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Coolcalmcollect:
in all you mentioned, how come David himself was never personally purnishef?
abeg leave story.....

Doyou2019:
Why? Are you a sexual pervert or you're the wicked employer who cheats his workers?

Saintmary:
Well, the person of interest is your Cousin's Mom. She is the one who forced and still forces everyone else in your family to come in contact with the man. If she had separated from him (since she obviously refused to divorce him even at the cost of her well being) you guys could have related with him from a distance, making things easier for all involved. Very selfish, lazy and foolish woman.

LordKO:
If no be say you be Nigerian, I for bet say na one professor Melinda Scott dey behind dis your moniker. As you de always throw question to know more about a contributor's true intention without resorting to assumption, na so she de always do. Mama de mama. LOL.

truthsayer009:
Please can you explain a bit more?

Ceeci6:
hello my Darling sister, I didn't open 3 thread within a day, I actually opened them at a time , its my choice to post where ever I feel its appropriate, thank you for ur observation, secondly, you don't know me, and cannot conclude anything about me, why not learn to read and pass next time, if a matter doesn't concern you, instead of giving unsolicited advice women are always the enemy of themselves.. Have a blessed weekend fellow woman like me.... Advicer general

endeavor:
Hello, House.

So I decided to post this to get opinions and advice from people with experience.

I met my Fiance 4 years ago in Abeokuta during a business trip. She was good and lovely then. Fast forward to this year, I'm beginning to see a whole different person in her.
She gets angry when corrected of her mistakes.
She gets angry when questioned on issues.
She does not pray.
She has never advised me on anything.
She is not encouraging.
She never gives suggestions or opinions when asked.
She's never appreciative. (Do today, and you don't do tomorrow, na wahala)
She is not supportive.
All these traits I got to know since she moved in with me for a year now.
Though I'm still a hustler, I do my best to provide.
I assist her financially for her upkeep.
I even enrolled her in a vocational training program to learn a craft.
to cap it all up, her addiction to movies had made me given up.
She can fight you for talking while watching movies on her phone.
I'm not allowed to tune to my favorite channels.
You mustn't send her to get a glass of water while she's watching a movie.
I have talked, complained, advised and even reported. But it's getting worse.

Please, your advises..

Ceeci6:
I am a light skin, hardworking, down to earth, funny, indoor, introvert, humble, simple and God fearing lady... I'm 26 years old, genotype AA, a graduate and working class, I love to make my own money.
I Have had a few heartbreaks which I've learnt from, made amends where necessary and I've become a better person.
Am ready to give love a chance again
Are you a hardworking young man between the age of 28-40 with a stable income, ready for a very serious relationship that could lead to marriage at least next year 2021, anywhere in the world, tribe is not a barrier, most important thing is you shouldn't be a time waster or a deceiver, honesty and sincerity is the watchword.
Email me let's see if we are compatible, then we can take it from there. Ceeciceeci6@gmail.com

Confusedwomsn:
My mother told me to stop too but I can't forsake my home

Confusedwomsn:
I asked him and he said GOD, he wants to respect the marriage institution and his son, how is he sure another woman will be better.
This is what he said

Kingarthur21:
If a man marries a lady he doesn't love,she will suffer...that is why it is best for a man to act at will.
I have never seen a marriage that came about because the man was guilt-tripped or pressured into marrying a lady that is sweet.
A woman can manage a man that she doesn't love as long he treats her well,but no matter what a lady does for a man that doesn't love her, she will still shed tears

Confusedwomsn:
Thank you all. I'm reading and I totally appreciate.
I know I have to learn how to be humble but trust me it's easy to lie and say I can or I will but. It's not.
Wwe had no settee when we got married and I was like let's work on this it will be nice, he said okay but no real plans to do, I had to save and get it.

The same with the generator, our television, our sir conditioner, our fans, even stabilizer, even extensions. Our gas cylinder was stolen but I had to replace it,
I do sell these with joy because I want to make my home comfortable but when I see men struggle to put their home together I feel jealous, my mom said I should stop buying properties but I can't, how will I see something that is good for my home and not do it.
I've calmly asked him why he does not think about providing these things for us. Even when these things get bad, he will ignore not until I quarrels and shout or report to people before he will grudgingly do it.

I'll try to be humble but trust me it's not easy, I told him just play your role small and I will worship you because with all I'm going true it's difficult because I'll just pretend and be cursing you in my mind.
When I hustle and save to get these things, I'm never appreciated. I'm not boasting but I just felt like explaining how I truly feel...

Confusedwomsn:
I've asked for s separation but he said no, we should live together and maybe one day thevlove will grow back.

I said okay let's have one child together while waiting for the love to grow back, he said he is not sure.
When I make move to leave, he will act nice and treat me nicely and later he will go back to normal.

