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Hathor5:
Edited:
From my personal experience I can say that at different phases in my life I felt that I had a different purpose/calling, whatever you want to call it.

HiFreda:
Are you saying we should place emphasis on 'marriage' over 'work'?

You didn't direct us to where we should focus on

Ronkks:
Some say Premarital coaching saved them from taking wrong decisions, they believe it can save people from some arguments, time, and also give a healthy marriage foundation.

Would you be willing to pay for Premarital coaching, so that you and your partner can have firsthand knowledge about things you need to know before you say I do?

Hathor5:
Yes, I have but what makes you think that a fulfilling career is the exception? The Kardashians?

Hathor5:
You have contradicted yourself and I am glad you did.

Cuddlebugie:
He didn't take away the hips. He increased the size of the boobs, though.
What a loving God!

Cuddlebugie:
Well, as a teenager, I was insecure about my boobs.
I was thin with small boobs and the hips of an adult.
Friends would jokingly ask me why "front no resemble back". E pain me that year o.
There was a day I was walking with a friend and two guys were behind us. All of a sudden, they stopped talking and walked past us. One of the guys looked me in the face and said something about how the boobs aren't big enough to complement the ass. Got home that day and cried myself to sleep. I was 16 then.
I'd pray to God to please increase the boobs and take away the hips.

My first love helped in rebuilding my self confidence.

SpicyMimi:
It's all about packaging, your self esteem and confidence.

Back in my high school days, the most sort after, envious, popular student then was very short(Not claiming short people ain't attractive, don't get me wrong please) average beauty yet she acted like she was the Queen of every female on planet earth! She even became the Head girl due to how she carried herself amongst other students.

You are beautiful only when you see yourself as one.

Raalsalghul:
What is the objective of your write up?

Women and careers

Or

Difference between work and purpose.

Can't seem to get it.

Confusedwomsn:
He said I don't respect him and truthfully I don't.

I find it difficult to respect him because he does not play his role, I told him this.
Our rent is due and we agreed this year he will do rent and children school fees,
My children had to stay back from school because fees were not paid last term on time.
Now our landlord has come twice to ask for rent, I've asked him how much he has so I'll contribute but he said I should leave him alone, I know I may end up paying the rent because I hate embarrassment.
I know its no excuse to not respect him but this his attitude makes it difficult for me.

Confusedwomsn:
No, he was very good and loving. He was my best friend and lover

Eketem:
Update you as what? For what purpose? Please keep your bad energy to yourself perfect woman

sisisioge:


Madam sleuther....interesting! All those his rules are floated flawlessly now. Nothing dey happen

PrincessB1:
Worry no more.
Color Personality : What Your Favorite Color Says About You
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Do you have a favorite color? what attracts you to your favorite color? Do you find yourself always tilting towards a particular color without even trying?


Now maybe it’s just an attractive looking color that immediately catches your eye, In which the case might be that color may be representing your mood at that moment.

crackkhaus:
Only the children should eat it

crackkhaus:
Yeye question begets yeye answer.

RaymondFantasy:
"I don't buy cigarette for people, I'm sorry Sir I can't help you" I said.

Earlier today I was in my aunt's shop when it started to rain. I had an umbrella with me and was trying to put away some things from the rain when a man ran into the shop. Judging from his features and physique, he should be in his late sixties.
I greeted him and asked him to move inside the shop and he did. He sat for a while and engaged me in a chat. He asked why young Guys loved playing Xbox cos I was playing Xbox Game (God of war). I gave him a smile and was about to go get something from a shop across when he called me back an asked me to get him cigarette. I was confused and couldn't find the right words to tell him that I don't buy cigarettes for People irrespective of who you are. I stood for a while and gave him that reply above. I expected him to get angry like others do but he just smiled. I went across, bought what I wanted and went back.
It stopped raining and he left.
A guy who has been sitting in the shop all these while, turned to me and said " you should have just bought the cigarette for him. Seeing you turn him down without any feeling of remorse changed my thoughts about you"
" WTH!!! Did youjust say remorse? Why should I feel remorseful?? I don't buy cigarettes for People, is that too hard to understand? Besides I apologised to him and he understood. And you said it changed your thoughts about me, ( I laughed) it's alright."
He stood up and left and I wondered how his thoughts about me affected me.

Please oo, I want to ask, what's so wrong in deciding not to go against my principles?

crackkhaus:
In a situation where the available food is limited, then children ought to get theirs first...followed by whoever brought the money to cook the food.

Hangulsaram:
Hm! Aunty, this does not sound like you of all people.
Game plan you say, so because he married from a rich family means that he has a game plan(an in he married her because of the money)? Ok! let’s assume that you are correct, for that he should submit his headship of the family to the wife, perhaps becomes a houseboy or slave to her? Would you suggest the same if it’s the other way round?

faithfull18:
Nairalanders and gist, just passing by.

oilfielden:
@Richyblack,

Many thanks for your recommendation and I,m going to try that option and look for TOEFL training for her.I live in Island and she stays in the mainland.Not sure if theres if theres any location for TOEFL training in the mainland,or may be Ikeja.I will need such information if you have one.

@ Omowunmimi.I dont have a probelm to help teach her few things but you need to see some improvement from time to time.Not when shes not able to cover or even handle some bascic things you expect someone whos going to be your wife to manage at her age and educational level.To me is really horrible when I see all these minor mistakes and not thinking for your actions or waiting on someone to fill you in everything you do,THEY CANT THINK OR WHAT!

@GEW,

Like I said in our previous discussion in this thread.I,m still finding it diffcult to find the things shes really good at.As you said I believe her education and home background matters here as well.

If you have one NL lady can try send me private email.

Hangulsaram:
What/which compromise, can please explain?

Grandlord:
Really? I don't agree.

Sexual sin is a sin against yourself. That's on you. But when you stand on oath and lie, to hurt an innocent person, that needs a hot, sweet and appeasing vengeance.

Have you ever been wrongly accused? How did that feel?
How would it feel if someone raises a false alarm that you stole something, just to get you lynched?

People can fvck all they want. The consequences are on them. Most Nigerians take sex too seriously but na we born pass. Hypocritical fronting.

Punchline33:
You don't need too much to wed in Nigeria if you use your head and you don't need too much to enjoy the marriage too. In my house, once I provide money for food, I choose when to, how to and if I will do any other thing at home. My wife dare not ask unnecessary questions and yet, she is crazy all over me. With little money she will cook two sets of soup and serve me food and clears the plates when am done. She kneels down to greet me every morning (am still shock on this) and she tells me to pray for her. As a man, you can choose your wife carefully by not expecting anything from her. I mean material things. It is wrong to marry a woman because of what you stand to gain materially. If my wife later changes tomorrow when she starts making her own money, I won't care because I have enjoyed the marriage for some years atleast. Guys forget beauty and big nyash, marry humility and fear of God and other things will follow.

grandstar:
What compromise? He married the wrong lady, period!

He focused on the outside rather than the inside and got badly burnt.

Isobug:
Unfortunately , we are all guilty of that

Deny it and it will be counted for you as another Sin.
Just commenting shaa

phranco:
Sexual immorality doesnt seek vengeance but rather brings down your spiritual life, and destroys your relationship with God. Note the difference.

Grandlord:
Sexual immorality should be replaced with this.