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Your husband saw a land and asked that you both buy and you said you wanted it all by yourself because you can afford it. Does this make any sense to Nairalanders hailing you? If it's your husband who was buoyant and did this to you, will you be able to forgive him? Taking the change that was returned was bad but making an issue out of it, insulting him and also moving out of the house was also wrong on your side. You are lucky you didnt meet another woman there when you returned to pack your things. Since he has apologised and even brought his family too, pls forgive and move back. Learn to do away with holding grudges, they rob you of your peace of mind

kosi2018:
Thanks very much, God bless you richly. I was asked to do a salpingectomy (removal of my right tube with hydrosalpinx), but the doctor did tubal ligation (detaching the tube from the uterus) the doctor said he did what was best for me, and he did not want me to bleed too much. He said during the procedure there was a lot of adhesion where the right tune with hydosalpinx was. The surgery was done @ Benin medical care, at adesuwa rd, Benin city.as for the price, I husband is a staff there.

Okay maybe I did not understand you. You said you did surgery and got pregnant naturally so I assumed the surgery was to open the blocked tubes. So you probably removed one blocked tube and conceived naturally with the second tube right? Congratulations once again

kosi2018:
I forgot to share my testimony here, after I contacted the doctor for ivf, he told me I will undergo surgery on my blocked tube, I decided to do the surgery where I reside, I conceived naturally 5months later. May God answer every one that calls upon his name for the fruit of the womb, amen.

Congratulations Sis, do u mind sharing the type of surgery you did and the hospital it was done plus price so others can learn. Congratulations once again

It's vert wrong from every angle. Why would a woman slap her husband? He missed fertility appointment so? Why not hear him out to kno his reasons for not keeping to time? And she even had guts to slap him in the presence of his friend? Na wa o! Women should learn to control their temper, anger and emotions. You can't disrespect your spouse in the presence of a witness and expect peace in your home. The man not retaliating shows maturity but leaving the house in anger is wrong, maybe that is his own way of pay back. Oga advise your friend to go home and settle wt his wife especially if she apologises.

Killing of cows makes more headlines these days more than killing of human beings. Useless bunch of blood suckers with misplaced priority

This is called KKF in my place (south south). Very healthy with dry fish and snails except tomatoes. We don't add tomatoes or beef to it and we use scent leaves not ugu. Welldone sha, u tried!!!

See Babangida now on wheel chair despite all the power and wealth. Nothing is permanent in this life.

Your Dad has remarried and moved on, your mum has just u so her reasons for not wanting you to travel are very valid. Your Dad can come and see you na if he really wants to see you. He paid your school fees, so what? Isn't that his responsibility? Abeg he has remarried, let him concentrate on his new wife n family jare. Naija is not safe now for unnecessary waka. He's an adult, he can travel down.

udede:
ok but the cost of ivf thing no dey here.

Compare the cost of IVF to d cost of marrying a second wife and the wahala it comes with

udede:
if you read my responses you will notice that i have had a heart tp heart talk with her many times , that was when she permitted me to marry a second wife

You sound like you really love your wife and this no kids issue is weighing you down. How about having a surrogate to carry ur kids via ivf? U can use her eggs n your sperm and pay someone to carry the baby via IVF instead of marrying a second wife. Suggest this to her and see if she will agree. Cos for a woman to agree to second wife means there's a lot she's hiding ranging from medical issues to spiritual. If she agrees to this suggestion, kindly reach out to me and I will tell you how to go about it including introducing u to an ivf Dr who can help u out. All the best.

H0711:
We were in abuja together with the child . I left him with his child and I am now in the village in my father house. I am hardworking after I put to bed I will look for a job to take care of my child.

That means u left already. It is well with u. Suggest d orphanage solution to him and see how it goes. I will also ask my Abuja members for orphanages that accept kids with disability and let u kno. All the best.

Dino that everyone knows as unserious Unserious politician will only pick their spec. See useless Okowa that could not point to one project in Warri sef wan be VP. Party of losers

Obi all d way

H0711:
I am in the village. He is in abuja

So he's not even there with u to assist with the
child? This one hard. Now I understand why you want to leave. Let him explore the orphange options in ur state capital sha. If no way go and join him in Abuja and leave the child with his people let them sort themselves out, you can't kill ursef ontop matter that u were not preinformed. You also need to get somethg to do because leaving wt ur pregnancy there's possibility ur hubby may stop sending u upkeep Allowance. Pray about ur options very well sha before u choose..all the best

Kobojunkie:
1. She made it abundantly clear she is not ready to take on responsibility of the child and already made up her mind to leave the marriage, so why are we advising her on what to do with a child she already made clear she isn't interested in burdening herself with given her condition?

2. Oh, telling you the OP shouldn't be the one doing anything about the child since she has pretty much washed her hands off turns me into a monitoring spirit but you, on the other hand who keeps on insisting the child should instead be abandoned, tossed out and left to the whims of complete strangers are a angel abi? Ok.

