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thebosstrevor1:
He has the right to do that. The son is a child to a vip, so he will be a target for kidnappers in a public school. Security wise, the best decision ever.

Every father has the right to protect their children from perceived threats...your father will do it, my father will do it too, that is what loving fathers do.

They protect their families from harms.

I don't envy your job, it must be very hard constantly trying to defend the indefensible.

The Muslim ex-wife collected €4.8m from money that is Haram?

Interesting.

Otar:
My pastor once told the story of how he was invited to preach at a white garment church, and when he got there with his immaculate suit and tie, he decided to remove his shoes before entering even without them mandating him, and he is coming from a new covenant Church. And he said something powerful: you never disrespect things that some people hold sacred regardless of whether you believe in it or not. For people will first gauge the level of respect you show them before accepting whatever you have to offer.

@ bold:

Absolutely on point!

MMotimo:
. . . . . . and this is the character you were determined to have another baby with, bringing yet another child into a situation like this. So unfair to that baby. You already knew what he was capable of yet still went ahead with another pregnancy and now, both kids have to go through this upheaval with you .

As for Mr man, everyone reaps what they sow.

My advice is for women those that are able to learn:

SELF LOVE is imperative!
If you don’t love yourself and you go couple with an abuser, it gets worse. Self love is running from danger, not getting with someone who doesn’t even like you. A person that has “ordinary like” for you would not treat you in this manner. Not every guy you meet likes you, respects you, values you etc. The burden is on you, as a woman to have the self awareness, the emotional intelligence, to do what is right for your well-being. Abusers will abuse, that is what they do. It’s left to you to choose not to be their victim.

SELF LOVE
SELF LOVE
SELF LOVE

@bold:

As always

That's how many people are running the rat race of life without finding their purpose.

Hence they would 'have it all' and still not be happy/joyful because they lack contentment and feel empty inside.

Luckily, she has come to the point of self-realization.

Goodluck lady.

Nothing is as annoying as selfish partners who are inadequate in an area and refuse to seek solution.

Father and daughter

pocohantas:
Maybe when I was younger it felt cool to have many male friends…calling, texting, checking up on you and taking you for lunch. Generally giving you attention that females can’t give you. There is really nothing special most girls who claim to prefer male friends discuss with them. You don’t even know ManU’s captain. So?

Now I am older, there is really no time for such. I have few friends, male and female. For the guys, I get their male perspective on things or ask them things men should generally have more ideas on. Like the day I was struggling with my laptop (you know say me and computer na enemies), I called a friend and he guided me.

As of today, 30th June, 2021. Any male friend I am still in contact with is a special one to me. I don’t need urgent 2k, I don’t need my phone ringing per second, I don’t need anyone distracting me, I don’t need anyone to help me start gen, I don’t need anyone to drive me to anywhere. I am committed to one man. When you get to that stage as a woman, you will know. If they call you angel for road sef, you go just start to vex.

One of the markers of growth for a woman is when she knows the value of female friends (if she is a friend's person).

I don't even encourage male mentors for women. They do not understand your struggles.

Bossose:
[/color]FROM THE TITLE OF YOUR POST, DO YOU TREAT YOUR HOUSE GIRL LIKE TRASH? [color=#000099]

Another angle o!

ExAngel007:
I have seen these things happen everytime.


Why is it pastors and their choir mistresses/members always have illicit affairs

Same reason you have Oga & PA, Oga & secretary etc.

The fact that a Pastor (role) is a gentle, listening, encouraging, understanding, advising, selfless, tolerant, loving, passionate, protective, providing personality is an icing on the cake.

Juliusmomoh:
One of the reason why i become a freethinker even while going to church..

Because of a 'Pastor's attitude?

Were you serving a Pastor or God?

Juliusmomoh:
One of the reason why i become a freethinker even while going to church..

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All I can do is laugh!

Mindlog:
He "settled" her with a branch, just like Oga Cele settles his nwa boyi.

Good riddance to bad rubbish.

angelfallz:
Lol from the op's narration, he didn't inform his wife before hand. It just came out of the blue. Remember he said, 'she called him around 9pm to know when he'll be back home'. This means that, she wasn't aware he wouldn't be back anytime soon.
If he had told her maybe in the morning before leaving for work that, "honey I'll be with my friends after work I might come back very late", I doubt his wife of 11 years would have reacted the way she did.
Knowing fully well that her husband does not keep late nights

The hangout might be impromptu although he should have informed her when it can up.

My issue is peeps thinking it is wrong for a married person to hang out or they have to give up fun and enjoyment because they are married (viewing it like a cage).

That's why they snap at every little thing.

All work and no play makes jack a dull boy.

Recreation is very very important.

Citygal:
I wonder what the real parents of this Akwa-Ibom boy would be thinking by now.

Maybe, he will come back to us when he is old and forgive us.

