₦airaland Forum

anayolity:
Ontario for Iyana Ipaja ......Keep quiet there !!! you're just being intelligent on top your stupidity !!!

Divay22:
Never expect much.
If she comes back, win win for you and if she doesn't it's surely not the end of the road for you.. But whatever happens please and please don't put yourself on hold, live your best at anytime and be happy.

Elder0001:
Woe be unto any of my male relative who try to enter into marriage with a poor woman in the name of love.

Elder0001:
Woe be unto any of my male relative who try to enter into marriage with a poor woman in the name of love.

ekanDamie:
*smiles* she started way earlier. And I can't hold on to her on things she knows or do not know in PR application.
BTW, to the best of my knowledge only a family member/spouse can be included in PR application. Our relationship isn't up to a year yet.
I wasn't gonna rush anyone cos I want PR.

But then on the hustle up part, that is a must. I have to.
What province are u in BTW

franchasng:
:PDon't be scared.

Do you know what to do

Option 1: Dont panic, u have a focused girlfriend, a wonderful one and I see why u are worried but don't panic, stay focused.

If u guys are of age and if she loves u as u do, u guys should get married via court wedding asap so u know she is still yours wherever she is.

Option 2: make sure u are upgrading yourself financially too. Work hard, pray and stay focused and stay financially okay so u don't end up becoming a leech or a dependent calling her for financial help in future.

Once u are doing well financially on your own and not asking her for money, she will still respect u and come back as God and nature wills.

Never u ever ask her to send u money in future, if possible send money to her when she is in need and if u have.

Don't go womanizing with all these valueless girls that full everywhere as a way of cooling off, don't do that, focus on your job if u have one or your business or trade if u have one or your studies if a student.

Only time will tell!

Contrary to what many guys believe, there are some reserved and well cultured ladies.

A friend of mine met a lady online (Facebook I guess) who relocated abroad some years back. They started dating online, the guy was in Naija the lady was abroad. They dated for some months, close to a year, and the guy being that he really wanted to settle down, indirectly asked her if she is okay if they marry and run distant families; she/kids there and he in Naija, she laughed according to my frnd.

With time, she noticed the guy was serious, she agreed and came down and they married.

To his surprise, she was a virgin!!!

My point is, who knows maybe when she relocated abroad then, her Naija boyfriend got angry, frustrated and maybe quit the relationship believing he has lost her as she will go there screwing every T, D and H, but he was wrong.

Give her the benefit of doubt, and work hard to ensure u are doing okay here, believe me she will come back to u because guys abroad hardly marry ladies over there with them cos they most times prefer our Naija based ladies; maybe due to ego.

So don't feel its over, she's still your girl if she truly loved u and I hope she is above 25yrs

A lot of ladies abroad still come back to Nigeria to marry their boyfriends they left behind, majority do. Its even the guys that don't usually come back to their girlfriends they left in Naija, but majority of ladies come back especially if they are above 25yrs and probably a graduate when they left Nigeria.

But if she is like 20yrs or sth going abroad to study as undergraduate, hmmm, u can reduce your expectation of her coming back to u sha.

So guys must stop being egotistical with issues like this cos if u were the one that relocated, I am sure she won't quit, she will be happy that her guy relocated to a better land for their better good but here u are crying blue murder for no cause, Naija guys sha, we de try

ekanDamie:
Lol. I did not go into details.
She has been planning it even before she met me.
So its overly selfish for me to tell her to back out cos of me
Its a plus for anyone to have PR in any country oda Dan Nigeria.
Yeah CA

Jogunomi1:
Newly married! Yes, they have it in their subconscious mind the backup plans irrespective of the level of love in the marriage. I will advice men never to go into marriage without solid financial backup if they can't tolerate nonsense from women. My wife is very mature. But her being not tech savvy oftentimes smuggles misunderstandings into our union. For instance, she claimed to have sent me a message and I intentionally refused to reply. She ought to have set her phone's message setting to "show delivery report". She would have seen whether her message was delivered or not. Her message was not delivered, and I already texted her that I wouldn't be able to answer her myriad of incoming calls at the point in time, and should send message only.

salford1:
He didn't mean it i believe - he most likely said that in the heat of the moment. Someone who lives in Ontario for most of his or her life would still act like a novice when that person sets foot on a different province. We are all learning.

ekanDamie:
How do u mean?

ekanDamie:
I feel so hurt right now. My babe leaves in a few hours as she got PR
In a foreign country. She's leaving me behind in this country and I swear it hurts.
I'm scared that at some time illd have to move on cos despite
How much I love her this distance is too much for me to keep up with
I feel gradually, we will drift apart and I will bid another farewell to
An amazing relationship.

I have plans, burning plans to relocate too, but its very expensive for me ATM.
I'm just depressed at this moment cos I don't think I can be in love like this again.

gbagyiza:
Is not even too old that is d problem, but she will like to control him n dictate to him what to do.

Jogunomi1:
He has to find another job or be promoted to her level. I'm two months older than my wife. She was earning better than I did 3 months ago. Today, I earn better than her. In our first fight, she was angry when I bought data with money in her bank account - giving her cash to save my trip to bank for lodgment - saying she doesn't like having cash in hand. During our second fight, she stopped cooking foods at home for family and refused to use anything in the house bought with my money. I was not worried because I had already started looking for a house I will once in a while go to whenever she starts her nonsense. After some days, she started crying profusely.

baldman:
I am seriously tempted to outline my preferences on here, see if there is anyone who meets or almost meets them and then explore a friendship targeted at a purposeful relationship.

