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Rocktation:
Lol..why for the first two, though?

"My love from another star" is on my list. Although, it's as if I'm seeing season 1 and 2 oo. Buh it will happen one day one day sha. Both stories might probably be unrelated.

Right now, I'm doing one "It's okay, that's love" and Omgosh, I'm going bunkersss over it. Like woahhh. A friend once suggested it and I mistook it for "It's okay to not be okay", because both have similar themes. The video direction of IOToNotBO seems to be up to par with modern standards, but as per plot and other matters, abeg, twale for IOThat'sL.
Chai, I feel so blessed to be watching really good dramas, back to back. I'd probably come back to talk to myself as I see and love how you guys do here, in the form of reviews. Thanksss.

Those were the ones I recommended

I would check out it's ok, it's love.

I think you get suggestions for similar dramas so when you start a with a good one, you are on a roll

pocohantas:
Maybe you mean an ardent follower of every Tom, Dick and Harry. That is where common sense comes in. What is the aim of a movement, identify it and stick to it. Just like religion, you really do not need any spiritual head to tell you what is good or bad. I haven’t seen that part of feminism that stops one from being good to her husband. I am yet to see just one…

Arguments like cooking food and doing chores that is common here is what two senseless people do. If Nigerians were fair to their partners, a lot of these arguments won’t come up in the first place.

I wish her well in giving her man peace. Me sef go like learn from her.

Humans have a weakness and a strength: our lack of contentment and the need to improve (which can be positive or negative).

When feminism started, it was 'let girls go to school like boys', 'let adulterous and abusive husbands not get away with divorcing their wives with nothing', 'let women vote' etc etc which was good. Compare to where we have gotten today: 'right to abort', 'rejection of patriarchy', 'rejection of the natural role of wives as housekeepers' yada yada yada. Some are questioning why 'women should menstruate' and other crazy things. It is just the natural progression.

Ditto Red Pill.

This reminds me of a boss why claims to hate sycophancy yet sycophants are the people getting promoted and recognized. Naturally, more people would become sycophants.

Feminism or red pill doesn't need to teach women/men to be bad spouses; they just have to highlight what makes them good spouses as subjugation and simping.

Wahala be like Mercy's care.

I am begging on behalf of our brother; biko don't care for him like Mercy

Ike seems to like a type sha; I saw the new babe he is praising to high heavens.

Love these days is like the weather. Deeply in love with A today and can't do without B a year later.

myami:
Excuse me! What do you mean? TRP liberate us from the whims and caprices of dangerous women who go about ruining the lives of good men

Eku whim prevention

Hmmmmmmmm.

Myer:
Ops caption is misleading.
No where did Tonto say she received it from the school. Most likely a gift her son made for her at the school's Father's day celebration.

Makes it worse.

How can the boy grow to become a man when he had no one to learn from?

socialmediaman:
I think people confuse being an introvert with being anti-social or shy or lacking social skills. They are different. Introverts are people who need more time to themselves to get back into play, it doesn't mean they lack great social skills

Gracias!

BuyAndSellStuff:
Any serious minded organization knows that empty barrels make the loudest noise.

Except you work for a one-man biz looking for gossip.

Na fight?

angelfallz:
I was wondering when I'd see your comment.

She don buy market na.

But again, we have not heard of Mercy in a while (at least in NL).

What other way to trend?

pocohantas:
I am curious too. I have never met one feminist that said women shouldn’t be good to their husbands. Talking about Mercy, how good was she to Ike? What peace of mind did she give him, both in and out of the house?

Anyway, she has said what them boys wanna hear. Tomorrow they’ll still call her olosho once the euphoria of this post wears off.

Feminism might not tell women not to be good wives however, an ardent follower of feminism can not be good to her husband. The ideologies of Feminism especially the 'modern' version are against the core of womanhood.

Before redpillers start jumping, they are one and same. A follower of red Piller can never be a good husband. The ideologies of TRP are against the core of manhood.

@Mercy: these people are clowns and would latch on the next big thing to trend. The only type of 'celebs' or influencial people I would take their opinions online with a pinch of salt are those notable based on educational, political, religious or career achievements.

Babe is/was rumoured to be a runs girl that urned Ike to a philosopher.

Hahahahahaha @ euphoria of the post.

Funny thread.

Mercy don buy market

Is feminism against women having good character to their husbands?

Raymond0008:
May justice be served.

Amen.

