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Meeyankee:
People like Bukatyne will not like this thread.you married to a weak man who will allowed his family to visit him because he has taken one over used lady from the street that is not even a Virgin. You guys should take not of this lady with this moniker Bukatyne she is a very bad wicked lady.who doesn’t allow her in-laws to visit their brother because of her own selfish interest.

Keypazwad:
Financial freedom

sassysure:
Well, u don't blame them.
Everybody has their preferences.
Also financial statute is mostly considered as most women want an already made man. It's the same all over the world.
But people like me has lots to put into consideration first before that finance though finance here is subjective.
Money is never an attracting force for me towards a man and when u come behaving like a white knight around me or mompha, that's a big major put off. And this is one of the greatest mistake our ladies make and it sure do backfire majority of the time. So also men.

So I'm not surprised I married somebody within my age bracket. It's not even up to one yr gap.

TonyeBarcanista:
40 years younger

sassysure:
Well,I don't know about others but I can't date or marry a man who gives me more than 5 yrs age gap.
It's all about maturity. A man maybe 8yrs or more older but still reasons and behave like a teen.

I love rolling with my age bracket. So I can comfortably yab him and not be overly conscious he is my senior.

I see such men on older bros level. I may even answer him sir one day

If I have interest in you, age is part of the determinant to move forward or not. The way it is equally as important too for a man to date or marry me.
We will grow old together o. No be one way in the next 20 yrs I go start eyeing our gateman

Efewestern:
Getting stale, so because a man is getting married, he shouldn't accommodate his siblings... The OP just said her part of the story, not until I hear from her brother in-law I will just see her as some of these women who love separating their husbands from their root.

Meeyankee:
You in-laws go stuffer for your hand ooo.. but person like you sha, them gat leave the man for am but something go sup when you and ur hubby go need him family members. Na then you go understand life.

poshestmina:
I remember you were one of the reasons I joined Nairaland !
Always apt unapologetically.
I wonder why some women cannot work to fend for themselves in some cases their kid(s).

Where perky boobs or flat tyres , nothing goes for nothing .
Ignorance shouldn't be a reason for stupidity .

Jaubdu:
Not all it a shame that we called some of these animals human being

nlPoster:
Not tpia/tpiar/tpiander/nlposter/etc

crackhaus:
This right here is the exact reason for your situation and I'm sure you will also tell your kids the same thing... then in maybe 30years from now, one of yours will be undergoing the same crisis.

I'm particularly respectful of history, and I would like my lineage down to the 10th generation to be able to trace their ancestry straight up to my grandfather without hassles and unnecessary detours.
I honestly don't know why people cause confusion for themselves by themselves all in a bid to appear trendy and contemporary.

Just imagine nuclea family members bearing different surnames, LOL...
I honestly didn't blame the immigration officer who denied my little cousin his settlement visa on the first application because his daddy thought a British sounding surname is way cooler and then changed his, while the innocent kid still had the old one on his birth certificate.

The easiest most logical piece of advice has been given already above.
Mine is: Don't go telling your children or wife to bear whatever surname they want.

Jaubdu:
Richard Davis abducted,raped and murder 12 year-old Polly Klass

crackkhaus:
Lol, there's no way she can know what he does in his family house.

I would think you'd be able to detect when someone is trying to sensationalise the story to remove any doubt she's the victim.

How can someone not be allowed to dish his own food at his own family house? What are the chances of that even happening?

Meeyankee:
Are you married?

SweetCunt97:
Cleaving to ur wife does not imply you abandon family. If it were old testament and new testament period wey all family dey stay for one big house nkor? It was d whites that brought their individualistic marriage style to us. We Africans has always been communal when it comes to marriage.

realtalk19:
Including a domestic violence victim( wife) abi?

Meeyankee:
Hmmmm girls!! During dating girls go Dey form loyal but once them enter man house them go start complain about the man family.

