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The guy doesn't love her.

If he did, he would negotiate the list to what he can afford or tell the babe to pressure her people to back off.

He will not ghost her.

He obviously does not see them as a team.

Funny thread.

Nobody is afraid they would be the wrong spouse for their partner or/and unable to provide the right support.

Most peeps don't even know themselves and what is good for them.

Others mistake 'nice to have' as priority and lose sight of the important things.

Houseofglam7:
The things I fear usually happen....so I won't be going into marriage with any fear(s)

Hahahahahahaha

Christmasdon:
He ate anything he was served as meat unknown to him was the local chicken gizzard meant for the elders. now he was asked to provide a full live chicken as fine.

Who served him the meal?

Was the person not aware of the tradition?

If he can afford it, he should provide it.

crackkhaus:
Nothing about vaginal dimensions for virgins there.

Dimensions in the baseline state is referring to the vaginal state before arousal for a sexually active woman.

If the vjay had no size/shape of its own at creation, then there can be no range in the baseline state because it is formless and taking the form of the biggest person/toy they are currently sleeping with.

If there is no size, women wouldn't be running away from super big d1cks na.

In your opinion, all women are the same size as virgins till disflowered and their vjay takes the form of the man who disflowered them. You are assuming the vjay is not flesh and like hot eba or cast that has no size and shape.

I say every vjay has a size and shape and an average d!ck cannot change it because it is elastic.

However, women who use oversized toys and/or sexual practices that involve stuffing unnaturally big stuffs into their vjays might have a non-firm/slack/non-friction producing vjay in addition to other bodily wear and tear. (One of the biases I have against BDSM especially in non-married couples, the woman is foolish )

Let's agree to disagree on the above.

I also doubt the frequency of sex/ sex partners does much harm as much as the how.

1. Lady A became active at 20 and sleeps with 4 men/year (one man once a quarter) for 10 years (40 men and had sex 40 times in 10 yrs)
2. Lady B became active at 20 and sleeps with 1 man (twice a week) for 10 years (1 man and had sex 1,040 times in 10 yrs)

DexterousOne:
Some things are best experienced
That is all I will tell you

Very very true.

jchioma:
It's not limited only to the village people though. I think it's the wicked and primitive mindset of the black man that will refuse to see others excel above them.

I remember one Bro. Louis, who suffered for many years in Lagos, until fate smiled on him and he became relatively successful. He bought 2 cars, rented a big flat and was already building his house. Everything was looking up for him, so to speak, until he decided to visit the village. He visited old and forgotten friends and relatives, threw monies around, and created the impression that he had arrived.

He was prepared a special meal, which he and his friend that went with him ate. Immediately, afterward, they both sensed that something wrong had happened. While the friend went underground to look for a solution, our so called brother, a staunch member of a holy holy church, went back to his church in Lagos for deliverance, but unfortunately, the church after seeing the severity of his case, directed that he be taken to the hospital, and it was in the hospital, after some few days that this brother succumbed to death. And guess who confessed to killing him? His own mother, in conjunction with the comity of village people. His crime? She said, he was too proud, and only came to "oppress" them with his wealth. Apparently, his mum was a witch.

Wisdom has always been profitable to direct.

Most of the affected people are show offs too.

uruba23:
you are definitely right so you can imagine the man's disappointment cruising on the expressway on his wedding night.

Abeg leave me

Expressway ko, highway ni.

crackkhaus:
The "neck" of the balloon is the reference, not the size of the balloon - the necks are like flattened canals.

Did a quick short read of the contents in the links. They are both talking about sexually active women.

Read in depth.

The Wikipedia even has a study some scientists did.

crackkhaus:
There..

I am very much aware that women who have abstained from sex for a really long time get tighter, and although there is no hymen to be broken, getting the entire length of a man's tool in there will take a little more time.

Cc: Bukatyne

Hmmmmm.

I hear this alot.

I am thinking the body has to remember how to have sex again.

I have a wild thought.

If multiple births really change the vjay, how did our foremothers have 20, 15 kids?

Just a wild thought.

uruba23:
I thought a baby can come out of that Yoni, obviously the man's phallus is four inches, the average is six inches. ..monster phallus are eight inches. .but the man might be right, she should have abstained six month to marriage that way she get pretty tight down there and the man might need do some work digging.

A baby coming out is different from a phallus going in.

Haven't you seen cases where you loosen something and you can't fit it back and you wonder how the manufacturer got it to fit?

The Vjay prepares 9mths to push a baby out and some women need kegels et AL to get back in shape.

Funny, I doubt a baby can ever go in.

crackkhaus:
You're going on a tangent.

