fams just want to keep you updated , son messaged his father on Saturday he had attached a picture of him and his sister , he didn't get any response , so on sunday son called again through facebook video call he picked up and told him he is on his way to church he will call back later. He hasn't call back yet and son wants to call him back again today but I've told him to not call he should be patient he will call him when he's less busy. Son is desperately waiting to hear back from him and Hopefully he will call back anytime soon

I saw this coming, that the Dad may not be as excited as the boy over reunion tinz. Let ur boy kno he has tried his best. If the Dad truly loves him as he thinks, he will make every effort to reach out to him but since its looking like this, he shouldnt try to force himsef on his Dad. Let him study hard and make it in life, his Dad will be the one looking for him. Abeg he don try,he shd stop forcing it cos the Man called Dad is not ready for him

achiever12:


You know all these because you live with her?
Stay there and be deceiving yourselves.

4 children from multiple fathers.

That's a sign that this woman is mentally dumb.

Did she get married to these men legally or was just opening her legs and giving birth?

Na wa oo, even if its her fault who are u to judge? Be calming down Mr/Mrs Perfect cos life can happen to anyone

Saintmary:



Go back and tap quote on the first post, so that the person who needs it can see it.

My post is in order cos i quoted someone advising her not to let d boy communicate with the Dad. OP posted just before mine so am sure she she will read if she wants

Saintmary:


If I were in your shoes, I would tell my son to delay contact with his father, then I'll enroll him to learn a skill.


Only when he has become financially stable will he be allowed to have a relationship with him, it's more difficult to manipulate a man who feeds himself.

Truth is the boy will contact his Dad with or without her permission if she keeps preventing him. Kids can access facebook from anywhere including neighbors, school and church friends. She is even lucky he asked first, which shows he's s a good boy but the truth is curiousity may not let him be that good boy for long if she keeps preventing him. Not this generation of kids and smart phones everywhere. Let her allow him contact his father, that way she will still hav a little control over him and she might be lucky he will tell her whatever they discuss but preventing him and he contacts him outisde without ur knowledge, it will be very difficult to get him under ur control and u might even give the Dad the opportunity of brainwashing him.

On a second thought, the man might not even want to keep in touch with him especially if his italian family is not aware of his Nigerian wife and kids. So still allow him, at least that way the boy will kno the father hes killing himsef over is not even worth the stress. In summary, Madam allow him talk to the Dad, its also for u and his good cos u dont even kno what the boy is going thru inside. Your son still loves you irrespective of wanting to reach his Dad hence his swwking permission, dont make him start keeping thgs away from u and talking to outsiders. 15yrs is no longer a child so dont do things that will make your child start hiding things from u. All the best

peadel20:


There are 3 products that I believe in God for you to have you answer soonest. Phoenix care, Lotus snow pad, and purity cleanser.

So these products access the tubes thru the vj and open them? Which of them hav you tried personally with proven results?

Zeal0000007:
I and my gal are planning settling down despite genotype not matching , she's AS same with me, but because of medical technological advancements, we visited a specialist who told us that we can still marry if we so desired to be together.

Just that If we can afford the cost of going for foetus testing whenever she's pregnant so as to ascertain the genotype of the child. According to him if the test is conducted and it turns out to be AA or AS, we can keep it, but if it's SS we determate, I have spoken to my gal and we are yet a decide despite this seeming goodnews that we can still be together if we choose to, she really wanted us together same with me.
On my part, I have been in terrible and toxic relationship for the past 4years that almost claimed my life but God served from her. And this my current gal came along and she's exactly what I prayed God for, she's really like a gift to me, since she came I have had peace of mind I don't want to loose her because of genotype but thank God for this technically medical advancement , please I want to know if anyone have undergone this treatment before , what's your experience or experiences

Your best bet is to save up for IVF straight and use donor eggs. With ivf you are sure of an AA egg donor and God helps you, you get twins or triplets, you wont need to go thru ivf again and you also wont live with the guilt of putting her thru amniocentesis and abortions. All the best, science has gone far with gynotype AS issues.

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lilianngozi:
Fruit mama’s, pls any remedy for high AMH?

Try furocysts and fertilady. That is what av seen most Drs use so far

sotall:
No R.I.P to type, no sorry given.

To think APC still won Benue state after the insecurity that state went through in the last 8 years. .....

That state deserves whatever insecurity they get.

Hav some sympathy pls. Its human lives they just snatched so. Their votes could have been swapped same way apc stole LP vote in Rivers and Lagos State so dont judge them based on what INEC announced. U sef think am, who in their right senses will vote APC after all they have been through?

Nigerian Politicians are terrible human beings. Imagine thinking of taking someone's life because of politics. Life that cannot be created. Am beyond shocked

The same government of accountability you ran in Lagos and turned Lagos into ur personal property at the expiration of ur tenure. Man who left office after 8 yrs but didnt leave without fixing his entire family everywhere because state money is too sweet to let go. Wife became senator, daughter Iyaloja of Lagos, son inlaw governor, son in charge of all d adverts n branding in the state, same wt all contrsuction in the state with his hitech company plus all taxes in the state. I can go on and on. Na only ur family dey Nigeria so come kuku finish wetin remain for the ordinary man when elected as president. God wiol nor allow u win!!

Osoderi:


just to ask can one who come from far place travel back after two days when the embryo is transfer?

U can travel back 2-3 days after transfer n get good results. For long distance flight is ir best bet 2-3 days after transfer. For short distance of 1-2 hrs, say day or next day travel is fine if ur road is okay otherwise wait n get results first

Andrenalin:


Can I pm u for details on this ... thanks

i already responded to ur email

1Sharon:



You knew you had medical issues that interfered with conceiving so why blame it on fetish?

You Nigerian women don't tend to go for antenatal and other kinds of pregnancy tests to confirm the health of your baby then when you have stillborn and other issues with your pregnancies you start looking for an imaginary being to blame because your ego won't let you believe you're wrong.


You think your ex-landlady could have pulled that fear tactic on a skeptic? She wouldn't because she knows they'll laugh in her face and she'll look stupid.

You were the perfect paranoid candidate for your landlady and you fell for it and quivered.

Go back and read my post carefully. This time around read with understanding and comprehend my write up like someone who has a functional brain except you are my former landlady A woman who is comfortable bearing landlady of a compound where no one gives birth is obviously not normal. A house built over 30yrs without a child being born there, its only a witch that will still be fighting tenants n making threats wt fetish stuff in this age and time. Know this n kno peace

I onced lived in compound where all four of us were looking for the fruit of the womb. The only lady who had a child had the child before moving into the compound few months after giving birth. The child was 8 years old when we moved into the compound. We lived there about 5yrs before we left. On enquiry from neighbors living around the area and tenants we met there, i got to kno even the person who vacated my flat was also childless same with other flats in the compound people occupied moved out before we came in. All childless, they will move out and other couples come in and still childless. Initially i didnt take it to heart cos i knew i had some medical issues. One day i had a minor arguement with the landlady over rent increase without notice for the second time and she threatened me that if we dont pay the new rate she will put a pot with fire in front of my flat to show me who she truly is, that was i working when i rented the flat? Now am working by chance so i hav mouth to ask of notice before rent increase. Omo that was when I knew our time was up in that compound. Cos truly i was the only wife working while others were housewives. We just moved jeje to our uncompleted building n completed it while inside and a lot of thgs changed from there including our havibg a set of twins. Why am i sharing this? Av com to understand many landlands in this lagos are truly fetish so if your mind is already telling you somethg my brother runnnnn!!! Loosing 2 kids in one compound, haba!!!! U shd kno somethg is amiss