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CsRockefeller:
In Philosophy, it is said that Objectivity means talking from the view of the object.

Thats what I am going to try to do, no pity party, no emotions.

Sometime this year, I went for an interview and also met a host of other prospective candidates around, some of us were jobless, some already had jobs.

We began discussing about d pay, we speculated between 70 to 100k, I told them that it cant be more than a 70k given its the Chinese (very stingy persons). Amongst us was a guy already earning 150k somewhere, we scolded him, how can one attempt to leave a good paying job for peanuts, we warned him about the consequence of loosing his good job. He had his interview and quickly left, I felt he was so greedy, even if u want to leave a 150k job, it should be for a higher pay, his friend said he's fond of jumping from one interview to the other. With a pay of 150k, a lot of people would seat at that place for at least 2 years.

Man, the ordinary man has always been selfish, he seeks himself alone, remember Cain and Abel, Jacob and Esau, Absalom and David, David and Saul, the list is endless.

For a long time, I tried to convince myself that everything on earth doesnt revolve around Economics/Money/Status/Financial stability but I was wrong, as I get older I know better.

I dont want to make this longer than necessary, but if your financial position as they say in Accounting is not where your lady wants it to be enough for her to commit to u then, she is still in the market and when that guy comes with her bag of expectations, she will jump.

It is what it is, call them gold diggers, hoes, sluts, it is what it is, man seeks himself first, and don't forget that your country is the poverty capital of the world, everyone wants to escape it.

The 20k is something, there's a lady who would be happy with it, but not this one. People will continue to search for jobs, and partners that meet their financial expectations.

It is not ideal, it is not fair, it is not right in a suituation where human emotions are involved but is the World fair itself?

Cc: Primesoccer

I don't necessarily agree with all of your points, I still do not believe everything revolves around those things you said. Not for everyone on a personal level, but you do write very well, everything was coherently weaved together.

Why would I want a Wikipedia page? Tell me something I don't know.

Obaman12:
Bro! You see?

You goofed up big time by showing her all your cards bro. Relationship these days are like card games. You don't display all your cards to your opponent to avoid being kicked off the game. You play it smartly with your head not with your heart.

Now, you're outta of the game & you're of no relevance to her again. There's nothing you'll do to gain that back from her. To her, she's just using u as a step up plan until she lands her target man.

In otherwords, you're on your own
All, I'll say now is, start searching for another girl that would keep ur hrt occupied at the moment, after that dump her and move on. That's d only way to mk her feel d break up, don't let her break ur hrt, break hers first that's how you'll get to win on this bro. Outside it, it'll be an all-round win for her. So be smart and act fast.


Note: all these should be on code. Don't let her notice anysh*t as regarding ur intention towards her. Oya go win this bro

I made this same mistake bro, and now am a rebranded person.

Read on miseducation by Ubanja

WOW! Over 1k people liked this comment. There is serious problem with the people of the world.

Who playing games epp. Be transparent and when you have seen signs like this, still be point blank and walk away.

This is terrible advice, while playing games too, be ready to lose the real deal.

Nothing else about her aside flat stomach, straight legs and perky what? Hihihihi! And you are too clean just based on how you look has she seen your place too? And already she's ur final bustop and you'll like us to help you convince her.

So you still went to church last week amidst Corona!

januzaj:
That's good. They stand a better chance in US than Nigeria. We don't even have enough testing kits. We have less than 500 ventilators, if shit gets real,our top politicians will be the top priority. For now, we are still holding onto Jack Ma's donations.

I doubt you listen to the news with the they stand a better chance in US than Nigeria comment. Some of you worship this US. Any wise US citizen is better off here at the moment, why will you enter a country with a high rate of deaths and pandemic spreading. Shu!

EVILFOREST:
PEOPLE who do such feel insecure and less of a human.
I speak my Native Dialect everywhere. I speak it to my relatives and spouse.
In fact, I once taught IGBO Language in Downtown, Los Angeles.

One Day, I visited Nigeria with my spouse, and my DAD asked me, how my accent & and that of my spouse had remained the same despite all these years, that he taught the moment people relocated, they dropped many things including the way they spoke.
I laughed and said, it's better I learn and hear what they are saying than 4 dem to understand everything I say with my people.

