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Ejima1:
Prayer is also essential

RaymondFantasy:
This evening, i went to town. I had to deliver something at a busy district. The taxi picked me along side two passengers at the back seat; a young man of about 25/26 and a fine babe of about 24/25.
While i sat there and minded my own business, this was their Convo.. Or most of it as i can remember.
Guy: hdhdhhdhdhdhd
Girl: gshshshshsh
Guy: gshshshshshs
Girl: sgsjsisososos
Laughter, cuddling, more laughter. I shift so the guy's hand will not touch me. She sat between us.
Me: ( still minding my damn business and keeping my innocent face)
.
Guy: it has not reached 4 hours na, u can take it when u reach.
Girl: yes but i can take it here at once.
Guy: inside this taxi? This guy is here, he will see
Girl: ( almost whispering..) this wan? He looks like a mechanic apprentice. How will he know what the drug is meant for?
Both of them stares at me. Me i kept my face straight, Innocent face
Girl: oya remove the drugs and remove it for me
Guy: (Removes Postinor 2, and takes out two from the pack)
Both of them stares at me, i mind my damn business and keep an innocent face.
He gives two tablets to her, she throws them into her mouth. Drinks eva bottled water...
Without warning, he throws the pack outside. They both laugh.
The taxi reaches my bus stop, i step down. They both stare at me but i keep my innocent face and leave.
Mbok, if you are the babe abi the guy wey enter taxi en-route stadium for calabar today, i know postinor 2, Post pill, levofem and a whole lot of other drugs that can cure Acute Head aches
Looks can be deceiving!!!

instinct57vm:
Hearing from both sides will not justify the husband’s actions. Violence, Immaturity! And gross disrespect for his wife!

HiFreda:
Bone head!!
Their establishments gave jobs to thousands of people, who were in turn able to make a living and feed their families.
Now that their businesses are down, they will be forced to disengage many staff, leading to an increase in unemployment and poverty.
Having a job after this pandemic is more important than any useless 20k palliative anybody can give you.

thorpido:
Obviously@bold.His attitude is that if he has to take on extra expenditure,then the compensation should be a boy.

Op,you have to develop for yourself a strong mental attitude.Going forward may not be a smooth sail.You will have to ignore your husband's tantrums and gain inner peace for your own good.
Talk to him about the blessing of having a new baby irrespective of the sex.Remind him that ot is the man that determines the sex of the baby and it is what he deposited.
Most importantly,get on contraceptives that have high reliability if you don't want more babies.

Donald3d:
I shared in your fears at a point, until I got enlightened.
I would share what I have learnt

EDIT :

-You have to first of all value yourself. If you don't, no one would value you.

-You have to have good value, its different from valuing yourself. A thief might value himself, but he definitely doesn't have value.

-You also have to ask yourself if you are worth marrying. Many men focus on marrying wife materials, but they are not husband materials. Are you a husband material ?

-You have to be ready to be selfless, if you are not, marriage isn't for you.

-You have to know what you want in a spouse. If you don't know what you want, how would you know when you see it.

-If you are a Christian, you need to tell God to direct you. Pray for wisdom and the spirit of discernment.

-God might not show you a dream or vision of your wife, that's why you need the above. When you see her, and study her for a while, with divine direction and discernment, you would just know.

-Marry someone who is going to give you peace, without it, nothing else would make sense.

-Make sure she is your friend first, if she isn't your friend first, when an issue comes up it would be difficult to resolve. Your friendship with each other makes you miss each others company. You wouldn't be able to stay too long without talking to your friend. This makes conflict resolution easier and quicker.

- Make sure she is also selfless. Marriage with two selfless people is the sweetest.

- Third party ruins things. Everybody apart from the two of you are third party. This includes your pastor, your parents , your siblings. No one should live in your house.

-Pray together, always.

-During courtship, don't cloud your judgment with romantic love and sex. This is why building true friendship is the most important. Anyone can give you romantic love and sex, not everyone can be a friend and a partner.

-Make sure, you aren't a lazy person, don't marry a lazy person. Its not restricted to physical laziness, it includes spiritual and mental laziness

-Make sure she makes you happy, synonymous to peace of mind.

-Make sure she has value and can give value.


If I remember any other, I would include it.



EDIT

-IN choosing the right person, you have to pay attention to their verbal and non verbal communication. You have to watch closely how they treat other people, especially people who have nothing to offer them. This is one of the best ways to know a selfless person

Bigbayour:
R

Sepsis:
Why do I have a feeling you’re in this marriage with me?