Maybe we have lost our son forever (the son they abandoned to die because of religious fanaticism).

Abi, who knows the parents of the boy help us greet them.

2020 looks different.

Sure it is same boy?

Forgiving the parents benefits the boy the most do his parents do not keep living rent free in his head.

It would also free him to embrace the gift of family and better life his benefactor offered.

Rubbiish:
cc destiny4luv
The bold is what happened
95% of women will act the way your wife did, unless the feeling is no longer there! she acted out of jealousy & needed your assurance she is still the number one in your life, nothing more! So no think am...

So a man hangs out with his friends once a month or once a quarter or once a week and his wife is jealous she is no longer 'number one'?

If she feels so easily displaced, then hangouts are the least of her problems.

Karleb:
Your first paragraph shows you are both ignorant and foolish.

There are people who have multiple concubines who don't come home late. I'm talking about both genders here.

Coming home late once a while is okay, so long you have a tangible reason.

Who is stopping you from coming home late?

Many of you who spill fire and brimstone here are obviously not married or not a good fit for marriage.

Or married and testing out fantasy scenarios built in their heads.

olabrinks:
its not like the man comes back home every night at 11pm for goodness sake it’s a one off thing occasionally. Let that man have his life, my husband comes back at 3am sef sometimes, I don’t give a damn I want the man to live his life and I live mine. I don’t want to feel like I’m in a cage all because of one marriage, what is it sef? Are married couples supposed to be tied with rope to always be together? Na wa oh.

Hahahahahaha

E ti binu ma.

destiny4luv:
Respect sir for ur wisdom. I don't stay out late and the only time am out late is because of official duties wish my wife is aware of. But hanging out with my friends is something I do ones in a blue moon. Those my pals I hanged out with; I haven't hang out like that with them for about 9 years now. We just called each other and decided to hook up for old time sake. Respect.

Why do you think you need to throw away fun or hanging out with your pals after marriage (if you are doing nothing wrong)?

I think we need a slight adjustment to our views about marriage from what I read and see.

Just how you had hangouts and met up with your pals responsibly while single and working, nothing stops you from doing same while married.

It is people who lived 'rough' single lives that feel caged while married.

If you did nothing wrong while single, there is nothing to miss.

GboyegaD:
You did no bad however, you should have informed her before she called you. Occasionally, you sure would hang out with other friends. Marriage doesn't mean you throw our your friends and I do not understand how some think it is a concyclic circle.

When next you will be hanging with your friends, tell her days before and incase it is impromptu, just give a call. If she doesn't understand, she is being selfish.

This!

The Topic has no bearing in the video.

Why I do not care for the conclusion of her talk with 'be powerful in your sexuality nonsense', I wonder the constant need to 'feel powerful'; the content makes a lot of sense.

There is a defining moment in everyone's life; be prepared for the moment and the outcome.

Klass99:
But, isn't that what he wants to do? Or did I misunderstand?

My brain is even too tired to process his matter any further.

Did you misunderstand, no.

Strange things happening these days.

I hope the appropriate authorities look into the matter and treat accordingly and swiftly.

I am very curious to see how many people (especially men) would embrace polyandry because it is passed into law.

Klass99:
Why on earth would you want to do that, if you haven't been intimate with her before?

1. I don't think there's anything wrong with a sincere compliment, if you have been intimate and she was neat/very okay down there.

1. I thought that was what he wanted to do and I was thinking 'no big deal'.

PlayMaker14:
It clearly shows you were not properly raised as a man.


Will the compliment bring you promotion in your place of work?

Or will it give you the National Merit Award?

@bold:


I agree with you sha

JovialJune:
Op is obviously a novice in the relationship game, if she isn't aforementioned, she wouldn't make herself 100% involved with the guy, she would have shrugged the breakup off as nothing and move the fvck on,

Op pele.

@bold:

I pray she never gets to that point.

She will retain her nectar and God will bless her with discernment to pick the next man who loves her passionately

Oliviajones:
Did you say he'll wake up and realize I'm the best thing?

What happened?

Is he your first lover?

NoApology:
We've all been there at some point in our lives. I hope the ordeal doesn't leave you cold like it did many of us.

In the end they are just feelings. They'll surely go away.


My advice is go through this pain and heal because it is inevitable, no matter how much you try to avoid it.

You are right on how to kill someone.

KimberlyWest:
Sorry about your breakup.

You're scared he will move on? Wow! That's serious. If you ask me, I'll say let him move on. If it's meant to be, it will.

Delete his number. Stop all forms of communication. Trust me, you'll only hurt for a week, and then you'll start to feel better. Try meeting new people, too.

The issue with most of us is, even when something is clearly not working, we find it difficult to accept the reality. We keep praying and wishing that things would be different. Or he'll wake up one morning and realize you're the best thing that ever happened to him. It doesn't always work that way. Let him go!

Hurt for only a week ke?