MEXICANS, in the US never teach their kids English.
They soak their kids in SPANISH. In fact, they play Spanish songs while driving. They do so because, they know their kids will eventually learn the English at school.

Gbam! But this your moniker!

wagazala:
Sometimes it's to save you the stress of having to repeat yourself. When you speak with the Nigerian accent to a foreigner, some of them don't get some words.

What I don't fancy is speaking to a Nigerian with a foreign accent. Once I know you be naija , my brain auto switches, it's involuntary.

I think the foreigners understand you if you pronounce your words well with your normal accent. That's my experience tho, and that's countless times even over the phone with them.

Realhommie:
Egungun be careful...

Haahahahha! Welldone

Bluezy13:
Simply ignore her naw...

Is that one difficult

That's how a child would handle it, that's not how a Man would handle it.

And some people wonder why their life is so bent, when you ghost someone who has invested a strong emotion as love in your life, if they curse you, na express be that. Stop playing with people's emotions.

noblealuu:
Though some may see this as a loving caring virtuous woman, to be discreet, I see this as folly on both spouses.

If I were in the shoes of Idris, I wouldn't even allow wify come closer. We both cannot be down with shit.

Makes sense. She shouldn't be close to him, even if she insisted, he should not let it happen. It's making me question if they are for real or its for clout or whatever.

GraGra247:
Nothing like a rare wife here. The guy is fabulously rich, famous and successful.

If you have these qualities, ladies will even eat your shiit.

Lolz! Which ladies abeg? some men are so empty all they have to offer is money and material things. Is this what you plan to teach ya shidren, especially the girls to eat a man's poo so long he has money.

No be all women follow for that nonsense. Kam Dan!

MadeINchenzen2:
ogbeni park one side !!!

Owww so you are even the original poster. Looolz! You are asking a question you already have a cast in stone opinion about.

So why you still come dey ask na? Better read and learn from people. Or report back years later when your daughter does this.

Shey those without parents who basically raised themselves should go and die too?

MadeINchenzen2:
perhaps u grew up in a broken home, so u wont understand how parents ought to look after their children and bring them up responsibly.

I m sure someday ur daughter will do same and get herself into trouble that would av been averted under ur watchful eyes. u ll be a horrid dad !

haaaahahaha! What folly is this? It won't be possible to show you the error of your own thinking so let's just allow reality to teach you a lesson. Your daughter will definitely leave your house to live alone with this way you are thinking, abd it wnt mean she's a prostitute. Times are fast changing.

MadeINchenzen2:
if you dont know, there s a general impression about girls who lives alone and pay rent. These impressions are not good !

I think your personal impression about yourself is all that matters, what society thinks should go to hell. If you live your life simply, straight and honestly that's all that matters.

MadeINchenzen2:
There s no such thing as adulthood for girls. Ideally a lady ought to be with her family until she s married. There are dangers of living alone away from family. A sane society should frown at that. It is rare to find a sensible lady living alone, single.

my thoughts!

I consider myself among the most sensible ladies of these times and I'm beginning to consider living alone. Soo...? There's no danger anywhere if she works and can afford to, the family might be the danger sef.

ArcSEMPECJ:
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Exactly my point.....the side chick is still with a conscience I must say....
Believe me, the husband has lost this innocent lady

So says a man that's likely going to place a side chick above his family and kids.

Still searching the Sahara desert for this profound innocence you speak about and the conscience too that has landed her on the internet.

worworbabe:
How easy?

But there are single ladies who resist attempts by married men. Everybody involved should be ready to face the heat.

Pleeeenttty singles sef. Not even the wealth moves them. So the ones wey dey cause others pain, let them feel the heat.

safarigirl:
giving birth to four children is NOT an excuse to lose shape. You people should stop encouraging this narrative, it is similar to the false narrative that all men cheat.

Heidi Klum has 5 children and she remains slender as ever, Josh Chambers' wife has five, she dey as she dey. Beyonce has three, still in shape. Ufuoma has two, still has a banging body. Chioma has at least three, still looks good. Busola Dakolo has three, and her body Is still great.

It is not the children that has the woman in that shape, it is lack of exercise and dieting, poor feeding habit, and/or genetics. Childbirth does not make you fat and shapeless. Now, you can say she is like that because she has no time to herself (but she clearly has time to know who is giving her husband anal, and how to track the person), or you can say she lacks the motivation to be in shape as well.