Ok.. I am just going to do that...( God works in mysterious ways). I am looking for a lady with the following attributes:

[b]Christian: ( Born Again preferably CAC/RCCG) Family Background) It will be nice if the parents are well involved in Ministry
Educated: At least first degree with good academic records ( evidence of a budding career or business ( business is preferred)
Personality: Mild Introversion ( I am an extrovert, can talk for Africa, life of the party, multiple chain of friends, big baby etc)
Ministry: Must be involved in Ministry work ( it will be good if she is good with children and old people, I love these people)
Spirituality: She must be someone who understands the significance of ceaseless praying and the fact that we are all that we are by the grace of God ( so she will be humble and be able to exude grace and compassion). For instance, it takes humility and wisdom to even consider this online advert.
Life's ambition: She must be someone who really wants to make heaven and whose life's ambitions are subject to their alignment with that goal.
Ethnic: I am sorry, but I really will prefer a Yoruba Lady ( preferably an Ijesha ( or any other town in OSUN, Oyo or Ekiti)
Age: 24-27[/b]
Physique: Slim with nothing particularly conspicuous
Complexion : Dark ( chocolate)
Eyes: Big or moderate eyeballs with heavy eyelids ( the physical attributes are desirable but not compulsory)
Height: I am 5:8, so that is the maximum height.
Interests (movies, road trips, hosting guests, cooking and fashion)
Dressing: I need it to be obvious from your dressing that you are a Christian ( No rainbow colours on the face, no heavy jewelries and definitely no skimpy dresses outside of the house)
I am sorry, you will also need to still be a VIRGIN. I respect every woman regardless of their sexual history but for this position, a Virgin will be more appropriate.
Location: Preferably Lagos but if you have access to the social media ( location should not be an immediate barrier).

MY CREDENTIALS

I am a christian, male, professional in his early 30s. The qualities I want in my woman ( as stated above) sufficiently defines who I am. If you are interested PM me and you will be free to conduct your due diligence.
[b][/b]

AdaNnabugo:
Yes... what we are oweing him is two yes rent,, but he accepted me to pay one yr own first because its not too long my dad died.. so its the one yr that is 50000... I would have paid him this money but due to going home for my dad death and some other things I have been drawn back...and I am not sure I can spare anything out of this month salary because to feed is now a problem but I know am trying my best.. but I am certain of paying back the 15000 by december. I can even give the person my bvn.. if I default let him/her call me out...

dayleke:
OP,
Do i hear you say your FIL is very very stubborn?
Is it only about this church thingy?
From the way I'm hearing the stubborn, you might have other issues with him?
Do the both of you get along wella?

UjuJoan2:
Of all the things to be concerned about during a church wedding, the planks and woods are the least. Do you even know the importance of what you are about to do? OR are you more interested in slaying?

Tomorrow when you pregnant wife starts cheating on you (like in the other thread), you will start crying and calling Joro!

Don't be too shallow, or your FIL will be dissapointed in his daughter for bringing a man like you home. Money is not what makes a man!

AntiIslam59:
So i'm preparing to get married. My wife to be is from a poor family. I'm comfortable. The issue is the church they want us to do the wedding is one wooden stall small church building that I just can't come to terms with. So I suggested if they have maybe a churchHQ that has a proper building where one can conduct a decent church service, they dont...Ok I also suggested let's just do the service in Hotel either at the conference centre or Banquet hall. We will decorate the place as a church and export their church members there, I don't just want a wedding in that there church, He said No. Now we are at impasse and I do want a church wedding but my Father-In-Law to be is very very stubborn and wants us to have the wedding in a church that is just wood and planks. Please advise as you see fit

Inception12:
Another quick question seniors, i've been doing some research on kijiji and i see a lot of general labor jobs in Ontario some even requesting for immediate start. How hard or easy is it to get these jobs. Am planning on landing next month and i want to get my feet on the ground immediately to avoid POF running out as i look for my career jobs.

TheCongo2:
By the way, she is in Ontario ... and it seems like she is a single mother meaning she will be getting the Canada child benefit each month.

She can't be on welfare as a full time student.
Welfare will ask her to apply for OSAP in Ontario
The amount OSAP paid each year is dependent on her income and not on the course nor the program duration.
Given that she hadn't filed any tax yet, I am sure she will get a HUGE amount this year.
However, she can accept the grant and return the loan if I am not mistaken. I am sure the amount of grant alone will be enough to cover her living expenses.

AZeD1:
Yes I landed in Montreal. My flight was supposed to terminate in Ottawa but I wasn't ready to spend the night at the airport so I took a bus.

Airfrance/KLM also have a bus service that would drop you at the train station in Ottawa if you fly with them

AZeD1:
I'm cool and I'm done with the olodo for now.

apologies to the person who asked the question.

AZeD1:
I pity the people who spent money to send you to school.
Someone is asking for survival techniques on minimum wage and you are asking for something else.

If there's no other parent, would she not survive on minimum wage?
The person asking the question knows why she asked but Mr Amebo wants to know more rather than give answers to the questions asked.

Shokoloko:
@AzeD1 and @BOSS13 we can all stop at this point. While you warriors were fighting valiantly over my matter I received my answers.
Thanks again.
Now let's sheath swords.

AZeD1:
You see how foolish you are? Someone is making plans for two people you are asking for a third person.

You should ask for a refund of your school fees because you obviously learnt nothing in school.

AZeD1:
The irony coming from someone prying into someone's personal life.

A simple question was asked and your busy body will not allow you face front. Mr Amebo.

AZeD1:
If you had small sense you would have known that person who asked that question wanted to know the chances of survival with only person working part time.

You better go and find were you can borrow sense olodo.

AZeD1:
I would not ask you because your question was stupid. You had no reason to ask that question because its NONE of your business.

Shokoloko:
The challenge is I have already paid full tuition. I was hoping minimum wage could cater for two (including rent)