Goalnaldo:
same. I can't use my money to buy abacha. Always you took me unawares and buy one for me.

Then you don't hate it; you just don't fancy it or place a value on it.

xreal:
Roasted Corn anytime, anyday.

I'm always excited in maize season.

Hahahahahaha!

Corn season excites me also.

You pass a corn seller, perceive the freshness and go back to point to a succulent one for them to roast for you.

I had Damba Mama once and liked it.

I have not had masa before.

Suya: good ones are very hard to come by. I can perceive and taste the 'rawness' of most of them.

Akara, very tricky. Except the level of Akara Osu back in the days.

Plantain chips, when it is not fresh, it is meh!

captainhoo:
The series is mmwahh. It made me like kim soo hyun and searched for his series. You should watch it's ok to not be okay if you haven't. The FL was also in 'legend of the blue sea' alongside the legendary gun jun pyo.

The two leads featured in a movie "the thieves", it's interesting. It's a movie about a set of thieves and their operations but the last one was unsuccessful and they ended up stealing the loot from one another.

You can check out prison playbook. It's interesting and funny. What's your next watch? I like your series recommendations

Thanks for It's Okay not to be Okay, currently watching it now.

I love the FL, she gets the ML and the right woman for him after some tweaking. Anyways, the ML has her mumu button; has always had it.

I would try the other series in time.

Try Gran Hotel (Spanish) or Filinta (Turkish) or Outlander.

Caveat:
Filinta is looooonnnnnnng like the ML
Outlander is looooonnnnnnng as the FL's hair

Rocktation:
Oh, I also did watch the Love In The City, Suspicious Partner and that Something About One Percent....thanks for pointing me to them, peeps. "She Was Pretty" was an offhand recommendation too, from someone here. Thanks plenty!

You are welcome for the first two.

Try 'my love from another star' if you have not watched it.

Monogamy:


That's in 21st century... They are probably saying boko haram, bandits, kidnappers are spiritual cos they always attack spiritually not physically.

You see Northern Nigerians heh, the religion has taken them far back to old ancients... The sponsor, the criminals foot soldiers are people in your community... You can't continue to be harboring/pampering them and be expecting miraculous intervention, No, things doesn't work that way..

Heaven help only those who helped themselves first

What is wrong with people at their wits end looking for hope?

Will their problems be solved faster if they did not do this prayers?

If the Government did this instead of physically tackling the issue, then we would complain.

The victims, let them do what they will to bring succour to their aching heart.

Toor

descarado:
My sister, I tire for we modern women.

I can argue, I have my right, we are equal, I agree o but, can we change nature?
Nope.
Rather, let's use what we have to get what we don't have. We don't have equal strength. We can't even consume the same number of calories per day. Men are naturally wired to consume more.
Put that pride in your pocket and see your man change and worship you.
Divorce never favour women. Especially here.
Use your tongue to count your teeth.

@bold:

A simple yet very difficult concept to understand.

Saintmary:
You are right, I have heard lots of stories about these types of badly trained men, but my opinion is that if you want to be respected in your marriage, find a man who respects you ab initio. Not that you will accept anything the man throws your way for the ring only to lose your patience after marriage.
God help us.

Words on marble.

DJ Cuppy surely loves her pink.

charles009:
Hello Folks,

Just thought i should share this, your imputs i will appreciate.

I have a wife who is willing to sacrifice her life to keep her friends, i mean fake friends,fake neighbours, fake people. Who go about slandering her, back bite and all stuffs and when i wade in she feels l am extremely unforgiven.

To cut the long story short, a very close ally tried scamming her, when i ran all checks and confronted the lady, she confessed to knowing it was a scam abinitio. I warned the lady to seize contacting her henceforth, To my surprise she started saying i should let her handle her, someone who was already salivating to ripping you off 800k. I find this weakness increasingly unbearable.

My thought pattern with people is very precise and direct.i don't care your relationship with me. If you fake, backbite, gossip, i cut you off, through my actions and deeds. No second chances.

Can her personality disorder (i choose to call it) be corrected through my aggressive correction pattern to help her build a strong character or should i simply let her do her stuff.

Does your wife have abandonment issues or issues with craving people's acceptance?

Can she depend or trust you emotionally?

Try to understand the root cause so you know the best solution.

In the meantime, ensure she is not responsible for the management of your finances.

You don't want to deal with falling into financial ruin while trying to address the issue.