But, you see, the issue here is, her husband likes to have anal sex and she doesn't. The sidechick looks NOTHING like her, when a man cheats on your stark opposite, it is a cause for concern, because then, you either married a man that has no spec, or you married a man that was never really attracted to you.

Either way, neither of the women covered themselves in glory in this instance, and it is worse for the wife. The sidechick will possibly get a husband despite her transgressions, after chopping the hisband's money, but the wife will fight many more side chicks, assuming her husband doesn't leave her.

So when it's genetics or a health condition, the woman should do what? Excuse the philandering man or hold him to account on his vows, like are these vows people take now a joke to the world?

Are you married?

cococandy:
Married men go after them.

These women should face their husbands or get their own side dudes. It can’t be that hard

What stops them from saying no to married men? Like someone said wives can face both of them.

This is one of the reasons side chicks are thriving...

TheTrueSeeker2:
In March 2014 I took two loans from first a lady that was introduced to me by my neighbor (500k) and another FCMB bank staff (500k) at 20% interest each.

Business was doing fine so no issues paying interest (100k x 2) every month.

I religiously paid interest for good 11 months ( 1.1m) capital not included separately to both women . (2.2m)

Then business started suffering after some few contracts that didn't go well.

Before the end of the 12th month, i quietly approached creditors to re-negotiate loan payment that there was fire on the mountain but they refused and started threatening fire and brimstone.

The first lady took matters more seriously at first and this was how it went;

Lady 1 started threats of kidnap etc. Anytime my phone rang, it was either lady 1 or her hired impostors raining threats because she later started saying the money she gave me belonged to a cooperative society.
At one time a man claiming to be a very senior army officer and husband to one of the women I collected their cooperative society money called to threaten me and i quietly told him I did not have any financial transaction directly with his wife or any cooperative society for that matter since from day one, the women i collected loan from never mentioned any cooperative society or any name close to it in our transaction. I told him my phone had an automatic recorder and that I'd recorded the conversation for future use after listening to all his threats and he immediately hung the call.
One day some group of men and women stormed my office claiming they were members of an unnamed cooperative society and demanded for their monies immediately.

They gave me three options.
1. Their money in full 800k (by this time we were in the 13th or 14th month in arrears)
2. That I gently follow them to only God knows where
3. I issue them a cheque which should clear the very next day.


Well at this point, I knew i had no other option than to also play smart.
I agreed to option 3
As soon as they left, I wrote a letter to my bank instructing them not to honor the issued cheque. I knew they wanted to present it and later claim i issued a dud cheque.


Then I called my lawyer.
We wrote a petition to the CP alleging threat to life etc

By the next day they went to the bank and the bank turned them down.

They called again with further threats
Few day later, they got a call from the police inviting them over concerning the transaction and they all ran only woman i transacted with couldn't escape.

Appointment day at the police came and woman also came with a female lawyer.

After reading my petition to them and writing their own statement, they admitted there was a financial transaction and that they didn't belong to any cooperative society, when they were asked to produce their license.

They also admitted their threats but claimed it was only to scare me.

The Police immediately started preparing papers to transfer matters to Court after confirming the whole truth and called them wicked after collecting over 200% of their money.

They attempted to bribe OC but he refused (i respected the NPF from that day) he was so upset and felt so sorry for me.

Woman was on her knee crying and calling her Pastor Husband who refused to show face.
Female lawyer couldn't say a word at a point. She just carried chair and sat down.

I went outside with My lawyer and pleaded with him to speak to OC that we were not interested in pursing case in court.
That we wanted to just save my head, unmasked the identities of the ones threatening me etc

That what we wanted was re-negotiation of loan and nothing more.
20% Interest should stop and we pay the capital only and case close

OC shouted at me Oh so you want to still pay them abi?
Young man if you don't know what to do with your hard earn money you can take it to the motherless home ok?


Finally, we settled that we should all go and that I'd paid enough I shouldn't be compelled to pay any dime again. If I wished to, it was at my own stead but if they called me again concerning the transaction then I should report back to the station.