CAPSLOCKED:
HE'S MISSING THE FOODSTUFFS ALREADY, AND THE TIMES THEY GRABBED EACH OTHERS CROTCH.

HE OPENED THIS THREAD HOPING JUST ONE PERSON FROM THE CROWD CONDEMNS HIS DECISION SO HE CAN GO BACK TO BENEFITING ALL THE THINGS HE'S MISSING.

CallofDuty20:
No, Main purpose of this thread was just to speak out

CallofDuty20:
Hope I'm not wrong in breaking all contact with him

CallofDuty20:
I was inspired by this thread written by Tankunland sometime ago where he stated that a man wanted to use money to lure him into gay affairs https://www.nairaland.com/5780636/lost-job-girlfriend-dumped-me#88211939

Now back to my own story, I've a friend who's older than me that I just detached myself from, Yes we've been friends for years but I haven't been happy in that friendship all these while though he's helpful, But in most cases anytime I needs his help, He's always using a disgusting act as a payback, Once he asks for that, I rather stick to the one I've, He admires guys a lot, He hugs instead of Shaking hands, Sometimes he'll try checking the size of my manhood and when I refuse, He gets upset that I'm already forming levels for him, He has used money as a power to surpress me, He even tried asking for my sister's hand in marriage, when she refused, He went awol, Talking about how she doesn't succumb easily, Last week Saturday, He chatted me up that I won't find someone like him in this life again, If you look at his conversation with some guys, It's just totally disgusting, My Mom have warned me about him ever since but now I've seen things clearly, When I was about getting a new laptop but I wasn't with enough cash, I asked if he can borrow me, He said he'll give it to me freely if he only he can have his way with me, I just shrugged it off and told him not to bother, He was making me see reasons why I need a laptop, but yet I told him not to bother, I started opening up of recent that I'm not cool with most of his stuffs, His attitudes toward me has been cold since then, He tried turning my brothers against me saying that I don't care that I might be a threat to the strong union I and my brothers have, He can just call and start saying that assuming he's with me, He'll hold me tight, How he's missing me, How he cherishes me, How he loves me and all of that, My greatest Joy is that I've totally cut all contact with him, I'm now keen on sticking to God and family alone even if the road will be tough.

Sorry for the long talks, I was just in tears writing this, I just felt like speaking out because I haven't told anyone this story before and I know some guys might be in my shoes.

fkj950ax:
Nah... There is history between them. And she felt she got the short end of the stick.
Strangers don't react that way to each others even in anger

Harunabisanti:
The investigation should be carried out thoroughly without bias because NO SMOKE WITHOUT FIRE

Great100000:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2020/05/mother-of-six-arrested-for-slapping-policeman-13-times/


The slap video
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cm_lWy-efSg

xrayj:
U women don't get it!
Dora Akunyili status in the society doesn't make her a man. A male child is different from female. A man wanting a male child isn't necessarily after that male child becoming rich or big in the society tomorrow, but he just want a male child to fill that empty part of his life. U think men who are after male children don't know the likes of dora & ngozi? Forget what u people hear, every man feels that emptiness without a male child, every man wish for it! As a woman, u will never understand this. @op give him time, he will come over it.

sysengr:
Am happily married with two girls. My husband is very simple and understanding. He is playful and loving father. I have been in peace with my husband all along.

Due to our financial stand, we anchored to stop at the two. Though, I got pregnant again for our third which was not planned.

The scan result revealed a girl child. And since then, my husband's mood has changed, not because is the third child but a girl. This is a man that always assist me in the home on daily bases with joy. But now things are no longer the same, he has changed drastically. He frequently gets angry with me and the children. My husband always says to me "why not a boy".

This has been a burden on me and am due for delivery soon.

Please advice me on how to cope with his new attitude.

Thanks.

OLAADEGBU:
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uruba23:
The house is fine and moderate ...man must love his wife to spend on her rather than on some side chicks and the woman pretty lovely at heart..

Waiting for Bukatyne's comments.

ahnie:
I made bra mask for my kids last week
My adugbo people were just laughing....but my little kids paid no heed to them.


Team Bra face mask

Nharncygrace:
I saw one man putting on face mask yesterday..it oooks like he’s wearing his wife pants

emmaodet:
Bukky, thanks a lot.
Have also told them enough is enough.
I want to concentrate more on myself and family.
Go for shopping, change my car to a better one, furnish my apartment to standard and focus on investment.
I can't kill myself for family.
The boy is good, the boy is good, akpa lon jebe