Your assumption is that the size of a woman's vagina comes pre-ordered from birth and is different for every woman, when in fact, the different vagina sizes are dependent on the sizes of things that have gone into it.

You're seeing it as a bottle-neck with just a cork (hymen) over it, and when the cork is removed, there is already a space waiting to be filled by any d1ck. But in fact, it is actually more like the flattened neck of a brand new deflated balloon, which expands only as far as the air that is blown into it.

This is why there's a cultural bias in places like India against the use of tampons by virgins. It is believed that for a tampon to fit into a woman without stress, then she must have already had a d1ck in there that created a space for it.

Every baby girl has same size dot nipples on their chest which grows into different sizes of boobs later.

You sha know that balloons come in different sizes?

I also have issues with tampons and menstrual cups. They don't feel right to me. BUT the opening for tampons (same as urine) is different from the opening for d1cks.

I dropped some links:
https://www.webmd.com/women/features/vagina-size

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_vaginal_size

crackkhaus:
Unfortunately, not a lot of people know this.
Most think they are doing the offender a favor by forgiving them.

If the OP has forgiven him, she would be thinking of how to enter another relationship (if she is not in one) and not revenge on person who might not even send her sef.

The dude might be talking of reconciliation sef because he wants to hit and run again.

crackkhaus:
You don't get me. The size of the vjay is definitely different for every sexually active woman, I'm not disputing this.

I'm talking about vjays that have never being used.
There is a tightness (contracted muscles) in the canal that is the same for all virgin women - any man who has had sex with a virgin will tell you that breaking the hymen is just one part of the work, the remaining and most difficult part is actually getting the vagina to expand enough to allow the entire length of the d1ck being used, fit into it.

Then you are back to assuming that all women have the same size of vjay.

1. Are you saying that if 50 women were disflowered by 50 guys of same pen1s size, all fifty would have same vjay size?

2. If a woman was disflowered by 8' d1ck and thereafter slept with 100 men with d1cks smaller, her vjay would be 'wide' because she slept with a lot of men according to the husband in the OP.

Nigga44:
hmmmmm

Some of you have been completely brainwashed.
I blame you not......it's just what you were told while growing up.

What about some of us that live in villages? I wonder with this your logic, how the hell are we still alive?

My point is that sometimes you need to unlearn somethings you learnt as a kid. Not all you hear are actually true. I stay in my village and I've never had any reason to be afraid of anything. Some of the best and most honest people I know are actually in the rural areas.
All the yahoo boys, fake pastors, corrupt politicians, ritualists and the likes don't reside in the villages . Change your mentality..... Visit just once and I bet you visit once every year atleast

@bold:

These people don't harm others because they are jealous or envious of them.

They swindle them of their hard earned money which can be replicated.

Oftern times, I think people who deny spiritual /demonic powers are perpetrators themselves who want more people to be unguarded and not take precautions.

crackkhaus:
I see.. And one would have thought virginity is not only about an intact hymen, but also the tightness of an unused canal which will only expand as wide as the d1ck that first entered it. This is false?

Then you are assuming all women have the same size of vjay which is obviously not true.

Again, I doubt on the average, a d*ck can expand a woman noticeably except she is sticking all sorts like cucumbers and over sized didlos inside.

Not to say there would be no wear and tear on the body from jumping from bed to bed over a period of time.

crackkhaus:
For your own emotional & mental health, learn to forgive people and move on. You don't have to forget though as that will keep you cautious around them, but forgiveness is paramount for your own sake.
You don't do this for him, but for yourself.

Too many people are walking around thinking they are okay, yet they carry around various hurts from the past, holding on to it because they feel they will be doing the person who hurt them a favor by forgiving them - nothing could be more silly.

Don't become one of such people, you will only be hurting yourself.

100%

Forgiveness is more for the offended than the offender.

Wrong

Adultery is not an option if you are a born again male.

Adultery is a myraid of options open to you if you are a 'Nigerian' born again male.

And in the 'Nigerian' Bible, a wife must forgive a cheating husband.

Note that this forgiveness is NOT taught both ways. In fact, the 'Nigerian' Bible does not have the golden rule of do unto others as you want them to do unto you' and 'love your neighbor as yourself' or 'love your wife as your body and lovingly care for her'. Remember we are dealing with the 'Nigerian' bible here.

Goodluck to wives married to Nigerian Born Again husbands.

crackkhaus:
There you go

So it doesn't matter how small a man is IF the woman is a virgin.

It does.

After breaking the hymen, the size of the woman's vjay comes into play here.

There are different sizes of the male & female private organs.

If the guy is too small, he might be 'satisfied' while the virgin doesn't feel anything aka Mama 3 who wanted to marry corper.