3. She already made up her mind to leave. Even has a date set. The child is no longer her burden to bear. It is the father's. If the father chooses to then abandon or kill the child, let it be on him and him alone.

Abeg park one side and reason like someone who found hersef in the same situation. The step mum has no obligation to that child if the biological mum cod abandon her and leave. We dont even have details of why the man didnt marry her after she got pregnant or had a child for him, cod even be d mum absconded wt d pregnancy to punish him and only showed up when she saw d child is disabled. That is if its even d man that is responsible. Women do all sorts these days so leave gist. If taking the child to an orphanage will make life easy for the stepmum so be it. Offer ur own solution to the problem on ground and move. This is the last response i will giv u even if u quote me 100 times cos you are not worth my time with ur reasoning. Go and carry the child better still and save both of them the headache.

Nozino:
Ma, In all honesty, no orphanage home will accept a child with cerebral palsy. Most orphanages are understaffed and do not have the required skill set to care for a special needs child.

Most orphanage are owned and operated by a an older woman. How will she care for this child and others in her care?

Many orphanage homes especially in Lagos accept kids wt disability. It's d reason I asked for her location. I visited one recently on children's day at Badore, Ajah axis, a section is for kids with challenges while another one at surulere too is for disabled kids.

Kobojunkie:
1. Since she is concerned about her own child in her womb, why is she taking it on herself to decide the status of the other child?

2. If they abandon that child and disappeared, and that child ends up dead where she is abandoned by them, wouldn't the blood of that poor child be on them both then?

3. If the father of the child decides to kill his own child, then the blood is on his hands, not hers, right?

4. You all speak as though all kids in orphanage homes are better cared for, particularly in a place like Nigeria. I have seen stories of children raised in appalling conditions in so-called orphanages, so I would hesitate to recommend one for any child particularly if the father and mother are still alive.

5. I would rather a child with both father and mother alive be left in a hospice where the father and mother remit a certain amount regularly for its care, rather than advising them to completely abandon the child in an orphanage so they can go on and continue their lives like that child never happened. These children are not born without a heart and emotions to boot.

Put ur sef in her situation and advise what u will do in this circumstance and leave people's advise if they don't suit you. That's my own advice, give yours and stop turning yoursef to monitoring spirit. She needs help on what to do cos shes depressed and pregnant at the same time. If shes your younger sister, advice accordingly ehnn and move on or better still go and help them take the child. Have a nice day jare.

Kobojunkie:
So, let's say she and her husband get to abandon this child at an orphanage somewhere, does that mean they can settle to having other kids? Is that how you intend for this to work out for the couple then?

Did u read where she said shes heavily pregnant and can't take care of the child? for now it's her sanity that matters the most, since d mother abandoned the child and they can't afford a maid, Sis inlaw refused to help, her best option is Foster care till they are able to find their feet. Wod u rather they kill the child or abandon her n disappear? Hav u tot of if she leaves as planned the husband can do somethg terrible just to be free of the child? What is wrong wt an orphanage home in this circumstance if I may ask sef? I own an NGO where we visit orphanage homes regularly, 50% of kids there are not even adoptable, they will tell u the parents kept there on Foster care and will come back for them, many of these parents are either single girls who don't want to throw away d child or single fathers whose wives passed on and they just want the child to be taken care of till they find their feet. Its better than abandoning these kids like we see daily in dustbins n gutter so there is nothing wrong with orphanage home so far d child is taken care of there.

What state are u based? Why not look for an orphanage home and drop the child? Most accept kids with disabilities and am not sure they charge this much. Your husband made a mistake by not telling you before marriage but he probably thought its because you will leave him. Forgive his mistakes and help to find a solution. Both of I should look for a government orphanage home or school with boarding facilities and take d child there

Lagbenjo:
Okay . Am convinced that I should go for the zoladex.
Am not using doctor Ese. The doctor am using is in lbadan. By the way, who is Dr Ese and where is his hospital located?

Thank you for your reply .

That's the primecare Doc and he's in Abuja. Gentle on the supplements since ur tubes are patent. Even at that you need to flush if u are taking them for adhesions. All the best.

cutiebum17:
Hi mama,

Can anyone suggest Ivf clinic with high success rate in Lagos.
Anyone with experience with St Ives in Lagos, planning to do procedure with them

Would appreciate your kind and quick response

Olive branch Dr Emeka is very good. Though expensive now due to d dollar hike. U can also try Dr Ivie if cutting cost. She's sound and knows her onions. But if u really want to cut real cos and do ivf half d amount Lag Drs charge, your best bet is Abuja, Primecare. The results from there is somethg else.

PossiblityGod:
Ok mama.
I have been on ubiquinol 100mg 2x daily, omega 300mg 1daily, dhea, vit D3, melatonin and larginine for the past 3months , please do I need to add coast science it?