Confusedwomsn:
Yes I'm reading all comments and listening.
Yes, people tell me to ignore, respect him, be loyal, endure it, pamper him, treat him like s King but I try ooøo but sometimes I'll feel frustrated and be like who is taking care of me, my dear it's not easy.
I believe he is still with me because I'm s hustler and he knows by God's grace I can never be poor.
My friends all wonder why I hustle so much when my husband is working and I'm working too but they never know.
If you ask him if he wants to end the marriage he will say no that we can be married but I can go to meet s man to make me happy.
If he sees me sitting with s man to talk, I'm sorry prostitute but when I ask him for sex, I should go and meet s man. Then I'm the prostitute

Confusedwomsn:
I got married about five years ago to my friend becsuse I got pregnant...
We were really good friends, infsct best friends and I shared everything with him, I told him everything. While dating I was sick and diagnosed with ovarian cyst and I got to know that I may find it difficult to get pregnant. Stupid me confided in him that Im scarred I may not be able to get pregnant and we should try. And then I got pregnant and I was like okay fine what's the big deal we are both working and in love, let's get married and have the child but he said I should abort the baby.
I told him no but if he does not want to get married to me fine. So many bullshit later, we got married and it's been hell.
I have endured every bullshit possible beatings, neglect, insults and all that. But I have not been innocent too I've been abusive too.
If you ask me I'll say he provoked me but if you ask him he'll say I provoked him.

He says I don't respect him but I tell him he can't force me to respect him, he has to earn it.
For example, he does not do any housechore , no not even one although I don't really care much because I have someone thst helps me out but I've asked him to take care of his clothes which he does not, scatters his clothes like s child and just wants to sit and press his phone all day then hang out.
We both work and he earns better right now, but I'm 80oercent provide for the upkeep for our home, 99oercent of the furniture and appliances in our home was bought by me. He constantly accuse me of cheating when I don't go anywhere at all, I go to work, my shop and straight back home. He keeps late night and comes back to call me s prostitute and I'm like I sit at home but you go out but somehow I'm the prostitute.
When I'm angry I insult him so much and then he hits me, I insult him because I'm frustrated.
I go out there hustle so hard but I'm been ridiculed..

I told him let's have one more child to make it two but he said no that he is notsure , he is never sure about anything, very slow. I still want to have one more child with him because I want all my kids to have one Father but he says his not ready. When will you be ready, he does not know...

My family thinks I'm crazy to still be with him but I don't want my son to grow from s broken home, I don't want my kids to have different fathers, I actually still do love him and although it may be foolish of me, I somehow believe he will change.
I've prayed, cried, fasted but there is absolutely no difference. People tell me I this is how cross river men are but for how long will I continue, he is seven years older than me but behaves like s child with no future plan. I really confused and sincerely tired.

SultanOfAbia:
The Bible says obey your father and mother so ye shall live long.

What if you're father is telling you to do something you know is very wrong
Will you obey him or disobey him?

What if your mother supports your father in every negative thing he tells you to do?

Some parents are not wise and are easily manipulated by pastors and imams.

I think you should only Respect your parents if they are WISE

Angelfrost:
Seriously boss... Nothing like tolerance, patience, even walking away if the situation becomes too much to bear... Any small thing, pick up weapon or organize assassins!!!

If you have to cheat as a man, better learn to keep your head on a swivel, get a Kevlar vest, sleep with one eye open, and start cooking your own damn meals... In short, STAY SINGLE!!!

I am just tired of such news!!! Such pointless waste of lives!!! What has she now achieved with this act??!

Bola146:
Kindly increase the volume...

KanwuliaExtra:

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KanwuliaExtra:

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ImaIma1:
I wonder how this all important male child will have the children that will make his father's name live on? Through another male?

udumosam23:
This isn't supposed to be a concern but my little cousin is making a fuse out of it. The argument is beginning to build so much so that if I don't intervene it could cost a relationship.

Much more, I've tried searching the internet I don't seem to get any answers. So I brought the question here maybe, someone knows something.

Pls, Why is it always the lady weds and not the man, even though it's the man paying the bride price.

Supposed we say Okoi weds Isu.

frozen70:
It's not about who weds who

A man left his parents to get a wife and she accepts, then she has accepted to wed you

Her wedding you means she has made up her mind not to have any other man except you

A man doesn't wed because he will still go out by default

A woman weds you to end every other affairs with other men and face her home and expecting you to give her reasons not to look out

sarrki:
Also give her money and after then money and money

crackkhaus:
As long as he can tell this to his boys, about how they are not as valuable as the girl child, that he knows and is not expecting them to be at his bedside when he's old and frail... then no problem.

Reno can carry on, but he should start the preaching from his house so he can be taken more seriously.

Ebukawaylaid:
Nigerian author Reno Omokri has penned down a post explaining why female kids are way more valuable than male kids.

According to Omokri, female children are loyal and this is a thing that can not be said for most male children.

In his words;

”Dear men,
Take a tour of any hospital of your choice. You will see wives and daughters sleeping there because of their husbands and fathers. Hardly will you find a husband or son. And you are saying you don’t want a female child. You are a FOOL! All children are valuable, but a girl child is especially valuable, because women are likely to be more loyal than men. Christ had 12 disciples. But how many of them were at Golgotha during his death? Only one. Yet, 4 of His female followers were there. Loyalty is a WOMAN!”

Do you think Reno Omokri has a point here?

https://www.informationng.com/2020/05/female-child-is-more-valuable-than-male-child-reno-omokri.html/amp