They never called again and on my own, I paid them 200k to make peace.
They later told me they had to path with 100k to bail her

An interesting piece!

Respects to Dele Oke in TVC Jos that year, you dress anyhow you gerrout. His class his rules.

Justdogood:
This Jordan guy ugly sha ooooo.
Walahi

Part of doing good as your moniker says is actually keeping quiet when you don't have something good to say, wetin you don create as god wey you be na?

ednut1:
most of the times they have too many siblings to cater for and they must involve them in every family issue when married to you. would rather avoid all that biko

I see. It means too many people don't know when to consult who or for what, cuz your life ishe your ish.

As you can see, crazy people are not in Nigeria alone. For those that like saying Nigerians this and that.

It's really ugly when you are at the receiving end from a ghoster. How difficult is it to tell people why you don't want to talk yo them any longer, can't give them closure, you might just walk in on them as your interviewer for your dream job...that's just one example, ghosting is not kind.

don4real18:
Move

kikikiki! To where? China?

Ekakamba:

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Girl's worry cause you'll remember your siblings first in wealth distribution before her (she go be remnant chopper especially as wuna never married).

She knows vividly that if you'd only male siblings, all your money na for you and her direct; but now? So many cake eaters on a small cake.

For people like you the world revolves around money and wealth for others it revolves around sanity and peace of mind, ladies inclusive. Men need to learn this and stop insulting all women with materialism.

ednut1:
mines is you are a first born. i japa

Why? First borns have a strong sense of responsibility you know

Would be difficult to convince her otherwise with just words since she's had experiences.

So it's necessary to convince her with actions.

2buffagain:
Well, firstly what is feminism to you?
It seems everyone has a different definition of that.

Secondly do you support your definition of feminism?

Thirdly, should men pay bride price and fulfill lists when marrying?

Lolz! Not a feminist and do not indulge in their excesses.

There are basic rules of human relations and I just believe if everyone stick to those basics we'll have less drama and unnecessary ideologies springing up here and there.

Bride price matter now, I'm I to speak for Christians, Muslims, Chinese, Indians....? Point is there can't be a universal rule to this one, if a particular group or faith I follow says this is how it's done to consummate a marriage, why cause unnecessary strife by trying to rebel against it. But yes I believe in paying a bride price (which goes by different names in different places) as part of a Marriage process.

BigJoe19:
Shut up!!! Let the women change their bad attitude themselves.

Lolz! Why are you so triggered?

Is it my fault men have forgotten their place as leaders or pace setters?

Women will remain materialistic as long as men keep giving them the room to be like that. Afterall you all say it's a man's world.

So obviously you can see I won't shut up, hope you'll still be okay knowing I'm alive and still talking. Haahahahha! Boy bye!

2buffagain:
I agree with this.
We are doing our part.
That's why "game" is now being taught to the male community at large.
I believe the current-gen iteration of said "game" is called red-pill knowledge.

Well I can only say I hope this is positive and not another twisted male version of feminism. Or we'll just have world gender crisis. Hihi!

XhosaNostra:
OK, 1st of all I don't think you're as nice as you believe yourself to be because of the bolded. With that said, I also understand your predicament. This happened almost overnight, so you're going to need a bit of time to adjust to the changes around your home. However, regarding the little boy, if you really are the kind of guy you perceive yourself to be, you'd take this opportunity to mentor the child so he can become as great a guy as you are All he needs in his young life is a good, male role model & what a great candidate you are, Mr Nice Guy! You know this child has no father or rather, doesn't have one that is interested in his upbringing. It would be a shame if you also turned your back on him without even trying to turn him around. Not trying to guilt trip you into doing something you don't want to do, but sometimes all a person needs is someone that cares. This child has already been abandoned by two people in his life, the biological father & the granny. Only God knows what kind of trust issues & worthlessness he's going to grow up with if he doesn't get stability in his life soon. Think of it as a humanitarian act

Now about the child's mother. I personally don't think it's right for her to tell you to do things for this child, while she's not putting the same amount of energy into demanding that the biological father owns up to his responsibility. It's just not fair. It should come out the kindness of your heart.

I hope things work out for you guys. It's an unfortunate situation because there's an innocent child involved, who's not responsible for the choices his parents made.

I think this is the comment I'm looking for. Perfectly balanced and logical.