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MMotimo:
It’s good to see that you’re not allowing yourself to be guilt tripped, thumbs up!

Weight is a very touchy topic for women the world over but somehow, perhaps because a lot of brothers prefer thick; black women are able to sing “I’m sexy and I know it” no matter how big they get as long as the makeup, clothes, hair and nails are taken care of. While the continued confidence despite expanding size is great, it often comes with self denial and an inability to accept responsibility for the continued increase in size. We just keep buying larger clothes which in itself is a big problem. This all works fine unless you are married to a man who does not like “fat sex.”

I’m a black woman too so I’m not knocking anybody and I would find it very difficult to tolerate a fat or pot bellied husband. I have been pregnant and I have kids so I know all about what happens to the body however that experience does not condemn you to a life of fat. Staying in shape takes time, sacrifice and commitment. It is not a walk in the park. If it were easy, everyone would do it.

I hope you and your wife find a workable solution, don’t give up on her. Hopefully, she has the right support around her and she’s not listening to anyone telling her to “rock her fat” because she birthed a child.

Some people like fat sex, some don’t. Like you said, some like eba and some like fufu.

@bold:

Words on marble.

The OP needed it.

obiagelilouis:
Happy anniversary to Adesua Etomi and Banky W


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zflqyxdWxF8

What kind of demonic thread is this?

PrimadonnaO:
Broke and lacking a sense of responsibility then. Young man, the idea of liability can never come up when 500k is being discussed in relation to a wedding. Fiancé asks me, “baby, how much do you need for the things you need to sort out for yourself?” And I say 500k. He’ll be taken back.

500k brings the word liability to you because you’re a brokeass. It’s too much for you, abi? You want a woman who’ll upgrade you!

@bold:

Taken aback that it is too much or too small?

LordKO:
LOL. NL god no de try at all.

Imagine living till 40 years before self-actualization: why wouldn't the husband be part of the mistakes the woman made?

I find this thread amusing.

EVILFOREST:
We know already.
WOMEN change with WEATHER

Oh, we change with weather not age again?

LordKO:
Self-realization is an individual thing, it doesn't abide to the law of duration and it's genderless. Lady A may achieve self-realization at the age of 18 while lady B may achieve her own at 50. Some may not even achieve it until they die, even if they live for 2,000 years on earth.

Well the gods of NL has consulted and pegged it to the 40 - 50 range.

akelicious:
When some women turn 40 or 50 years, something major shifts in their personality. They become bolder, more rebellious,more religious, more focused, more opinionated, and more emphatic about what they want.

Don’t be surprised when a previously obedient and submissive woman on turning 40/50 changes completely.Most especially when she had given birth to three or four children.

At this age, she may not go with the flow anymore, she may begin to question like is sex food?, some of your instructions and even the way you behave. She will also become more outspoken and will not be afraid to speak her mind. Even if care is not taking ,you will be doing dry cleaning yourself. At times you will prepare food for yourself to eat because she might take her more time before responding to your request.



There is something definitely special about turning 40/50 for women.
If she has never challenged or questioned your instructions, get ready to be shocked by her boldness and confrontational attitude.

The only way to avoid a total breakdown of Peace and Harmony is to become fair, objective and reasonable in your approach to issues at home or at work.

Bear in mind that at this age, she also harbours a lot of regrets about the decisions she has made in life so far … you may be one of them!

A woman at this age is a better Judge of character and will evaluate a man using very different parameters.

Men must start on time to prepare for this phase in the lives of their wives/partners/bosses/subordinates. What you put in is what you get!

If you have treated her fairly, then you don’t have anything to worry about. She will begin to appreciate you better if for any reason she didn’t do so in the past. On the contrary if you haven’t been nice to her, fasten your seatbelt, the ride is about to get pretty bumpy.

A Woman doesn’t forget those who hurt her, and by her actions and utterances you will know that she is out to show you that she is no longer that little girl you married.

https://www.akelicious.net/men-prepare-yourself-to-handle-women-when-they-turn-40/

Funny article.

First bold was damn right hilarious!

Second bold answers your article: treat her well pre-fourty.

Perfect love casts out fear.

So there should be no 'fear' in a normal marriage.

Now if you are talking of not hurting their feelings, disappointing them etc. that is another kettle of fish.

@OP

Nice one.

youngest85:
Poverty minded

If you see poverty mind, will you know it?

humilitypays:
As a man who have seen and dated truly gorgeous ladies, the op is not that beautiful the way she hyped herself, she is just okay from the picture..... look beyond her heavy wig and makeup and eyelashes and posture and picture quality and you will see what I am seeing.


Just that its a waste of time and not necessary, would have posted some pictures of truly beautiful ladies in a natural photo and appearance for u to understand what it means to call a lady beautiful

Heavy makeup in that picture she posted? Eyelashes?

I hear you.

humilitypays:
You are a woman, allow men to judge the beauty of a woman while you focus on judging which man is handsome or not.


On Nairaland rating and social media photo rating, the op is beautiful, but in real life, you don't know how she truly looks....women and social media pictures can be deceptive! I am done talking

I think you should take your own advice.

Except the other guy knows the OP outside NL, we all equally have only her profile picture to work with.

For all we know, it might not be the OP sef.

However, as long as she claims to be the one and we do not have any contrary information, she is beautiful.

If she is the guy's spec is another discussion.

Praxtech:
Not really... The truth is you look too plain ordinary like grass..... Why would sane men go for grasses when there are roses to be plucked?

If that's her, she looks very good with a beautiful skin....

WITHOUT MAKEUP.

chubinwa:
I was expecting to see a picture of both of them cuddling and frolicking in a blissful solitude

Frolicking

quertyquack:
Whoop! You got mail.

What is the outcome of this?

Ideally, visitors should not even plan to sleep in the home of a couple that cannot afford a spare bed.

The couple (especially husband) should also give enough respect to their matrimonial bed/room not to offer it to visitors unless during an emergency.

This story na wa.

Wife 25, husband 35, best friend 45.

Reminds me of Flavour's song.

Revenge on adultery always sounds daft to me.

If you can no longer bear the adultery, divorce/separate and move on.

Theconglomerate:
I really think school is over hyped men,no jokes.
You can become anything you want to be in life without a degree and I mean anything.
Do you think not having a degree limits you from job interviews?I don't think so.
All private sector operators care about Is performance,not some decorated piece of paper.
Start applying too and submitting CVs,going for interviews,just be smart,different,a solutionist.
what do most of these graduates even know?
Get that hands-on aura and you are good.
It's very clear you aren't cut out for business,else you won't be here so I won't waste my time telling you about business.
Goodluck.

The decorated paper will get him a foot in the door.

If you said masters, I might agree with you.

But again, as you level up, you need a certain level of exposure and mind interaction that only occurs in such places.