Duru9:
If the deer can see the problem, let him give you solution to it also

I agree

descarado:
Very toxic woman.
This may be fictional anyway. Couldn't bring myself to read till the end.

Wonder what people see as modernity. When you can't bridle your tongue.

After series of insult, u turn around to say you don't mean it. Seriously?

All these woke ladies should understand one thing. Even the West they normally use as example. One golden rule towards men.
Respect. Know when to keep your mouth shut.
Know that a man lives by his pride. Men all over the world( forget Hollywood) love simple respect from their ladies. That is how nature wired them.

I'm not religious but I can relate with the story of Esther very well.
She was married to a king. So she should be a powerful woman. A wicked man among the King's men was treating her people bad. There are so many ways she should have dealt with that man but she didn't.
What did she do?
She prepared a feast for the king, invited him and the man for the feast and as they were making merry, (WHEN THE KING'S HEART WAS SOFT), When the opportunity came for her to exercise her power, she went for the jugular.
Did this make her inferior, no but a very brave and powerful woman who has her husband under her armpit.
Look at how she made her husband do the job without hurting his pride as a man yet she was the master planner.

Chochocho will never draw you close to your man. I'm always right is an attack to your man's pride.

Gentle and subtle disposition makes you the queen of your house and your man will be your slave. Go and learn the tricks.


I come in peace o.

Hahahahahaha! @ forget Hollywood.

Let's invite them to K-drama, shall we?

They know how to depict mutual love, submission, loyalty, dedication, passion, respect and all the works.


@bold:

It took me a while to understand Esther and it was an epiphany when I did. When I was much younger, I 'preferred' Deborah and thought her 'stronger' or 'more useful/active'.

RealNakupenda:
What Should I Do? My Husband Said Our Marriage Is Over-Pls Advise

Good morning Ma. I’m so sorry to slide to your inbox like this but I’m confused at the moment. It seems my marriage is over!

We’ve been married for about 5 years now but it’s either we’re not compatible or my husband doesn’t just seem to want to understand me.

We’ve had quarrels like every other regular couple and I’ve tried to adjust and understand him but why does it seem as if I’m the only one working to keep the marriage?

My husband misunderstands me a lot, that I’ve seen from the many quarrels we’ve had. I know that I can be so vocal and be insulting to him when I’m angry but I really don’t mean everything I say, I’m just angry that’s my escape route to voice out hurtful things.


So recently I was trying to make a deal for us and I told him about this only for him to get angry, when I noticed the harsh tune in his voice I told him to forget it, then he started keeping malice with me that evening. He usually loves malice like no man’s business.

The next day I made food and called him to eat so that I could calmly talk things over with him only for him to ignore me, I was so angry and started voicing out toxic words from my mouth, we quarreled a bit and he left. He came back later that day when I was out and our main gate was locked, I called his line severally he didn’t pick up, I even sent text message, no way.

My neighbor later opened for me after persistently knocking. I was so angry when I got into the house because I observed he was avoiding me and I removed the gate key from his bunch of keys and even tried to express my displeasure at him, he continued ignoring me, then I was insulted him that’s when he responded angrily at me and hit me.

I was shocked because this has never happened before and I know that my husband detests hitting a woman. He walked out of the bedroom and I slept off only to wake me up at night and he apologized and things seemed a bit okay but I was still very hurt.

Later in the day he called me asking for the gate key because I think he was stranded outside and I responded to him that he’s feeling stranded outside the way I was yesterday and hope he understands how I felt also it’s not his right to keep that gate key like his prized possession it’s for both of us, I only left it for him out of respect that he’s the husband but if when he’s angry he cannot make a life saving decision then it’s not fair.

I didn’t actually say it like this verbatim but that’s what I meant. So you know this man felt so ‘insulted’ and started threatening to break up our marriage? And that if I was home with him he would have taught me a lesson?

I tried explaining myself better to him through calls because I was on night duty at work only for him to continue raining insults at me. I was so shocked and had to cut off his calls because it seems we were heading no where.

And I’m like why does it feel as if once we have issues this guy forgets trying to resolve them instead he starts painting me out as a bad person?

I’m not 100%perfect but it doesn’t mean I hate him because we have quarrels.