Iwantpeace:
Sorry its a bit long. Its just that I don't like anything that will disturb the peace of my mind. And again I have been to their family house and I know he can't do that there then why is he doing it in my place here

Meeyankee:
Their house,their house,keep on saying their house. are you sure you understand the story at all? Just note that the lady’s husband and his brother are coming from somewhere. This how some of your girls treat their in-laws like strangers.she for understand the relationship between his husband and his brother or better still leave the relationship back then. Come no be only wife get husband ok. The husband get parents and siblings too.

eagleu:
Nothing but intimidation and psychological warfare!
Prof should simply have janitors clean up the garbage and put izal on the mess.
Juju has zero power, otherwise we should have been ruling the white man who doesn't believe in it.

Keypazwad:
I had to create a new account to table out my troubles.
I’m married with two kids and a step son. The summary of my problem is DOMESTIC VIOLENCE/ABUSE.
Even after giving him more chances to chance, he beat me up few days ago and still blamed me for his actions.
I wanted to leave but he informed our pastor and he begged me to manage my home. That there’s no better person outside. He’s not even addressing the violence issues.
I really want to leave but I’m a full house wife and I depend on him financially cause I’m an SSCE holder.
There’s no help whatsoever from my parents. I’m confused cause he’s processing a Canadian visa for us which would take twelve weeks to complete.
Should I just count my blessings and loss and move on now, or wait until we get to Canada?

mrsfavour:
6m can organize a wedding, why this play around ? Chioma is loved by you,has a son ,what else?

DenreleDave:
As you can see now, chioma don turn sex object.. Most ladies are like this, all for the money. Infact I love Davido, a confirmed yoruba man with correct sense.. After the rumor dt chioma cheated on him with peruzzi, matured Davido no make noise ooo, he just changed tactics with chioma. Igbo only get sense to make money but when it comes to heart matters, yorubas na baba.. We sabi love and we sabi hate and we sabi love/hate depending on the kinda attitude u put up.

After all, he never marry her, so he sharpaly turned her to sex object and the girl no fit talk anytin..
This is what we have been telling u guys, the moment a lady cheat on you and she is just unrepentant of her action, turned her to a sex object and dump her later. Cox I see dt happening very soon btw OBO n chef chi .

I guess Davido truly love dt Igbo girl but just dt cheating is just in their blood.

Davido, nice one jare


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Jenny44life:
I don't think she has the intentions of doing ritual.
She was present for my sister in law's birth and has been talking about how wonderful the experience was. That it brought her to tears of joy and so on.
I guess she wants to experience it with all her grand kids.

ZIMDRILL:
as people we trapped each other out so called love or being a man

i will focus on an abusive scenario and pride one

1 A man will claim to look after you, who doesnt want to be looked after but there is a danger, whoever supplies your needs and wants can control you aka being abusive. So the greedynes of seating and not working can be used against

2 The title of being a man can also burn you, you married her and promised that you take care of everything and the money she works is hers. Then down the line misfortunes pop in you salary nolonger sustain the family, will you swallow your pride and ask wife to also put the money on the family table!!, the money you once said she can keep it and do whatever she wants with it ?

So some men feel powerless if a woman is able to cater for her own needs and wants.

eyinjuege:
I'm sure if you tell hospital staff that you want only your husband in the room when you get into labour, they will send all visitors out including your MIL.
It's not by force to expose your yansh to anybody. They should respect that. Obviously a very controlling woman, but no be by force for everyone to see ya yansh.
They can come visit the baby afterwards in hospital.
Safe delivery and enjoy your pregnancy. Avoid anything that would stress you out including this matter.
You need a calm mind to be focused and deliberate in labour.
This has nothing to do with seperating mother and son, or not letting her have contact with her grandchild. you need to be comfortable and calm without having distractions trying to please anybody.
Even your own mother who wash your yansh as a baby is not allowed in the delivery room, so why is she taking it so personal? Abi e pass this matter ni?