MJBOLT:

most women become something else the moment they are more successful than their partner.

Then be with someone who lacks the capacity to be 'more successful' or 'better than' you.

Because of you both are doing your thing diligently, God can decide to favour either/ both part(ies) at different capacities.

You should also note that a number of men expect their women to behave somehow so they create atmosphere for such with their insecurities.

MrBrownJay1:
Sadly the issue here has nothing to do with women, and all to do with the r/ship that Nigerians have with money. In Nigeria MONEY IS EVERYTHING so we can't blame ANYONE for using that as a mean to be in control in their lives....MEN do it all the time, and there is no issues with it, why should it be a problem when women do it?! So many women settle for good for nothing useless men because of money, so many women are used and abused because of the little monetary gain that these men bring to these poor deluded women's lives... No wonder so many dudes out there are quick to say (to other men):" make money and women will come"

We have to be honest with ourselves and certanly shouldn't expect this issue to be a good thing if men have money but negative if women do the exact same thing. That's the definition of being hypocrites.

100%

Nigerians, money and relationships are a terrible mix.

I admire the rich Hausa/Fulani woman's ability to appear modest and ravishing at the same time.

I don't know how they do it.

Bovis:
RIP all the deceased in the helicopter crash, may God grant their families the fortitude to bear the losses

Amen.

Sadly, we have forgotten the others.

God will console his family and all he left behind.

We4all:
When you open threads on marriage and relationships, you read stuffs like:

"My relationship is threatened due to my partner's inability to satisfy me in bed".

" My man is a one minute man. How do I cope when we get married? "

"My marriage is falling apart;I no longer find my wife sexually attractive".

" I want to settle down with someone that I am sexually compatible with".

And the grumbling goes on and on. You can hardly hear people say that they are getting married because they need a companion, and their prospective partners make wonderful companions.

Nowadays, young christian men and women who love sex, but don't want to be tagged a 'fornicator', jump into marriage so they can indulge in sex without feeling guilty.

This is because it is assumed that marriage is for sex, and sex is for marriage. It doesn't matter whether their intending spouse will make a great companion. All they think and fantasise about is how they will start enjoying a guilt free sex life.

So my question to married couples and people intending to get married;who see sex as a priority is: When the sex drive is no longer there, or peradventure your partner becomes impotent, what will become of your marriage? Will it die just because one or the both of you can no longer perform in bed?

I would assume that you are a Christian. Marriage in the Bible is for:
1. Companionship
2. To prevent adultery (aka for sex)
3. To produce and raise godly children

In no particular order. And all these are godly desires (for companionship, for sex and to reproduce our kind) created inside of us.

It is the lie of the devil to say sex is not important or paramount in Marriage so that couples don't work hard to satisfy themselves leading to adultery.

Except for old age (from 70), any partner who doesn't have the 'sex drive' anyone should pray about it and seek medical help. Ditto someone who is impotent or cannot perform or whatever.

Some partners also tell their spouses to seek sexual fulfillment outside so they can leave them be. That marriage is void and no longer useful.

Sex is very important in marriage like companionship and making babies.

Legally, a marriage not consummated is null and can be annulled (did not happen).

While I agree that women are evolving, the onus lies on the woman to pick a man who suits her evolution.

ouzo1:
see marriage and wedding na two different things.
most of u prepare for weddings not marriage,marriage takes alot to work.
u need to be ready mentally and emotionally but these days na weak ass Men dey everywhere and whining Women.

@bold:

Very true.

We4all:
Couples should learn how to start seeing marriage as a contract. Draw out a plan, state your likes and dislikes, discuss about raising kids and how they will be raised. Learn how to reach a compromise, split roles and responsibilities. Every year, learn to review the contract and if it is worth renewing, then go ahead and do it.

The problem most couples have is that, they just jump right into marriage without having any form of major discussions. Then they begin to live by assumptions. While the wife assumes that the husband should be responsible for the financial upkeep of the home, the husband assumes that all the wife needs is to be a stay at home mom and raise kids.

Then the disagreement sets in and before you know, everything hits rock bottom. And the Lamentations begins: "Oh! Had I know".

@bold: Your head is there.

Marriage is not a contract: it is a covenant that needs constant evaluation.

Humans are dynamic so both parties need to keep up with constant, honest communication and acting on feedbacks.

chiemmanuel:
thanks for the concern, what I need is advise

What about your dad?
Are you the only child? If no, does she do same thing to other siblings?
Does she acknowledge or appreciate when you give her anything?

crackkhaus:
If she made him believe she was a virgin (since they did not have sex before they got married), would it matter whether it is tight or tight as new?

I should ask you na