Now from the way he was even talking yesterday I didn’t recognize the man I got married to any longer. He was saying that I didn’t have remorse for responding to him when he confronted me for taking the key so it means I’m trying to drag headship position as man with him because I’ve contributed financially to the home and I’m like that’s false and a big misunderstanding. I

collected the key from him when I was angry for being locked out of the house, he settled with me at night, the next morning I woke up late and hurriedly left for work and was on night duty so it wasn’t like it was intentional to actually punish him but no o! He said because I didn’t apologize or show remorse when he first called me about the key so our marriage is over, he even used threatening words and I’m like isn’t this over board and out of proportion?

Does it mean that every time I have an issue with my husband I’m now evil?

He doesn’t even seem to care that his actions made me angry. Why?

This has been one major issue with our marriage and I’ve talked and talked about this, if I’m offensive to him in any way he should tell me calmly and I’ll apologize but if he tells me with a harsh tune I may end up being defensive. In fact I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m totally fed up!

If he feels that the marriage is over I wish him well. I won’t fight with him neither will I argue because I called him severally last night trying to make peace but he threw it out on my face. I even told him that if truly he was trying to make peace the other night why not still stand on the side of peace and hear me out?

I’m not dragging headship position with you and everything I’ve sacrificed for our home I think of it as building up our home but instead he kept on ranting insults at me and I’m like what really is happening here?

Why does it always seem that if u express myself to this man and tell him the truth he twists it and sees it from his own side and sticks by it. This happens every time.

I’m totally confused!

If he wishes the marriage to break up because he doesn’t want to see from my own side of the story then I don’t know what else to do but if he lifts a finger on me when I get home from work I will have to choice other than to hurt him back and really finalize that the marriage is over.

SOURCE : I’m totally confused!

If he wishes the marriage to break up because he doesn’t want to see from my own side of the story then I don’t know what else to do but if he lifts a finger on me when I get home from work I will have to choice other than to hurt him back and really finalize that the marriage is over.

All these cut and paste stories sef, how do we get answers.

I glanced through the OP, and was amused that the wife said her husband doesn't understand her. You both are different sides of the same coin.

Well, both parties do not understand themselves and I am curious to know how they agreed enough to get married.

Just to make something clear: this is not a classic case of domestic violence because fists are involved.

It is the both of you fighting with the weapons you know how to use: wife (her mouth) and husband (his fists). The woman is not a victim of anything here.

I think if both parties would go to the drawing board (especially the wife), the marriage can be salvaged.

The children should help their mother with whatever they have so they play their own part and would not be guilty of abandonment.

Regex:
I been think say you don marry born pikin sef.

Married people don't go on dates?

Navy blue/Black turtleneck tucked into black chinos/jeans with black flat sneakers with a clean shaven look to set off his chocolate skin against the black and bring out his pretty boy looks/innocent face.

Or

A nice fitted (not tight) long sleeved (requiring cuff links) Atiku. The top should be a bit long. Also clean shaven.

Just finished binging on 'My love from another star' and it was awesome.

The ML is exactly how I like them; devoted, passionate, pretty boy, assertive, innocent, smart, action packed/powerful yada yada yada.

One of my favorite scenes was when he stopped the FL from tumbling into the cliff. Another scene I liked was when he was bawling to his lawyer friend how he wished to be with the FL. I wish he teleported more to meet her especially when she knew he could. I also loved his relationship with the first woman 400years ago. And I think juxtaposing his lectures (theory) to his experiences (practical) was excellent.

FL is sweet, I loved loved loved loved her in the flower dress. She looked sweet. I also loved her personality: very in charge of her life, not a victim, hard worker, open about her feelings, assertive etc. She had fantastic mental fortitude even though she was book slow/dumb.

The Chaebol killer son gives killer vibes. He is really a good actor. I am sure if he did kill his elder Brother, his father would have taken no action against him. His sex mate was a very foolish woman. You want to blackmail a killer, seriously

The 2nd female lead is a case study on manipulation. I like the 2nd male lead's character growth. From the cheeky Chaebol son to a calm, sweet, emotionally intelligent young man. That's how he was able to catch his brother.

I also like that a lot of them in the drama were self-aware. They knew their limits and never hesitated to ask for help.

The end was also on point: I wondered how we would get a happy realistic ending for both of them. I wasn't prepared for another 'a werewolf boy' kinda ending.

P.S.: how could I forget the kiss on the stage at the last episode?

Nigeria with its epileptic power supply has 'idle electricity' enough for four WA countries?

Step one to keeping your sanity in Nigeria:

Ignore any news about Nigeria.

Do these leaders think we are fools?

Chai! We Nigerians have seen!

My own is:

Did someone know she was going to jump and started recording?