No. This shd be okay but endeavour to check ur amh if there is improvement or not. How old are you? I always advise those over 40 with very low amh and poor response with boosting to embrace donor and save themselves d headache of whipping their ovaries. Thank God for science and tech which has made everythg possible. If u still hav age like in ur 20s or early 30s with low amh then ur best bet is to find out and tackle d underlying factor responsible for the low amh. Once you can trace what's responsible, the rest is history

[quote author=PossiblityGod post=115288244]Please mama,do you have idea where I can buy coast science in Lagos and the cost?

Unfortunately all d people I kno who used it ordered from amazon from d US. Where are u based? let me see how I can help. I kno Quinol plus is readily available but coast science am not too sure if people sell it here cos of the price. But do me an email lemme see how I can help. Ruonar2000@yahoo.com. I hope u kno Quinol plus does exactly the same job? 200mg Ubiquinol in Quinol plus = 400mg COq 10 while the COq 10 in coast science is about 600mg COq10 so it's close and over twice d price of quinol plus. Secondly a lot of peeps who use COQ10 equally got very good eggs both in quantity n quality but u need to boost for a while, depending on your age and AMH, minimum 3 months is recommended. If you still want d coast science do me an email stating ur location let me see how I can help. But check d prices of both on Amazon.com to infor ur decision

[quote author=mimitoosh post=115280703][/quote]Yes you can

Lagbenjo:
Thank you mama. I didn't see your reply before now , it was an oversight .

Am 34. My hubby sperm parameters is ok and he has been on men supplement for boosting motility and sperm so as not to take chances.

My issue is endometriosis , fibriods and left ovarian cyst . My tubes are patent .
I had surgery to remove all. It was after the surgery that the doctor told me that the issue is the endometriosis not fibriods . I have been try for 5 months now after the surgery. I still experience stabbing pain in the pelvic. In my last appointment to the doctor after 5month, the doctor told me to go for IVF and that if am ready , I should be injected with zoladex to stop me from menstruating for now.
My hubby said I should take the zoladex injection.

Anyone that has /had endometriosis and got pregnant through IVF or natural should please tell me what to do

Thank you

I think we have a couple of people with same condition who overcame this thru IVF. Zoladex for 3-4 months helps a lot with this condition. Are u considering Dr Ese as well? He handles such critical cases too. Heard d injection is expensive but it's worth it since it freezes ur natural cycle while ur egg quality is being preserved and improved. In all of this, do not take loan sha, save gradually for ivf as advised by others

Lagbenjo:
Good morning mothers and fathers of nation.
Thank for taking time to share your experiences. Am TTC considering IVF, though the money is not even at hand . My hubby and I are thinking of taking loan.

After reading part of this thread, I would want to ask , after taking supplements like Ubiquinol, Myo inositol , coast science, ferti lady,fertil men and host of others to improve sperm and egg quality and to improve the chances of IVF, why didn't it still result into natural pregnancies and one will still have to proceed for IVF.

As anyone use those drugs aforementioned and still got pregnant naturally ?
Thank you .

Pls don't take loan for ivf o, the outcome is not cast in stones so loan is a no no. Better to save little by little while boosting both ur eggs n sperm. What are ur issues? Are ur tubes open? How old are u? What about sperm iss? Do u hav any? The suppys u hav listed are all in d right direction so it should happen soon. Keep hope alive n keep trying naturally while saving gradually for ivf. U can also try flushing ur tubes even if they are open. There are times, little adhesions might not be picked up by hsg but ordinary flushing, with serra and even castor oil can handle it. Then praaaay! All the best Sis.

Osoderi:
Hello house, any body here that has done fibroid surgery and later did ivf.

pls i want to ask how many months can one allow wound to heal before going immediately for IVF?? Thank you for your response

3-4 months is very ideal

Emaaaaaaa:
Who can recommend a good fertility/Ivf clinic in Lagos and Abuja. With positive results?

For Abuja try Primecare. That's where it's happening now at a very good affordable rate. The results my people are getting from that axis cant be compared to many expensive centers in Lag. Dr Ese knows his onions and very sympathetic to this cause. He also experienced infertility so treats every case like his own. All the best

wonyi:
Please someone should recommend good vitamins to boost egg quality for 3 months

Try Quinol plus and vit E or coast science and vit E. They work like magic

Kayma2000:
Please Can someone recommend the best three fertility clinics/Doctors in Port Harcourt

For PH try Care Women Clinic off Peter Odili Road. Most of my people in PH got results here just that he's over 1m. Check online for his full address

This one just dey seek for relevance by all means

That's mud fish. It's very expensive compared to normal catfish cos it's very tasty n fleshy. The dry/smoked one doesn't get scattered in soup so classed alongside barracuda and red snipers hence its more expensive than normal catfish